UDOKABESTLUV:


Source: https://saharareporters.com/2024/04/19/five-killed-others-injured-lords-chosen-church-bus-crashes-coca-cola-depot-imo

this is false and misleading... the tipper driver was driving oneway in the very early hours of the morning and hit the bus in a head-on collision.

i have pictorial evidences.

Rich4god:
This looting is happening and we are all laughing as if it's a joke.

One day, they will start attacking individuals who went to market to buy food for his household. They will go into market and loot shops belonging to individuals that sells food.

This is not a laughing matter, if govt can't act fast, it will be too late to control the mobs.

And who told you they want the mobs to be controlled. Grab it snatch it and run away with it. isnt that what these guys are doing?? Everyone should calm down, we will soon get there.

let the hunger multiply, soon we will all have sense.

Fedup2024:
People of Nairaland. This maybe my last post here. I had to create this moniker in order to keep my identity. My view about this world especially this country is just that nobody loves you, you are on your own. In the meantime, I'm in a loads of debt currently owing people. I thought of this life not worth living anymore. I've read a lot and that made me freethinker. I don't believe in the concept of heaven and hell. To me, I think su!c!de is an option. What is essence of living a life without no solution. You aim but miss. You plan yet fail. Nothing works in this country and no one, no body is ready to assist you or even lend you a hand despite the fact I help people a lot even to my detriment. I discovered it doesn't worth it. I have nothing to fear again. I've passed my fear.

This life is not worth living anymore for me. I need a release.

My apologies to my parents and siblings for failing them.

you're yet to try mason work... in the coming years hand work will be a luxury because everyone wants to do yahoo. have patience and you'd smile. pick any hand work and learn today

MrBrownJay1:
begging for 1.3m school fees when many cant even feed themselves.
regardless of who you voted for, WHAT ABOUT SENDING YOUR CHILDREN TO A COMMON PUBLIC SCHOOL?

from the look of things, this man was doing very well paying such huge sums of money. he succeeded in voting and supporting a drug baron. he should allow the girl to do olosho work for 4 days. money go show.

Meerahbel:
From DM

find out where he got his remote jobs from... the website.

uba1991:
I am a northerner but I will tell you that you are a fooool. The surfering in the north and Yoruba land is the worst. I want to visit Katsina and see how people are eating, come to Maiduguri and see the real meaning of poverty.

Calm down sir, he is using reverse psychology. We have those from other tribes as beggars on this forum. you'll hardly see an Igbo person come out to beg. He knows who he is referring to.

Missowombo:
Dear Family landers. I am here to seek your advice on how to rescue my car from my neighbour.
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I bought a car, direct from abroad, a very clean and sweet ride, and registered in September, 2023 (5months ago). However, due to the high fuel consumption( V6, 3.5l engine) and the ever unstable fuel price today, I decided to put it up for sale to get a smaller engine capacity. A neighbour expressed interest in buying the car and decided to pay in installment which I agreed. I was also searching for a replacement at this time hoping to use the money realized from the sales to get my preferred ride. My preferred ride prices were shockingly high such that even if I doubled the price I gave to my neighbour it will still not be enough to buy the new ride. Prices rise by the hour these days in Nigeria and I have no hand in this crisis. I returned to my neighbour to inform him that I will not be selling the car anymore due to the present crises in prices of goods in the country. I apologized profusely for every inconvenience and transferred his money back to him. He got angry and said that I must submit the car key and documents to him. He even threatened to send his community and area boys to beat me up and extract the above items.

I came back from work to see my car jacked up, surrounded by 2 other vehicles to prevent the car's exit. For the records, there is no written or signed agreement between him and I concerning this sale. I refunded all his money 1 day after he paid his last installment and kept back my car. I have no hand in Nigeria's current problems. I am pushed to use force here but I am thinking that some initial peaceful resolution could be an option
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you returned his money, ONE DAY AFTER HIS LAST INSTALMENT WAS PAID. Oga you no try ooo. Why did you wait till after he finished paying? You knew all along before he completed his payments, you should have infomred him then. You just dashed his hopes when he was sure he had a car. Hos only fsult is that he didnt have a written agreement else, you for pay money wella for this breach of contract.

