If love is there then so shall i be as his wife. that dont matter. but i must be honest and say i would have to have a safe outlet to physical satisfaction on the outside of the marriage. but would stay with my husband

throw her stuff into the street. including her dirty panties. see how she likes being embarrassed. then pack your things and leave her. let her know what she has by taking it away for a while. she is looking to control you. You must love her you keep putting up with it. Be a man abotut yours.

Rings drive the opposite sex crazy because they think if someone found this person suitable for marriage then they must be worth having.

you said in your post you call him everyday for 30 or 40 minutes, he may be burned out. give him a little space. he probably loves you as much as you love him. but he is a man. they need a little room to breathe sometimes.

maybe the ladies are afraid that your extreme cleanliness is and exhibition of your need to be in total control. do an exercise, the next time you invite a lady over leave a shirt or pair of pants laying across your bed or in a place that she would see it. The rest of your place can be as clean as you like. Just leave that one misplaced item. See how she reacts and see how it makes you feel.

Well, I apologize. Sorry you cant.

it was said jokingly Eurogirl! Dang can you take a joke? if you have ever read thru any of these sill threads you will see that the joke I was getting at was derived from reading the garbage in some of these threads. LOL. sorry if you were offended.

All Akata women are not like this. don't judge based on one foolish and foul-mouthed one, LOL. and to the Poster who said marry pure whites because they know how to be diplomatic, you are crazy. White women marry african men for sex and to have pretty  babies African men with no money will be a slave in a white woman's house. African guys with money who marry whites make slaves of the white girl because she is usually a nasty ass gold digger who will do anything to get money. Not all white women are like that. but for the most part the ones that marry african american or african men are. Just speaking from my encounters. Don nobody get upset and crazy about it.

To all who dont realize this automatically. THIS POST IS INTENDED TO BE COMICAL.

@Poster, The first time I visited Nigeria I was surprised to see the women with weaves and tons of makeup too. These girls are naturally beautiful yet they choose to wear there hair and makeup like Americans and Europeans. I was disappointed. They wear more weaves and wigs than African American women. These Naija girls are fashion foward when it comes to clothes and style but they seem artificial in other ways.

Your wife's breath odor may not be just an oral thing. it may be coming from her sinuses and throat. It could be realted to Post Nasal Drip. I suffer from this particular ailment and something i do to ward off the bad breath is brush teeth and tongue after each meal, rinse my sinus cavities with a neti pot twice a day, use an alcohol free mouth wash each time I brush. She should make sure she gargles with the mouthwash. she should see a doctor to properly assess her particular case. antibiotics may be prescribed in addition to the afor mentioned regimen or oral and sinus care.

as easily as you just reasoned that it is not possible for someone to lie to you because they love y. ou. what if your partner told you they liked the outfit you were wearing or the way you are wearing your hair today but they only told you that because they saw the joy your appearance brought you but the really feel your appearance is unbecoming. Is that not a lie in the name of love? your lover may lie to you that they like your friends or family. All because of love. That is the reasoning behind my statement.

think of all the wonderful moments you have had with her and by her a keepsake that reminds her of one of those moments. something she will treasure forever. present it to her during a romantic dinner. Money is always good too, lol. Women work hard these days so maybe a sensual and relaxing spa day.

What if they are lying because the love you? Because they don't wantyou to know where the really came from because they are very poor or something like that.

I agree with Girl22. there are other men of color out there to be compared. As far as Nigerian Men vs. Black American Men, the Poster was on point with a few things.

@ poster. If you are really in love you have to remember what brought you to that feeling. Be creative in your communications with your loved one. Instead of an email, send an old fashion handwritten letter. Spray a little perfume on it an seal it with a kiss. Yes its corny and old fashioned! But its romantic and memorable. If its real, just hang in there. Start discussing ways to be together that will work for both of you.

If you notice, I havent said one more word to Posakosa. Don't intend to say anything further to it either. Okay. Glad to hear issue is being solved. But it sounded so familiar that i wanted to discuss it further. Because the people I know said the same thing about stopping but didnt.

@ poster. I never got a chance to ask your location. Where do you live?

must Idiots dont believe in God. So I break what I just said to say this, You are the only one whinning about my ex. ONLY YOU! Anyone here who reads thru these posts will see that only you have brought my ex up. Not me. Now you need to get yourself a life. You are sad and pathetic. I feel sorry for you. Your posts on various topics show just how much you long to be loved. They show me that you are lonely and in need of comfort. Someone has hurt you bad. you should harrass whomever that is and stop lashing out at others.

@ posakosa  you just cant keep my name out of your mouth can you? you are so desperate for attention. so I will give you a little. My Father in Heaven says we should love one another and not stand in judgment of each other because that is his job. From this post forth, I have nothing to say to you except get out and find someone to love. Leave the comforts of your laptop and get some fresh air and reality. God loves you even if we can't stand you.

Omotee, no problem. I have read some of the more serious replies to your thread and they are varied but good advice. if You have yahoo id let me know I will talk to you there. I am afraid to post mine here because of people like posakosa or I would have.

can someon tell me how to say "you are a liar"

@ Posakosa, you have totally taken away from this poster's concern. You should just crawl into your cave and let the adults here express their opinions. and advice to the original poster. You are waaaaay past juvenile. Keep mentioning my ex all you like. lol. that seems to bring you pleasure. I am happy for you. Maybe one day you can have an ex too. but i doubt that. no man or woman, not even a scammer would have you and your foolishness.

@Platunumnk, he-she-it is harrassing me because it has no life of its own.

@ Platinumnk, we should start a thread with the topic [b][/b]who in the heck cares what posakosa has to say, ha ha ha ha

@ posakosa, why are you all upset typing in bold caps? you are the one messing with others. And this thread has nothing to do with what i posted. You are the only dumb ass bringing that shiz up. JUST YOU! I havent posted to that thread or said anything in regards to it. YOU DONT KNOW ME! that is what i should be shouting. No one has to explain themselves to you. You are just angry because you dont have a life to post threads about. LOL. Get over yourself. Make a comment on a thread and move on. no one wants to hear you rant about unassociated things. You are just pathetic.

thanks platinumnk. because I truly only asked the poster to speak in private because of the sensitivity of this particular subject. Posakosa needs to get a life

Like i said previously posakosa this has nothing to do with me. It seems your very ignorant ass is obsessed with my particular situation. i have reviewed some of your replies to other posts on nairaland and found that not many people respect your opinion or even care that you are alive. You can post links to that thread all you like it doesnt make you any smarter. i personally think you are a lonely troll with nothing better to do than harrass people here. That man may have only wanted a green card from me but that is more of a life than you seem to have. PEACE!

@radiant, neither but some things don't need to be discussed in the open. especially on nairaland with people like posakosa's ignorant ass around.