soundOsonic:


She loves me, but she can't leave her fiance for me.
She met the fiancee before me, and their parents knows each other already.
She keeps saying she will get married this year when she finishes her HND.
And he looks like it's the guy supporting her in schooling.

Her fiancee might be treating her maturely, and it looks like the two families have done something concerning their relationship, like introduction, but I treat her like kid when I call her on phone, she looks young, maybe that's the reason she can't see a future with me.
She is 22years, looking like 17years old or less (her old pictures makes her look like a 23 or 24 years old, I don't know how she got younger in appearance) I keep wondering how they will marry her off looking at her appearance.

If I met her earlier, she would have dated me, she is the one that calls me everyday not the other way round.
And I love her also, I will love to marry her if I was financially stable. I earn over 100k but I need to earn over 400k if I want to marry, so I am still struggling.

400k, for this naija? Well, i think 250k would be okay. Aim for your 400k but when you get up to 250k, your wife can bring 100k to the family and you'd be fine

OurBusinessIsPr:
Go to your bank and insist on collecting the new naira notes ..
.if they refuse , you can create a scene there

You're being played by the CBN, the banks don't have the new notes. They never had the intention to print enough of it. We've been scammed by this useless country.

Antimarraige:
Dog and BAT...

I'm looking forward to taste snake for the first time

I've already eaten both

Supreme145:
So I've been dating this lady since early this year and everything has been going on smoothly, in fact I even had to tell my mom about her, the first time I would talk to my mother about a lady, but she sounded not too pleased about the lady. Someone she hasn't even met physically.

I've two younger sisters between aged 17 and 15, I didn't like the way they were dressed the last time I visited home so I always try to send them a token every month end to get new cloths. This Xmas I have a lot on my table and have been brainstorming on how to structure my expenses.

My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

I called my mom this morning to tell her that I would be sending the cloths over with some other stuffs I bought for them and she outrightly rejected the girl's gifts citing spiritual reasons that she cant accept gifts from someone she doesn't know. She even accused the girl of trying to pressure me into marriage by pretending to love my family.

I am 30 years old and have dated countless ladies and none has showed genuine concern towards my family like this particular one. It would be so heart breaking to tell her that my mom rejected her gifts knowing how she enthusiastic she was gathering those items.

Sometimes I get tired of my moms spirituality, she's not considering that my sisters even need those items. Those cloths worth over 50k even as second hand materials. I don't understand why she would dislike someone she hasn't even met before.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

Your mum is like some other mums i know. Keep those clothes. Bit by bit, keep sending them to your sisters. Like every 1 month or more till they finish.

Your girlfriend doesn't need to know. With time she will get to know. Inform your sisters on the source.

UnknownT:
AFANG SOUP though my people call it Ukazi soup

Afang isn't ukazi please... afang is a mixture of two leaves of which ukazi is one.

Comradepreneur:
Good evening everyone.

Even though I had vowed to myself never to bring family issues to this forum, I just have to vent this out.

I am 23, a male from the North. I come from a family of 6, in which I'm the eldest of my siblings (all my younger siblings are girls).

In 2019, my cousin brother, who is way younger than me (he was 14) came to start living with us just a year after his dad died.

Prior to his dad's death, we never spoke to each other whenever I visited his mom (my paternal aunt).

His dad was someone who was quite doing well for himself before death took him away from us (he was working with NNPC).

After his death, his family were divided (he had three wives in which 2 had died earlier. My aunt was the second wife).

His children from his first wife lay claims that my aunt killed Thier mom (who had died way before 2004), and even the third wife (who died in 2018).

Even though his wealth was shared according to Islamic rites, they were still not contented even though they had the lion share.

Well, just months after my uncle's death, my aunt decided to get married! (Just imagine someone being accused of killing her husband and her co-wives fa).

Even though my dad (her elder brother) was against the decision, she even went as far as went to her mom in the village and was crying when her mom rebuked her for her intending action.

At the end, she got her way, and remarried to a police officer.

The worst part is, she is still living in her former husband's house, while she visits her new husband in his house (they are very close to each other. Much like she got married to her neighbor! Since his house is just a stone throw from hers).

