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@posakosa, this has nothing to do with me. and you are not the only one who can comment on nairaland. still looks to me that you need a freakin life. everyone can't hang around day in day out commenting on other peoples lives. some of us are too busy out living our own. you have a nice day.

Poster, i would like to talk to you privately via IM. The scenario you have posted here is very familiar to me. right down to the ages of the brother and sister. First, could you tell me your location because if it matches the location or the people I have knowledge of, I would definitely like to chat with you.

Did you know that there is a specialized DNA test that you can have done that can assist you in your quest? I don't know exactly what it is called but i know that lots of people are having it done on their quests to find the true ancestry. Your DNA is collected and compared to samples form all around the world. This helps you narrow your search.

your story sounds very familiar. would you be willing to tell your true loves name? Have you ever sent him money or received money or packages for him?

unlike your tired ass, I know when to let things go. Freaking attention seeking LovePeddler. get a freaking life other than posting here. It is obvious you don't have one. Piss off!

to all who have replied, thank you for submitting your opions. i have gotten all I need from this thread and i have moved on. thank you.

to the attention seekers who just can't let it go, have fun with it.

Thank you for your reply.


[b][/b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][color=#990000][/color]To all that have replied or are about to reply, the original poster of this thread is no longer involved here. i have made my decisions and considered all opinions and left the conversation. Thank you

and you are an attention seeking fool.

posakosa you are nothing more than an instigator.

Let all this nonsense go! what the heck? Find something better to talk about. i got what I needed and I moved on to the next thing.

@ spiked. Can your dumb ass read. comments have been made past the original post you idiot. is it not possible that via the thread i found closure? it seems to me you are the attention seeker. In all honesty I got what I was looking for. you people are the ones who keep it going. What was said was not in contrast The conversation simply evolved into something else.

@ posakosa and Cvibe.

I didnt travel to Naija to get married. Was the last thing on my mind. All that marriage jazz happened later. Haven't you ever wanted to go somewhere you have never been before?

Posakosa you are such a knowitall. But you really don't have a clue. At least not about my past relationship. Stop making assumptions.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-345772.99999.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-344742.0.html

please get rid of them. these people are driving each other crazy and me too. I am the one who posted the threads

How do I get rid of a topic I posted. or can you do that for me?

I wasn't hounding anyone. I do have the right to defend myself and express my opinion of someones reply. This thread is dead if anyone would take the time to read all. I said I found my closure and moved on. That is how the Divorce thread even came to be. READ! Dang some people are just hard headed knowitalls.

Lol. Thank You.

@ posakosa. Told me in most cases it is not necessary. Only if something there is done to mess it up and even then I would not have to be in contact with him only with an attorney there.

I really did appreciate your replies posakosa. but sometimes you have to take people at their word and not assume that they are beating around the bush or hiding something.

@ spiked. Who needs your attention? i needed what I said I did. Closure. If I wanted attention, I can get that in reality. i would not have to come here for it. I am sorry I even voiced my concerns here. Some of you people are ignorant to the variety of human emotions and needs. Some of us are sensitive and need closure on things. dang what is your problem? why did you even reply? I guess you wanted some attention.

@ Posakosa. i didnt single you out as the culprit. Hurt and anger go hand in hand. I don't have a reason to lie about anything. No one here knows me. I am starting to believe you have nothing better to do then judge people By their posts here.  I was angry because I had been lied too. I wanted to know exactly what I asked. THE TRUTH. I got what I wanted and I moved on. But you seem to take pleasure in reading something into a situation that is not there.

@ gshyne i was not making it difficult. i posed a simple question on whether or not a divorce was necessary and otheres took it to a whole different level.

to all of you who have responded, I visited an attorney yesterday just as I said I would.  These threads and forums are for opinions and friendly advice. They are not to be taken seriously

@ Tglaz My ex did tel his "sister" when we slept together and how it was. She was always pouted after he told her. I found out later why she pouted. read below.

