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A cliche says 'We all have some form of bad (emotions) within us'.


I wish they were all good instead, bad is damn EVIL

MizMyColi:

I'm about to derail this thread.
Please bear with me, it's just one post --- hopefully.


BabyMamas.......
You see why Chubhie's post hit me where it did?

I remember, not too long ago, I felt this surge of compassion for people in this category.
I thought to write about them, and possibly seek a successful single mum's (I prefer that please) [A teenage or young adult one.] take and then craft a wholistic message from that.

But I became scared of how people'd perceive me and dropped that idea.
I somehow convinced myself it wasn't worth it.
Now I'm back on the same matter.

I dropped that idea at a time when I came under attack both online and offline.
I was very very very emotionally unhealthy at the time.
Toxicness everywhere!!!!!!!

But I'm in a better place now.
I hope the cosmos helps me gather my thoughts on the matter again and talk about it with the same passion I had back then.

So yes, thanks dear.
I am, inspired.

but thread has already been derailed with our talk on babymama strictly whereas the op was asking a question on the Difference between "baby mama" and "single parent", apologies OP (Tokiniofficial), we shall take our leave now after this post


Oh dear! Sorry you had to go through all that, damn! but am superglad, superglad the pain made you a better being We'l get there, a step at a time - being more better, grounded in knowledge and wisdom, and understanding of both ourselves and people than our former self did. Not an easy feat to pass thru but surely worth the pain all the way.

According to maslow hierachy of need (which you know of), its our utmost desire and wish to be loved by all and not be found wanting or even when found wanting, be corrected in/with love but in reality, its ineveitable dear and so for the sanity of our minds, spirit and soul, we have to learn to accept some things we can't change.
So bae, go ahead and do your thing, Be your own damn motivation. You don't need a fanclub to achieve your purpose in life, you ONLY need YOU first and then people who believe in your vision no matter how few they are.

We are all a work in progress!

And to add in your research, talk to more single mums as you can, one is too small a number to draw a wholistic conclusion on, contrary views will definitely arise, we shall read, learn, advice and take corrections where need be. All the best bae and you are most welcome anytime

MizMyColi:
*screeches into thread*
*grasping for breath*

Phew Phew!

Luxanne Dear, I'm here
Please inspire me.

LoL

You need to talk about this growing trend bae, it concerns us greatly. We need to know the minds of this babymamas, what makes them become this way and then proffer a way out, an alternative worthy choice. And most importantly, we also need to educate our younger females about this growing trend (which to me is gaining grounds by the day) they need to be enlightened and guarded in their relationship path.

Now how about that for an inspiration coli

akinsadeez:
But why is it that only the woman faces the opprobrium in cases like this? For every baby mama there is a Babypapa. Why can't we address babypapas with the same disdain? Flavor has a baby mama but says he is still single and searching.... people were quick to criticize d babymama without anything being said about Flavor himself. It takes two to make a baby doesn't it?
I think the focus should be more on the men. If men become more responsible the incidence of babymamarism will reduce. Don't impregnate a lady if you are not ready to wife her, simple.

Because these women aint coerced or forced to become babymamas, they willingly gave themselves in to that idea and maybe to some, it just happened and they found themselves pregnant and the guy not willing to commit and they not willing to abort.

*modified*

You'l also agree with me that its not as easy for a lady with a child to get married to another man (that is, if she wants to) as it is for the guys to, hence women needs to be cautious on the relationship path they choose and bear the consequences likewise.

Some men akin are already addicted with this idea - they'l rather they have babymamas than become committed to a woman with all the burdens involve (so they say) and sadly, some women key in to this idea too. If it takes two to make a baby, it should also take two to stop this trend. But the question now is, Do We Want This Trend Terminated?

akinsadeez:
Why would feminists kick against it? 'Babymamaism' plays directly into what most of them express or want. Feminists advocate constantly for the emancipation of women even in marriages. They will argue that a woman should have d right to choose to have children without the constraints of being married or being in a man's house. Most feminists believe that the notion that a woman has to be married, be under a man's roof or take a man's name is wrong. Remember when Beyonce wanted to go on tour and named her tour 'the Mrs Carter tour'. She was severely criticized by some feminists who felt she was sending a wrong message to young girls by using her husband's name as d title of her tour.
Bro, if a woman is living alone, taking care of her child without necessarily depending on d man, she is d poster child of feminism.

