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NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

I am a practicing medical doctor i want you to ask you her these question hw many liters of water does she consume a day do she take in B complex daily which is a class of water-soluble vitamins
that play important roles in cell metabolism does she also take in folic acid daily which is specially important in aiding rapid cell division and
growth, such as in infancy and pregnancy ask her these question and ask me for more question if needed

katzz:
for ur sake hope she doesnt..

am not scared

katzz:
Oh sorry to hear that....hope shes not bruised or anything but u better off apart. nd hope u agree its not okay to hit a lady tho she wasnt behaving like one.....just take ur time to read sum1 nd not jump into a relationship. u dont deserve to b treated like tht nd no women deserves to b hit

she wasn't bruised nd I don't like hitting ladies but couldn't hold myself she texted me threaten to take legal action against me

katzz:
so has she forgiven u?

I've broken up with her don't need her forgiveness

zeburudaya:
Fa fa faaaa fawul! No matter what she are does to u u have no right to panel beat her. Are she ur wife? No. Are she ur housemaid? No. Are she a drum? No!
Does u know that womens that run their mouth are quick to die like chicken? And when u are kill her the court of justice will not ask what happen. Does u know that?!!! So what give u the right, the impetus, the drive, the audacious audacity to lay fingers on her. If u knows she are not compatible with u then u separate! Relationship are not forced!

wow love ur combination of criticism and humor

katzz:
u know it wasnt right to have beaten her though, walk away she brings out the worst out of u. Uve lost respect for her nd shes never respected u.....y does she hate ur folks like this though? Curious

my parents are against me marrying her she knows that's why she hate them after been beaten by a guy because of her and forgave her, insults to my family is what I get from her no way

ireneony:
op, I read one of your topic were you said your parents arrested your girlfriend, I think she was angry with their action that's why she insulted them.
op I'm thinking you're a troll

op infact all your family na potbelly beast

she wasn't the only one arrested I too was arrested for seeing her

PHgirl:
I think the story's fake. There's a belief that a man shouldn't lay his hands on a woman. And op just thought of a good reason to lay one's hands on a woman. Incredible story, if you ask me.

she has done other vile things to me don't think I enjoy beating women read my other posts u will see she even wicked and I don't ever want to see her again

Yesterday I got into a fight with my GF and I don't feel sorry for it this is how it all started I called her to my home to talk to her about her rude behavior which my relatives are talking about while trying to talk to her she started insult my relatives which are absent in my presence she started telling me how weak I am nd that am mummy's boy and daddy's boy she started insulting my parent and called my mother a LovePeddler I told her to shut up and she slapped me I got up to drag her out of the house she resisted and continued hitting me and called my dad a pot bellied beast I couldn't take it anymore and slapped her and continued beating her till i threw her out of my house am I right to have beaten her katzz ur advice needed

sinaj:
op. forgive me o! but ur pic iz xo dizgusting

com'on u don't have to say it out so as not to hurt his feeling

temmym4:
Dude am gonna be plain with you, I wont decieve you, neither will I pamper you just like some did (Na the pampering wey u don dey get since childhood dey affect you now)
U mean u fought a guy because he took your gf's number? Worse still you no get stamina Like seriously what did u say before the fight started... "Dude oya return my girl's phone number" sincerely u deserve to be beaten over again. Thank God say dem no kill you self. Mu.mu, your gf willingly gave another guy her digits in your presence and u are fighting, no be say them force am out of her. To crown it all up, after them use your mouth sweep the floor finish, your gf went away with him.
Tell us bro, what did u do when you stood up and dusted your dirty cloth? Did u run towards your gf, ran opposite, slept there on the floor crying or you just stood up looking for your lost eyeball that popped out after you suffered? cos anything u tried doing at that situation will definitely crack me up if I was there. pele




I can see how much she loves you so dearly, Dunce. There are so many reasons she might be with you, maybe because your parents are ok financially and she feels the future is promising.
Stop thinking about marriage for now. U aren't ready for it.



Your parents are doing the best they can, they know u aren't matured enough so they are trying to protect you



Dude, as you grow older, your parents gonna keep watching your steps, how you talk, the manner of your speeches, the way you react to different situation. These are the stuffs they look at to judge your maturity status. Your parent arrested both of you cos you portray little or no signs of maturity around them lately, so u are too childish to make decisions. Drop the fact that you are a graduate. u need to grow up and start acting maturely.




What is the f**l sayin na What are u trying to justify here? I dont understand? Isn't that their first time of meeting, didn't she give the dude the digits? Pele OP. I wonder how you graduated self.

A child Mu.mu, u talk say make e no die, wetin go kill the child if not MUMUism.
You better listen to your parents before that girl sells you and still leave you some change in your pocket. She is wiser, intelligent and more matured than you. Your parents knows what they saw before they rejected her. Leave that girl alone.

You all asking him to sit his parents down and talk to them? Funny, no be person wey smart with good intelligence and maturity fit do dat one? wetin e know wey e wan say I laugh in Hindi

Am sorry if you feel am harsh, am trying to help you grow up. u need it dude. trust me!

she loves me for me nd not for my money

Kingklent:
don't u see she's with you for the money

why am I finding it hard to believe you

Kingklent:
excuse me!!!! Did you jst say marry her this year after studies and you got beaten because of her this year what do you do for a living and what do your parent do for a living I ask this questions to evaluate why she is still with you because she does not love you am suspecting as ideology said she's following you for financial services

well am a practicing medical doctor my dad is a businessman my mom is a judge

Movesz:
First of all...I know this is nollywood production..


