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| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by N101: 8:07pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
@poster Coolier is correct, posakosa is wrong. If your Nigerian marriage is a legal marriage in Nigeria, it is likely to be recognised elsewhere. Do you have the marriage certificate? If you had a court marriage, you should be in possession of the certificate unless you had a moment of weakness and he has it. Normally in the registry wedding they give the certificate to the woman. If you don't have it I suggest you speak to a lawyer about it. I would suggest you divorce him in the US, that way - if he is the kind of person you say he is - then he has nothing to use against you in future should you remarry. Sorry posakosa, but foreign marriages are usually recognised in other countries, even in the US, whether this was a Sikh marriage in India or a registry marriage in Nigeria, so long as it in accordance with in that country's laws and there is proof i.e. certified in some way. Give her the information, then it's up to her to decide what she's going to do, whether legally or otherwise. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 8:10pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
Let me wait and see what her response will be. Where is your Nigerian registry certificate ? The man was looking for green card; he has NO REASON whatso ever to contact her. They don't even have any children together. How will he claim that she was married to him ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by finemocha(f): 8:12pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
dump him, u dotn have to do anything special |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 8:14pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
Mocha chocholate: where in the Bronx are you ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 8:18pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
@ N101, i am in no way questioning the legitimacy of a marriage based on its particular location. I am CLEARLY stating that this is a SHAM marriage because the man only wanted her for a green card. Of course, foriegn marriages are recognized in the U.S., although there is no record of it until you FILE taxes together BUT in this instance, this was NOTHING but a sham marriage. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by N101: 8:29pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
posakosa:Even if it's a sham marriage, it took place legally in Nigeria and so to that end she still needs to legally divorce - provided she can provide proof via the marriage certificate. If she doesn't be guaranteed that man could very use it against her in future if given the chance. However, if they remain permanently lost to each other. . .  |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 8:31pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
^^^^ thats even if it took place legally. Remember she is a foreigner in Nigeria. She could have easily been bamboozled. Anyhoo, im sure she'll figure her life out. Best of luck girl! |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by N101: 8:43pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
Easy way to find out: if you filled in lots of incomprehensible documents, then you've been legally married in Nigeria. If not, it's highly unlikely you get a proper certificate and therefore highly likely to have an illegal marriage  |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by coolier(f): 9:32pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
N101: I love you N101. Some people just argue blindly. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 9:37pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
coolier: I am not arguing blindly are you the poster/ I am more than certain that it was a SHAM marraige; let her answer for her self sha. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by coolier(f): 9:48pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
posakosa: See me see trouble! Did I mention you? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 9:52pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
coolier: How many others have responded to this thread ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by lostgirl: 11:49pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
@ N101, Yes there were lots of documents t be filled out and pasport photos to be submitted to attach to those documents. also, I am in possession of all the documents. He was given nothing. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:50am On Nov 02, 2009 |
lostgirl: |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by mamaput(f): 10:25pm On Nov 02, 2009 |
am American married a Nigerian in registry ceremony in Nigeria. Never had a ceremony in U. S. Do I need to go thru the trouble of divorcing him in Nigeria or can I just go on with my life yes its legal . it may be that his other wife as you called her only had a traditional wedding with him. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by lostgirl: 5:43am On Nov 03, 2009 |
@ Posakosa, No this was not my first thread about this matter, but I posed a serious question. This has nothing to do with left over feelings are wanting to contact him. It is not necessary that I contact him directly to get a proper divorce. I just wanted to know was their even a need for me to divorce him. Divorces cost money and take time. I have appreciated your replies but that is something that I just had to clarify. My other post was in regards to me seeking udder and complete closure before all was said and done. And I did. i moved on to the obvious next step. DIVORCE. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by otukpo(f): 1:14pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
Posakosa Why are u taking this lostgirl case personal. U have made ur point, allow others to contribute. How can u say that a marraige conducted in Registry in Nigeria is a sham? I tire for u. Allow the girl to thru the normal divorce process. The same thing u call sham is what some other people use as legal backings. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by mrofficial(m): 1:56pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
As your ID says "lostgirl"  You're lost! |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 2:03pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
otukpo: Nothing is personal on NL. The man only wanted her for greencard so to me its a SHAM marriage. Do I make myself clear ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by lorebobo(f): 2:18pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
posakosa: loud and clear!!! e don do. haba! ok. it is a legally sham marriage but that doesn't change the fact that it is legal and she has to go through the divorce process. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 2:23pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
lorebobo: There is NOTHING legal about a sham marriage. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by drlawng(m): 2:47pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
@posakosa, You have a very low thinking faculty. Will not say anymore or respond to the insults i expect you would post. Check yourself. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 2:52pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
drlawng: Someone who has signed on to tell me that I have a low thinking faculty----says that he does not respond to insults-----<hehehehehhe> keep trying. U're probably 12 years old. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by SoJaded: 3:00pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
posakosa:i really feel the guy that just yapped you now.every single thing u've posted on this thread has been extremely irritating. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by morpheus24: 3:01pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
posakosa: lorebobo: @ poster. I don't think you should be taking advice from someone who keeps using the word Sham marriage and green card in every post they respond to without you actually mentioning it. They really seem to be very uneducated about legal procedures or processess. I would strongly advice to visit the Us travel advisory website which should have a section on marriages conducted abroad and their legal standing in the US or a lawyer in the US regarding recognition of marriages abroad. This posakosa is not a very bright person from her statements. My two cents. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:04pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
SoJaded: Did you have to create a new user name just to say this ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:06pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
morpheus24: It was the green card. Which he didnt get. He was with an american before me. She said this on the first page. The Nigerian SHAMMER did not get the green card, which he purposely married her for. I WONDER IF THE FIRST AMERICAN HE MARRIED, GOT HER DIVORCE ? |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:07pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
@ OP, SEND HIS PICTURE TO THE IMMIGRATION AND FBI OFFICE. Get your DIVORCE PAPERS, as if a fake marriage matters, IF YOU CAN DO IT, ILL SEND IT FOR YOU. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:08pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
posakosa: |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by posakosa(m): 3:08pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
posakosa: |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by koolchicco: 3:13pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
@Topic Sorry, I dont know much about the US legal procedures.  However if it were to be in Bosnia and Herzegovina, I would have offered some succor. |
| Re: How Do I Go About Divorce? by morpheus24: 3:13pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
@ poster Do not take advice from women who are vindictive. level headed people give more concise responses |
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