Skillsmaster:


Graduate mentality? Anyway, you don't know me. I use to join her in the shop

e be like your wife fit get spiritual husband o... abo whether she dey knack outside... aaprt from natural occurrences, these are the type of stuffs that can bring a man down.

dre11:



https://leadership.ng/yuletide-return-tickets-on-south-east-routes-hit-n533600/

Nlfpmod

Igbo should ask for a referendum so as to leave this shit hole. The country is always against the Igbo.

Reminderz:

normally, I wouldn't have quoted you, I just wanna give you a notice... at any slight opportunity, you insult MEN! even to some post that doesn't warrant insult, you are also uncouth and spoilt.. the thing is you're not even anonymous, your pictures are everywhere...

you wey suppose dey help your mama for kitchen, you dey come online dey insult MEN... no worry, one day your cup go full and men go visit you.. sheybi all men are foolish abi? your mind nor go touch ground...

calm down o... she dey find attention.

GeneralPula:

Tomorrow is Monday my guy

No reason to stress anymore. Tinubu is about to be exposed, isn’t it?

Maybe tinubu can pay people to burn the school so they can claim that the certificate got burnt lol

Thonyb2:


https://.ng/2023/09/26/enugu-police-parade-92-suspects-recover-arms/

check well, most of them are innocent. most refused to part away with money so the police set them up. there should be an avenue where these suspected criminals would be able to give their own accounts of what transpired.

huptin:


Are those Oyinbos educated? sometimes up to Masters level? Were those Oyinbos managers and business owners before?

Why would you abandon prestigious jobs in your own country to go and start from the bottom in another land?

That's inferiority complex of the highest order, if you are not doing well in Naija it is understandable but majority of Nigerians who are doing those jobs were successful here, it just fad and extreme inferiority complex that made them discard their settled lives for an unsettled one.

So why should the women also join you as a man to suffer the consequences of a decision that is entirely yours?

You'd prefer a man who is constantly plagued by insecurity not just himself but also his family to continue living in Nigeria? You want him to be earning 400k while 300k is being used for expenses in a month?

It's better to go to a lamd where there are opportunities, where you make money without feeling insecure and at the end of the day, you can save enough money to give you a good investment irrespective of the work that you do.

LikeAking:


Have fought for your own rights?

Die matter…

Are you the landlord in question?

huptin:
To say the truth No girl wants to marry someone at the bottom of the ladder, care job is not edifying no matter how you look at it. Some Naija guys no dey calculate, you go marry girl as bank manager wey every body dey respect for Naija, come go abroad with the same girl come begin wash Oyinbo nyansh.

Forget it, even you as a guy, you fit tolerate woman wey fine before come turn ugly and dirty on top say she relocate? Abeg leave the girls nobody wants bad thing abeg.

even the oyinbos are doing the same job. some work in factories carrying stuffs.
it is well sha.

Mustiboy:
Hi, everyone,

I'm in dire need of advice.

We had prepaid issues in the house where I'm a tenant. There are accumulated bills on the prepaid, which the landlord has failed to sort out for months. This caused some sort of altercation between he and another tenant over the phone(Mr X).

The landlord told him to move out and refunded his remaining rent.

Now the Landlord and his father came for a meeting with the rest of us today and accused Mr X, who has already moved out last week, of taking things from the house, things such as breaker box and some minor things.

It happened to be the time when Mr X himself came to pick up one of his properties left in the house – a cupboard.

He overhead everything and tried to clarify that he didn't. Just then, the landlord's father started insulting Mr X, who didn't even retaliate or say anything.

The landlord jumped on board and said Mr X must pay for everything. He ordered a guy that came with him to lock the gate of the compound, saying Mr X is not leaving.

