Saddam, saddam, saddam

how many times did i call you.

You are supposed to be dead to the best of my knowledge

Bros, i dey feel u. but one thing is that you have to remove your mind from those things you did for her. i believe you are hurt not only because of your love for her but the things you went through for her sake.
If you stay like this for 200 years, you will remain hurt.

I would advice you to fine another girl better than her in all angle and take her as a close friend. don't jump into a relationship with her but take her as your close pal. Try to take her out as often as possible.

It will not take you more than one month to remove your mind from your ex.

WHT IS THE MEANING OF THT ""I DONT LOVE U ENUFF TO MARRY U, I REALLY DO NOT LIKE THE SOUND OF THAT STATEMENT,EVRY RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT LEAD TO MARRIAGE BUT I BELIEVE IF U ARE DATING SOMEONE, THE PERSON SHD FIT INTO WHT U WANT FOR URSELF IN FUTURE, SO WHY DATE SOMEONE U CANNOT MARRY, TO ME ITS BULLSHIT, BREAK UP THEN

she has said it all. of what use is it to waste your time to date someone who is not your type of man or woman.

to convience a chain smoker to stop is easier said than done. that a guy stops smoking for 1 year means, he temporaly stopped smoking. The effect in the brain is just like the effect of cok and it takes years to goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

say what ever you wish, but only a few can totaly quit smoking. from experience though.
the urge come and go due to stress and co.

Or do you want to tell me that you will erase stress in a man's life, hellllll noooooooooooooooooooooo.

Have had one whom i knew was inlove with me but will personally not gonna marry a smoker.

Bros, my girlfriend has being in such a situation and sincerely speaking you are in a big problem. One thing you must know about such people is that, they don't like third party is such a situation.

Don't disclose such a silly act to many people. she will find it more difficult to forgive you.

1. she can only forgive you when you turn to a new leave. come clean in all angle , from late night and the rest.

2. Always tell her that you are sorry at every slight opportunity , tell her that even though you felt for such temptation, that with God and her support you will not fall back to hurt her again.

3. when she opens up, tell her where you need her support. if you are not getting enough from her, tell her. a wife like yours will listen to your cry when you come clean.

but bros, you mess up big time but plz be watchful less you are tempted again. try to go for prayer with her if not everyday , atleast sometimes. That will convience her that you are sorry and ready to change.

peace be with you.

You can love someone yet you don't want to marry her because you are not compatibile.
Mind you that there are more to (compatibility) than the minus in the person. ( what surround him or her)
Often very tough decision unless you remove love out of the contest and apply sound reasoning.

SO DON'T LET LOVE TAKE OVER YOUR SOUND REASONING.

Yes i agree with you poster.

And

love is also not love unless you forgive the unforgivable.

Guy, in my opinion, I would advice you to deal with those points that put fear in you.  First take your mum and friends out of the point and reflect on your fear.

1. You can testify how good the lady is as a wife material TO YOU. Good
2. Do you truely love her of who she is, i mean compatibility side of relationship?
3. Are you really ready to deal will ANYTHING that comes up with the kids. Onlike welcoming the father into your house when her comes for his child.
Bear in mind that what ever the case may be, your wife to be will always have him deep in herself as the father of her child.
Emotionally ,you may like it, you may not but iron this out first and don't use only love to conclude because there is more to marriage.

The lady seems to be nice from what you just said, but this point is strong enough to tear you guys apart. Iron it out first b/4 any other thing.
mum and friends can be handled when your heart is free from fear.

The moment that fear is gone, then you will know if you will marry her or not. No advice can convience you unless the fear is removed. bUt don't act with fear regardless of what sort of emotional love or pity.
peace.

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Poster, your case will be more complicated if you`ve slept with all ladies. An xeperienced elder in a church once said anyone who sleeps with anyone has a bond with that person and if you go to a true prophet/pastor to present this type of case, he`ll tell you all three women are your wives. Your case seems pathetic. However, you need to understand that people come into our lives for different purposes. All three ladies seems to be in your life through circumstances. I suggest you pray seriously and be bold enuf to ¸take a stand and face the consquences if any. Best of luck.

@Breathless:::: You just said it all if he is to look at the problem biblically (spiritually).

