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[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139909447]“Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husband” – Man stirs reactions with controversial take

A Canadian-based Nigerian man has stirred reactions online after sharing his opinion on what men value most in relationships and marriage, claiming that respect is more important than intimacy, food, or any other gesture.

According to him, even if a woman becomes the breadwinner of the family, she should never stop respecting her husband, insisting that respect is the foundation of a successful marriage.

In his words, he said:

“The only thing a man is looking for in a relationship or marriage is respect, even if you’re the breadwinner of the family. Trust me, it’s not intimacy, food, or several other things. That can be arranged.”

The man went on to compare African women with Indian and Pakistani women, claiming that many women from those cultures continue to honour their husbands regardless of who earns more in the home.

He further alleged that some African women begin to look down on their husbands once they become financially successful, especially when the man experiences financial setbacks.

“You’ll see Indian and Pakistani women earning more than their husbands, yet they still respect them. But some African women start disrespecting their husbands once they become successful. If you disrespect your husband, nobody will respect him, not even your children,” he added.

His remarks have sparked mixed reactions online, with some agreeing that mutual respect is vital in marriage, while others argued that respect should be earned and should go both ways.

The video has continued to generate debate on social media, with Nigerians sharing different opinions on finances, gender roles and respect in modern marriages.

"The only thing a man is looking for in a relationship or marriage is respect. Trust me, it's not intimacy, food, or several other things. Especially African women—that's why Indian and Pakistani women do better than us. You'll see them earning $200,000 while their husbands have… pic.twitter.com/oakdunnuUt

— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) July 2, 2026

man has said it all

Paulscholari:
They named a girl Blue Ivy and you think she will dress or present herself like Ashawo with piercings all around her body, nahh!! She's a goddess not a trash.

For the pics you guys presented? The ashawo is even better dressed that the non-ashawo... I can see cleavage Xposed on the non-ashawo pic

Chijeep:
To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.

If what you wrote in the first 2 paragraphs is true, bro that lady has divorced you in her mind since. The truth is women always expect heaven on earth... The moment they ain't seeing the heaven on earth, na solo marriage u enter so... Only u na I'm dey marry your self so oo. I'm sorry

Sonofgod1990:
I bought 3 of this phone.
One for my mother in-law to support her iPhone 12 pro
One for my father in-law to support his Samsung A21 ultra. And One for my self to support my iPhone 17 pro Max. Is a nice phone with a nice battery 🔋

I hope you bought for your father and mother too...?

highyo:
Restitution is the act of restoring what has been taken wrongly, correcting a lie, or returning a stolen item. It is the evidence of Genuine Repentance. You cannot say you "Hate Sin" while you are still "Enjoying the Profit" of that sin.

1. Unpaid Debts
Many believers think that "God has Forgiven" means "I can keep the money." This is a lie from the pit of hell. If you stole a man's bicycle and then "gave your life to Christ," the bicycle in your backyard is a Legal Claim for the devil, even though you are bornagain, it remain a stolen items

You lied on your CV to get the job. You are still receiving the "Salary" of a Lie. You "Borrow and Never Pay Back," thinking your "Faith" has cancelled the debt.
The Bible say "If the wicked restore the pledge, give again that he had robbed, walk in the statutes of life, without committing iniquity; he shall surely live, he shall not die" (Ezekiel 33:15).

The Example of Zacchaeus
When Zacchaeus met Jesus, he didn't just "Cry" or "Speak in Tongues." The first thing he did was address his Economic Sins. He understood that the "Presence of Christ" cannot coexist with the "Presence of Fraud."
Zacchaeus offered to pay back fourfold. He didn't wait for a "Prophecy." He saw the "Holiness of God" and realized his "Bank Account" was polluted. (Luke 19:.
3. The Blockage of the Altar

If you have a "Grudge" or a "Wrong" against a brother that you haven't settled, your "Worship" is a noise in the ears of God. He will not look at your "Hands" while they are holding the "Goods" of another man.
Jesus said, Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift" (Matthew 5:23-24).

So If you want to "Rise" without the "Tug" of the Grave, you must perform the Surgery of Restitution.
• The Audit of the Past: Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to your memory every "Falsehood" and every "Theft." Is it a certificate you forged? A debt you dodged? A person you slandered? Write them down.

• The Courage to Restore: Go back to the person. Admit the wrong. Return the money or the item. If the person is dead, return it to their children or give it to the work of God as a "Sin Offering," but Clear your Conscience.

