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Lojical1:
I have been reading some interesting comments from men discussing their relationship experiences, and one uncomfortable reality keeps coming up: Some men are spending money to secure affection that was never genuinely there in the first place.

Consider some of these experiences.

A man approaches a woman, asks for her name and she answers without showing the slightest interest in knowing his. It may seem insignificant, but sometimes the smallest interactions reveal whether interest is mutual.

Another man made a statement worth thinking about: "If you invest in a woman, she may leave you for a man who invested in himself."

There is a painful truth hidden in that statement. Some men abandon their personal development, financial stability and ambitions while trying to impress a woman. Meanwhile, the woman may simply be looking for someone whose life is already in a better position.

One commenter shared how he started giving his girlfriend money just two weeks into their relationship. When his rent of ₦250,000 became due, he asked her to stop requesting money temporarily. Her response was, "Broke until when?" She still wanted ₦24,000 for hair and lashes despite knowing his financial situation.

Another man said he began losing his girlfriend after surprising her with a Tecno Camon 40 Pro. His experience was humorous on the surface, but it raises a serious question about expectations and appreciation in relationships.

Someone else made an observation I particularly like: "You don't have to do anything for a woman for her to love you. She should choose you first, then you can build together."

HERE ARE SOME LESSONS MEN SHOULD TAKE FROM THESE EXPERIENCES:

1. Do not confuse financial generosity with emotional connection.

2. Pay attention to reciprocity. Someone who genuinely wants to know you will usually show interest in your life, thoughts and experiences.

3. Never neglect your rent, savings, responsibilities or personal development to maintain a relationship.

4. Do not use expensive gifts to compensate for a lack of genuine compatibility.

5. Learn the difference between a woman who appreciates you and someone who primarily appreciates what you provide.

6. Do not become bitter because of one person's behaviour. Not every woman is the same, just as not every man is the same.

7. Allow relationships to develop naturally. You should not have to continuously prove your financial worth to deserve affection.

ONE IMPORTANT DISTINCTION:

There is nothing wrong with a man providing for his partner. Generosity, gifts and financial support can be beautiful expressions of love. The problem begins when spending becomes a strategy for securing affection, or when one person's financial sacrifices are consistently taken for granted.

A healthy relationship is not a sponsorship arrangement. Both people should contribute according to their abilities, circumstances and shared responsibilities.

MY QUESTION TO THE MEN HERE:

Have you ever spent heavily on a woman, only to realise later that you were trying to buy a level of affection, commitment or loyalty that money could never guarantee?

What was the experience, and what did it teach you?

Another one: Stop trying to groom girls who are in secondary school hoping to get into relationship with them later. Once the girl goes for her higher education her eye will open and you'll not get what you want.

9[quote author=ogododo post=141143313]I Was An Arms Dealer; I Sold Arms to Make Money - Kalu

I stopped dealing in arms because my parents said I must stop. I sold arms to anybody who wanted to buy them if they had the money.

Senator Orji Uzor Kalu, Abia North Senatorial District

I Was An Arms Dealer; I Sold Arms to Make Money - Kalu

I stopped dealing in arms because my parents said I must stop. I sold arms to anybody who wanted to buy them if they had the money.

Senator Orji Uzor Kalu, Abia North Senatorial District pic.twitter.com/czL5Inf96N

— ARISE NEWS (@ARISEtv) November 9, 2026

bros well so? What kind of self own is this one? If DSS picks him up now he will say it is political persecution.

Judas1X:
Bro we'll soon enter 2027. As e be like this, white hair don cover your full head and face. Don't you think you're too old to be using two monikers on the same thread at the same time?

Wait, don't tell me that is Dtruthspeaker's account as well.

MaxInDHouse:
Hi
You're really trying to convince yourself with lies shey?
Well the prophecy about Babylon wasn't written in just a book.


Babylon, the jewel of kingdoms, the pride and glory of the Babylonians, will be overthrown by God like Sodom and Gomorrah. She will never be inhabited or lived in through all generations; there no nomads will pitch their tents, there no shepherds will rest their flocks. ‭Isaiah 13:19-20 NIV‬ 🙂

You are the one lying to yourself. You lot will be the ones crying about context but abandon it whenever it suits you.

