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addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

MS247:




Nigeria really dodged a bullet, not voting Obi the media sensationalist and skit maker Nollywood, Social Media President

He is as unserious as his followers who know next to nothing about Government

So for Obi now, opposition is to go around and be taking pictures about acting skits..



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BOSSkesh:
Ipob people

IconicR:
Conspiracy everywhere God will judge all of you , it's very unfair to start all these for a government that has barely started. Moderators should be cautioned not to be pushing this kind of topics to front page, they should be taken down. It doesn't speak well of our country

HanisahZuwy:
I'm a female.

Okealaaye:
Fruitless exertions that will avail nix! Obi's political career is as dead as dodo and he's to blame. You don't plant coconut and hope to harvest palm fruits. He could have stayed on in the PDP and agree to be Atiku running mate. Or, what governance experience did he acquire between 2019 and 2023 that he should think that he's bigger than his former principal? National politics is far higher than Anambra politics. That's the basic truth Obi's boastful kinsmen failed to tell him. How would anyone from a fractioned political party expect to defeat another who had been building nationwide bridges since 1993? A man who didn't ask for contracts and other perquisites from the government he helped to install. How many politicians could have done that? Obi's time has faded with the February 29th sunset, and no amount of birthday celebrations, hospital and IDP camp visitations can revive it. If only because when the sun rises it doesn't look back until it fulfills its daily course. There are countless Igbo politicians like Moghalu, Onu, Umahi and Soludo who are miles away from Obi in competency, etc. who can easily be BETTER Nigeria's president! So, why the fixation on Peter Obi, a man who can in no way light a candle to any of those great men?

pandoragirigory:
See those crying, we are winning and wining crushing the heads of enemies of Nigeria, they are even crying on national TV

helinues:


Na so typical Obi supporters be.

Some of them need to be rehabilitated

FreeStuffsNG:
It is strictly by invitation. All the activities lined up for the Inauguration are not for your ilks sir.
Sincerely, we do not want unpatriotic elements and bad energy around the events.

Please did Atiku steal second place from Mr Obi too?

God bless President-Elect Asiwaju Tinubu, GCFR.
God bless HE VP-Elect Shettima,GCON.
God bless Nigeria for ever!
Check my signature for free stuffs!

ThierryJay:
Or do they mean Lionel Messi suspends PSG from fielding him for 2 weeks. Some players are bigger than some clubs. The GOAT's toe is bigger than entire PSG's history.

JagabanBorgu:
See d wàck streets of Onitsha but they tell us he will make Nigèria a Dubai.
He should be àshàmèd of working out and posting it.

Destiny80:
Pls dearly beloved, pls don't just scroll pass, pls kindly assist me with little money so I can cook something to eat. i have nothing left again for me and my brother to feed. Am also down with typhoid fever but I can't afford to buy drugs due to lack of money please. We have been hungry since this week, pls assist us with whatever little you have in any little way, we will be eternally grateful. Please am an orphan, and I loss my only source of livelihood since January this year. May God almighty bless u and come to your aid as u have come to ours. Amen.
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yarimo:
SOYINKA your endorsement has no Political value to APC, Chanel that your valueless endorsement to PETER OBI who can bribe CAN for endorsement.

Kennyswag:
God bless the thug and his family

HomoSapiien:
Mazi Bola Ahmed Tinubu the chukwu okike abimba ohamadike, the undisputable and indispensable performer, the slayer of baby factory criminals and drug traffickers cannibals

Obidients Will come and cry their bitter tears as usual now!!!

As e dey pay them, e dey sweet us!

Lavzz:
That's when illiterate is talking

LeoDeKing:
Sensible Nigerians are talking about Tinubu's ascension to the highest office of Nigeria, ipob pigs will not just allow us discuss our things.

They are everywhere screaming pandora Obituary will win (even with landslide). How the illiterate will win Nigeria presidential election with 2 and a half state of 55% votes of the 2 states' vote is what they can't still tell us.

According to Nasir El rufai, the clown is just a Nollywood actor and we Nigerians have every reason to agree with him 100%.

oyin44:
See empty seats everywhere.

What about if it was on Monday it would be worse than this..



What a shame...