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#TheReturnOfBillyonaire

I am sure many of you will be able to learn one or two things from this.

Dear young wife...


Keep being kind. Don't change cos he changed. I know it's not all exactly the way you imagined it. it will take longer but you'll get there.


Don't feel pressure to be the perfect wife, cook n all. you can't be perfect. If you keep forcing it, you'll break down.


Always communicate with God first before any friend. yes, you can vent to one or two good friends just make sure you talk to God first and let that friend be on the same or Higher spiritual level than you.


Filter the advice you let in to avoid added stress even this one.


IF YOU'RE GOING TO VENT, YOU CAN'T STOP PEOPLE FROM ADVICING YOU SO UUST LISTEN LIKE A MUMU GUS NA YOU FIND TROUBLE; BUT JUST KEEP IN MIND THAT WHAT WORKS FOR A MAY NOT WORK FOR B.


Take care of your self, dress well, wash your hair ( I added dat one cos I feel great & relaxed whenever I wash my hair as ), look good n clean 'FOR YOU’ whether you're home or not.


Try to go out Church, Lunch, Gym anywhere and just gist. Gossip about hubby in a loving way, talk about all the silly, embarrassing stuff he must have done to you and just laugh with friends.


Choose your battles wisely! I know its easier said than done especially if you're hot-tempered like me (I think I've changed thou) If you're not ready to divorce then choose your Battles!


If he's about to say something that will get you upset just zone out or end the convo nicely.


A FRIEND OF MINE SAID WHEN SHE SENSED THE CONVO WON'T END WELL SHE SAYS SORRY I HAVE TO PEE THEN SHE DOESN'T RETURN AGAIN JUST TO AVOID WAHALA ; I LEARNT IT' I DID IT AND IT WORKED.
My Motto: You can't react to what you didn't hear

Dont take every word thrown at you seriously. in fact don't take yourself seriously.


I remember complaining to a friend about hubby and she said, "who 're you? who are you that he can't say it to you" I weak, but really who am I?


Act naive! yes act like it means nothing to you ( I'm still learning).


If its not the same for him. (i.e 'if you think' he puts everyone else before you) dont force it, it'll gradually happen don't forget he had people in his life before you.


if you wake up on the wrong side stay in your lane without being rude...


PRAY. TALK TO YOURSELF. CALL UP A FRIEND READ BOOKS. WATCH T.V GO TO WORK. DON'T GO LOOKING FOR ATTENTION COS YOU'LL SURELY GET IT, IT MIGHT BE MORE THAN YOU BARGAINED FOR, SO JUST RESPECT YOURSELF UNTIL YOU GET YOURSELF TOGETHER.


*I transcribed to text from all the slides she shared on her page...

Tiwa-tiwa-mi-ti-ti

#IfYouKnowYouKnow

Cute girl, she looks so much like David with her smile, eyes and dimples.

I’m even seeing David’s dancing Uncle’s face in her.

ShyCypher:
If you had met her back then in 2010 would she have admitted all these? Would she have acted like she was goin' through hell? She would probably still be formin' "posh" or "slay queen" even with her deplorable condition.

Na dem. Typical Nigerians.
Once they taste a little success, they start admittin' their ugly past openly and even exaggerate it to magnify the current 'achievement'.


The one she is passin' through today, she won't tell us oh.
In say five years time, when she finally buys her own house, she'll tell us how she was livin' in a rented apartment that was almost 5 months of her salary & how she was livin' from hand to mouth sometime in 2018.

Shioor. Enjoy your apartment jare & leave us out of it.

No mater what some people will always be negative...Sigh...


Why so much bitterness? Must she carry her problem on her face so you know she is down to earth or humble.

I am sure she has encouraged someone with sharing what she has been through!

freshvine:
whenever people sound sentimental and all emotional over a "failed" marriage or a troubled one, just know they're still single. Married People Offering Advice Are Not usually judgemental but analytical when offering advice due to their experience.

Mention a woman with children going through a troubled marriage and see society vilify the man. he becomes the devil. A Jilted Woman running off with the kids and denying hubby visitation and parental obligation and siena abandoning his children if thats the reality whats the difference?

Had the table turned and the woman is capable to take care of the kids, you could imagine likely sentences from my fellow ladies how it'll read.
"forget the scumbag and care for your kids", "dont allow him come close to the kids since he cant provide", "he's not worth a father", "get the police a restraining order on him", fortunately siena hold the ACE in the marriage

Nice analysis freshvine!

benodic:
Begin with the love you have. Love gratefully. This love expands your heart into a greater vessel which can hold yet more love.

—Harold Klemp
The Language of Soul

Let me start with, I LOVE all these quotes

Xxpress:
Andela in Yaba?

Yes, Yaba but I think they moved to Ikorodu road last year. I no dey Naija so I’m a bit out of date but I try to keep abreast of these things.

More specifically, Sabo/Yaba could be the considered silicon valley of Nigeria.

Andela’s office is there, Cocreation Hub is there, Konga have or had and office there and olx were there too. I’m sure I can think of a few others too...

LoJ:
Ndi igbo kwenu

@Mizmycoli, did I write it well?

Mindfulness:
I agree with EfemenaXY. You don't bring your mess online. First, because it may have legal consequences for you. Where I am located, even a criminal's identity is protected. The person's parents and siblings who may have nothing to do with it are hurt by the scandal too, probably unjustly. Second, he is still the children's father. It will not lessen their burden but possibly add to their pain. Third, there are different ways of dealing with this issue. You live in a country where the law works, where children are protected. Fourth, you expose yourself as well.

1. The thread has already ten pages but at the end of the day nobody really cares.

2. Last, why would a woman have three children with such a man?

So true!

