ImaIma1:
Why did he go with a camera crew? People have done much more without making it public.

Freeze can never get that approval he seeks from sane people.

For one second forget about Freeze, watch the video and look at the smiles on those children’s faces. Even if freeze and Benedicta are being fake the food was real and those smiles and laughs coming from the kids were not staged.

Who have you made smile of laugh today?

Don’t hate, appreciate... in this case I will ask you to emulate.

I really don’t think he is trying to impress.

However, if he is, this is a better way to impress than the multitude of people on Instagram, Facebook etc that flaunt their watches, boobs, asses, cars, houses and holidays to impress their followers but nobody calls them out because it is seen as normal.

I think he is just trying to practice what he preaches and set a good example.

#FreeTheSheeple

Lexusgs430:


Why not have good quality sex, and have less of the act?

The frequency and duration is all up to the individuals involved but the bottom line is that sexual intimacy helps to not only relive stress by allowing the body release dopamine and it increases the bond between a couple.

I never used to believe this but I have found this to be true.

LoJ:

Are you not joking?

Do you confuse the number of times and the time actually spent in the act? A sexual act can last about 15 min. 4 times a week is about one hour every week. Now do the calculation again.

And please tell me, how old are you?

Yeah, I agree he should definitely do the calculation again but not using 15 minutes..Haba!

Lexusgs430:



The FGM did to her, is part of the problem. It was meant to kill her sex drive at a much younger age, but has affected her post marriage too....

But Bro, sex 3/4 times a week? Nah food?

Yes it’s food!!

OP this is really touching...

I think you could start by giving her some more attention you know women LOVE attention. Forplay is also very important, I'm sure you know this already but pre-intimacy starts way before you get in the bedroom. Try to complement her during the day when sex is not obviously on the horizon.

Also a woman needs a level of validation from her man even more so after kids etc. Try letting her know that she is valued and loved. Make her FEEL sexy, perhaps you could buy her lingerie. What do you do to maintain yourself? Do you try to look and smell nice?

It’s lovely that you have been helping her more with the children and around the house already.

Do you take your wife on dates? Do you go out together? Even getting her to watch a late night movie with you might help ease some of her stress and get her to loosen up a bit.

Last but not least, watch her closely their might be some things bothering her, when a woman is worried it might be hard for her to be sexually responsive. Have you ensured she does not have something on her mind. That might not be a good excuse but if you can get her to talk about it and listen to her with genuine empathy it might go a long way in pulling down these sexual barriers. Women hardly get aroused when they are bothered about certain things.


Take your time there is no rush.

Lovely pre wedding pictures no gimmicks just love and a beautiful Muslimah

Wish you all the very best of marital bliss, may the flame of your love never be snuffed out but burn brighter and brighter with every passing day. May you welcome the lovely patter of tiny feet and grow in understanding and admiration of each other as the years go by.

Happy Married life

I once had a friend who confessed to me that he slept with his cousin. She got pregnant and her mum found out, needless to say, it was a big issue in their family. They aborted the pregnancy and kept them away from each other as much as they could. Well along the line, she got pregnant again, this time there were complications and she bled to death.

First of all I will like to commend you for opening this thread and attempting to take proactive steps towards salvaging what’s left of your marriage.

However, it appears your wife has a very dominant alpha kind of personality. Women long for leadership and if they find that, they will admire and “submit” (I use that word loosely) and love.

You seem to have allowed her walk all over you and this has made her respect and subsequently her love diminish over time. She just can’t be bothered hence the attitude. I really think you need to make her realise that you are fed up and you will not take it any more. You might have tried this before but you need to DECIDE not to allow her walk all over you the way she does to everyone else. It will not happen over night but you have to value your self respect enough to put your foot down NOW.

If you don’t, the kids will grow up to disrespect you too because naturally their mother’s behaviour will rub off on them.

Call an official family meeting if you have to but DECIDE and do this quickly. Personally I don’t like third party involvement but in this case it might help. Perhaps a woman she respects who has a successful marriage can speak to her but she has to have an opportunity to tell you what you have been doing for the last 6 years that is making her love disappear.

Good luck!

Chubhie:

The human experience is one to be enjoyed. It becomes complex when you complicate it with Sti's and Std's.

You cannot be a mistress to a billionaire and expect his wife and children not to wage a psychic attack on your mind.

Let's see how you apply your new found peace and wisdom going forward.

She looks breathtaking in that pics.

Can I kindly ask that we be careful with the insinuations.

There is no PROOF that Toke and the man in question were actually romantically affiliated.

That being said, it’s really none of anyone’s business. Let’s just wish each other well and move on. Like you said, life is to be enjoyed and Miss Makinwa is trying to enjoy hers.

Sarassin:


...at our very best when we are in resonance and sympathy with our cosmic surrounds.