Whoa! Take a chill pill akin

Yeah at the bolded. Good reason why the feminist won't take this up cuz these baby mamas aint forced to become one, they all loved the idea and decided on their own volition to be called babymamas, Freedom Of Choice! Eish!

ZedX6:
It's a popularity stunt that lasts only a few years. . . They do it for money and fame. You know something about babies? After a while, they aren't so cute anymore. That's when reality bites. . . No man really wants a lady who is someone else's toy or is someone's else's babymama or has been some babymama somewhere, unless it's just for sex.

I wonder why the dumbass feminists aren't kicking against this trend. They are more concerned about equality with men. . . Kmt

All for the money and fame -VANITY. Couldn't agree less.

But this fight is not a fight for the feminist alone. This degrading trend concerns all, male and female alike - we've got sisters, nieces and cousins who are females and we will one day grow our own daughters. If the feminist aint doing nada about this maybe because this issue hasn't been brought to their awareness, it doesn't also mean we should be quiet as well.

Ok lemme ask you this, have you done or written some awareness talk on ur social accounts about this growing trend? If you haven't, then am sorry to say you also like the feminist doing nothing to curb this trend, we are all guilty.

Would call on a friend to write something about this on her blog, should be a good start.

Mizmycoli dear, I've got an interesting topic for your blog on here, holler!

ZedX6:
The term babymama has got to the the most _stupid and degrading word ever invented. More foolish are the ladies who wear such badge with pride.

Dumbass, a man finds you attractive enough to sleep with, you father his child, but he doesn't fancy putting a ring on it and making you his wife? What are you? A FOOL!

You'll be _stupidly grinning when you're called "olamides babymama" for instance, and not his wife? It may sound fun now, but when you have growing past the age of stupidity, you are bound to regret your foolish actions.

Attach more respect to yourself! You weren't created to be anyone's cum bucket. . . I have no respect for babymamas and randy babydadas - they are all fools.

Thank you, you've spoken indeed well.

Was thinking about this term some days ago trying to fathom why it got embraced in Nigeria and couldn't come with any good reason, its sad really and more sad is the fact that these baby mamas are all cuties with loads of men drooling over them, how they choose to be a baby mama instead beats my imagination. SMH!

This is frigging hilarious, my ribs




;DROTFL





Thanks Akinsadeez for sharing

Joshuadon:
of course? But couldnt find the appropriate meaning

Oh! That's because that word (LIQUIDIFY) does not exist - not an English word, just checked.

You sure you not looking for 'LIQUI(E)FY' instead? Which means 'Melt'?

MizMyColi:
yeeahhh
this web page didn't render it well sef

So cute from here

Lol. Nah, fault was from me.

*edited*

MizMyColi:

(muah)



LOL. This is cool

Chubhie:
You may have to device means of shielding YOU from toxic people. You are gifted so never allow room to think otherwise. I've grown to appreciate the fact that nothing worthwhile comes without equal opposing forces. Your ability to take all they throw and still stand gallantly in living your truths makes you a better human. You will pass through fire but the good news is that you will always come out refined and a more balanced individual. There's a universal that says when you believe a truth you shall be presented with an opportunity to prove it and it is only when you chicken out that you will be seen as a pretender in the cosmic realm. Your ability to hold a tentative view on being on a wrong path shows you've allowed room for growth. I'm impressed. Never be bullied to conform with stuffs that don't resonate with your true heart desires. You are stronger than you know. Above all, you are never alone. There are legions of you out there consciously seek them out.