• The "If the Lord Will" Wisdom: Seek spiritual counsel for "Complex Restitution" (like complicated marriages or institutional fraud) so that you do not "Create More Sin" while trying to fix the old one.
Don't let a "Small Heavy Stone" in your pocket pull you into the lake of fire.

A Politicians who has embezzled the peoples money, even after he has finished his sentence like Orji Uzor Kalu, Yahyah Bello, they must refund every kobo they have stolen before their sins can be forgiven

I will always say Pentecostalism is the begining of making a mess of Christianity... They don't agree to one code of conduct or theology as interpreted by their myopic understanding of the bible.

Anybody can just wake up and teach even without qualifications. Challatarns everywhere. Imagine someone saying because u are a new creation you should not restitute gains from your sinful era.
That's is the devil talking through you sir.
Anybody

Chinuruolum:
It's not necessary.Jesus didn't teach it.

If not necessary, then why do u complain about repentant bokoharam getting juicy military ranks... U said they have killed and should not be rewarded that much, rather they should face reparation for their evil deeds.

Yet you are here saying restitution or reparation is not necessary.

How can u say you have repented and still live on the proceeds of the sin

I killed someone for ritual, made 100million naira from the ritual, then I repented later and still went to d bank to withdraw the money to feed my family and use 10million for tithe.

Please listen to yourself.

Maybe in the north.. in the south here, the number of wife to husband transmission is increasing... Our southern women are tasting "freedom" as they call it.

What's the difference between a Nigerian pastor and the native doctor.... I won't listen to either.

ReluctantAdult:
I've broken a lot of women's hearts who genuinely loved me but I only wanted things casual. Nowadays I let them know upfront what I'm about, it's easy and fun

Baba you played a smart game and you feel guilty?
Making the first break move is smartness.. they would have eventually shown you pepper. Ladies barely love. If you see a guy who says his girl loves him, its just that he has submitted himself to ger template and he has bn programmed by her to be her toy. The moment a typical African man says no to their template, she will move against you. So you playing the first move was smartness... Again, she would have eventually done same. Gen z girls know not love sir.

Moomoo people .. we dey talk insecurity, these ones dey do their nonsense. How their proposal go help our children wey dey inside bush?

Onegai:
Peace, Love, Respect, Wisdom, Shared Values and Stability.

A lot of men don't know what peace looks like so they think a woman who leaves them to do what they feel like is "peace".

A quiet house isn't always peace, sometimes it's "I've made myself a monster so now my wife and kids disappear once I show up and that silence is deafening".

Respect doesn't mean she never challenges you, she'll do so in love.

Wisdom: see, a man, no SEVERAL MEN, have told me that "the day I didn't listen to my wife, what happened na me suffer am". Biblically, your wife is meant to counsel you, good or bad.

Love: someone's marriage packed up and he began missing his kids but didn't want his wife back (he fought for custody). His kids always looked so happy with his wife in her videos she sent him and they seemed happy (in his eyes) when they visited. When he eventually got custody, he realized his wife was the reason they were happy. Even as he hurt his wife, her love surrounded him and the kids and once she was gone, it was gone. Now he's trying to undo what he did.

Stability: knowing your woman can handle things on her own is vital. Knowing there's someone backing you is vital

After reading, I realized it was written by their fellow woman. What would you expect

Tabithatim:
Alleged attack in Awgu is false - Enugu govt



https://x.com/i/status/2061484294829158900

<Dr. Agbo further warned that the government would not fold its arms while malicious actors spread falsehoods capable of undermining public confidence and security">

But the govt should fold its arms when bandits kill and maim?

Don't be surprised those suspected to be the originators of the suspected rumours will be arrested within 1hr, but terrorists have been holding innocent kids in the bush since 2wks and the cannot be found

brain54:
Even if they haven't been convicted by a court of law...


It's only in Nigeria that people like you don't see anything wrong with the president of the country associating with dubious and questionable characters.


In other serious climes folks like these with serious allegations and cases in court are distanced by top government officials until their innocence is established beyond doubt in court.


We really have a long way to go as a country if we still have folks still reasoning like this in 2026.


I'm not saying you shouldn't support whoever you want to... you have a right to... but it doesn't mean you have to defend everything the person you support does. No body is perfect and it's okay to criticize some actions here and there once in a while.


Defending every action both questionable and otherwise makes you sound off the rails!