Mr X has myopia and is always wearing glasses. The landlord seized Mr X's clothes and threatened to beat him up, even dragging him around and tearing his clothes in the process. He literally rough-handled him like a kid.

His father also charged forward and punched Mr X in the eye, kicking and wanting to beat him even more. Mr X fell on the floor in tears. All this while, I was recording. The landlord even took up a piece of wood at some point, threatening to deal with Mr X with it.

They seized his glasses, denying him proper eyesight and even tried to seize his phone as well.

Mr X was not allowed to go out until external intervention, which came as a plea from neighbors, further massaging the landlord's ego. The Landlord and his dad literally beat Mr X up and shamed him out of the compound and the area at large, hurling insults at him and also cursing his dead father.


I really feel bad for Mr X. I've sent videos of everything that transpired to him. He doesn't know what to do and feels the landlord used his power and position to beat him when he has done no wrong.


The landlord has also boasted that he'll use his power to ensure Mr X is sacked from his place of work.

I'm also bereft of ideas on what to do. How do we press charges going forward?

This matter must not be swept under the carpet.

The landlord is in his 50s, while his father looks 80. I'm not sure of Mr X's age, but he should he in his mid – late 30s

I don't know if this is the right section for this. Mods please move to frontpage

Photo used for illustration

good day sir, please what state did this happen and I'll need to know more kindly send a mail to my email. if you can't, kindly let me know. thank you.

i will never ask you for any detail you aren't willing to divulge

Which state?

SarcasticWords:


McKala, a single mother from Kentucky, spent over a year believing she was exchanging romantic messages with Australian actor Dacre Montgomery, who played Billy Hargrove in Stranger Things.



The amateur actress and filmmaker was willing to do almost anything to be with him, despite never meeting him in person or even talking to him on the phone. After leaving her husband and sending him thousands of dollars in gift cards, she began to doubt the validity of their relationship and turned to the YouTube series Catfished for help.

McKala explained that she met her mysterious paramour after she separated from her 'very toxic' husband....



....and joined an online artists' forum to connect with other creatives like herself. She 'hit it off' with a stranger who hid behind his user name before claiming he was Dacre — one of her favorite actors.
'I’m suspicious from the get-go, until he starts doing things that make me believe he is who he is,' she told Catfished. The real-life Dacre has been in a relationship with his model girlfriend Liv Pollock for six years, but the person she was speaking with claimed they were unhappy.

'He was venting to me after a few months about his partner, saying she is very controlling of him. He doesn't get to do the things he wants to do. She's always there. She's always got to supervise,' she recalled. 'I kind of empathize with that because my ex-husband was that way.' After months of talking, McKala's 'Dacre' admitted to having feelings for her and asked her to be his girlfriend. 'He was like, "But you gotta keep it quiet because, you know, I'm still with Liv,"' she explained. McKala said he told her that he had broken up with Liv six months before, but they were technically still together to keep up with appearances.



McKala also shared how he sent her poems that were similar to the ones featured in the real-life actor's book of poetry, DKMH: Poems by Dacre Montgomery. These instances assuaged the doubts she had about her online relationship, and when he asked her for financial help, she came to his rescue.

Before I knew it, it was turning into $100, $200 gift cards,' she said, explaining that he would sell the gift cards for less than they were worth and pocket the money. McKala estimated that she sent him about $10,000 dollars. According to her, he needed the money because his girlfriend was controlling his finances, but the Catfished team wasn't buying it.
They found that the actor made $150,000 per episode of Stranger Things, and there wasn't any evidence that Dacre and Liv had broken up. They were often seen on the red carpet and in interviews together. Further investigation proved that the check 'Dacre' had sent to McKala was fake and matched hundreds of checks online with the same signature. The scammer even lied about the lasagna he had allegedly cooked. The image he sent her was taken from a recipe posted by Martha Stewart. McKala was heartbroken to find out she was being catfished, but she was grateful to finally know the truth about her online relationship.
'Love makes you do crazy, stupid, irrational things,' she said, admitting she was ripe for being scammed because of her past trauma.