Hmm. I love this comment. Thanks for sharing

MizMyColi:
oukei Sweey
In other words, you'd like for me to pen down my story. I cast and bind all them laziness spirits

I - Can - Do - It!!!

Oops! Pele my love.
That was me pep-talking my self

I figure it's long overdue.
I've procrastinated enough

LoL.

Its aii dear. Am damn sure you'l overcome that weakness and get to work on your story

Morning and do have a fantastic day, much love

Specialist900:
we won't mind 10% o

Good evening house

MizMyColi:
*Dancing to Godwin by The Mavins*


Lmao @Christian Science.
I only know of Christian Religio-Relationship.

For what it's worth, going by world standards, I'm still pretty much a Christian; Turned Upside Down

Coli, the gospel you preach. I'l need to read more on how you got to this point of your life so I can understand you berra and ask questions.

Tag me when that thread is created, looking forward to it

bangleslover:
Thanks everyone for welcoming me back
luxanne love the name huh? don't want to derail too much before madam wendy go cut off our heads

tired of looking at this pic please verdict biko

LoL...

Loved bluelover more

Nimen:
Luxanne says that kini is small? Wait till it stands to kill...

OMG Nimen, when and where did I say this one now? If it were small, would it be protruding thru the pant? I only said guys who love to wear fitted pant should consider the size of their kini before they do to avoid looking gayish

Urmm... On M.I i think his suit is a lil bigger than he is a few more inches and it'll pass as a parachute, apart from that i see no problem with the colour blending, if you've been in men's fashion for the past year you'll know that suit is in vogue, wanted to sow it last year till my tailor called "aha ego" and i ran away.
His pose is not that bad, i don't think its the photographer's fault, he was feigning surprise, there was another picture without the pose but it wasn't full.
His accessories nko? You see that gold ring? And the glasses too the bangles nko? Mehn that could've cost some shid
His milk shirt and chinos (believe its chinos not plain trousers but plain trousers match the jacket though) blended o jare.
And those incredible shoes :oSOMEONE GET ME THAT FOR MY BIRTHDAY!!!

Okay summarily i think he killed the outfit... There's absolutely nothing wrong with it, i'm not a professional though but, there's nothing wrong with it.

Somebody get me the lady in black dress' number please... Somebody? Anybody?

U say MI's jacket is like a parachute? Did the jacket not hug his broad shoulders and chest? How fitted do u want the jacket to be on him considering his kinda physique - him not being the slim kind with packs? For his kinda physique, I'l say the jacket fits. And the accessories - watch, glasses, ring and bangle, they were worn appropriately, if I were to take one out, it would be the bangle but its still in sync with the outfit.

LMAO @ the bolded, guys will always be guys

AgapeCharis:
Morning ma'am. Trust you had a sweet sleep

Sure I did, thanks. Wishing you a great day too @ Specialist900 and you as well Agapecharis

jhydebaba:
same here dear! what's good?

I just dey jare trying to meet ends just like everbody else, baba God dey sha

Specialist900:
you're welcome. Hope your offline business went well

Yeah, splendidly well

AgapeCharis:
Good to have you back ma'am. You should be asleep by now..... Enjoy ya sleep

Thanks and good morning

AgapeCharis:
Same here ma'am. How are you?

Am fine sir

HFOG:
Runaway Queen...

LoL. Got busy over here feels good to be back

Specialist900:
where have you been madam. Thanks and same to you

Been busy ofline but am back


Good to see y'all always

Mehn, I loved that lupita's look @ the oscars. Perfecto

Y'all can't believe what happened to that dress afterwards. It got stolen in her hotel room cuz of the pearls on it only for the thief to later return the dress saying the pearls were fake, LoL. It was a huge scandal I tell u n its all over the net.