And it's people like him who suffer most from bad governance... Don't be surprised he is from kogi state... A very impoverished state...

Lithiumite:
After 2 weeks,this us very poor from tinubu,there are so many people around the president that needs to go.....what happened to making this kidnapping incident the most trending news in the country with live updates from the very epi center,Nigerians seeing troops being mobilised with a temporary base with a command and control center......people seeing movements into the forest,with helicopters hovering and drones showing surveillance footage with atleast 2 daily updates by state and security officials......this would give Nigerians a sense of security and believe the govt is really concerned about their safety but what do we get,rather belated response,visits and photo ops with empty promises that elicits no hope in the people.

Please no more comments after this guy. He has said it all... Switch off the comment section.

This says everything.

fergie001:
Nyesom Wike at the luncheon celebrating the Rainbow Coalition in Rivers

He has spoken like God. I Sha hope wike created existence Sha o.. otherwise, this kinda pride is blasphemous.

EmpressTitan:
I swear some women can be irritating.

No the man is the irritating one. You found such a lazy girl digger and you are still giving her 53% or your earnings while you leave yourself struggling with 17%. And the gold digger still cannot appreciate. This guy will die young and chike will finish the kuntus he is trying to please with 150k

Bsssss:
If Peter Obi takes the oath of office in 2027, let’s be honest: the era of "business as usual" will end the very next morning. It won't be a magic wand performance, and it won't be an overnight fix—but it will be a level of disruption that the establishment is not prepared for.
If you are expecting a "soft landing" for the corrupt, think again. Here is exactly what we should expect during those first 100 days:

1. The End of Waste: Say goodbye to endless convoys and frivolous foreign junkets. The era of government-funded luxury is ending.

2. Audit Season: Ministries and agencies will face serious heat. Expect hidden contracts and inflated budgets to become front-page national scandals.

3. The Subsidy Reality: The conversation will return immediately. It will be painful, but this time, there will be a structure behind it.

4. Market Sentiment: The Naira might swing wildly at first...but watch as serious investors start taking notice once they see fiscal discipline.

5. Silence of the Parasites: The political middle-men and "connection" contractors will go quiet once the supply chain of free money dries up.

6. Renewed Hope: The energy among Nigerian youths will shift the national mood. Hope is a powerful tool for rebuilding.

7. The "Old Guard" Resistance: Expect the status quo to fight back. The old elite will not give up their grip on power without a massive, noisy battle.

8. Institutional Friction: Expect tension between the Presidency and established institutions that have grown comfortable with corruption.

9. Competence over Godfatherism: Appointments will be driven by merit. The era of "Who is your godfather?" is heading to the exit.

10. Education First: ASUU and universities will finally get the attention they deserve, not just in words, but in policy and funding.

11. The Brain Gain: Nigerians in the diaspora will start looking back home. Stability is the only thing they need to return.

12. Corruption Headlines: Expect a flurry of cases in the news. The cleanup will be visible and loud.

13. Forced Transparency: Governors will
suddenly realize that "transparency" is the new trend.

14. Digital Revolution: The civil service will be forced to move from paper files to digital, efficient operations.

15. NASS Drama: Attempts to cut National Assembly waste will create enough drama to last a lifetime, but it’s a necessary fight.

16. Market Confidence: Watch the stock market. Confidence returns when investors see that the leader is actually in charge.

17. Initial Hardship: Fuel prices won't drop overnight. It will be tough, and the critics will try to use this to fan the flames of unrest.

18. The Media War: Once reforms touch the pockets of the powerful, the media attacks against Obi will intensify to an unprecedented level.

19. The Digital Battleground: Online division will hit an all-time high. The clash between those who want progress and those who want the status quo will be daily.

20. The Psychology of Leadership: Most importantly, Nigerians will finally feel a sense of responsibility from the top. That alone is a massive shift.

We are talking about a total reset. It won't be easy, and it won't be pretty for those feeding off our national wealth, but it is necessary for a New Nigeria.

What do you think? Will the establishment be able to stop this, or is the change inevitable? Let's discuss.

We also need to know what will happen if he wins and is rigged off . Should we wait for another labourous tribunal for a Judiciarisation of the election process again? And the circle continues ??

This should be the most important question knowing fully well that in a free and fair election there is no candidate that can be at Obi currently.

GodCovenant:
God opened my eyes this morning, and I saw huge cobwebs all over my house.

I had a dream where my long-time enemy came to my house, and he said if I were aware that he was attacking me. I said, "Of course," or he thinks I don't know all this while.