Source: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12409699/Woman-thought-relationship-Stranger-Things-star-Dacre-Montgomery-sent-scammer-10-000-left-husband.html

see the orobo that wants to compete with the lepa girlfriend... just imagine

Uptownerd:

imagine the idiot saying the other lady took her husband as if she wasnt the one that threw the man away like a piece of trash.

she got the house... the man worked full-time and bought that house but she took thr house from the man. the wonderful man didnt let that deter him, he fought hard and still got another house. a better house at that, then got a woman. the complainant left him at the age of 31 then he met another woman that was 31 years old. the difference in the mentality of both women made the difference. the first woman thought she was too good for the man and wanted someone better. the second woman was like im getting old i need to settle down with a serious man.

Game settled!

Sonnetoshodi:
Hello everyone.

I've been celibate for 10 months. Till I had sex couple days ago.

Before that time, I saw my self as God's favorite.

But now I just feel like God and I had a quarrel.
It hurts so bad, cause it's now like I don't know how to go to him.

A week now I've not said my night or morning prayers.

Has God left me? Can we still be close?
Have I don't something unpardonable.

The devil is playing mind tricks on you and you're falling from it and drawing further away from God.

The devil is using you and you aren't smart enough to notice. Soon you will find yourself falling deeper. It starts with the small one then the devil amplifies it in your head then boom! You drift far away.

Ask God for forgiveness and believe that he has forgiven you then make sure you avoid other occasions of sin, simple! God is very close to you but you are acting like he is far away.

StandNFearNot:
This life can be up and down, that is why nobody can tell what comes tomorrow.

I am an undergraduate. I am self-sponsored and run a small business in the school campus which generate revenue for myself.

The school authority issued a notice for us doing business in that location to vacate the place and on the 3rd of July, the place was taken over by the school.

This rendered me jobless and unproductive, bringing untold hardship to me as i am yet to find another location.

The hardship has make me to sometimes do things i wasnt doing when I was making my daily bread.

Earlier on, in order to save cost as I couldn't renew my rent, I asked a close friend to let me join him so we can split the rent. He accepted and i paid him my own part of the bargain.

When things was going well with me, most times i prepare meal with my own money without him contributing a kobo and he'll eat and I won't complain in any way. I buy most of the basic things we use like soap and detergent, pay electricity bill, water etc. This guy even share up to my shirts sometimes. On Tuesday, I had practical in school and I came back sweated and I used his detergent to wash my cloth, my roommate almost tore me apart for touching his detergent.

The salt we are using now, just because I didnt buy it and he bought it, I used few days ago to add to the yam I was cooking, he wanted to empty the whole pot on me. I used the gas he bought to prepare noodles, half way he came and off the gas, and asked me if i don't know how much is a kg of gas now.

This afternoon, I came back from school and was very empty. I mean very very hungry and no money to organize something for myself, neither anything else in the house. So because I was very hungry, I cut a small portion of the yellow rice he cooked to eat, unluckily for me, he came back and met me eating it. Could you believe the guy snatched the food from me and poured it back to the pot. He said he told me to stay aware from his things, except he gives me.

This is a guy i have been helpful to times without number.

This is the same guy that has been borrowing money from me and some without refunding.

The other time when his mother was under medical emergency and they needed money so urgently, I lent them my school fees and that money was never refunded complete.

I don't smoke but he smokes including Indian hemp. He was caught with it and taken by NDLEA but I contributed money to bail him without the parents knowing.

In all of these and more that the guy has benefitted from me, see the unkind treatment I'm getting from him just because the challenge I am facing today.

I'm now afraid to live in the same house with him, because he's totally behaving like an enemy, not a friend or roommate.

I'm still looking for a new spot but I feel unsafe staying in the same house with someone that behaves like this.

I'm afraid and helpless right now. I don't have money to buy food and gas right now and who is supposed to assist me at a time like this is helping.

