₦airaland Forum

Sex can be idolatry,
So can food, drink, even Netflix... Or premiership anything that takes your attention away from your creator and is self-serving to the extent God is sidelined and relegated is idolatory.

Even pastor worship is idolatory.

saintokwuluora:
This pastor is biblically daft.

90% of Nigerian Pastors are.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

Something tells me you are not a daft. Just keep believing in God, he will grant you something better soon.

It's not as easy as my text construct though.. but you need a. Unyielding courage to hold on to God. Temptation will come in the form of Yahoo enticement, Pastors seeing visions for you and wanting to exploit you and share this small 85k with you. But bro, let your focus be on God alone don't let people discourage you.

Saywhat10:
That moment Segun Olowookere, the man that was sentenced to de@th for stealing a fowl, met The Osun State Governor that pardoned him


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=klW-DTwxlO4

Na him steal Pastor fawol

Welcum:
Today I know you're a hypocrite. You didn't confirm this news, yet you're typing trash because you obviously hate Catholics.

I have known anti-catholic hate by these Penterascals since I was a child... It only made me love research Christianity more and love the church more.

As a Catholic you must brace yourself up for persecution. Ours is not a bed of roses.
But never be afraid to tell them to their face how shallow their Penterascal religion they invented and called Christianity is.

Daddy GO ventures.

chiefolododo:
Apostle?

Apostle of nonsense...
All these fake Penterascals.

Factcheck0001:
I don't blame all these artists but the idiots that call themselves fans that makes them feel like god

This burna boy n Naira marley, Omo I no know how I take dislike them due to being arrogant n stupid

They insult their so called fans at will n those idiots too will still lick their asses


Make them remind this guy say eedris Abdul Kareem do gra gra pass this one last last he humble

Same way the idiots reinforced Gods of Men to become demigods bigger than the congregation.

Sapasenator:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am completely lost and need advice. My name is Olumide Adeyanju(Not my real name), and I’m a 42-year-old civil engineer based in Lagos. I’ve been married to my wife, Tola, for seven years. We have a son together, Jidenna, who is five years old. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, but I thought we had something solid—until recently.

When I met Tola, she was a divorcee. She told me her first marriage to a man named Dapo Olatunji ended after three years due to irreconcilable differences and I believed her. According to her, Dapo had anger issues and was overly controlling. She said she left the marriage to protect her mental health and focus on building a better life for herself. At the time, I admired her courage, and we built a beautiful relationship.

Last month, everything changed. Tola and I were invited to a wedding in Lekki. As fate would have it, Dapo was also at the wedding. It was the first time they were seeing each other in nearly 10 years. I noticed they exchanged pleasantries, and while it seemed cordial at first, something about the way they looked at each other didn’t sit well with me.

In the weeks that followed, I started noticing subtle changes in Tola’s behavior. She began acting distant and spending more time on her phone, often smiling at her screen like a teenager in love. When I asked her what was going on, she brushed it off, saying it was just "work stress."

Then, two weeks ago, I came home early from work and found her on a video call with Dapo. She didn’t realize I was home, so I overheard parts of their conversation. They were laughing and reminiscing about their past together—things like how they used to travel to Abuja for weekend getaways and the time he bought her a surprise gift for her birthday. It felt like I was intruding on a private moment between lovers.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she and Dapo had been talking regularly since the wedding. She claimed it was "nothing serious" and that they were just "catching up as friends." But I don’t believe her. Her behavior has changed so much. She’s more secretive, and I even found out she met up with him last Saturday without telling me. She said it was a "closure" meeting, but why does she need closure after all these years?

Now I’m stuck. I love Tola, but it feels like her heart is being drawn back to Dapo. I’ve spoken to my elder brother, Kunle, and he thinks I should stand my ground and fight for my marriage. But my best friend, Tunde, says I should let her go if she’s already emotionally checked out.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront Dapo directly? Should I give Tola an ultimatum to stop talking to him? Or should I quietly walk away and let her decide who she really wants to be with?

Please, Nairalanders, I need your honest opinions. Have you experienced or heard of a situation like this? How do I handle it?

Just sidown there dey mumu urself... Make Dem dey use ur head.

JovialJune:
Kissing cheeks that Americans and most Western countries do on a daily basis as a form of greeting or appreciation is what African men with backward mentality want to take personal lmao 🤣

Yet they accuse women of being too emotional, the irony lol 😆

You see how enslaved you are?
Is this western world? Mumu .. why you nor let your f*ther poke him fellow man since that's equally permissible in your western world. Or allow a dog mount your m*ther

richiemcgold:
2 looters hugging each other

Where is Amadioha?
Where is fire? 🔥 .. and thunder?