@ desthan, When I realized that he was telling his"sister" everything and she was pouting and putting her two cents in, that is when I started to doubt that she was even his sister. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm. something for the poster to think about as well. I still don't believe this chic was his sister. I just refer to her as that.

OMG! I feel your pain on this one. The man I am soon to be divorced from did the same exact thing. His baby sister was his number one confident. He told her everything and involved her in anything and everything that had to do with us. Right down to what we wore on our wedding day. He involved his family in everything. I had no privacy whatsoever and when I spoke up I was told the same thing that you were. That I was trying to drive a wedge between him and his sister. Looking back on it, I see his dependance on his sister and involving his family in all our most intimate situations as a strong sign of weakness. A real man should be an independant thinker and the head of his household. He should not have to constantly seek advice from his sister or anyone else. Tell him if he can't keep his mouth shut that you will keep your legs shut until he learns, lol. Seriously, that is a habit he needs to break. I talked to my ex's sister in an effort to make her realize that her advice on any of our personal situations and matters was not needed nor was it welcome. She understood to some degree and spoke with him in regards to coming to her for advice. We were slowly working out the kinks. Just talk to both of them. You deserve respect and privacy.

@ coolier

I don't have a problem anymore. I found the closure I needed. The answer to my question was given to me and I went on to post my divorce question. No hangups. Nothing left dangling. Just full steam ahead to my new life.

@ Posakosa, No this was not my first thread about this matter, but I posed a serious question. This has nothing to do with left over feelings are wanting to contact him. It is not necessary that I contact him directly to get a proper divorce. I just wanted to know was their even a need for me to divorce him. Divorces cost money and take time. I have appreciated your replies but that is something that I just had to clarify. My other post was in regards to me seeking udder and complete closure before all was said and done. And I did. i moved on to the obvious next step. DIVORCE.

@ N101, Yes there were lots of documents t be filled out and pasport photos to be submitted to attach to those documents. also, I am in possession of all the documents. He was given nothing.

I understand. These are the answers I was looking for. I will be contacting an attorney on Monday in regards to my situation. Eventhough your posts are conflicting I think I should just to be certain.

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posakosa:
I have NO SYMPATHY for Nigerian men. Call immigration and email them his pictures and send them the emails that he sent to you. You can also send it to the FBI.


SOME desperate Nigerian men are players who think that American WOMEN are FOOLS. Looking thru your posts, it is apparent that you fell HARD for a SCAMMER.

posakosa:
With that information, he may not be able to enter the US but he can carry his rubbish elsewhere----maybe to another country.

Thank goodness that you found out about his SCAM much earlier[b]. You would have ended up paying for HIS WIFE'S Tickets and given him a green card. [/b] He would have drained your pocket.

I don't know about the fell hard part, I liked him because my crazy azz knew he was a scammer and when I called him on it and told him I knew we became fast friends.I think it was a relief to him to have someone in his life he didnt have to lie too. We both needed that. We clicked on another level. Don't misunderstand, I am no scammer. I didn't approve of how he made his money. that is why we lived totally seperate lives. All the drama got started when his family got involved. I've already looked into turning him over to Immigration and the FBI. But something keeps holding me back. I think it is because in the beginning we were the coolest. Both living our individual lives yet coming together in a way no one could understand. Then came his nosey azz family, the lies started up and it spiraled out of control.

As for paying for tickets and crap. NEVER. THE ONLY MONEY I SPENT WAS FOR MY TICKET OVER. THAT IS IT! LOL! I knew what he did. Although, that didn't stop him from trying. It always gave us a good laugh after he would try. Ha ha ha

I think I am halfway thru that process. Now I am just angry and wish I could shut his whole little plot down and save others from his drama.

cool. that is all I basically wanted to know. now you will never see another post here from me about the crazy few months I spent with him.

I get what you are saying. I have moved on. I just want to know that if I marry it will be legal. I dont want any issues to arrive associated with the registry wedding I had with him in Nigeria.