Well, to cut the story short, she has 3 kids (all male) for her deceased husband, the eldest being 14. The eldest son was sent to come live with us since their rooms have been given out to their elder brothers as part of their own inheritance (her kids only inherited money and the man had over 4 properties in strategic locations).

You don't deserve to be called a man. You ought to have been made the last born of your family so you sorry ass can be pampered.

Spineless nitwit!

Centurion101:
I write this story to encourage people to always help if they are in a position to do so, especially is the situation is dire. What goes around comes around and you might just find yourself in a situation where you Will need help from strangers and hope they help you too.

Days ago I was in my neighborhood in South West running some errands at around 9pm on Sunday when I found myself in a very busy road packed to the brim end to end with cars stuck in a hold up trying to beat the jam to get to Thier respective destinations.

I turned the ignition off since I've already spent like 20minutes without moving an inch, a few seconds later I heard a loud bang it was a speeding bike who wanted to use it's small size to it's advantage to beat the traffic, upon close inspection I realized the bike has Just hit a guy with full force and ran away.

Consequently people came out to check on the guy that was hit,he was unconscious bleeding from the back of his head and face, unfortunately the bike's force banged him right into a very big cement structure that would probably weigh a couple of tons.

Nigerians being Nigerians started praying and speaking in tongues instead of administering aid to the guy, nobody was willing to touch him,there were just shouting and saying he is probably dead and they don't want police to charge them with his death.

At this point I tried to control the crowd to disperse and at least give this guy room to breathe and get some fresh air hoping that might resuscitate him,but there were like 50people gathering there and there is only so much a single person can do.

So realizing no one was willing to help this guy I fought my way through them ruggedly to get to the guy I realized he has a broken leg and arm and he was bleeding heavily but he has a pulse and he is not dead,
I don't know what I was thinking or what power came over me but the fact that he is alive made a difference to me and I said to myself I will take him to the hospital even if I have to carry him on my back and trek there.
I asked a man to help me Carry him, he asked do I know the victim and I answered yes,he is my junior brother.

so they helped me lift him up and I carried him on my back and began to speed, now the next thing was how to get transportation,we are in a hold up and no car is moving, by this point the crowds has dispersed and left me alone to tend to my PROBLEM.

I locked my car , sat the guy close to the side of the road ,I tried to find something that could apply pressure to reduce the bleeding,then it dawned on me that a cloth will do just fine,so I removed my shirt and tied it around his leg where he was bleeding the most.

Like I said earlier the task at hand was how to get transportation to the closest hospital, I began flagging down bikes but none of them stopped out of fear until I literarily ran in front of one forcing him to stop and told him to take me to the next hospital,I was about to start begging him to not let this guy die because of fear when this guy got down from his bike offering to help lift him so we can take him to the hospital,I don't know if it's God that sent him or it was just pure luck but he helped and we put the victim in the middle and started our journey to the hospital.

On the way I checked the guy's pulse and breathing like every second, telling him he's going to live one way or the other because my work will not be in vain. As God will have it he opened his eyes but he was still incoherent and totally out of it ,but at least now his eyes is opened and he is not laying down like a dead man,that kind of gave me an atom of hope.

Moments later we arrived at a private hospital and they were just about to close, apparently they had some issues with the workers that were supposed to cover a night shift, infact there was only one doctor on call and a few nurses around so it was all hands on deck, the victim was stretched in and as per private hospital wahala they demanded card and treatment fee up front, I even begged them to at least priorities the guy's life first but they said no money no treatment,so I paid for card, admission fee and treatment, it was 33,000 naira

After payment the doctor came in with the nurses and started working Thier magic, giving him some injections , cleaning his wounds,they even plugged him up with something that aided his breathing (I don't know what the thing is called).

After a couple of hours around 11:30pm the doctors came out and told me he was stable,that he had some internal bleedings that has Been stopped and he is responding fine to the treatment,they said I can go and see him if I wanted.

I went into the ward and checked up on him,he was heavily medicated and he couldn't really say anything that makes sense,he was just fixated on my face, strolling in and out of consciousness.