Sorry for the long post and any mistakes spotted. I'm not with the right mental state.

i will advise you the same way i would myself.

1. Make sure you don't leave that house until your rent expires and he actually forces you out. the guy in question hasn't made any attempt on your life he simply doesn't want you to touch what is his.

2. start making new friends especially female friends. since you're in school, you can visit them for food. most of them usually cook. (NB: look for those considered physically ugly) they need visitors.

3. Ask for help when you really need one. we are all going through tough times but we still have those with good hearts that are willing to share with others.

4. what about your secondary school mates? you can still reach out to them make a video call if you have to say they will be sure it isn't fraudsters.

i wish you good luck.

kettykings:
They're simply moving the war in Ukraine to Africa , the war has cost very expensive lives in Europe, now they want to use expensive lives of foools to continue their struggle.
Since when did Russia become the world police on price of uranium?

The truth is that before now, the only people that Nigeriens knew were the French and Americans, Now the Russians have come to tell you the truth about how much such resources are being sold... it's easy to verify. Now that the prices are known, Russia has its own agendas but for now, they are the better choice.

Intergrated:
lol with the recent hike in fuel price that's slavery.

You have a point though... where i reside, we decide the price we move with.

Intergrated:
Greetings all.

I work in a company and my take home is 450k after tax. My problem is I have been thinking of a skill to learn as this job would not last forever. Aside this job I do not have a skill and as a man I feel one should have a long lasting skill. Please any suggestions would be welcomed aside from online skills. Thank you .

Buy a car, driving is a skill. Drive for uber and bolt

Ebubu2:
Screenshot below

This was last year 2022 na

thowbie7ven:
Hello Friends, i recently changed my gearbox coz the former was faulty and after a week usage, i noticed my car doesn't rev past 4,000 RPMs. Though the gear selects very fine without issues or hassles but just this issue so it got me worried if it's the gear itself that has issues or probably any other underlying mechanical or electrical issue.

I contacted the seller and he said it might just be an electrical fault and he's gonna look into it but i'm just curious to throw this to the nairaland family. Is it an issue to be worried about and is it something that can be fixed.

Please i'll appreciate professional comments and advices as regards this issue.

Thanks you 🙏🙏🙏

Happened to a friend... likely a sensor or fuse issue

thesilentman:
Because we live in proximity-same town, she wouldn't quit checking up on her daughter virtually every day or at least every other day.

I felt a deep intrusion on my privacy so yesterday I summoned the gut and asked her if she didn't have a house. Before she could reply, I told her, 'learn to stay where you belong! I did not marry daughter and mother!`
She has since disappeared into thin air.

This evening am thinking whether i bleeped up or not.

You and your wife now have an equal stake in your house. You should've left the talking to for her to do on your behalf.

Vixlot:


Source: https://www.channelstv.com/2023/05/20/tribunal-labour-party-enlists-50-witnesses-plans-forensic-investigation-of-bvas/

This headline is very misleading.

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

What you did has killed many very nice people. The wrong those people did was to stop giving because they had other pressing needs to attend to. It's good to give but do it with wisdom.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Before you mentioned suicide, I had already thought about it.
It's obvious you don't know how to talk to your husband. Seems you're too scared of him.
You both have succeeded in delaying the young man's destiny.

The only advice I can give you is to do everything within your power, including plucking out one of your eyes to make sure that young man travels out to fulfil his footballing dreams.

Terrible parents!!!

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

To me, that same measure you gave when my mum was around is the same measure your mum will receive. Let the heavens fall.

Oh! So she didn't know a time will come when it would be her turn bah?

If you accept, your mum will turn in her grave.

Thunder will fire anyone that doesn't want karma to perform its duties.

toxict14:
We are voting for #LabourParty so OP go and hug transformer.

Kindly go online and check... Obi and Aisha yesufu said you should vote for the APGA candidate.

APGA candidate has been with Peter Obi long before now when other candidates didn't stand by him.