Lovely!

Chai!!! This pikin resemble wizkid shaaa. He know him papa be potential runaway love

overdrive:
Doesn't he have relatives.

Relatives that should tell him to leave her alone and marry a skinny girl but keep this woman who makes him happy as a side chick so to make THEM happy?

For your information he’s probably much happier and satisfied than you.

Seun:
If God owned Nairaland, he would not operate any account on Nairaland.

He would communicate the rules by sending anonymous messages to random members, the chosen.

The rules presented by each chosen member would contradict the rules presented by the others.

There would be no way of knowing which chosen member had the correct rules.

People would just choose to follow whichever rules the person who invited them to the forum happened to follow.

There would be brutal flame-wars between the people following different sets of rules.

For each set of rules given by the chosen members, there would be multiple interpretations by random members.

The interpreters would claim to have received anonymous clues from the owner which they used to interpret the rules.

There would be brutal flame-wars between people following different interpretations of each set of rules.

Most of the chosen would have deleted their accounts and all posts in which they originally presented their rules.

There would be multiple versions of each set of rules floating about, with no way of knowing if any is correct.

People who broke the rules wouldn't be banned, because the chosen and the interpreters wouldn't have any actual powers.

Interpreters would threaten those who broke their rules that the owner would kill them after they deactivated their accounts.

The most famous interpreter would say that all rules are equally important: typos and posting porn pictures are the same.

That all members have broken the rules, so they deserve to be killed by the owner after they deactivate their accounts.

--

But there's good news: the owner's son joined the forum, and he presented his own version of the rules.

Though he was the only member who never broke any rule, his account was deactivated for the sins of the rule-breakers.

But the account was reactivated later and he was not killed because he was found to be innocent of rule-breaking.

And after his account was reactivated, he sent anonymous messages to some interpreters who are no longer active.

Therefore any rule-breaker who believes that the owner's son's account was deactivated for his errors shall not be killed!

The owner created a new forum, much better than Nairaland, which his son's believers shall be invited to any time now.

The son's profile was transferred to the new forum 3 minutes after reactivation, which is why it cannot be viewed.

But some members recall that some members said that some interpreters said they saw the son's reactivated profile.

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What a mess that would be.

One of the best analogies I have come across on this Forum... Bloody hilarious too

PastorAIO:


Karuze X Karoth X Karathoi X Kemelton X Achatum Ella X Dyestim + Rim + Warmat + Ko + Nemarram + Palat + Themat + Amarrh + Gyseton + Ralapharos + O Sachman + Machey + Gacles + Bachat + Gyrta + Somon + DeepSight + + Now have I Summoned thee

By this I compel thee to appear unto me before this circle and to do what I command thee…

O infernal stench of Hell, O Moribund Spirit of the Darkest habitations. I Evoke your Name

DEEPSIGHT DEEPSIGHT DEEPSIGHT


How many times callest I thou?

by the power and virtue of the letters which I have inscribed - do I command thee to give me a sign of thy arrival

Now do I conjure and command thee O Evil Spirit by the powers of Heaven and by the words of life, The Tetragrammaton and the 7 archangels....

I command thee to explain the difference between A moral Code and A Sense of Morality to those who know it not. I command thee to go find the link where it was taught to you severally yet your dim infernal mind took 5 years to understand it. Go fetch that link and bring it here.

Fly swiftly to the task. Let Haste and Alacrity be your byword For I cannot bear this stench of Sulphur for much longer. Fly!!

This is tooooo funny

They uses broom some many people's exceptations are being cut short by brooms.
You giving your broom out to someone after using it they will cut the inside of the broom short and invoke their evil incatonactons and return it. At times when you look at your broom you will discover that the inside is short while the outside is longer It means your expectations are being cut short. That's why many people will live for 20years without having a child.

And How Is All These Being Done?

It is done with old brooms only.

I want to assume the same Bible he preaches from, says the expectations of the righteous shall NOT be cut short...Abeg what’s all this broom business

Do not whisper to the trees what you do not want the wind to know.

Sarassin:


A very good post indeed, I would just my tuppence worth that;

Miserable is the man who loves a woman and takes her for a wife, pouring at her feet the sweat of his skin, the life of his heart and placing in her hands the fruit of his toil and the revenue of his diligence. When he finally wakes up, he finds that the heart he endeavoured to buy, is given freely to another for the enjoyment of its hidden secrets and deepest love.

Similarly miserable is the woman, who rises from the inattentiveness and restlessness of youth and finds herself in the home of a man showering her with glittering gold and precious gifts but unable to satisfy her soul with the heavenly wine which the Divine pours from the eyes of a man into the heart of a woman.

Couples should never marry before each other’s soul embraces in the shadow of the true love that makes union a paradise. But unfortunately true love is never a prerequisite for the societal construct of marriage.

