Merry100: I advise you to strive for your own financial independence as a woman. Even if you plan to marry a wealthy man, you may still face several disadvantages, as a man can be wealthy yet uncaring and stingy.
Here are a few steps to take:
1. Avoid all forms of distractions during your youth; success should be your only goal. In fact, don't start dating until you are twenty-four or twenty-five, unless you achieve success before then.
2. Either remain celibate or use very effective contraceptives to avoid pregnancy. No matter what you do, try as much as possible to prevent unplanned pregnancies.
3. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you; wait until you are established and successful enough to get married.
Here are a few disadvantages of rushing into marriage as a woman:
1. While you should be comfortably managing your responsibilities, you will end up viewing them as burdens.
2. Your children will not receive the best care.
3. Your husband might perceive you as a burden.
I hope number 2 doesn't insinuate "terminate " pregnancy?
DrDoc: Why dont you use this money to build wealth here ? How you people jump on this travel train can be very very unbelieveable. 10M will set up an irrigated Soya Beans farm that will give atleast 80 M in eight months. Nigerians smh
Then when you go to the farm to harvest the 80m after eight months a rag tag bandit will kidnap you, demand for N100m , collect it then KILL YOU! and the f"cking police does nothing about it.
Now you should know why people need to leave this country
Omokri is a very big idiot! But sorry, the Idiot is correct about this. Her statement is Yahoo... Pentecostal business empire is driven by tithe. Omokri is pinching a very sensitive nerve. They will come after him.
jesusjnr2020: Was David Abioye Spiritual Prowess Being Stifiled Under Oyedepo All These Years?
Despite hearing the name David Abioye for several decades, (which wasn't unusual being the second in command to David Oyedepo founder and GO of winners chapel), it was only recently after his forced retirement from the church, that I got to know what he looked like and also what he sounded like, and I must confess that in the few times I have heard him speaking, I have already been impressed with his level of spiritual depth and understanding.
It's profoundly strange that this was someone that was serving under David Oyedepo for so many years, yet I have never felt the same way about David Oyedepo despite hearing him preach countless times, including when I was still a member of CGM, and attended several annual conventions when he was invited as a guest speaker.
Even while I was yet a sinner and wasn't as spiritually discerning as I am now, but could still discern spiritually deep preaching and teachings from those which were shallow, I have never been impressed with Oyedepo's preaching or teaching, how much more after I have not only got saved but also born-again and begun to walk at the highest level of spiritual walk where it was all about God?
Yet I heard David Abioye speaking only a few occasions and was wondering if he was really the same person that was with Oyedepo all these years or if it was someone else.
It was indeed baffling and made me wonder if David Abioye's spiritual prowess and impact wasn't stifled all these years, and if it wouldn't have been much more beneficiary to God's Kingdom had he parted ways with the church much earlier, especially considering the way his loyalty and service to Oyedepo was being rewarded with retirement when he still had so much more to offer in the work of the kingdom.
He also appears to be thinking along these lines considering that he has already launched his own ministry shortly afterwards, so could it a case of waiting too long before doing the needful?
It's better late than never though, at least the world can finally get to hear and partake of the spiritual riches that David Abioye has got to offer without any more hinges.
1. You are still a sinner who needs God's mercy. No one is righteous.
2. You just wrote this to tell us you will soon join his man made church.
3. Someone will wake up from his new church after some years and also claim God's calling.
BlindAngel: Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.
Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.
So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.
To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.
So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.
I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.
Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.
Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.
I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.
I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.
My brother u dealt the shit the way it should be done... The economy is currently tough. Takes a tough man to say things the way the are . You have done that. Africans should learn that burial and most of these social ceremonies don't add much value to anything than drain funds.
FactBoyz: Hey Pastor I love your teachings but on this I hate what you said...
You pastors have lambasted Obi for his actually truthful comments but have said absolutely nothing on
Muslim Muslim Ticket Ineptitude of the Nigerian Government Corrupt Government officials who are members of your church Injustices of the Nigerian justice system and courts..
Stop with your hypocrisy. Obi said the truth irrespective of how it hurts the church, Truth is Truth
I dislike when you use the term "The Church" tseems to put Christians in one bucket with Penterascals
dominique: These useless men keep grooming naive minor girls then turn around and accuse women of promiscuity. Majority of them are here on nairaland. Shameless old men, leave little girls alone!
Sharap and go brush ur mouth .. HK up girls talking.
Well with the level of half naked girls roaming Nigerian streets now, I think I support the hijab call of the Muslims. But it should be encouraged systematically rather than imposition... Na these half naked girls go full hell pass
Oga na conscience keep some of us out of the business.. bro God's Judgement is reality ... How I wan take explain to the divine Judge on the last day? Say I take him name husstle?
writerspot: It's high time we take mental health serious in this country. A lot of people you see walking around normally everyday are going through some mental trauma or another.
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Oga normally nobody is sane... Just pray to have the grace to avoid temptation. If women do you you go understand why Adam fell and why Jesus didn't have a female amongst the 12. Don't even give me the Mary Magdalene story.
Source of corp member's money too needs to be investigated. Considering the high rate of advance fee fraud and online swindlers amongst people of their age bracket, they are suspects..., N1,000,000/3=N333,000. How much is alawee? Did I also hear they were driving?
Namaster: All these USELESS scammers parading themselves as Pastors need to be cautioned.
Making a man KNEEL before his wife in public is utterly DEMEANING.