Isa.13:9 See, the day of the Lord is coming
—a cruel day, with wrath and fierce anger—
to make the land desolate
and destroy the sinners within it.

It was clearly not only the city.

Meanwhile, tell me when Babylon was overthrown by God like Sodom and Gomorrah. It never was that is why you avoided my questions.

autoez:
What is the bigh deal in what she did. Abeg make una rest jooooor. Wetin una dey do for una privacy worst pass all this one

Go look at the warning on airbags, they are capable of killing little children if they deploy with a child in the front seats.

MaxInDHouse:
How many cities has the wall that Nebuchadnezzar built with a huge canal behind it?
Because that is exactly the place God talked about o!
So does that walled city still exist today?
The answer is NO!

Whereas Jerusalem is still a place where people are living till today!😂

If I prophesy that a meteor will smash the twon you live in and your house will become uninhabitable, will the prophesy have been fulfilled if no meteor strikes your town but you move out of the house and nobody moves into the house. How can this be considered fulfilled prophecy?

Show me the Bible passage that said only the city will be destroyed and become uninhabitable.

adenigga:
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Source: https://dailytrust.com/dangote-refinery-ipo-misses-10m-investors-target

Men, some of these CEOs be speaking like politicians, out both sides of their mouth. I for one realised they didn't meet their target that is why they extended it but his excuse back then was they just wanted to give more people opportunity to get onboard. Now he is admitting the fact that they missed their target. Go figure.

Kobojunkie:
Islamic hell or what hell? We are, all of us, destined to one hell or another, thanks to the numerous religions out there each with their own heaven and hellscape, aren't we? 🤔🤔

Wow. Did someone hack kobo's account?

MaxInDHouse:
That's the point i'm making!

Both cities existed during the time this prophecy was recorded while Babylon was like a world trade center Jerusalem was relatively small but the Bible said Jerusalem will be inhabited and despite being destroyed twice it continues to be inhabited till today. The Bible also said Babylon will no longer be inhabited and that is exactly what happened.
Now if a road is spoilt can you confidently say it will never be rebuilt again?
Well that's what the Bible God said about Babylon and it has been so till this day!🙂

First off it was not only the Babylon city that the prophecy said will be destroyed and be uninhibited, it was the entire land. That didn't happen. Second the city was not destroyed and then became uninhibited, rather over time the population decreased and then was no longer viable because a bigger city had grown beside it. So on 2 counts the prophecy already failed. Is 33/100 pass mark where you come from?

nlfpmod:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiL21kZfJhg

NDLEA Arrests Ugandan Woman with 87 Wraps of Cocaine Hidden in Underwear After Attending Church Prayer Session in Nigeria



Source

How tf did she think this was going to be successful?

Estello:
https://applesbite.com/us-offers-20m-reward-for-information-on-irans-nuclear-programme/

So they're going to pay double now for information they used to get under the JCPOA Trump destroyed in the name of it was not good? And even less reliable because now they need to do additional verification which will also cost them.

This administration is criminally wasteful.

MaxInDHouse:
Babylon is the glory or as people will say today CAPITAL city of the ancient Chaldeans so it's not about the entire nation that the eternal destruction will affect but their capital city BABYLON!🙂

This is the thing with you people something that is written korokoro in the Bible you will use interpretation to twist it to fit your narrative. The verse says clearly the land of the Babylonians but here you are saying it is only the city.

I never said the Bible compare the two nah!😂

What i'm saying is the city called Babylon will no longer exist and it happened.
God also said Jerusalem will be inhabited continually and it's so!🙂

Bro you wrote this:

MaxInDHouse:
NO!
The prophecy says Jerusalem will remain inhabited unlike Babylon that will no longer exist!

If this is not saying that the prophecy is comparing the 2 cities then you need to learn how to write better sentences.

BTW Jerusalem has been destroyed and abandoned at least twice in its history so how is this a remarkable prophecy? It is like prophesying that a spoilt road will be rebuilt.

Flangelo12:
Complete flop.

Like something a primary 2 pupil drew .

With even less build quality, a total waste of money.