Retribution is not Hollywood magic.. na this same mentality una import into Christianity (Pentecostalism).

Mrexcell:
Man made religious rituals not scriptural backed up.

The BIBLE is a product of the Catholic church tradition. While the Torah is a fallout of Hebrew tradition... Maybe you should just settle for the Koran that was narrated verbatim by Angel Jibril(as so acclaimed).

hartson:
Fool wey no pass me help me describe symbolism.

KNOW not NO.. let me just assume typographical issues for the sake of your BSc or HND... otherwise, it's pitiable.

SAMBARRY:
as long as it brings orgasm, peace and good hormones


Don't even get me started with the number of married women using std drugs and dealing with other hormonal imbalance caused by their husbands pen1s wey no wan stay one place.you don't want me to open that file

Pastor and alfas wives included

What is wrong is wrong... Justifying Yahoo over kidnapping does not make Yahoo less a crime... Even if in Nigeria we are so accustomed to not calling a spade a spade because we will rather give it some coloration and rename it

Namaster:
.

Let me tell you a story about a FOOL. You'll relate with him.

The fool was arguing abortion with a smart comedian.

His argument, like yours, was that abortions are bad and things of the devil because it kills HUMANS.

The frustrated comedian got tired of trying to convince the fool with logic and reason.

Buoyed by the thought of convincing the fool with irrefutable evidence, he pulled out an ULTRASOUND image of a foetus in all its ghastly glory and asked:

"Are you saying this is a human baby?"

The FOOL responded with the UNSHAKEABLE confidence common to ALL fools:

"YES! For chrissake, yes! That's a human baby!"

And then the comedian responded that the picture was, in fact, an ultrasound image of a SHARK foetus.



A FOOL that does NOT know the difference between the ultrasound of two WILDLY different species wants to comment on the morality of abortion.

You remind of this FOOL.

How glorious it is to be a fool defending human life. I am a fool indeed within this context..

Now, let me ask you. Does the Fool's ignorance of the kind of animal life contained in the ultrasound image invalidate the fact that human life is sacred?

So if I blindfold you and put you in the market square, arm you with a gun and i ask you to shoot straight. You said no because you are afraid you will kill a human by shooting straight. Now I convinced you and you shot against your will, not knowing there is a bullet proof sand bag walls between you and the humans.

Does your ignorance of the reality invalidate your humane concern of the possibility that you could have killed a human

Read this twice and relate it to your short story . You will see that the FOOL not recognizing the imagery doesn't by one inch invalidate the sanctity of life .

Thank you.
With love from a pro+life FOOL

SAMBARRY:
must you project on other people? Na you go tell single people how to live their lives? it's the audacity for me especially considering messy and irritating stories we hear about marriage everyday on instablog and other handles aka pls hide identity

If marriage was as blissful as the way you paint it,no be you go dey advertise am,na all the single people go dey jump enter am

This SAMBARRY two things:
1. It's either you have being frustrated out or still being frustrated in a marriage or...

2. You are just a simp hoping for feminists to applaud you defending them. Or...

3. You just want to test a different position and see what the responses will be like.

Whichever it is, just enjoy your day and know that 10,000,000 lies can only defame 1 truth but will never kill it.

SAMBARRY:
yinmu

Wetin consain you about an unmarried woman's sexual status?

Na by force for a woman's life and body to revolve around men?

No o make e dey revolve around rubber and rechargeable vibes...

[quote author=Christ4ever post=133497354][/quote]Reference number 5 https://www.thecable.ng/pope-francis-approves-blessings-for-same-sex-couples/

Don't be lazy open the link and read it. It never said pope approves same sex union... You can pray/bless a sinner. Those same sex unions are sinful. Blessing the union is where the Pope would a erred. But blessing/praying for the individual is for salvific purpose. After all, that's the main purpose of Christianity.

The only issue I have with Francis is .. he needs to be stern and clear in black and white, choose simple terms that clarify. Lest the gender left use his messages to score cheap validation.

But in essence his message is true. We must show those sinners mercy, without approving their sinful act. We must offer mercy in one hand and correction in the other.

[quote author=Christ4ever post=133497354][/quote]So if a sinner approaches you as a pastor to bless him won't you? What is blessing if not a prayer to God?

Now did you see anywhere where he said bless the union(what they erroneously call marriage) ?

phosky:
https://eyesoflagos.com/2024/12/30/not-all-singles-are-lonely-and-sad-says-toke-makinwa/

All these talk na theory...
The simple question is;
1. You dey collect d* abi you no dey collect?
2. If 1 above is negative, then no doubt you must have a rubber d*...

Stop making single sound like abstinence.