@iz2much:::::: I do agree with you in the sence that, a lady with ssce can be cleaned up with time if she has all the qualities he needs in a wife. Mind you that her level of education is most likely the cause of those little things, you may dim difficult.
If i were in your shoe, i will first convience her to go back to school b4 marriage or after marriage.

note it well that you must loos something to get something in a situation like this, but look at what will bring joy to your life in a long term. MAke your choice quick and face the conciquencess of those that you will not marry,

peace.

parents should be loved and cared for, not to be insulted. guy if this is true, you will need to work very hard for him to forgive you and set you free in his heart. if not you will surely feel that man now or in your old age.

my Advice will be to apologize, repent and confess your evil deed, invite preast to plead on your behalf till he sincerely forgives you.

mrbrown, sorry your advice is not welcomed and moreover no one was disciding for him. i asked for a constructive advice from honest and matured guys b/c he asked my openion, that he is confused on some points that i highlighted on the post . i agree you will tell your brother to marry one whom he is 8years younger.

constructive advice should be, to tell your brother the fact behind love and sound reasoning. these are the plus and the min, so choose.


you are real mmaaaaaaaaaaa

mybrown or what ever you are called. someone like you cannot give someone a constructive advice. if he was to be your brother, would you give him this sort of childish piece of advice.

i just put what he complained about, with his points on the web asking for other people's advice for him. point of correction, i never said that she is a bad girl. keep you cheap advice in your pocket mr whatever you are called.

he said she is not loaded.

@ ITgurlie ;;;;;;;;;;; thanks

the guy has not left her.

i don't know if she is loaded my guy, need you matured advice to support this guy.

She said that she love him but he first said that he will not marry her and that got her upset.

I put it to her that if she truely loved him, jumping onto another guy that she never even meet but only on phone conversation was too poor. According to her, the new guy said he was looking for a wife.

Does she worth it if her mind can be flip by any guy even though I see her as a nice person?
I personally expect one who truely love you to ask you to come and see her parents, if you wanted to marry her. i adviced the guy to talk to her again, if he really want to marry her and if she prefers the new guy then he should watch out.

@UCHE777: You have just said it all. You are really a very intelligent person

what will you tell your brother if he says he want to marry a lady he is 8 years younger than she is, with kids from different men? Regardless of loving each other,
1. would that be a wise decision in long term process. His fear is does she realy love him. I adviced him to tell her that he will not marry her so that he will know if her love is real or just on marriage stand. he did and one week back from tavel, she told her that another guy is asking her hand in marriage. he told her that that is nice and a week later my guy told her, he want to marry her. she told him that she is already talking with another for 3 week over getting married and the new guy is even pleading for her to accept his proposals.

2. do you think that she really love this guy in the first place.

peace

1. His fear was only the age difference and effect in long term.
2. If she really love him. sure she is a nice lady but no one can say who a man or a woman is when interest is on marriage.
I still believe that if she truely loved him, jumping onto another guy that she never even meet but only on phone conversation was too poor. According to her, the guy said he was looking for a wife.

Does she worth a wife to be if her mind can be flip by any guy? Can the age gap affect them in long term.
I personally expected one who truely love you to ask you to come and see her parents, if he wanted to marry her. So after telling her that he want to marry and she prefer the guy she was talking with on phone, i suggest the guy should watch out.

Thanks guy

Plz ladies, would you advice a friend or a brother 32 to marry a lady 39 /40 years old with kids from different men? Regardless of loving each other, would that be a wise decision in long term process. I told him to push her away by telling her that you will not marry her so that he will know if her love is real or just on marriage stand. he did and one week back from tavel, she told her that another guy is asking her hand in marriage. he told her that that is nice and a week later my guy told her, he want to marry her. she told him that she is already talking with another for 3 week over getting married and the guy is pleading for her to accept his proposals. do you think that she really love my guy and was my advice wise, plz elaborate on plus and min. peace

Mr, You need to take note that the emotional feelings attached to love at the early stage will dim, when age issue will come in.
When that time comes, you would love to see her as your wife and not you being seen as her boy.
It will be wise and in your own interest to marry a lady a bit your than you are.

Dating : sure you can date anyone or mama anyone of all age ,size and colour.
cheers

Even if he has a sincere intension towards you, he should have asked you to ask your guy, his intention, either marriage or bf of a thing.Any guy that knows that u are in a relationship without asking you to first verify the intension of your guy towards you will hurt you sooner than later.

Why not ask him if he was in your guy's shoes how would he feel, Good question, ??//