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Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze & Tastebudz Feed 890 People At Okobaba Destitute Camp For Lepers by LotusFan: 12:58pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
ImaIma1: For one second forget about Freeze, watch the video and look at the smiles on those children’s faces. Even if freeze and Benedicta are being fake the food was real and those smiles and laughs coming from the kids were not staged. Who have you made smile of laugh today? Don’t hate, appreciate... in this case I will ask you to emulate. 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze & Tastebudz Feed 890 People At Okobaba Destitute Camp For Lepers by LotusFan: 12:48pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
I really don’t think he is trying to impress. However, if he is, this is a better way to impress than the multitude of people on Instagram, Facebook etc that flaunt their watches, boobs, asses, cars, houses and holidays to impress their followers but nobody calls them out because it is seen as normal. I think he is just trying to practice what he preaches and set a good example. #FreeTheSheeple 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Need A Marriage/sex Councelling by LotusFan: 8:47am On Apr 13, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: The frequency and duration is all up to the individuals involved but the bottom line is that sexual intimacy helps to not only relive stress by allowing the body release dopamine and it increases the bond between a couple. I never used to believe this but I have found this to be true. |
Family / Re: I Need A Marriage/sex Councelling by LotusFan: 8:41am On Apr 13, 2018 |
LoJ: Yeah, I agree he should definitely do the calculation again but not using 15 minutes..Haba! 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Need A Marriage/sex Councelling by LotusFan: 8:08am On Apr 13, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: Yes it’s food!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Need A Marriage/sex Councelling by LotusFan: 7:33am On Apr 13, 2018 |
OP this is really touching... I think you could start by giving her some more attention you know women LOVE attention. Forplay is also very important, I'm sure you know this already but pre-intimacy starts way before you get in the bedroom. Try to complement her during the day when sex is not obviously on the horizon. Also a woman needs a level of validation from her man even more so after kids etc. Try letting her know that she is valued and loved. Make her FEEL sexy, perhaps you could buy her lingerie. What do you do to maintain yourself? Do you try to look and smell nice? It’s lovely that you have been helping her more with the children and around the house already. Do you take your wife on dates? Do you go out together? Even getting her to watch a late night movie with you might help ease some of her stress and get her to loosen up a bit. Last but not least, watch her closely their might be some things bothering her, when a woman is worried it might be hard for her to be sexually responsive. Have you ensured she does not have something on her mind. That might not be a good excuse but if you can get her to talk about it and listen to her with genuine empathy it might go a long way in pulling down these sexual barriers. Women hardly get aroused when they are bothered about certain things. Take your time there is no rush. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Conjugal Bliss Of A Niralander And His Angel!!! by LotusFan: 10:01am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Lovely pre wedding pictures no gimmicks just love and a beautiful Muslimah Wish you all the very best of marital bliss, may the flame of your love never be snuffed out but burn brighter and brighter with every passing day. May you welcome the lovely patter of tiny feet and grow in understanding and admiration of each other as the years go by. Happy Married life 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Sex With Cousin More Pleasurable? by LotusFan: 9:02pm On Apr 11, 2018 |
I once had a friend who confessed to me that he slept with his cousin. She got pregnant and her mum found out, needless to say, it was a big issue in their family. They aborted the pregnancy and kept them away from each other as much as they could. Well along the line, she got pregnant again, this time there were complications and she bled to death. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Has My Wife Finally Moved On? by LotusFan: 7:55pm On Apr 11, 2018 |
