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rickpat:
Free your mind..live your life..keep your options open

Life no balance sha... Never knew I'll be in this situation

rickpat:
Oga,stop stressing yourself..you ain't even married to her....what's this sef...you no get something to think of?..so which advise do you need?..oga rest...your babe no be virgin sef...my little advise for you.. DON'T WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU DON'T HAVE CONTROL OVER OR THINGS YOU CAN'T CHANGE

Yes nice advice.

They're are things we can't control.


So what you say?

I forget her totally?

Kobicove:
You have chopped other people's girlfriends so if they chop your own the world will not end

Life no balance o...

But I no chop the ones wey I know dey relationship.


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Yes, them no go tell me

allen113:
Iran did not go broke because of building weapons, they went broke because of sanctions imposed by the west

Condemn the killings first. No, I didn't ask you to go out and protest against the killings or fill up social media with posts about it.


Simply condemn it, the government shooting at protesters and Killing thousands.



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Now why were the sanctions imposed?

Watcharena:
Gaddafi cared for his people but his people perished because of lack of weapons

First of all condemn the senseless killings of their people protesting.



Now, how many nations with weapons openly swore to wipe out their sworn enemy?


How many nations threatened to use nukes to level down another nation just because they're enemies?

If I say my friend asked me to ask for advice, I know you all would come for me telling me to come out clean that you've heard this before, because, it's me not some imaginary friend.



Okay okay, let me confess: I accept. It's me. Not my friend.



So it has gotten to my turn. The girl I intend to settle down with is about to go for NYSC.



She was so overjoyed when she told me. I'm happy for her, but you know na...



Several stories of how them dey chop people serious girlfriend for NYSC.



We've heard about the 3 weeks camp, how some are caught doing weeweechu and sent home.



Even if she doesn't do that the 3 weeks as a decent girl I know her to be, the remaining service months are there and even though she is decent I can't trust her to that extent.


Had it been we are married now I can influence it, work redeployment and camp exemption for her to be with me while receiving the monthly alawee.


But things are still open since I haven't done a single thing on her head.


Normally with the news I've been hearing about durtty stuff going on during NYSC I am conditioning my mind to expect the worst and remove my expectations. Yes, she's decent, but she's human and can fall for it.



I can vouch for her a bit but not completely because some girls might still be doing it behind you no matter how decent they appear or how serious the relationship is.



And I know fully well how painful it can be when you use your whole mind in a relationship and she breaks your heart, how painful it can be. So actually it would pain me if anything happens, but I have conditioned my mind not to allow the pain to get deep into me. I've lowered my expectations in the relationship, but my mind still dey.

(Hoping for the best but expecting the worst)


Is there anyone that has been in similar situations?


How did it go?
How did it end?



What do you advise I do?


Move on?

Keep in touch?

Rich4god:
The leaders caused it...

Spending so much on weapons and terrorism instead of development.

I'm still trying to understand the kind of mindset they have.

They don't care if their people perish, as long as they have enough weapons to attack.

Now just imagine if they have nukes

lordm:
Checkout the value of the Iranian rial.
1 dollar = 1,375,000 Rial.
That country is gone

My bad!!!

And here I am thinking that you'll need $23 to be a millionaire.


Never knew with just $1 you are already a millionaire.

There are different numbers about the souls lost.


Some keep it at 500

Some 1,000


Some say it's over 12,000 !!!


Very terrible, imagine if such regime have nukes!!!

Larwin:
Sorry been a while here. Some areas might have issue tapping underground water due to the geological/ hydrological history of the area. The rock formation processes, orogeny, and even man activities over years, for example severe blasting, excessive groundwater extraction can lead to serious issues to the generation coming.

I guess it's how nature gave it to them.

bixton:
Please explain more....

Is it that they have tried drilling borehole and it doesn't give them the required water for commercial purposes over a long period of time?

Just seeing this now...


They dig but couldn't get water at all.

The only place they managed to dig deeper with triple cost, they water they got was kind of Milky.

Is it hard water that they even call it.

zoedew:
Now with their blood watering their struggle for political freedom Iranians will value the outcome and savour freedom so well no monarchy nor theocracy will ever have them by the jugular again. Never again! Lesson 101 -Do not fight Israel. You will not win as it amounts to fighting God!

