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Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by sistawoman: 2:22pm On May 06, 2009 |
Kutey: Thanks for providing her with this information. Even if this story is false this may be the information that saves someone elses life when they start to google for information. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by lizzyA(f): 2:30pm On May 06, 2009 |
@ secerez,i stayed in Elephant and Castle,if at all i wanna leave him,i believe i have 2 plan very well,i cants just pack out like dat,i need to be in control of my money first,am capable to rent a room on my own,getting close to £1300 after tax is enough for me but still i need to sort things out.i have no reason 2 start lying.thanks alot |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by sistawoman: 2:36pm On May 06, 2009 |
@lizzy A You have to leave first then sort the rest out. If you plan to leave you will never have everything that you need to leave. The shelters and womens groups will help you get control of your money and help you plan the next step. Please get in contact with them and let them know what is going on. Is your boss at work male or female? white or black? based on your answer i can help you with how to talk to them, because they do need to know something to help keep you protected. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by Secretz(f): 2:39pm On May 06, 2009 |
lizzy A: Fair enough, but please, leave. Good Luck. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by surface(f): 2:55pm On May 06, 2009 |
@original poster,pls dont mind them,is not easy nowadays 2 get a single man especially in london before u know it guys will just be tranfering u to themselves,luckily 4 u ur guy is a british,u have a good job so what else,i beg get pregnant on time,maybe dat will change d guys attitude.Imagine staying alone on cold winter night,pls endure for better 4 worse.Gdluck |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by Secretz(f): 2:58pm On May 06, 2009 |
surface: Surface, You have just confirmed to me that you're nuts!!! A baby will not make things better! He will have even more of a hold on her! Then she will never leave!! |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by bluespice(f): 3:39pm On May 06, 2009 |
for the sake of my sanity ill assume surface was being sarcastic |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by Outstrip(f): 3:50pm On May 06, 2009 |
Assuming surface is joking is the joke itself. I am sure by now you guys can pretty much expect anything. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by biina: 4:54pm On May 06, 2009 |
As much as her story sounds unbelievable, the only thing that keeps me from calling it BS is that I have heard similar things from a friend who was in an abusive relationship. While she could discuss intelligently on other issues, when it came to her abusive bf, her utterances were often so irritating that I was almost convinced that they were made for each other. She was always quick to defend the bf if anyone criticized the guy's actions, saying "it was my fault", "he is not really like that" or "you don't know him like I do". It took the intervention of her aunt (and the police) to get her out of the relationship, and even then, the guy stalked her for a few months after. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by LadyT(f): 6:56pm On May 06, 2009 |
I dont think she is yet at the mental stage where she wants to leave she's still trying to save her marriage. I doubt very much she will leave she will have kids with this loser and stay many years before the beatings get too much. You need to have some self respect for yourself and you need to understand no normal relationship is like this. First you get your own bank account and start saving money. Take money out monthly and store it in a secret savings account you can operate online if he asks you about it Secondly you have internet access you can view houses online. If you dont want your parents to bury you, you will get out now. You dont need to call any hotline or support group if you dont want you have two legs RUN! |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by dae(f): 7:03pm On May 06, 2009 |
awwww, poor thing. I wish U could make up your mind and leave him. Anyways, seems you dont wanna leave cos of "what he has done for you" Omo, things happen o! if push come to shove, calculate how much he spent on the processing, save up, and pay him the money back, at least you wont have too much guilty conscience. But u're not in a health relationship. When he's not home, Look for your passport!! start taking your things form him small small, he request he knows your PIN --- give him and eventually, change it!! Chaii, Girll, redeem yourself ooooo. JUST DONT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF GETTING BELLE FOR HIM, IF NOT YOU ARE SCREWED. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by surface(f): 8:02pm On May 06, 2009 |
@ lizzy a,if truely u want 2 leave ur britiko man,i beg connect me wit him becos i am very lonely,i wouldnt mind d beating thank God for uk good health services,i can always call d ambulance should incase of serious panel beating. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by platinumnk(f): 8:06pm On May 06, 2009 |
surface: sistawoman: thumbs UP! |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by surface(f): 8:09pm On May 06, 2009 |