MaxInDHouse:
Hmmmmmmmm, now check the first verse of Jeremiah 50 so you can know the city Jeremiah was talking about!

50 This is the word the Lord spoke through Jeremiah the prophet concerning Babylon and the land of the Babylonians

It's clearly about the ENTIRE NATION.

NO!
The prophecy says Jerusalem will remain inhabited unlike Babylon that will no longer exist!

Regarding Jerusalem's security that is SPIRITUAL not PHYSICAL because peace will only reign globally when God's Kingdom come!

WRONG! There is no comparison between Jerusalem and Babylon in Zechariah 14.

And if this is still some future event then it is NOT A FULFILLED prophecy.

FayaBall:
That is the problem with all these delusional things. You can't use a real thing to solve an unreal thing. If they are isolated then, they should remain isolated as no Bible or foreign book would get there

It is more delusional to think a work of fiction is real.

Now can you mention the actual verses or no.

Sirchiboy:
Legendary Nollywood actor Diewait Ikpechukwu Is Dead



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/11/just-in-nollywood-actor-diewait-ikpechukwu-dies-at-71/amp/

May he rest in peace.

Valar Morghulis

MaxInDHouse:
Among thousands of prophecies there is one that nobody can deny!

In the Bible the God (as you often say) promised to destroy one ancient nation that was really great back then (Babylon) history revealed the this nation was truly great in the 7th century b.c.e.

Of course we may conclude that this prophecy might have been written after the destruction of Babylon but what about another strange thing God said about this nation?

She will never be inhabited, Nor will she be a place to reside in throughout all generations. No Arab will pitch his tent there, And no shepherds will rest their flocks there. Isaiah 13:20 compare to Jeremiah 50:39

But regarding Jerusalem that the Babylonians destroyed centuries before Jesus see what this God said about JERUSALEM:

And people will inhabit her; and there will never again be a curse of destruction, and Jerusalem will be inhabited insecurity. Zechariah 14:11

Today Jerusalem is inhabited even though it's not by its former inhabitants but that name remains till our day. In fact people are traveling to Jerusalem but what about Babylon?
Well it has remain a ruin till today.

Please is that also coincidental?🤔

Where in Jeremiah 50:39 or Isasiah 13:20 does it say Babylon the CITY? Isaiah 13:5 even tells you it is the ENTIRE NATION not just the city.

The so called prophecy about Jerusalem says they will dwell safely, look up the last time there was violence in Jerusalem.

FayaBall:
Maybe, maybe not. Especially as we are all seeing that communities are formed from people migrating down from somewhere and settling in a place like ibos and calabars trace their histories to the jews. And then every community is involved in international trade and they have their people who are known for travelling. So, lots of international events and stories would be brought to the communities.

I am not big on argument and all as i see people do here but I do know that history confirms that Israel was one before it became 2 nations and that they were driven out of the land several as Moses foretold them and then somewhere in Isaiah or so, God foresaid that He would bring them back and that they would never be moved again. Which we can see that since Israel returned in 1947, they have never been moved again and from the looks of things no one will ever be able to drive them out of there again.

The OPs scenario explicitly states that they are isolated so no recent history. Plus they are unfamiliar with the Bible which means they have no idea it existed before which mean they probably don't know of anything of any of the historical context of it. But speculation aside stick to OPs scenario instead of inventing one and answering that as if it was OPs original question.

I need specific verses please and how exactly they were fulfilled.

FayaBall:
Yet, everything that the Bible said would happen to Israel did happen to Isreal as history confirmed.

First off, in this scenario these people have no knowledge of Israel so they know nothing of their history.

Second, quote the bible verses that you are talking about and tell me how they were fulfilled.

Roycemadeit:
Imagine an isolated English-speaking community that has never encountered Christianity. They have no churches, missionaries, pastors or prior knowledge of the Bible.

One day, a Bible mysteriously lands in their community. They discover it, read it from Genesis to Revelation and interpret it without anyone teaching them what to believe or telling them that it is God's word.

What do you think would be the most likely outcome?

I assume they would have books and know what fiction is. In such a scenario they would think it was a good compilation of fictional works.