I just don't understand the hatreed.

They have a develish soul that they don't care about the welfare of their people, they are using all their vast resources to build weapons they'll use against their arch enemy.


Imagine how bad their economy is, with just $23 you are a millionaire in Iran!!!


A country with bright minds, great people, very high IQ, but trapped with by the evil government

lecowas:
Khamenei is a goner, there's no escape from this revolution.

Too bad He wants to take as many souls with him..

zoedew:
Now with their blood watering their struggle for political freedom Iranians will value the outcome and savour freedom so well no monarchy nor theocracy will ever have them by the jugular again.

There's no turning back on this.

They have shed so much blood and when they finally free themselves from the shackles of this regime they'll make it mandatory in classes to teach about their experiences to their generations to come so that their future great Grand children won't make any silly mistake.

Sonnobax15:

When we tell people that that religion is a menace to the entire world,they call us all sorts of abusive names and even tend to attack us

It's sickening!!!

If they can do this to those they swore to protect, imagine what they would do to those they swore to distroye.

Opening live fire on protesters is just terrible 😞


Your own people

Internet blocked in Iran for over 100 hours now (5 days)


What are they trying to cover up 😔

SuperOnyi:




Still relevant...Sad!

Bro, I'm following your diary thread and I must commend your efforts!

Keep it up. Just wondering, which niche are you into on tube

ccjoe:
Let Me give u an advise which I know u will likely not heed to: FORGET ABOUT THAT ACCOUNT AND LEAVE EVERYTHING LIKE THAT THE WAY IT IS, LOG OUT COMPLETELY AND KEEP RECEIVING YOUR MONEY AND CHECKING MAILS....IF YOU MUST CONTINUE PUBLISHING, GET A NEW DEVICE WITH NEW DETAILS AND INTERNET SOURCE AND CREATE A NEW ACCOUNT TO CONTINUE YOUR BUSINESS (Create new books)... I know why am telling u diz, stop pursuing that book, shutdown your emotions else you'll loose your account very soon... In fact, you are very close to loosing it presently if u dont take this advice...

Nice advice there.

But I guess kdp is f*u**d for Nigerians.

Because of this issue I got a new device, new internet and all. New books.


But guess what?

Any book I upload would be blocked.

Reason?

The vague "misleading customer experience"


Kdp wasn't like this back then, I wonder where this misleading customer experience sh**t is coming from.


Now what's the guarantee that if I get another new device and start all over it won't be the same?


Mehn, kdp is f**ucked for Nigerians.

What's the hope of a hustler that wants to earn online?

Dada4me:
Good evening nairalanders, my daughter is in basic two with a bad handwriting. I have tried helping her by showing her how to handle Biro but no improvement.

Please recommend what to do.

Op it's been 3 years, hope your little angel has improved.

How did you manage it, please share tips, it's needed now for a child.

Office romance is frowned upon and in many settings an employee risks getting fired when caught.


But the reality is that it still goes on. Yes, employees date each other, not just in office settings but other forms of work too.

So which job do you think has the highest number of employees dating each other?

For me it's any jobs that requires shifts. Mostly night shifts. Because at night they might not want to go home and from there one thing might lead to the other and then...

Shakaboomboom

paxonel:
Unnecessary online scamming!

What is hallelujah challenge?

Do one need to display their fortunes unnecessary online?

How much did he scam you?

Join the alleluia challenge with a open mind and see for yourself. Or better still sincerely sing alleluia at home for one hour and see. When last did you pray?


But you won't have problem with an influencer promoting scam online abi? Or a girl dancing seductively online?


In this life you either draw people closer to God or far away from him.

Image123:
Like Mr President would ask, "Are you an enemy of wealth?"

The way they're attacking him you'll think he's promoting indecent dressing.

Redbishop:
Na you wan dey deceive people 🙄, Person wey dey earn no dispute na you wan dey help am form holier than thou...

This man makes over $1m dollars annually from that YouTube channel ....

Forget socialblade. It's just an estimate assuming the channel is montized.