@MI's pix, I think his pic was taken while in motion - seeing his open mouth and hand movement, seems like he was rapping when the shot was taken, photgrapher's mishap.
Plus I see nothing wrong with the blue jacket or with any of his outfit, he seems cool to me.

bangleslover:
Yes bae, account was becoming something else

hope you didn't miss me much

would leave again, am just back for a short while

mehn i missed this place, been reading as guest. mehn i saw that guys pic with beads i was just wishing if i had my account heh i go finish that guy today or that lupita's pic or uti's pic.

Exactly two months ago i left nl and am back again. feels good for now, if i don't get banned sha



Joy why are you asking for pic again? when we have one good one above us

LMAO! Good to have you back jare and stay away from trouble, LoL.

This ur username tho, from bluelover to bangleslover, hian!

onegig:
It's personal-you know choices. Some want to look smart and tailor mishaps happens. Also the way some love baggy jeans is the way some like tight fitted pants.

Well, they should consider the size of their thirdleg before opting for a fitted pant cuz this pic right here is friggin embarassing.

Nimen:
this should be W4 abi?
I have two chinos like that the tailor shaping it did a woeful job, they show off the kini big deal, my babe loves it, also it gives space, i can jump anything without worrying if my trouser has torn between.

* As for W4, said somewhere very dark people shouldn't wear black shades, am not sure that was a beach party he was going to, so no need for the shades.
* Open chest? When did it become a vogue for no singlet wearers like W4, oga we don't wanna see your shirt unbottoned if you don't have another piece of cloth inside.

* the pants are a recent vogue coming in, i pray thats not his errectionn **Mek he no fall hands oo**

* I don't think the shoes and the anklet are something a perfectly sound minded straight guy will put on, but its conspicous enough and also trademark girly.

My two cents sha

Ur babes love what? LMAO! Well, that's why she is ur babe. Indoors,u can be dressed like that just for her but outdoor, we no want see, LoL.

Lotta catching up to do, welldone Joywendy

Ideology AgapeCharis Specialist900 HFOG Odunharry Elantraceey BreezyRita.

Good evening and a Happy New Month to Y'all

Joshuadon:
Pls can some help me define LIQUIDIFY, and pls not the financial definition but the grammer definition

Hello, have u checked google? U should have various definitions there

akinsadeez:
I have the same complaint as Selena. Threads from this section hardly, hardly ever make front page. It just seems like there is no Mod for this board at all. Makes the section kinda dull. Some people don't even know that there is a forum Games section.

Hi

I understand ur concern but thing is, the mod got his hands full with lotta responsibilities he's handling on NL currently but one thing I can assure you is, if you call out his attention to a thread u'd love on frontpage, he'l respond to ur tag. So when next you see an interesting game thread in the section, just call his attention to it by tagging him (Obinoscopy) on the thread with ur comment

9icegee:

Hey

GatJokez:
Nooo... my job came to an end and have not been able to find a new one. Had nice interviews with one company, but they changed their mind. That kinda sad stuff

Yea, I have been reading news updates on the election situations. I didn't think postponing elections was possible and was surprised to read about it . I can imagine that everything is put on hold and how much anxiety people are feeling. I hope and pray things stay peaceful and will turn for the better. Politics are such a mess everywhere because politicians have their own agendas and seek for power.

How are you feeling about how these events are turning out? What do you hope for?

Aww I hope u get something soonest.


Its really cray over here, the election brouhaha but atleast somehow, the atmosphere now is lil bit relaxed and less tensed unlike in january wen d election was scheduled to hold in february, one could feel the charge of politicians and supporters alike then. So yeah in a way, I'l say the postponement also gave way to one or two positive changes as it did negative ones and most importantly for politicians to keep porting to the other side of the divide as long as it suits their quest, lol.

Well, my utmost wish and prayer is for the all the elections to be conducted credibly and successful, for peace to be sustained afterwards with no ethnicity or individual harbouring any iota of hate for the other cuz in all, this country belongs to us all - Let's Stay Together And Keep Her United!

jhydebaba:
choi!! longest time in here. i can see u Luxanne, how dey go dey go? shout to you all.

Azin ehn, e don reach like decades o well, good to see u n happy new years