Love descends into our hearts by Divine will and not by the demand or the plea of the individual.

Sometimes our interpretation of a union can seem like a terrible agony beginning with the existence of weakness in a woman and the commencement of strength in a man. But there is no power under the sun that can take away happiness emanating from two embraced spirits surrounded by understanding, radiated by Love, and protected by heaven.

This is beautiful Sarassin! Your words are simply sublime.

This post deserves a Standing ovation....HUGE Round of applause!

Your views of intimacy between couples is very interesting. It reminds me of the Jewish custom of family purity.

Concept of Family Purity

Jewish law forbids a husband to approach his wife during the time of her menses, generally from five to seven days, and extends the prohibition of any physical contact beyond this period for another seven days, known as the "seven clean days." (That is why one will always find, in observant Jewish homes, two beds for husband and wife, never a double bed.) During this time husband and wife are expected to act towards each other with respect and affection but without any physical expression of love—excellent training for that time, later in their lives, when husband and wife will have to discover bonds other than sex to link them one to another.

This typical Jewish family cohesion is surely not the result of any indigenous ethnic or racial virtue of the Jewish people. Nor does it derive from some general, well-intentioned but amorphous "concern for religious tradition." It is, most certainly the product of the specific "Orthodox" tradition—Halakhah or Jewish "way of life." It is this codified tradition, this obligatory law, that has bestowed the gift of stability upon the Jewish family...

It is also seen as crucial in protecting the marital bond from one of its most universal and perilous enemies which comes to the fore soon after the newness of married life has worn off: the tendency for sex to become routinised.

Unrestricted approachability leads to over-indulgence. And this over-familiarity, with its consequent satiety and boredom and ennui, is a direct and powerful cause of marital disharmony. When, however, the couple follows the Torah's sexual discipline and observes this period of separation, the ugly spectre of over-fulfillment and habituation is banished and the refreshing zest of early love is ever-present.

There is so much insight in this comment of the rabbis! Familiarity does indeed breed contempt, and a little absence does make the heart grow fonder...

Your views of intimacy between couples is very interesting. It reminds me of the Jewish custom of family purity.

Concept of Family Purity

Jewish law forbids a husband to approach his wife during the time of her menses, generally from five to seven days, and extends the prohibition of any physical contact beyond this period for another seven days, known as the "seven clean days." (That is why one will always find, in observant Jewish homes, two beds for husband and wife, never a double bed.) During this time husband and wife are expected to act towards each other with respect and affection but without any physical expression of love—excellent training for that time, later in their lives, when husband and wife will have to discover bonds other than sex to link them one to another.

This typical Jewish family cohesion is surely not the result of any indigenous ethnic or racial virtue of the Jewish people. Nor does it derive from some general, well-intentioned but amorphous "concern for religious tradition." It is, most certainly the product of the specific "Orthodox" tradition—Halakhah or Jewish "way of life." It is this codified tradition, this obligatory law, that has bestowed the gift of stability upon the Jewish family...

It is also seen as crucial in protecting the marital bond from one of its most universal and perilous enemies which comes to the fore soon after the newness of married life has worn off: the tendency for sex to become routinised.

Unrestricted approachability leads to over-indulgence. And this over-familiarity, with its consequent satiety and boredom and ennui, is a direct and powerful cause of marital disharmony. When, however, the couple follows the Torah's sexual discipline and observes this period of separation, the ugly spectre of over-fulfillment and habituation is banished and the refreshing zest of early love is ever-present.

There is so much insight in this comment of the rabbis! Familiarity does indeed breed contempt, and a little absence does make the heart grow fonder...

What can I say...the guy must have gone through a lot in the hands of women.

Take heart bro...

Sarassin:


...the Divine spark inherent in all sentient beings.

I must say, I have thoroughly enjoyed reading the interactions between Mizmycoli and Mujtahida...Thanks for taking the time to bless this thread with your input guys

mnwankwo:

Hello Gleez,
Thanks for your kind words and the question you raised. Marriage is a union of a man and a woman bound by true love in which both parties posses complementary spiritual and psychic qualities that resonates in a perfect spiritual harmony. Such a marriage is according to the will of GOD, protected by the power of GOD and consecrated by GOD. Marriage does not exist where their is no genuine love and perfect spiritual harmony between the couples. It is the laws of GOD that consecrates a marriage. Cultural, religious or legal ceremonies do not make a marriage genuine as is often assumed. Perfect spiritual harmony and genuine, selfless love unites the couple in a true marriage and since these attributes are living in the couple, they draw the power of GOD and thus receive a consecration in the highest and purest sense. Religious, cultural and secular ceremonies have no effect on marriage. Thus a genuine marriage according to the laws of GOD remain so even if the couples have not participated or received the approval of a state, religion or custom. In the same connection, a union in which their is no spiritual harmony and genuine love is not a marriage even if the couples are wedded by the Pope. Unions that are not in accordance with the laws of GOD are not recognized by the laws of GOD and couples in such relationship are living in sin.