First of all I will like to commend you for opening this thread and attempting to take proactive steps towards salvaging what’s left of your marriage. However, it appears your wife has a very dominant alpha kind of personality. Women long for leadership and if they find that, they will admire and “submit” (I use that word loosely) and love. You seem to have allowed her walk all over you and this has made her respect and subsequently her love diminish over time. She just can’t be bothered hence the attitude. I really think you need to make her realise that you are fed up and you will not take it any more. You might have tried this before but you need to DECIDE not to allow her walk all over you the way she does to everyone else. It will not happen over night but you have to value your self respect enough to put your foot down NOW. If you don’t, the kids will grow up to disrespect you too because naturally their mother’s behaviour will rub off on them. Call an official family meeting if you have to but DECIDE and do this quickly. Personally I don’t like third party involvement but in this case it might help. Perhaps a woman she respects who has a successful marriage can speak to her but she has to have an opportunity to tell you what you have been doing for the last 6 years that is making her love disappear. Good luck! 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Celebrities / Re: Toke Makinwa Opens Up About Her Surgery And Her Struggle With Depression by LotusFan: 5:48pm On Apr 11, 2018 |
Chubhie: Can I kindly ask that we be careful with the insinuations. There is no PROOF that Toke and the man in question were actually romantically affiliated. That being said, it’s really none of anyone’s business. Let’s just wish each other well and move on. Like you said, life is to be enjoyed and Miss Makinwa is trying to enjoy hers. |
Religion / Re: The Pantheist Thread. by LotusFan: 7:47pm On Mar 19, 2018 |
Sarassin: Lovely! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Celebrities / Re: Wizkid Shares Photos Of His Son, Zion Ayo Balogun by LotusFan: 6:55pm On Mar 04, 2018 |
Chai!!! This pikin resemble wizkid shaaa. He know him papa be potential runaway love 11 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Pre-Wedding Photos Of A Plus-Sized Woman And Her Slim Husband (Photos) by LotusFan: 9:21am On Mar 02, 2018 |
overdrive: Relatives that should tell him to leave her alone and marry a skinny girl but keep this woman who makes him happy as a side chick so to make THEM happy? For your information he’s probably much happier and satisfied than you. |
Religion / Re: Seun Doesn't Exist by LotusFan: 9:55pm On Feb 16, 2018 |
Seun: One of the best analogies I have come across on this Forum... Bloody hilarious too |
Religion / Re: In The Beginning There Was An End. by LotusFan: 7:54pm On Feb 15, 2018 |
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Religion / Re: Why Do Atheists Love Bashing Religion? by LotusFan: 9:43pm On Jan 31, 2018 |
PastorAIO: This is tooooo funny
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Religion / Re: Prophet Samuel Olaluwoye: "How They Use Broom To Lock People's Destiny" by LotusFan: 1:50pm On Jan 25, 2018 |
They uses broom some many people's exceptations are being cut short by brooms. I want to assume the same Bible he preaches from, says the expectations of the righteous shall NOT be cut short...Abeg what’s all this broom business |
Religion / Re: The Supernatural Experience by LotusFan: 9:46am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Do not whisper to the trees what you do not want the wind to know. |
Religion / Re: In The Beginning There Was An End. by LotusFan: 10:36pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Sarassin: This is beautiful Sarassin! Your words are simply sublime. This post deserves a Standing ovation....HUGE Round of applause! 2 Likes |
Religion / Re: In The Beginning There Was An End. by LotusFan: 1:17pm On Jan 21, 2018 |
Your views of intimacy between couples is very interesting. It reminds me of the Jewish custom of family purity. Concept of Family Purity |
Religion / Re: In The Beginning There Was An End. by LotusFan: 1:16pm On Jan 21, 2018 |
Your views of intimacy between couples is very interesting. It reminds me of the Jewish custom of family purity. Concept of Family Purity Jewish law forbids a husband to approach his wife during the time of her menses, generally from five to seven days, and extends the prohibition of any physical contact beyond this period for another seven days, known as the "seven clean days." (That is why one will always find, in observant Jewish homes, two beds for husband and wife, never a double bed.) During this time husband and wife are expected to act towards each other with respect and affection but without any physical expression of love—excellent training for that time, later in their lives, when husband and wife will have to discover bonds other than sex to link them one to another. This typical Jewish family cohesion is surely not the result of any indigenous ethnic or racial virtue of the Jewish people. Nor does it derive from some general, well-intentioned