We will only be amazed if you have conquered your sex drive. Otherwise, nothing special about your being single.. stop sounding like you are extra terrestrial and a super human.

Postinor:
This stupid pope who refuses to say the truth to genocidal israel

Israel are as Guilty as Pro-palestinians. They are both murderers. If you go back an read history you will know even Israel has no country besides what colonialism and Zionism conjured up. Same way Muslim Palestine should have no right to ownership of a space they didn't originally own. Israel is like Fulani who trooped into Nigeria. The only difference was that for the Israel case, they had some little indigenous population who never went to diaspora, but were dominated by the overwhelming Muslim presence(whom also have no original claim to ownership of you go by history preceding Islamic rise before the 7th century).

The case is very complicated and both sides exploit their unnecessary claim to the detriment of human lives.

Christ4ever:
But same Pope support and blesses homosexuals. You should be happy he sees nothing wrong with your community.

Please give references and evidence of where the Pope supports homosexuality as an act!

Namaster:
I DETEST this guy.

His stance on the US Presidential election was DISGUSTING.

He BRANDED Kamala Harris a murderer who wants to KILL BABIES because she's pro-choice.

And kept QUIET about Trump, the SERIAL RAPIST and pedophile, who actually MURDERED Jeffrey Epstein to conceal his crimes.

He's a USELESS Pope. And everybody knows this.
That's why donations to the Vatican have reached record LOW levels under him.

If you are pro-abortion you are devilish and not surprising you detest a good stance.
Continue to kill the unborn innocents. Or continue your support for those who do.
You will account to God one day

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

My only question is where are your children sir?

id4sho:
Thank God for good health, Next year is my time and season 💯

God Abeg🙏

Okay, but was this year for the devil?... Cos I remember you also made this statement in 2023.. that 2024 was your year...

New year is more important to a Nigerian more than the real things that count.

Omooba77:
https://punchng.com/police-arrest-officers-demanding-money-to-investigate-missing-girl-in-ogun/

If the girl's father had cautioned her in her recklessness, she for fight the man. How can you loose track of a child cos you were distracted by money.

She trusted the stranger...

May God help them find the Innocent child.

Flamemignon1:
If it's a woman, she's a LovePeddler but if it's a man, he's a bad guy and it's justified? Well-done on your standard Nigerian misogyny

Who is this simp? Licking p*ssy wont fetch u long life sir

ChizzyBuna:
So my parents are in village for christmas.
Coming from lagos to visit for xmas
I decided to visit our house in town where our family lives. Before going to meet them in village

What i found in my fathers room shocked me


Condom packets that were not prpperly thrown away.

Ky gel found open on the table
For those that don't know Ky gel is lubricant for sex.

This is enough proof this man is cheating.
Should i repirt him to my mum??

What makes you think your mother didn't impose fatherhood on him with a lie... Just allow sleeping dogs lie before the cat bolts away from the bag. You may be surprised your mother cheated to conceive you...

Let the man have peace. Most times na women dey start all these nonsense.

Morbeta11:
https://guardian.ng/news/tax-reform-well-show-you-our-true-colours-bauchi-governor-threatens-tinubu/#google_vignette

The kind of words they use to keep the people enslaved "NIGERIA NEEDS PRAYERS...".
Nigeria actually needs a revolution not prayers.

Kimo21:
Oyibo people don chop belleful…let’s even say it was possible to reach the sun do you think you will survive there? Nawa oo

Just imagine if this level of ignorance is allowed to comment on religion. He will bring same deficiency to play.
Who says the sun is a solid object where once can land or stay?

Well, maybe you have your own wealth of contrary knowledge.

Atuero:
22Years of God's mercy

MUOKA has done well because these Yorubas wanted to monopolize Pentecostal Ministry while we at ala Igbo were busy with Catholic, Anglican, Methodist and Assemblies of God.

The God of chosen truly answers prayer

Calling out the Catholic church... Same church that schooled your fathers and provided relief both medical and feeding during your useless Biafra war?
Imagine you comparing a 2000 years Christian church founded by Christ through his disciples to a 22years old seemingly Christian enterprise incorporated by Mouka.

Una truly nor get sense Sha. Ignorance just dey baptism you dey go. Nor go read up!

Mrexcell:
Catholics have too many rituals.

Yes too many rituals and traditions for over 2000 years and we keep them jealously.Even the Bible is a fall out of those traditions

You can jump off 3rd mainland bridge if they bother you.

hartson:
I no know oo!!blood of Jesus no dey wash away sin anymore now na holy door hidden inside Vatican.I sometimes imagine how church dey wayin people head eeh

Mumu wey no understand symbolism...