Somehow I woke up and started praying. I then light my prayer candle. I have a lot of Christian songs, but in that moment I was looking for a mixed foreign Christian song that is soothing like blues.

I find one. Which lasted for 2 hours 30 minutes. After praying I use it to sleep as it was playing from my phone while my prayer candle was on.

I woke up this morning as I closed my eyes just lying down; I saw huge cobwebs all over my apartment with big, big spiders. The type you can't move around without them touching you.

But they are not visible to ordinary eyes.

I am just thinking how to remove them since they are not a physical thing.

Hallucination .. visit a certified psychiatrist.

May God allow his soul and those of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace . Amen

Readinglamp:
Mary is the mother of all Catholics, not all Christians. This is in response to a part of the post that's says so.

So Jesus is your father and the mother of Your father is not your grandmother

Yet Abraham that is thousands of ancestral years preceding is your father in faith?

Review your bias again bro. And open your mind to the Holy Spirit

madridguy:
Is she too big for her dad to discipline or what?
No man will be happy beating her adult daughter in that manner. She should listen to her dad and be a good girl.

We firstly need to know the case . She probably may be stating only her own side of the story.
Who Knows what really happened?

OredoPikin:
Masturbation has never been a problem and it will never be
Infact it save u alot
E.g. abortion, infections, help you save money u are supposed to spend on girls. And the oga kpatapkata of them all, it help prevent prostrate cancer for men.

If u like nor masturbate
Allow religion dey deceive u

Going by your argument, so because Yahoo has reduced the number of boiz who were suppose to be burglars, Yahoo is no longer a crime?

JuanDeDios:
What makes the post nonsense?

Trying make irrelevant people look relevant...

Please add my dogs pic.

Namaster:
Nigerians who HATE Nigerians will read this NONSENSE and use it to justify their HATE for their country.

Meanwhile, Nigerian Authors who write in English have set the BENCHMARK for literature in Africa and the World.

EVERYBODY knows China Achebe.
EVERYBODY knows Wole Soyinka.
EVERYBODY knows Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

NOBODY can name ONE author from Kenya without first searching GOOGLE.

There are NIGERIANS who speak with BRITISH ACCENTS without having step out of Nigeria.

While some people will lay ALL the blame at the feet of Nigerian Politicians, Ruto SHARES in the blame.

People in Leadership positions should know BETTER than to make STEWPID generalisations.

I read Weep not child... Ngugi Wa Thiong O. A Kenyan author as a kid.
You people don't read.

Melagros:
COMRADES, it's like some of these pastors are fake
How can a man of God do such a thing?

Oh you just realized?
Any pastor who's fundamental message is not how to make heaven, but rather how to possess earth is a fraud. Even 90% of Nigeria's Penterascal daddy GOs.

fixzycode:
Hello Nairalanders, my friend got a lady pregnant and later discovered that both he and the lady's genotype are AS. Now he is confused because the lady is suggesting abortion but he is not In support of that.

He is confused because he don't know if the child will turn out SS but he wants to give luck a chance. Those with experience please advise.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.

He has nothing to do. Abortion is murder... God's will be done. Let life prevail.

Ki

donleo92:
I still can't forget what the Catholic church did during world war 2.

Those guys actually recognized the Nazist

Even praised Hitler and his fellow SS and SA agents .
In order to make the Catholic church the only religion in Germany and Germany occupied territory....

But when Germany lost the war, they shifted side sharp sharp .

So when it comes to religion during war, na just game of interest

Don't argue baselessly, Google is your friend

To me, this are baseless propaganda

You read from conspiracy theorists sir... And I guess you just read only the headlines... Go read more texts and see how false this claim is. Very soon una go say na Catholic Church approve Nagasaki and Hiroshima bombing or even dey fund boko haram.. stop reading conspiracy theories sir.

SmartPolician:
This comment makes no sense. Oga Reverend, any married woman sending you her nude pix most likely needs deliverance or counselling.

Unfortunately, he doesn't see things from that perspective because the orthodox church just accepts anyone to become their pastors, even those who have no calling

Your last paragraph: I am not even sure you understand orthodoxy as it applies to Christianity. Go and study so that your ignorance will diminish.

crazygod:
Why is she posting it?

To Garner social media relevance and fanfare. That's mostly the objective why most fake pastors act these things...

I hope the girl (supposed possessed victim) was well paid for her acting role?