I slept in the hospital and the following morning around 8am he was awake and fine ,so I went to see him and when he saw me,he just started crying uncontrollably saying THANK YOU like a hundred times without stopping, this kind of made me a bit emotional because I've not really seen a lot of grown men cry.
He gave me his phone and I contacted his family members and told them what Happened, his mother almost passed out on the call, some minutes later they all rushed into the hospital. I peeked at them through the glass window when they went to his ward,the relief and joy in Thier faces is one of the most beautiful things I've seen in my life.

I left my number with the nurses there and told them to give to the guy when he is discharged and I made my way down to fetch my car, hoping and praying fervently that the car is still there and that was it.

That 33k was the best thing I've paid for in all my life and what happened just gave me joy and relief anytime I think about it.

The guy and his parents calls me like a billion times a day,they even offered to pay me back but I refused, collecting the money back is not worth the joy I got from doing what I did.

I dey mechanic workshop and tears dey commot my eyes.

May God continue to bless you. That guy would've died there if not for you and God.

TakeNigeriaBack:
don't get high on your own supply.

10 rules... never get high on your own supply...

Goodmarlian:

I am almost 30 but but yet to stand financially as a man despite being hardworking and ambitious,i have being on the streets hustling since 18 no parents or siblings to help ,I don't want to blame the Government or economy but I hope Gods grace finds me someday ,my agemate cousin who where both born in the same year and month is getting married soon meaning he is now capable of feeding more than two mouths while I am still hustling for daily bread,to make matters worse he didn't even call me to invite me i heard from my sister meaning I am no longer important to him ,I know it because I no get money if not him for don call me.
I discussed this with my friend yesterday and he told me assuming I have started Yahoo as he advised me years back I for don hammer by now but I don't want to do yahoo because of my active conscience.
I have being depressed for days now,my girlfriend came around yesterday and she brought about the marriage issue like she knows what I am thinking again.

Let me tell you a true story of a young 24 year old guy

He got married exactly two Saturdays ago, before he got married he was warned severally by his immediate relatives. They said he was too young to marry and that the lady he wanted to marry was older than he was. Ignoring all advice, he got married two Saturdays ago... It was all fun and merry. Fast-forward to the Thursday night after the wedding... The young man complained of a serious headache... He died in the very early hours of the Friday after his wedding. He was buried a few days after his death.
Prior to his death, he was a barber that had prospects. He didn't do drugs, he was loved by majority of his peers (or though it seemed).

The young man is dead now... Many like you would've envied him but now he is no more. Steve Harvey made money when he was in his 40s. He said if he had made it earlier,he would likely not have used it well. Wait for your time sir, not everyone will have money while they are young.

Have a blessed day, I hope this story lifts your spirit. Stop working with others clocks, when it's your time, nothing can stop it, not even you.

SultanOfPuna:

They think every story on nairaland is fake..Smh

I can't tell the stories without opening a new account. If I open a new account, the stories will still exist flagged as fake. I don't think I need to go through such stress since I won't get any money for it. Things are really happening sha. Especially now that the country is very hard, we have more singles begging for money. Sometimes getting that money comes with a price. It is well.

Lucasinho:



And you believed this fiction?

There are different stories I could have told you especially relating to 2 guys that I know personally. I'm sure you'll doubt the stories too. There are things that are happening,this one is a small one compared to others that these 2 guys have played out.

Just take good care of your wife after marriage. watch the company she keeps as well.

Smith414:
yes I did, we talk together every single day, I tell her everything that’s been happening since I came to Abuja

Leave that girl... The pastor has had his way or will have his way with her. She's already in love with him and the attention.