In this particular arrangement, ONLY the gullible men are brought LOW. The wife is elevated and the pastor is elevated even more.
This is why women will listen to their pastors and pedestalise him above their husbands. It's the same reason Pastors find it easy to tuck their church members, including the married ones.
It's because the men have made a FOOL of themselves for the GLORIFICATION of the pastor.
Their wives look UP to the pastor and look DOWN on their husbands.
Bad!
One day the same pastor go begin doke the man wife...
Sonnobax15: People who believe in witchcraft are always a turn off for me........Once I notice you're the kind of person who always blame others for their misfortunes in life,I instantly distance myself from you...
Why can't you just accept your present situation in life as your fate while you keep on praying to whichever God you believe in to change your condition for good?
Thank God the kid has been rescued but I can only but imagine the trauma she'd live with for the rest of her life whenever she reminisces on what her own biological father did to her ...
It's what those Penterascal churches in Nigeria has planted in people's subconscious so that they can in turn make financial harvests by purportedly casting out the evil spirits(even in cases where it's clear there is no evil spirit).
"Now you claim to be happily married to a woman who doesn't “quarrel” Good luck to her, because you always wanted someone you could control and intimidate. I was never meant to be that person; I wasn’t raised to be timid."
This last paragraph may contain the details... Most women who use this words are FEMINISTS. Just like a man telling God "you always wanted someone you could control, I refuse to be that person" such man is an ATHEIST, no doubt!
It actually happend about 10 years ago but the memories will live with me forever . Although I have not talked about it on social media but I feel like telling the story so that people will learn. It's a long story but I'll make it brief.
I was cohabiting with my girl back in the Uni, we have been like that for a few years , but then one day I came back to my lodge late in the night because I watched a football game on my way back from school. I opened my door and met my girl on the floor. She was motionless and her eyes were wide open, I checked her pulse but I couldn't feel anything. Her teeth and her palms were clenched tight. I panicked and just froze at the spot not knowing what to do. I then called a few people in the lodge and alerted them about what was happening but before I knew it , the whole lodge people have gathered in my room and outside the door.
Nobody could tell what must have happend to her. We thought about rushing her to hospital but the school clinic is closed and there are no good hospitals in the area because the school is in a remote location, and it was almost midnight at the time. Some people did different type of first aid on her , trying to see if they can revive her but after few hours there still wasn't any sign of life. People started suspecting that she might be dead and started taking somethings from their rooms and leaving the lodge immediately. Out of the 30 occupants of the lodge only one person (student pastor) remained with me. The rest ran away from the lodge ,even my best friend .🙁
The student pastor prayed and prayed to see if she will come back to life but nothing happend , at about 4am the Pastor told me that he has done everything he can and that it's in the hands of God now. He then went to his room. It was just the two of us left in the building.
I sat down in my room, I didn't know what to do, I couldn't cry , I thought about how I was going to be arrested and charged for murder when in truth I'm innocent, which nobody will believe because of nigeria justice system. I thought about my parents , how they sacrificed to send me to school not knowing I was cohabiting with a girl . At some point I thought about running away, but that will mean I'm guilty and perhaps how far and how long would I be on the run before I would be caught.
I didn't know who to call , I was just bereft of ideas. I decided I'll submit myself to the police in the morning and explain what happend and possibly face the consequences. As I sat there waiting for day to break, I started scrolling through my phone contacts. Mind you, I believe in God but I'm not a very religious person. I came across one pastor that gave me his phone number a long time ago. I then decided to just try my luck and call him. I called him and he picked up the call immediately as if he was waiting for the call. I wanted to tell him what's happening, but he cut me short and told me he already knows. That he was disturbed in the spirit and God revealed it to him so he started praying but he didn't know it was for my situation he was praying for at that time.
He told me I should not be afraid , that everything will be fine. He asked me if I have any sachet water around , I looked around and got a sachet water . He then asked me to put the phone ontop of the water so her can pray in it. I did as he asked. After praying , he then asked me to try and force open her mouth anyway I can pour some water inside ,then sprinkled the rest all over her body.
I did everything he instructed. He then told me that everything will be alright and ended the call. By then it was almost 6am in the morning. I just sat there starring at her , then I saw her hand move a little bit, I cleaned my eyes and got closer to her so as to be sure my eyes were not deceiving me. Her hand moved again , then her legs . Before I knew it she opened her eyes and sat up. I couldn't believe my eyes, I was in shock and was wondering if I'm imagining the whole thing.
Then she spoke and asked me what's happening, and why is her body wet with water . I rushed out and called the student pastor who came running in to witness the first miracle of my life. He was singing praises to God. I knelt down and prayed to God and thanked him for the first time in a very long time . I made her a cup of tea after which she has a shower.
At about 7am in the morning, none of my lodgemates have returned . I looked outside the gate from my room and saw some of them with other people gathered in small groups whispering, waiting to get the full gist of how my girl died in my room .
I called my bike guy to come to the lodge because I want to take her to the hospital for checkup, I then came down to the gate with my girlfriend. As they saw her , they opened their mouth with shock and we're too surprised to talk.
To cut the whole story short . I learnt some valuable lessons . Cohabiting with anybody you are not married is very risky, you wouldn't know the risk until something happens to him or her. The second lesson I learnt was that, when you get in trouble that's when you will know that you are alone, people will run away from you.
Anyways , we continued dating, but I rented an apartment for her so stay separately. I also stopped her from sleeping in my place. Untill we eventually parted ways after I graduated.
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