It is the beginning of an end. It is like we don't have government in Nigeria. How could it happen - someone from Sokoto will come to my father's land, destroy my means of livelihood, kill and kidnap my kids and rape my wife! It is either something is done quickly about this issue or we go our separate way.

I understand Bubu's wife is away in London. This begins to tell me that is Bubu real. The wife doesn't want to live with a stranger! Please let us divide this thing and each region go its own way. We are watching and waiting - war is coming.

Where is the chest? Ask Ronke Oshodi Oke!

Have you sat her down and discuss the issue with her? Women are emotional about everything, and you need to handle them emotionally.

Say darling (after a round of emotion?) can we discuss something - I need you to help me take care of these petty petty stuffs so I can start saving for our kids.

Or try this, send some money to her mom or siblings one month and see her attitude change. You guys of nowadays are stingy and that is what women hate most. No matter the amount a woman has, she still wants something from you just to show that you care for her.

Hello My friend, this is my point of view:

You have a very good wife
N25 k is NOT enough to take care of 5 people

Your problem is that you are NOT open, you are "forming" - a boss and secretive.
Show her your whole salary and ask her for advice on on how to spend it.

Do this and thank me later.

I had a problem like that before and the above was what I did and my wife went to her family to get money to augment our income until thing got better.

Two things here: Bokoharam tormenting them in the north are the Southerners? So, Southern politicians came to North, recruited Northerners to be killing Northerners! Do these people have brain al all? How did we get here?

Secondly, the Southerners bought Ak-47 for Fulani to be used in killing Southerners? What is wrong with these brainless people? Whether anyone likes it or not, power must rotate to the South.

As a good man, you first of all meet your in-law to discuss the issue, then involve your family (Not your brother) to discuss with your inlaw if you really love the girl, then if all these failed, then you have all rights to call off the wedding.