But from the script presented, the guy must be mad.

A niccur collected his girls number, then gave him the beating of his life

Worst part, she left with the guyv

And he still invited her to an hotel to sort things out

Then got himself/girlfriend arrested by his parent

Did you even read your own script

This is impossible..except if the girl is a calabar girl(no offence)...

Viewing form another perspective....

The guy must be mad for

1)Going back to sort things out after receiving the beating of his life...

2)For opening this thread...




























Baba God,,,,,any girl that will cause my death even if she has amber roses butt, nicki minaj's shape, omotola body in one body.....I don't want......



samson in the bible suffered worst than your case...
Kip the struggle on...you might be lucky to loose your life for love.....what is better than dyeing for love......

I know you haven't fallen inlove before that's why u are writing all this and secondly this isn't nollywood or a script it happening

falconey:
answer this.....did the guy steal the number from her phone?......she probably know the guy and gave him that attention to talk

she doesn't know the guy and that's the first time am seeing him if she knew him before then they would have exchange numbers the first time they met

falconey:
you must be joking your parent arrested both of you...... you are 23 and a graduate

if only you had the kind of parents that gave birth to me u won't be different

Kingklent:
OP leave that gurl alone she does not love you nd I commend ur parents for their actions don't you see they are trying to protect u their baby frm that parasite u call ur gurlfriend

if she does not love me why then is she still with me because we've agreed to get married after she finishes her studies this year

zyzxx:
o ga oo
U av to talk to ur parent especially if u are able to confuse ur mum, ask dem y dey are against it

Pls don't start what u won't finish all in d name of love
Am not sayin u should leave d baby thou, but win ur parent over for her favour

my parent refuse to listen to what am saying and have even threatened to forced me sign a public restrain order If I keep seeing her

zyzxx:
If love is a crime.

How old are u Op?
Maybe wait till u can make ur own decision
but try to knw y ur parent hate her
It important

am 23 and a graduate

Last week I got into a fight with a guy because he
took my girlfriend number in my presence nd was
beat up real bad worst of all my girlfriend went with
the guy and my parents got to know I was beaten and warned me not to see her again she has since been begging me to forgive her and we arranged to meet this morning at a hotel while we were sorting things out my parents showed up with police men and arrested both of us we were released jst this evening I know my parents don't like her ryt from time and this is an opportunity for them to separate us I love her too much to leave her what do I do pls I need ur advice

Kingklent:
I had a french wit ma GF after reading lothario post about how to french kiss can you imagine the amount of spit in and around my mouth it irritating ewww had to secretly puke I wonder how he does that without getting irritated smh!!!

you didn't follow the steps laid out don't blame me for ur misfortunes

Blackett:
Story for amadioha. . . These hopelessly _stupid threads make you look pathetically weak in the eyes of those you are trying to impress.

and who are those are my trying to impress?

Blackett:
The saddest part of these _stupid female ass licking threads is that the _idiots propagating them, are all single as fvck!

well am not one those guys

Cutehector:
How many girls will want thr boyfrnds to meet dr parents? U want make person pikin land for insyd hospital?

if that so then how will ppl come and ask for her hand in marriage

Girls are all different, and therefore have different ideas of "sweet", but at least one of these things is sure to work!

1 Be a gentleman. This step is fairlyeasy. Just do the things that every girl dreams of their prince charming doing. This may include holding open doors, carrying books/bags, and waiting for her patiently.

2 Give gifts. Try to avoid drugstore items and go for something that has actual meaning to her. Try to think back to a story that she has told you and get
something to remind her of that moment.

3 Be a good listener. All girls love to
talk. It's important for you to be the
guy who listens. Don't just say mumble or
use one word replies. Try to contribute to
the conversation.

4 Little things mean a lot. Although it may not seem like it matters, saying caring things to her or doing something that she usually hates doing (such as a
chore) will register in her mind making her think that you are very sweet.

5 Get to know her family and friends.
The more involved with the people she
cares about the better. If she sees you
with her parent(s) she will start to realize
that you truly are sweet.

diddydiva:
practicals pls!!

am available and vacant u know!

dechandel:
Op.. Pls can you kindly pay for wasting my five seconds

how do I pay

MrCork:
^^^^he juss said that in wit a feminine voice.....YOU ARE G@Y....MAN UP cuz NIGERIA LOVES YOU ....Goat!! (no oofeinse)

I don't know what ur problem is but I know you have a problem I won't answer u anymore

MrCork:
^^^^Ther u go..feelin emotional & upset like female.....and then he say he not g@y....really?.. YOU R G@Y!!

..MAN Up , head high & be praud Nigerian for once in yor life!!

you are nothing more than a trouble prancing modafucker

MrCork:
...standup & be praud u g@y, son....its notin to be are shame of Coz u a role model to Nairaland men!!

I am not gay what's ur problem aaaah!!!