NaijaphiliaBlog:
SOURCE
https://x.com/NaijaphiliaBlog/status/2026431941969322018

Look they have a quota and they'll use any means to fulfill it no matter how ridiculous.

AtooZsudan:
if there is no god, then who created us and the universe...etc who?

Nobody did. The universe is the outcome of natural processes. Natural processes don't need anybody to function.

franchasng:
The speed of the crashed jet makes it suspicious; I strongly believe the plane probably was being piloted by a psychologically or emotionally unstable man or woman who decided to crash the plane with the passengers by throttling full speed while on descent or it took off, lost control, the pilot tried to make emergency landing and this happened, or its being piloted by a pilot in training or complete novice

Why don't you find out what happened before making speculations. The ATC recordings of the final moments are already available. There was no demented person or novice as pilot. The plane had a mechanical malfunction likely caused by icing as they flew through a storm.

CyynthiaKiss:
Written account of Jesus rising from the dead identified in 2,000-year-old manuscript, study suggests trib.al/XFIwGJj


Source

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itzadorable333:
lol just take up the gauntlet already

Here we go, I talk am. Silly excuses for their god. LoLz.

jesusjnr2020:
I Believe The Universe Came From Something, Has A Creator - Elon Musk

During an appearance on The Katie Miller Podcast, Elon Musk was asked who he looks up to the most, he answered, "The Creator".

He further stated that God is the Creator and he believes the universe from something.

Watch video:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmWPw0Mvlj4?si=7RYmOvU4w5FVBnQL

I dunno why you lot keep alluding to a universe from nothing as if that is what atheists believe.

Meanwhile, I think Musk is just playing the field with you believers because it buys him political influence. Even his demeanour when he spoke felt so contrived. Like someone pretending. However it his right to believe anything he likes.

itzadorable333:
or I give you a challenge

Why? Did I claim to have any supernatural powers? You are the one who claims your god is this awesome power wielder so your god should be able to raise to a simple challenge.

Like I said you are going to bring some silly excuse and you are just proving me right. LoLz.

Kemetian:
Those who pass away are NOT ''SLEEPING'' OR ''RESTING IN PEACE''.

They have returned HOME to an eternal life of abundance and limitless activity.

And it has ZERO to do with religion, being a NATURAL transition back home.

This nonsense of telling the deceased to 'RIP' and ''sleep well'' is all colonial invaders' myths.

Our ancestors who civilised the world knew that 'death' is a return to ''the land of the ancestors''. A place teeming with LIFE.

Modern science is only beginning to acknowledge that Earth life is an ILLUSION very similar to putting on a VR headset, with 'death' merely a removal of the headset and returning to one's true self and life..

With the headset on, we can only perceive 0.2% of REALITY AROUND US.

So the real YOU is bigger than your Earth 'you'.

Sorry I don't buy your nice story.

I say sleep well and rest in peace for the comfort of the living not the dead. The dead are gone and know nothing. It is we who are alive that need the words of comfort.

itzadorable333:
Nope, my self-existing GOD created the heavens, the earth and all that's in it, including you, and can destroy and also can save everything and anything according to his Purpose. Your shameful lies, tantrums and whining don't matter to HIM, because you are just a whiff, a speck of dust before HIM.

LoLz. Can save anything but yet cannot save the suffering children or the ones getting blown to bits in his temple. Your god is nothing but a figment of your imagination, it can do nothing. That is why if I challenged you today to ask your god to perform some feat you'll come back with a silly excuse for why it can't be done while still asserting how great your god is. Prove me wrong and take up a simple challenge. Bwahahahahaha.

Ironfaceman:
https://apnews.com/article/patrick-stewart-dies-8b38054ff74d4187a32158d78e345ad7

Sleep well Captain Picard.

Valar Morghulis

itzadorable333:
Lol you don't need to lie to defend a god because you need to lie to yourself to deny God. Shameful!

Nope, a non-acting god is as good as a non-existing god. Your so-called god can't teleport suffering children from a kidnapper's den, can't save people inside his own temples from been shot or blown up, etc. That your god doesn't exist is quite plain. If he did, he won't need shameless pitiful lies from you to defend itself.