Nigerians are so envious. Sophie kept quiet but they won’t let her be.

It’s All good!

David is happy
Chioma is happy
Sophie is happy

All these trolls should go and fine their own happiness biko.

Sophie is fine for days, although I wish she could take it easy with the bikini pics but her body is lovely so I don’t blame her for flaunting it. Just that I want her to be marketable to a guy that would show World people that the downfall of a man is not the end of his life

sisisioge:
Hmmm...somehow, I refuse to give up the respect I have for Siena. He was of good conduct and knew his onions in autos.

I wish you guys will settle well...character assassination isn't enough to make me forget he was a good mechanic.

You’ve said it all. This character assassination is totally unwarranted. Citizen advice, social welfare etc can handle this.

I have had dealings with Siena in the past, he proved himself a very decent and honest individual.

This is a faceless forum how on earth can this woman think she can come here and tarnish this man’s name.
She didn’t live with them, how on earth did she know this?

Besides this is against Nairaland’s rules, she even put his surname!!! she’s didn’t think of his kids. If he can’t get a good job in the uk based on this her rant.

I still remember the thread where Mrs.Siena was singing praises on Siena. They were in love, how come he is suddenly a monster?

Naijagypsy you need to take a deep breath and think of the far reaching effects of this post. Marriage is deep, you are friends with Siena’s wife, you are a brutish citizen she could have said anything to you to garner sympathy.

There are always two sides to every story.

Seun please this post violates so many of Nairaland’s rules. This is a sheer case of character assassination. Lalastiala where are you? Please delete this thread.

Awwwww...Pretty Sade, 41 and glowing with her lovely kids.

So happy for her, her naysayers have been silenced.

I’m not sure if this is true or not but I would like sample the thoughts of The Nairaland populace.

Rian Stone is of the opinion that men just want contentment in a marriage so they learn to put up with what they have. Women on the other hand, seek to be happy and no matter how happy they are, there'll always be someone or something else that can make them happier.

He goes on to say that a whopping 70% of divorces are initiated by women Thoughts?

***I totally disagree by the way

there are no dividing forces greater than color, race, gender and tribe. These factors continue to ensure humanity remains segregated.

In my opinion, this is the most important part of the whole write up. We need to see beyond all these segregations. Yes, they are there staring at us but let’s try to SEE BEYOND!

Freeze is busy warning Chimamanda tut,tut, tut..why does he have to be so rude? Why can’t he commend Hilary for responding so graciously at a tweet which was clearly trying to shake the gender inequality tables and serve as a test for joe Hilary? How would she respond (if at all to the one of the most respected African female writers of our time?


I see the table Chimamanda is shaking (she’s even standing on it), she is trying to highlight gender inequality.... A couple who have both run for presidency ...one describes themselves in one way and the other describes themselves differently...Who cares

But guess what l? Hillary does! The smart Hilary saw this as an opportunity to interact with and validate the gender bias rhetoric of chimamanda and her followers. Hnmmm...Freeze jumps on it, Dencia jumps on it But they all miss the point.

Vision2045:
What do u expect from a society

That gives 45m to the winner of a immoral show

And 10k to university best graduating student

Ouch!

This picture should teach women a lesson. Don’t judge, love.

It takes a lot to be a REAL mother, it requires an open heart to all, everyone is a child (someone’s child) we all make mistakes and we learn from them.

Round of applause to Teddy A’s Mummy!!!

prince3009:
Very true!

Anyways, after every...it's business as usual.

The whole story is just an embarrassment

What is the church turning into?

ObaKlaz:
I was lazy enough to vote for that cow in 2015. I shall be dutiful enough to kick his ass out come next year.

Isn’t she Ghanaian? Why is she biting in Nigeria’s elections?

Oshey, look at that one who gave us centre parting at the back

LoJ:
Nobody came for Sarassin and he did not leave because of any threat from anybody. He decided to leave for reasons of his own, and I can guarantee you all that he is perfectly fine.

You can tell this pregnancy means the world to her.

Chubhie:
I think he got overwhelmed. To destroy a righteousman, Just give him one follower.

Deep...

End time...Will miss him so much

#TheRevolutionShallBeTelevised

eleojo23:
Looking at her age, the feelings of paranoia and irrational behaviour are signs that she might be going through a rough menopause. For some women, it starts as early as age 40.

In this phase, such women act as if they have bipolar disorder and they begin to carry their religious beliefs to the extreme because they think they have a heightened sixth sense and that they can see what everyone else is not seeing.
All these can make life difficult for her family members and it really takes a lot of patience to cope with them during this phase


If you can convince her to see a doctor, he may be able to help her with hormone replacement therapy.

cc: Lalasticlala

Op if only you could read this post by eleojo. I agree that she should do something to generate income but you need to stop blaming her and sympathise. You never know what she could be going through. You said it yourself, you know her actions are unusual.

She might really need psychiatric attention but even if that is the case you as her child need to be there for her. Stop thinking of what she should have done or should be doing, just LOVE her. She gave birth to you, nurtured you and you are here typing plenty English.

Please take a deep breath and decide to LOVE your mum till her dying day. Without judgement.

ImaIma1:
I prefer greetings that i understand

Peace be into you!

ImaIma1:
Unfortunately i didn't have a camera to record mine this morning.

Off course the children have smiles on their faces. [b]I just can't get past the fact that freeze would have looked for a loophole or wrong thing if it was posted by someone [/b]else especially if that someone else is a religious leader.

No vex ehn, try to get over it!

Assalamualaikum!

All the peeps who rushed in to find out what rocks Juliet’s boat... I’m laughing so much tears are almost coming out of my eyes!

Make una take heart!!!