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Busy_body:
Wait for it, I know the answer https://www.emoticons4u.com/crazy/282.gifLOVE IS BLIND https://www.emoticons4u.com/crazy/328.gif

LMAO! I agree love is truly blind.

Busy_body:
Roflmao, i go die o

. I'm still trying to get my mind around it, I tell you. How does that type of love happen?

I don't know if this abroad move is already guaranteed, as in you have a visa and everything ready, but even if it is you need to marry the lady if you love her as you say or cut her loose. I don't know at what age you guys started out but 10 years is a long time ,no matter what age. Maybe her behavior now is because she has sensed that you may be thinking of pushing your wedding back for your travel plans-believe me, women know. And as others have mentioned, abroad no easy at all at all.

Busy_body:
Osanobua I initially honestly thought you were teasing the OP, and that nana, Sister Amebo and ebila heardread you wrongly

I beg no flame me o, I come in peace

What else is left is say? She has got abuses and curses rained on her so instead of doing likewise, I'm trying to set her straight. Maybe the reality of being co-wives with her sister will do what abuses and curses won't do. All I know is that if I were in her shoes, love will not be the emotion I will use to qualify whatever thing I'm feeling for my sister's husband nor will I still be living in their house getting screwed behind her back.

prittigrrr:
I met up with an ex once. He picked me up from the airport in his city. He was supposed to take me straight to where I was staying. He left something @ his house and we just dropped by to get it. I went in with him. Eight days later I was unbelievably tired all the time,  I was hungry all time but everything I ate sickened me. I got pregnant! Be sure you set boundaries and that you can stay in those  boundaries! If you cant, pass on seeing him. (Me and the guy got back together after that visit.)

For real??Wow,that must have some sex.  

I don't know about you but if it was someone I felt something for, I would be careful about meeting with him and where. Are there still embers that stand the risk of being of fanned into flames and do you want those embers to be fanned into flames? It really depends on what you want, however set your boundaries and stick to it! All you gotta do is be nice and polite to him.

Damn!10years? How much longer does the sista have to wait before getting a ring on her finger?
Dude, factor her into your plans about traveling abroad or she may not be here when you make the 'millions' and return. An introduction is not enough to keep her tied waiting for another 10 years.

nana:
What side are u flipping? U're not worth being called an adviser!

Oh,shut your trap!

amebo no1.:
i honestly advice you to see a shrink, cos you are the crazy one here

If I am crazy, what are you? Keep your honest advice for your own use.

ebila:
@lechatte,
Did u listen to urself?She should get married to her sisters husband who already has a child for him?Gurl,u need to have ur head examined!

Ebila, after you!!
She is having sex with her sister's husband and says she is in love with him. What they are doing right now is horrible but if he was married to her, it will become legal. You can pretend it doesn't make sense or you can see it with your eyes wide open like I'm doing. Who better to be a second wife than a sister? If she doesn't want to marry him, then she should pack out of that house like she should have done at the first hint that Oga was interested in her.

@Poster, you have done a sorry thing. Sleeping with your sister's husband is a betrayal of your sister's trust and confidence and I hope you are truly repentant.

On the flip side, if you are in love with him as you have said, is he also in love with you? If he is, then his arse better go and pay your bride price so he can have you in his bed without breaking all kinds of laws of human nature. If he doesn't pay your bride price and you don't leave that vicinity and stop giving him nyash for free, then you are not only foolish, you are also crazy!

LizzyA,
I agree with what a lot of people have posted here.Start making plans for your safety.If you are still hesitant,remember that most women that lose their lives violently lose it at the hands of people who purport to love them. You can interact with your family if you want to or don't you people have public phones in the UK? When I got harassed by my hosts back in the day when I got to this country,I would wait till I got to school or work to make calls to my family and when they wanted to keep my documents 'in a safe place', I absolutely refused because I didn't want to be left without an option if it came time to beat it. Do the same but first thing you need to do is to have a safety plan. You only live once!

Men beating women?And even dislocating their shoulders and other joints?For what?Domestic violence is a no-no where I'm concerned.The day a man lays his hand on me is the day he will be receiving a pink slip from Saint Peter!

dean2725:
i don't see any reason why an igbo guy would go back to Nigeria and marry an igbo girl.
There is no difference between an igbo girl and a girl living abroad.
They are both money-sucking bacteria
easy on me . . . . .please!

Easy on you?So women are now bacteria,huh?Mgbo piakwupa gi isi!