but amorphous "concern for religious tradition." It is, most certainly the product of the specific "Orthodox" tradition—Halakhah or Jewish "way of life." It is this codified tradition, this obligatory law, that has bestowed the gift of stability upon the Jewish family... It is also seen as crucial in protecting the marital bond from one of its most universal and perilous enemies which comes to the fore soon after the newness of married life has worn off: the tendency for sex to become routinised. Unrestricted approachability leads to over-indulgence. And this over-familiarity, with its consequent satiety and boredom and ennui, is a direct and powerful cause of marital disharmony. When, however, the couple follows the Torah's sexual discipline and observes this period of separation, the ugly spectre of over-fulfillment and habituation is banished and the refreshing zest of early love is ever-present. There is so much insight in this comment of the rabbis! Familiarity does indeed breed contempt, and a little absence does make the heart grow fonder... |
Romance / Re: Michigan Man Who Lives With Three Sex Dolls: His “wife” And Two “mistresses by LotusFan: 3:20pm On Jan 20, 2018 |
What can I say...the guy must have gone through a lot in the hands of women. Take heart bro... 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Ducking Out Of Church by LotusFan: 3:14pm On Jan 20, 2018 |
Sarassin: 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Ducking Out Of Church by LotusFan: 8:56am On Jan 20, 2018 |
I must say, I have thoroughly enjoyed reading the interactions between Mizmycoli and Mujtahida...Thanks for taking the time to bless this thread with your input guys 1 Like |
Religion / Re: In The Beginning There Was An End. by LotusFan: 7:39pm On Jan 18, 2018 |
mnwankwo: Perfectly put as usual... MNwankwo, thank you. I especially like: Cultural, religious or legal ceremonies do not make a marriage genuine as is often assumed. Perfect spiritual harmony and genuine, selfless love unites the couple in a true marriage and since these attributes are living in the couple, they draw the power of GOD and thus receive a consecration in the highest and purest sense Congratulations to all those who have experienced the LOVE MNwankwo so beautifully described...If not, trust me when I say it DOES exist. .... Seun , it’s not fair that I can’t like this post more than once!!! 3 Likes |
Religion / Re: The Supernatural Experience by LotusFan: 3:24pm On Jan 16, 2018 |
Sarassin: Wow!!! This resonates with me on so many levels...Thank you for taking the time to respond Hahahahaha @the national bogey-man of the moment. 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Sade Adu Celebrates Her 59th Birthday Today by LotusFan: 8:03am On Jan 16, 2018 |
Awwww Sade...Kiss of Life |
Religion / Re: Ducking Out Of Church by LotusFan: 2:34pm On Jan 15, 2018 |
So I started reading Vigyan Bhairav Tantra, and I just had to share this quote with you guys...it’s hilariously true...
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Religion / Re: Ducking Out Of Church by LotusFan: 10:40pm On Jan 14, 2018 |
Mujtahida: I really like this... |
Religion / Re: Ducking Out Of Church by LotusFan: 10:32pm On Jan 14, 2018 |
MizMyColi: Let me do a Pst Biodun Fatoyibo on this one... |
Religion / Re: The Supernatural Experience by LotusFan: 10:12pm On Jan 14, 2018 |
“The effect of prophecy throughout the ages has been to paralyse all effort and to remove the impetus for self-discovery. In the face of adversity the human soul is meant to rise up in its strength and wrestle with such adversity but if we meekly accept our supposedly impending fate solely as the outcome of prophecy then we surrender our destiny. It is extremely easy to ignore the fact that the power of the will, backed by courage and tenacity, is tremendous.” ...Sarassin this is so deeeep... Thank you for always taking the time to share your wisdom with us... The thing is, a lot of people would rather not dissipate energy on something that invariably will not work. What’s the point in spending years tenaciously trying to achieve a certain goal if on the balance of probabilities it would be a mere chasing after the wind? You might say our destinies are in our own hands...but are they really? Upon observation, it’s obvious that some things are just written in the stars... 2 Likes |
TV/Movies / Re: Donald Trump Featured In "Home Alone" Movie (Video) by LotusFan: 10:04am On Jan 13, 2018 |
This dude is so smart...He has been creeping into mass consciousness for decades. When I saw the clip where he told opera he would win the presidential election if he ran I knew he had been harbouring this dream for much longer than many of us could imagine. Despite his craziness we should all learn from him...HOLD ON TO YOUR DREAMS! 1 Like |
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