₦airaland Forum

khia:
So the man should push it all on the woman, you aren't making any sense? It's a partnership that should be shared.

Martinez39s:
I don't see anything wrong here except your ego is too large. She is providing while he does the chores and other things, this is just how it is in a traditional household where the man is the head and provider.

If the guy was assisting in the house chores while he provided 100% in the past, I could understand the mild betrayal of his wife going fully traditional on him now that the tables have turned. That is why you must swallow the red pill. Your wife, including all women, won't cut you any slack when they are in charge and you depend on them no matter what you have done for them in the past. For every penny she spends providing, she must get it back from the husband in form of the traditional roles of a wife (that's the best she can do now). She won't cut him some slack. It doesn't matter if he pampered her and never demanded traditional roles from her. Even if he says "taking care of the kids is too stressful," as many women do to cunningly avoid the responsibility of doing house chores alone and make their beta simp husbands assist them in the chores, his wife won't be having any of that.

This is why I shake my head at the beta provider men that help their wives wash plates and shout "your wives is not a slave." They don't know the pepper, slavery and disrespect that are coming to them from their wives when they go broke and their wives are financially in charge. I won't be surprised if the woman is keeping late nights and openly playing with other men to the knowledge of the husband. Let's not even talk about the disrespect and rude attitude (especially in the way she talks to him). Let's not talk about the resentment she will have at "broke useless husband," and the sexless nights.

OP, tell your friend to carry his cross and try to get his money up. You can't expect a woman (or man) to provide 100% and do the chores when the other person is there. Finally, hope that a higher bidder doesn't come along because she will monkey branch and take the kids. It pays to take the red pill.

^{NB: I am being objective here. I don't want to sugarcoat anything. Try not to bring your emotions into this.}

Ayemileto:
Also, except you've been living with them all along, you can't say he goes extra miles for his wife.

From your write up, it's easy to deduce the woman already has a job before the man lost his, because you don't expect me to believe she got a job immediately the man stopped working, so she have the capacity to do some things for herself.

And during those times, she does house chores and take care of the baby according to your story.

But now, he's probably staying at home full time.


So, like I said in my previous comment, get your friend a Job, and things will most likely sort itself out because the woman will have no excuse for her current behaviour.

khia:
You people get on my last nerve, so the husband is supposed to sit on his lazy ass all day and contribute nothing while the wife goes to work, come home and do all the house chores, cook, and take care of the child? You guys need better home training, you are too damn spoiled. You don't ever care if your wife is exhausted. Pathetic.

Wait, do you guys feel this way because the wife is bought and paid for like a slave?

Baiser:
Baba, if the woman is gainfully employed and doesnt run her mouth, why not?

This life no balance at all, man must survive.

ABUJA: Minister of State, Petroleum, Chief Timipre Sylva has declared that the All Progressives Congress APC would win the September 19 governorship election in Edo state, dismissing as a ruse, the supposed power of incumbency being wielded by Gov. Godwin Obaseki. Sylva who chairs the Contact and Mobilization Committee of the APC National Campaign Council of the Edo State Governorship Election made the declaration on Tuesday shortly after the inaugural meeting of the committee.

He accused the Peoples Democratic Party PDP of stealing the APC mandate in Bayelsa and Edo, but expressed delight that the situation in Edo occurred just few months to the elections, which he said is another opportunity to return the state to the ruling party.

He said; “All of us in the South-South believe that this election must be won. Edo state is our only APC state in the South-South. A few months ago, as you are all aware, they took Bayelsa State from us through the back door after we won the election and now through the back door again, they have taken Edo state but luckily we have the opportunity of reclaiming Edo state in a few weeks from now and every South-South APC member is of the consensus that we must reclaim Edo. It is our stronghold in the region and therefore we are all geared up, we will all go to Edo state. We want to assure you that you should not entertain any doubt that Edo state will be an APC state very soon come September 19.

“Election is not all about finance. First if you say the power of incumbency, it is an APC incumbency that has been stolen by the PDP. So, that kind of incumbency has a comma and that is why we believe that such incumbency will not work. The Edo people know that Edo state is for APC and I want to assure you that we are in touch with our people in Edo state and we know that we are the dominant party in Edo state and we are going to win this election”.