The fact here is that the channel isn't montized. Use the right tools and you'll find out.


Someone is busy transforming lives but all you are focused on is how much he's earning? Like seriously?


Someone is working hard to bring hope to the people, restore Godliness in a morally declining society but instead of encouragement you are busy attacking him based on what he's earning?


Morality is fast declining but you won't attack those artists and influencers promoting all manner of immoral acts through their songs, posts and all. Yes, they're cashing out promoting evil but it's a man of God promoting closeness to God you have the strength to attack?

So many misconceptions and words of atrtack on the alleluia challenge. Some people are just posting up and down that he's cashing out from YouTube while millions watch his live challenge.

Here's a post on frontpage claiming he's deceiving people and cashing out: https://www.nairaland.com/8546753/hallelujah-challenge-na-scam


But how much is he cashing out?

The answer: $0

Yes, zero from YouTube. His YouTube channel with over 3M subscribers isn't montized. There's more to the alleluia challenge than YouTube earnings.



This life is more spiritual than you think. Just because there are fake pastors doesn't mean every pastor is there for the money.


Let's stop discouraging those that are trying to lift up people in this country. Let's stop all these bashing of pastors and men of God.



Always quick to atttarkk the few courageous men that are trying to bring hope to people, trying to bring people close to God. Trying to bring back sanity.

But the ones promoting immorality and all sorts of evil vices we applaud them. SMH

Caaz:
Not every person we should welcomed into our homes,this one is trying to cause chaos in that family.So the first child sharing resemblance with the man's wife is now termed**omo ale++


This here is the reason why i always vet and filter all my husband friends,,i noticed any nonsense alacrity,i'd everything within my power to put an end to such association.

Ahnie I no wan argue Sha, if caging your husband gives you peaceful marriage, I wish you the best.

Starboytwo:
Urm, the 2nd son who looks %99 like the father and nothing like the mother, shoukdnt there be some kind of DNA to really determine if the mother is the authentic mother 🤷

Thinking out loud.

Listen to yourself again.

Read it slowly.

pocohantas:
This is one of those stories that never happened. He just created it for validation from his ilk. I was thinking the moniker looks familiar and I have confirmed.

Pocololo, time I'll use to create fiction on nairaland that doesn't pay, I would rather use it create more books on KDP.

If you check well winter is coming and this is when books sell well on KDP.

Even YouTube is there to cash out, so why waste my time creating fiction on site that doesn't pay me shishi.

yvesboss:
Oga

Can you please avoid the family for a long while so you don’t bring this your energy to your friend? Really it isn’t your business if you think about it

Like I stated we haven't seen for ages, and I only went to his state for some business stuff.

I understand your point and I'm strongly considering it. I would be avoiding them sha, because finding a peaceful home this days is hard and wouldn't want to be the devil.


Though I'll still look for a way to indirectly convince him for a DNA test.

Carazon:
You believed that he can easily afford the money because you are his account officer.
Many of my friends also believed that I can easily dash them 500k or there about

As for telling his wife, the chances is above 80% so as I said before mind your business

That's it o.

Once he tells his wife everything don cast o

Nonexisting1:
Brother, I know you want to help a fellow brother but sometimes, the best way way to help a thirsty person is to allow him need water by himself and he will when the thirst becomes unbearable for him. Just like your instincts gives you hints, his own is also doing the same but he doesn't know how to balance his emotions yet. Don't mind those telling you otherwise, a child borrows traits from both parents no matter how little. If that woman's ex shows up now, that's when you will know that the child does not resemble only his mother in entirety, that he also got some traits from someone else. We have normalized paternity fraud so much in this country that the abnormal has become the normal even when biology says otherwise. For now, let the sleeping dog lie until daybreak.

My brother, you know what's up!!!

The thing is I don't know the wife if not I could have checked her exes.

If I even want to be sure before hinting my friend I would take a background search for her exes to see, but who get that kind time.

The easiest way is DNA straight up.

As it is now if he says he wants to do DNA for his second child I would just laugh and even place a bet that the boy is his because of the the character and physical resemblance.

Only me know watin I observe wey dey trouble me like this.

Me wey no like dey put mouth for relationship matter at all.