why are u angry are u lizzy a or busi bodi? |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by platinumnk(f): 8:14pm On May 06, 2009 |
surface: at the fact that u are willing to suffer beatings for some man |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by surface(f): 8:17pm On May 06, 2009 |
i think i have 2 update my pix too,since everybody is updating thire profile |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by bluespice(f): 8:19pm On May 06, 2009 |
platinum word of advice i think surface has a more advanced sense of sarcasm than most of us else how can someone be so damn (&^£$%^&*( |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by platinumnk(f): 8:26pm On May 06, 2009 |
bluespice: oh ok I thought i was saving her soul lol |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by surface(f): 8:38pm On May 06, 2009 |
@lizzy a,u dont have 2 listen to dem becos most of them lives in America,u know london is diff frm yankee,but wit ur age u have no problem,u can always get anoda man but pls dont go 4 nigerians,i think Ghanians are more romantic and gentle. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by maray(f): 9:12pm On May 06, 2009 |
@ surface,i think u have to stop dis ur excessive drinking becos i dont know why u r talking like dis @ lizzy a,pls dont take 2 surfaces advise ,i dont think having a kid is d best thing to do now,u need to sort urslf out first.Good luck. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by sistawoman: 9:26pm On May 06, 2009 |
surface: Please the first and only man to hit me was a ghanian. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by agogojerry: 9:38pm On May 06, 2009 |
hello pricess how are you doing am jerry,,,, am young black good looking guy who realy like you alot and i will like know you so can you give me you yahoo or msn id so we can chat and get to know each other well ok
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Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by r231(m): 4:19pm On May 08, 2009 |
@ Poster just read your story plus all the comments. First of all I live in UK and I knw couples around me that fights all the time so i don't understand what you mean by CRB business cus its left to you if you want to press charges or NOT but i am sure if u call the cops 1 time dis will stop. also if everything he has done for you in the past is worth all the BEATING u gets everyday cus u LOVE him den goodluck to U. Its not that u r not appreciative but if u r getting beat for it everyday then think about it |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by pinochio(m): 10:02am On May 09, 2009 |
if i were him i will kill you too. after spending that much? |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by SeanT21(f): 3:55am On May 10, 2009 |
pinochio: LMAO |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by lechatte(f): 5:53am On May 10, 2009 |
LizzyA, I agree with what a lot of people have posted here.Start making plans for your safety.If you are still hesitant,remember that most women that lose their lives violently lose it at the hands of people who purport to love them. You can interact with your family if you want to or don't you people have public phones in the UK? When I got harassed by my hosts back in the day when I got to this country,I would wait till I got to school or work to make calls to my family and when they wanted to keep my documents 'in a safe place', I absolutely refused because I didn't want to be left without an option if it came time to beat it. Do the same but first thing you need to do is to have a safety plan. You only live once! |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by Abekeade08(f): 9:09pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
Sorry to resurrect this thread, but Lizzy whatever happened to you? Did you leave your abusive bobo? I hope he has not killed you yet because you seemed reluctant to leave him. Anyway update us, let us know that you are still alive. |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by neonet(m): 9:46am On Jan 23, 2010 |
Una don hear the guy own story? everybody just dey conclude. you guys need to hear his own side of the story.Shekina!!! |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by Dimka76(m): 10:35am On Jan 23, 2010 |
Lizzy dear, You are probably suffering from low self worth maybe as a result of your poor background, people help people everyday but do not hold them in bondage forever. I understand how you feel, you dont want to labelled an ingrate, but baby things wont get better. Men who beat women hardly ever change. Try and get ur passport and leave him, if it turns ugly then and only then call the cops, and in fact tell him today dat if he ever lays a finger on you againyou will call police! He seems to have tamed you nicely to have the guts to pound you in the U.K. He does not need a wife he needs a slave, an odalisque and you seem to fit the role nicely. Re-establish contact with your family, I guess you owe them something too, no matter what you think. And remember you have only this life to live, dont throw it away. and anyway stop provoking him or you are the type that enjoys fighting? |
Re: He Beats Me And Doesn't Let Me Talk To My Parents by twinskenny(m): 8:20am On Feb 01, 2010 |
please set yourself free |
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