went in to rob, looked around and there one person...

Me: no man I said lets rob a expensive bar, not my father's bar.

Partner in crime: Sorry ooo my oguy at the top, I think say you talk make we rob your father bar that has all the good soup.

Father: aaaa! so na u dey do this to me abi? lets see how u fit chop tonight u sabi say no money dey and you want rob my soup.

Raymondenyi: OP ; Ibeg come answer my own surname (n put it on FB) make all these problem end here!!! Hia!!! Nothing person no go come cee 4 NL; Una go dey disturb person sleep! Mtcheeeeew

hahaha u dey funny cha, I no blame u at all, if no be 4 hunger striking u, I bet u no fit open dat ur mouth and say "una dey disturb" Come to think of it did I asked u? NO oo, was I in ur dream saying u must come on NL and help answer my question? 4 where.

So oguy I take God beg you to just keep to urself if u no have nothing to say to me.

Donalð Genes:
i have a dream that one day i go use your bra take clean my hands lol

keep dreaming for that day coz you'll never ever live through it.

alutacontinua:

Well, the truth is you don't have much problems with her, the person you need to talk to is your fiance. I must be sincere with you, when a child is involved, it becomes really complex. If not now, in future! They cannot completely stay away from each other forever. All I can say is that talk to your fiance and let him tell you the FULL STORY! if you suspect any loop-holes, do your background check. questions like: what led to the break-up? Why is the child staying with his parents instead of his/her mother? come to mind. The whole surname thing might be nothing but it could also be everything you need to pull out of this relationship. If the break-up history is not messy, (i.e. she's still not holding on to him one way or the other) and you're sure they're not married, then, she might just be suffering from a bit of delusion.

hmm very interesting post u had.
I'm trying to prevent taking another woman man or child father, I'm trying to prevent my heart from hurting again from another baby mother drama.In my case there is no form of using from him or either of us. He is fully committed to me and our future together ( well so I seemed to believe), the love for each other is there but the fact remains is his baby mother.... I'm going to contact her, all this weeks/months of "stocking" her, I think I should talk to her women to women, black to black, Nigerian to Nigerian before it destroy my plans.

Omg people read it properly!!

the guy is not using her for visa or money apart from connection.

1. she is student so clearly she has no money to give him.
2. she offer to help him with the whole visa issue, so that is out.

bottom line is he is he-goat that needs to grow some balls. I don't get why Nigerian men's treat their ladies with so much respect and dignity but treats other ladies bad. Don't they know pussy is just a pussy.
My dear reading your post sounds like a lot of the stories I have heard and be warned against Nigerians; making it hard for the good men's in Nigeria to gain any form of respect from ladies.

As you know from my post that I'm with a Nigerian atm but coz of the bad behavioral from them, making my friends and family to be alert and also thinking my relationship with him is nothing but a big fat fail waiting to happen.

I do wish you well.

alutacontinua:

Since you've ruled out the fact that he's MARRIED to her, let's explore other ideas.
Is your fiance still close to her? As in do they still communicate?
Since she knows about your relationship and you have her on your facebook, it's safe to assume that you guys have a form of relationship or the other. How close are you to her

From what I have gather about this whole wahala is that.
1. NO they won't married but had a child.
2. Since the break up they have not communicated with each other.
3. He wouldn't have a clue if she goes and see her daughter who lives with his family since he does not live in Nigeria anymore.
4. I don't have her on my facebook, I make sure that no one I don't know in person have me on facebook. I do know her name and since her facebook is not hiding I look through it.

As much that sound a lot hopeful but just way to much to go through just to get something free when it cost little amount to pay.

I advice to just pay the fees.

Thx for showing how to check ur time thing left, now I know I need to get another 5 years of it.

alutacontinua:

Are you 100% sure of that.
I'm asking cos no girl OFFICIALLY bears her boyfriend's surname, let alone 'ex'...that only happens after marriage. Some do it jokingly in anticipation, though.

She probably did it JOKINGLY and forgot to remove it or she's still holding on to some grudges or hope that the guy is coming back one day. When baby-momas are involved, you need to be sure you've been told the whole story before you make your decision, most especially if you're not a Nigerian. Our people can be too smart ...do your homework well!

I am a Nigerien by birth but I did not grew up in Nigeria and lets just say my knowledge when it comes to dating an African is limited, but apart from saying that Nollywood have helped me in that department. Just thought I was worry over silly little things like that.

P.S she comes on facebook like every 3rd day or so and still don't seem to want to change her bloody name, she knows he is relationship with me as well.

lostgirl85: Red flag, be careful they may be married......

hmmm that ran through my head as well... but I did some digging and he came out clean, than again he is a Nigerian from history of them in relationships they are like snake in the grass that knows how to hide things.

alutacontinua: Were they married? Just tryna confirm.

No they were just normal boyfriend and girlfriend.

Hi there

I'm a bit confuse here when it comes dating Nigerians (meanly men's)

Is there any reason why a Nigerian lady should have her ex boyfriend, the father to her child surname on both of her facebook accounts when they are not together anymore?

How common is the usages of Nigerians surnames in Nigeria?

I can not get over the fact that my fiance ex girlfriend is bearing his surname on her facebook accounts, it annoys me so badly that he said when asked that he doesn't know either and that they have NOTHING to do with each other.

Am I going crazy over silly matters like that?
Should I be worry? Do I have the right to fuse over matters like that?

This guy is my fiance and I don't want anything to destroy my weeding later on.

Cheers
ME

I have a dream that your joke won't funny.... oh wait that wasn't a dream but reality.

Hi there.

My uncle wife wants me to help her start a business in Nigeria. They live in Lagos but I want to know what it takes to start a business in Niger? what kind of paper/ permits do you need?? and how much approx is needed to start a small shop business or restaurant.

Please if there is any resourceful information about business in Nigeria, that could be useful to me. well help me greatly.

Thanks

I have to agree with OP about yourba ladies, as a yourba lady, my father and mother taught me not to love a man because of his money or what so ever but to see beyond the man situation, as a woman we have to be there for our man through the good and bad times. I do have to say not all yourba ladies are humble, faithful and content. In our fast growing nation women lack of those 3 major thing that a relationship needs.

OK first of all I don't know where this topic go so I put here in the sexuality forum, wanted to put it in the education forum.

1. I don't know how African school system are like so this might be old or new.

2. I think that African schools should teach students about sex, like the DO NOTS and DO's of sex, students from the age of 12 to 19 should know what to do when it comes to sexual abuse and should know what is sexual abuse; knowing the outcomes and consequences of having sex and how to protect themeselves.
By schools teaching this to their student, I think this will prevent sexual diseases, early pregnancy and so on. It will also give students to talk about any problems or difficulties that hey might be facing when it comes to sexual development without feeling embarrass or scared to talk about the changes in their bodies to an adult/grown up

3. What does NL people think about this?