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femalecobra:
But in summary one thing I know
1. You are married to a lady who wants a friend and companion in a man not a bossy person. Someone who can allow her think n reason with u. You bring your idea and she brings hers and u reason together n male a logical conclusion.
Imposing yourself won’t work and that’s just the truth.
I am that type of lady too. “You can’t tell me to always DO your decision” you have to bring d logical analysis that led to ur idea...I may have mine and suggest and if after you advised and I do mine having considered both options ....I need you to respect my choice as a “human” not a compelled slave called “wife” that must do what you want” . After all, I would respect your choices so I expect you respect mine when the sometimes differ from yours.

But when I know it’s what u want that must work out, Then I feel I am dealing “with a bossy man” and I can’t stand it...hell cant...I would be miserable.
Why would I choose that for the rest of my life?
“Why would I want to choose submitting” to a man Dt “compels” submission for the rest of my life when I can choose to date a man that is a friend in a husband?

So if u wanna keep bossing ....as per I am the man!!!!...you must do as I say.....from the message I think there would be a problem....
Cus your kind woman no go gree

That cost me a relationship but I walked out of it. I cried. I loved him. But I couldn’t think of forever with a man that wants to “lord” “rule” “question my friendships or even cut my normal ties with male colleagues” simply because they are males etc on top of “marriage”. He too was in a haste like you that we married. But having seen people’s experience in life, I Was of the opinion we get to know each other....and I greatfull for that that I over stood my grounds on that.
I cried n wept but I know it’s the best choice of my life!!!

2. You love her more than she loves u. Why it’s true it’s good for a man to love a woman very well and sometimes they say even more than she loves him....you must be sure she at least has 70% of what u feel for her....else she would treat you anyhow ooo....except over time and experience she gets to see that u are a good guy and begin to value u.

3. No doubt she is quite rude. So sorry to say. Because that tone is not even one that would bring peace. Even if you are bossy to her...it’s not by her being bossy in addressing the issue that would solve it.
Her tone is not one of love....that is crying desperately for a bossy husband to stop as she can’t stand it anymore and would likely quit if he doesn’t.

How did u guys date for 5 years and not get to be friends
Or fully understand each other
Was it 5 years or 5 months?

I don’t know the solution ...what I can identify here though is the problem�

Well my solution is that if you want the marriage to work you would need to sacrifice more as it’s obvious you are the one that loves her more for you to have said the marriage be rushed.
Just ignore her rudeness, do what you are to do, play your role, Love and gentleness in most time calms a lady....our conscience tells us to act better as we get to know it’s only a man that loves us that has come so low to take our bullshit and we just get to know that we just have to treat him right over time.

But if you keep fighting same way with a loud mouthed lady...you won’t make progress...
Resentment would only just Set in deeper and deeper!!!

So the ball is in your court,
Is the marriage worth fighting for?

prettyynx:
sure, I had my hnd done in yabatech , and then proceeded to have my Msc done at the university of Hertfordshire UK, but i added one professional certificate to my application , so maybe you should find a professional certification that relates to what you actually want to study for your masters . but tbh try the USA, after your program you still have a year to look for a job, but in UK, you're coming back home immediately after your program.







That system of studying and going back home has changed, so one has about 2years after study in UK now

Phoenixgr:
come to ukraine , its the surest way to enter europe

Ope4Christ:
https://googleweblight.com/i?u=https://www.make-it-in-germany.com/en/visa/kinds-of-visa/work/skilled-immigration-act/&hl=en-ZA


Immigration Program in Germany. Check out the site above.

Rupect:
Try Germany via study permit root.

royaldok:
I successfully got student's visa for a 41-year old man currently doing his bachelors here in Europe. If you can convince the visa officer, I don't see your age as a red flag.

OneCorner:
Her mates are buying Benz for their kids, she’s buying mumu Renault. Something that’s supposed to get dumped in a junkyard.
Poor woman

gentleking90:
they is no Lithuania embassy in Nigeria.
you can visit their embassy in any of these countries
Egypt
South Africa
Turkey
India.
I got my own visa in turkey.

YoungDaNaval:
Check G.R.A Before Polo Club. Dem plenty 4 there.

teflondoncuzo:
Let's set the facts straight here, parrots are lovely birds and a good pets to have but u must know how to handle them cos they can injure, it's best you get them when young if u really wanna handle them and you must have time for your bird, now there are over 300 species of parrots and not all can talk. The one with the best ability to talk is the African grey parrot also know as the Timothy parrot. Because a parrot has the ability to talk doesn't mean it would, it needs training and needs to be kept where it would hear people talk all the time so preferably it's best it's kept indoors, feeding shouldn't be a problem cos there food are not expensive they fruits and nuts. For those who want to get parrots in lagos I have a contact who can get you the parrot of your choice

Sermwell:
I really don't know why its expensive in the south here! My dad bought two from the north for 30k(although they were less than two months old). They are so trained now that they can sing some hit songs like 'lompopo' ,'shoki', 'sekem, etc

vicatrix:
Thanks for the update, i am presently in Berlin came through Lithuania cos i wanted to transfer. I will check on the university you sent me though mostly all are demanding IELTS so will advice everyone to write to be on a safe side. Thanks alot.