Thus the concept of pre-marital and marital sex are wrong because it assumes that cultural, religious or secular ceremonies is what makes a marriage true and genuine. Sexual relationship should only be an earthly manifestation of a genuine love and perfect spiritual harmony that exists between couples, that is, couples who are in genuine marriage as I explained above. Therefore sexual relationship in most of what people regard today as "marriage" are immoral because such "marriage" lack genuine love and spiritual harmony. An earthly wedding performed by a representative of a church, state or custom cannot replace the will of GOD. However, there is nothing wrong in adhering to earthly laws provided the laws of GOD are fulfilled and such ceremonies are not in conflict to the laws of GOD. Sexual energy used in the sense of the laws of GOD is a beautiful gift bestowed on us by the grace of GOD and brings a lot of benefits. However like all energies, the man of today have used it wrongly and the perverted energy have brought destruction to many a man/woman. Stay blessed.

Perfectly put as usual... MNwankwo, thank you. I especially like:

Cultural, religious or legal ceremonies do not make a marriage genuine as is often assumed. Perfect spiritual harmony and genuine, selfless love unites the couple in a true marriage and since these attributes are living in the couple, they draw the power of GOD and thus receive a consecration in the highest and purest sense

Congratulations to all those who have experienced the LOVE MNwankwo so beautifully described...If not, trust me when I say it DOES exist.

.... Seun , it’s not fair that I can’t like this post more than once!!!

Sarassin:


It is our collective action as well as the fate of nations that express Divine principles, and to that extent these actions may come to be considered as the fulfilment of prophecy, but the promises of Divine revelations have been fulfilled many times, and will be fulfilled again and again whenever the conditions to which they describe apply.

Wow!!! This resonates with me on so many levels...Thank you for taking the time to respond


Hahahahaha @the national bogey-man of the moment.

Awwww Sade...Kiss of Life

So I started reading Vigyan Bhairav Tantra, and I just had to share this quote with you guys...it’s hilariously true...

“So remember this, tantra is pure science. You may be a Hindu or a Mohammedan or a Parsee or whatsoever – tantra doesn’t touch your religion at all. Tantra says that religion is a social affair. So belong to any religion; it is irrelevant. But you can transform yourself, and that transformation needs a scientific methodology. When you are ill, when you have fallen ill or you have caught tuberculosis or anything, then whether you are a Hindu or a Mohammedan makes no difference. The tuberculosis remains indifferent to your Hinduism, to your Mohammedanism, to your beliefs – political, social or religious. Tuberculosis has to be treated scientifically. There is no Hindu tuberculosis, no Mohammedan tuberculosis.”

Mujtahida:

Righteousness cannot be commanded, holiness can not be legislated. It must be an impulse in the soul, organic, fresh and life giving. All exterior commands are the weapons of death.

I really like this...

MizMyColi:
Okay,

Lotusfan, I got intrigued too with figuring out the person behind the moniker.

I have made a discovery that shows me your former moniker...
and where you live.

Now that I have attained that, I am moving on for good.

Let's just say Serendipity happened.

Let's also say I have this gift for finding misplaced things....for real. If I set my heart to it, it must be found.

Oh, just to clear a bit of doubt, there is an I, A, E in that your "other" moniker...

I hope I have not revealed too much by this.
I would want it to be our little secret

Come out joor, let's play
I like you.

Let me do a Pst Biodun Fatoyibo on this one...

“The effect of prophecy throughout the ages has been to paralyse all effort and to remove the impetus for self-discovery. In the face of adversity the human soul is meant to rise up in its strength and wrestle with such adversity but if we meekly accept our supposedly impending fate solely as the outcome of prophecy then we surrender our destiny. It is extremely easy to ignore the fact that the power of the will, backed by courage and tenacity, is tremendous.”

...Sarassin this is so deeeep...

Thank you for always taking the time to share your wisdom with us...

The thing is, a lot of people would rather not dissipate energy on something that invariably will not work. What’s the point in spending years tenaciously trying to achieve a certain goal if on the balance of probabilities it would be a mere chasing after the wind?

You might say our destinies are in our own hands...but are they really? Upon observation, it’s obvious that some things are just written in the stars...

This dude is so smart...He has been creeping into mass consciousness for decades. When I saw the clip where he told opera he would win the presidential election if he ran I knew he had been harbouring this dream for much longer than many of us could imagine.

Despite his craziness we should all learn from him...HOLD ON TO YOUR DREAMS!