Smith414:
Hey beautiful people of Nairaland, judge me if I’m being wicked
I’ve been dating this girl for a year plus now, she’s nice, cool and understanding ,it’s been 2 months now since I traveled to Abuja for a business and will be back in a few weeks time, what I’m about saying happened past Sunday, I called my so-called gf after church severally she didn’t pick up, called with a friends phone, same thing happened sent a text no reply, I just felt she would be busy cooking. Later I got a message from her that her phone was silent and inside her bag, I replied no issues, only for her to send another message via WhatsApp that she’s on her way to Lagos with her sister and her pastor to go and buy land for church , someone well known to be chronic womanizer to the core before he( pastor) he said God called him, I did not hid my anger from her because we’ve had little issues in the past due to my open dislike for this so-called pastor because I’ve worked with him both at work and in his house when I was still waiting to get admission, so when I say I know him very well, I really do. My so-called gf, her sister and this pastor went alone to buy land for church..
And she’s been uploading pictures like she went on a date vacation, from shopping to boat cruise to chilling in hotels every minute,
I’ve broken up in my mind I swear, because you nor go tell me say your pastor go buy land but through out the land he go buy na you and your sister he dey with and church suppose get committee about such things??my mind have been made to breakup officially when I get back

My people hope I’m not being to harsh on her??

Screenshot of when she told me about it below

Before you travelled to Abuja, did you inform her? If yes, she ought to have informed you before travelling not while on transit. The truth is, she didn't pick your calls because she didn't know what to tell you. The girl ain't your girlfriend... move on sir

Antimarraige:
I wish our last born can see this, with the way he smokes ice every fucking hour, claiming he don't want to sleep because of the useless Yahoo he's doing.

I no dey take pass Arizona and sometimes I take loud but rarely.

Rip in advance to both of you.

ablejesus26:


Nna ehhn women dey try for market buying oo

Lolz! You don see ma na

ablejesus26:


A young man like that throwing support for atifku, someone we all know to be part and parcel of this problem we are faced with now.
Well it's his opinion though,but someone should tell him to campaign for his candidate and stop poke nosing.
The man no understand say people dey vex
Guy ordinary spaghetti is now #400
My wife no dey around since 1 month now so I go market by myself,what to do the children must eat nah
Guy na so so quarel I just dey quarel for market oo.
Ogbono half cup na #300, egusi one cup #200
Jesus Christ my Lord and savior,who we offend for dis country sef
And some people still get mind dey campaign for pdtif and apcheat

You don see wetin your wife dey pass through abi? When she comes back just give her a minute hug and tell her how much you missed her.

versatilelad:
Hi Nairalanders
please What does seing 11:11 means. Asking for a friend. He says it keep appearing over and over again both in physical and in his dreams. Any meaning to it?? Asking for a friend whose confuse about it frequent reoccurrence to him. Thanks

Go and read what Revelations 11:11 says then come back to thank me.

Samakus:
Hi guys..

There's something I would like to have y'all's opinion about.

My neighbour, male, married with children, always leaves his house to come to my veranda and stand. Especially when I'm indoors or he suspects that I'm out of the house.

Overtime I have tried to check his motive and I can't seem to find any ulterior motive. He will just leave his flat upstairs, come to my flat's Veranda in the ground floor and stand there, moping at empty space. If I come out from my parlour, we will greet and he will hurriedly leave

I'm beginning to find it not so funny. Should I confront him? From my investigations, he doesn't do anything, doesn't peep, but just stay there and be moping, sometimes with a bottle of water in hand.

Why always the front of my crib? If he needs a thinking session, he can as well use another place. What do you guys think? I should confront him or let it be?

Edited....

He has a young wife who used to come down stairs when she's bored to play ludo OUTSIDE with me and my friends if they come around.

This man's behaviour made me to stop the ludo thing. I no get strength abeg.

My door is always locked by the way but I just want to have different opinions about why he's always in my veranda when he has a house and family to go to

Marriage isn't a bed of roses. It's possible that of all those living in the compound, you're the one that's closest to his family.

He may just need a space from the troubles and thoughts of being a family man and your veranda is the only cool spot around. Since you know he has no ulterior motives, kindly let him be.

Would you prefer the man goes to a beer parlour everytime?? Forget that he comes to your veranda and face important things. Allow him be.

Sheuns:
How’s that offside?

My question exactly

NLElder:
Get her pregnant? We are not visiting each other again. I have let her be It's just my obsessing about her left and which is what I need help about.

Block her

Advocate500:
fanya bu ofu,if ipob is different let them start by tackling the other, when i used to share in their sentiment is gone,ipob, Nnamdi Kanu and Buhari gave birth to insecurity in the eastern region period.

Start the story from the beginning.

In summary, once upon a time, flag bearing innocent civilians who were observing their civil duties of asking for a better Nigeria, were shot at and killed in their hundreds. Innocent young men and women were killed for carrying only flags.

Now the relatives of those that were killed decided to avenge the wrong done to them by carrying arms. Now it is fire for fire till one party gets tired. While innocent civilians still suffer though.

In conclusion, I think the situation here is still better than what would've happened if the fulani were allowed to have their free way of raping, killing and burning of houses just like it's being don in Southern kaduna

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Are you sure she's not pregnant? E remain to settle down. Probably use u as the father.

Islandlady:
You are one of the useless people instigating violence and calling for war! But I am sure you are not in both region but in a peaceful state in either Southwest or south south spewing this rubbish!

Don't begin or instigate war becos you might not know the end! Good day

I shouldn't be replying you but I will. Fulani herdsmen have been killing people in almost every state of the federation. You've never called for reprisals. His Hisbah has destroyed countless numbers of alcoholic drinks, beverage and the likes but no one called for reprisals because it is being done against the igbo and it is right. Only one truck load of human sperm infested cows and you're crying... what if for each time a truck load of alcoholic drinks was destroyed, a truck load of cows be killed, I hope that would be fair.

What goes around comes around. Unfortunately, that truck load may belong to an Igbo man... a warning was sent out several months ago about not eating Cow meat.

rhonard:
Saw this picture and have been working my brain out

Which direction is the busy going

Left because the shield that prevents the sand of the tyres from hitting the body of the car are usually atthe back of the tyres.

SmartPolician:
ESN, zukwanu ike!

How can a militia hope to arm its fighters by attacking security formations across the SE region? That doesn't sound strategic.

Apart from buying in a nonexistent market, how else can they do it?

BSdetective:
So what was the initial gragraa for? Anyways Putin better take this deal cus that's one of the major reasons he entered the war.

If I were Putin, I won't... I will keep moving every inch till every land in Ukraine is occupied. I've been asking for a simple thing for a very long time, but you refused and forced me to fight. Now I've been hit by several sanctions and you think ill just back out? You must be joking. We must finish what we started o. That stupid regime must change. The west can't keep oppressing a super power and keep thinking the world belongs to it.

I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

Where do I start from?

Okay, did you make any promise to God while at the altar during your marriage? Can you remember your vows?

The man doesn't beat you, he isn't a womaniser, he doesn't abuse you or pressure you unnecessarily, he loves you and obviously you know he does. His one and only flaw is that he gambles.

Is this man the first man you have dated?

You're seeking a perfect person, are you perfect yourself??

Work on your man, being a gambler isn't the worst thing a man can do and it is curable... many wives would wish this was the only problem their husbands have.

Your man is working... you guys should create a joint account and both of you must be signatories.

Good luck

Hmm

Please, is there anyone here for replacement?? Kindly signify.

Anyone with an update of REPLACEMENT and if it has started should please indicate.

Thanks

Freeman2022:
I was released on the 24th of this month from prison after 2yrs..

My case was thrown out of court. I lost my admission I am mentally depressed and I dont know where to start.. pls I just turned 20yrs on 22 of this month and I need your advice or financial help if u can.. thank you

Okay... you lost 2 years, it is not the end of the world... you were trying to enter school simply means you still have your WAEC results. Why don't you try getting a job with that? You need to start from somewhere.

Depending on your location, go to Facebook, look for job groups in your state. Join a group or several groups... tell them you need a job with accommodation. Describe the type of job you need, hotel, eatery, fast food etc. I want you to get a job with accommodation so that you can leave your current location to a new environment and that will save you transportation costs.

Good luck! Quote me if you have questions.


Don't tell anyone you just left the prison. That information is for you and you alone. Don't even tell close friends. It's none of their business and it won't make things better MHO

huptin:


Russia is not the only country with nukes and in terms of precision Russia's nukes do not compare well with the US. He tries it? Himself and everything Russian goes with it!

You watch too many movies... even the US knows it can't attack Russia because the repercussion will be epic. The Russia needs only one successful Nuke to make the whole of US to cower and they have thousands of it.