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Duchexx:
You saw the red flags during courting but you ignored it. Just manage it like that.

BrutusOj:
She is definitely. People see red flags everywhere before going ahead to marry and then come to public domain to disturb people with complains. Return to his old threads and see how he technically deleted all his posts there to avoid people joining dots to slam him. It's either the stories are the usual fictions we read here or he never heed to danger signals while in relationship.

madone:
let me ask you thrde questions sir.
1. Does she disturb you about getting pregnant again.
2. Does she want you to release inside her and you dont.
I have seen a situation like this where the wife wants a child now now bit the husband was not ready
She displayed this kind of thing too. She doesnt want to have sex with her husband if he won't release inside her. So she did evwrything to avoid sex and romance saying it makes her empty if the man does not release inside her cos according to her the sperm makes women fresh. Since your wife is not rhe talking type maybe that is her issue tooo
The solution is in counselling dont detach from her it will only break her. And dont seek sex outside tou may end up regrettimg it cos many of rhese girla outside na portal them.be oo them.done use their glory and are not being used to spoil men destiny.
Yiu fit go carry one now and she will have her own wahala too

But again as a guy man are you sure she is not seeing someone else.

Sharpsharp00123:
bros

I perfectly understand what u are going through n as a married man this is exactly what is happening in my family now but it's my wife that is in your shoes n I am your wife shoes

We discussed these same issues last night n I can tell u for sure your wife is not cheating

Many people who keep telling u to divorce or that she's cheating arent married
Let me break it down for u

Hope it's not that u people are going through financial hardship that is taking a toll on her n making her less interested in other things?

Hope it's not that one of her family is down with terminal disease that keep bothering her mind?

Hope it's not that u complain about some of her weaknesses without doing it with love?

Hope it isn't that a communication barrier is broken?

Hope it's not that she discussed an important issue with u n u really don't count it?

I don't believe she's cheating though but I believe something is weighing her down psychologically

Probably a secret she's scared u might get to know later or she told u some lies along the line n she realised u will find out someday

See ehn some people are t cheating but once their heart is down

They need upliftment n they have to solve d problem to bring them back to life

Hope it's not that any of your family members are giving her tough time or she's going through hard time where u are staying

U need an heart to heart talk with her

I don't want to believe she's cheating

newcommer:
Do you do split bills 50/50 with your wife, LVStone?

Foodqueen:
U once told her, she smells.

Av she forgiven you

imustsaymymindo:
Is this the same person you married starving you sex?

Tokskob2008:
Since you have asked all the necessary questions and all her response showed that you ain't at fault just free her abeg. Your unnecessary attachment might be repulsing her so just let her be, when she nitice you hardly even look her side she will be the one to come over and ask you what's up that's if she hasn't been doing something extra outside.

Achigoxtech:
She's cheating on you. She doesn't love you again.

Marry a second wife.

MrBrownJay1:
separating from her emotionally is not the solution... finding the reason she is that way is the only way to go forward.

sounds to me like a woman who married a great man that she was not attracted to (nor love)

Efuaye:
Ladies avoid sex in marriage for many reasons. In her case, could it be that she doesn’t want to get pregnant especially if she hasn’t found the right contraceptive for herself
Since you already know about her many mood swings, try not to play the victim but show a lot of understanding by positioning yourself as a therapist to assist her get it out what her concerns really are.

Seun:
I will try to say something. Have you attended the SureHome Seminar?

immortalcrown:
I think I know the problem. But I can't say it here.

1Sharon:
Shower all you want, you still need to use deodorant. The hair too can be a source of odour

Legalese:
If it's from her vagina, it may be an infection; maybe toilet.

Take her to run a swab test and if anything is found, treat immediately.
You guys are married and if you cannot tell yourselves the truth and save each other from public embarassment, the ya'll are not ready.

Jewessgratitud3:
This is not a marital issue but hygiene so any body can contribute and give helpful tips of proper hygiene to tackle the issue..

One thing that could alter your skins pH and cause body odour suddenly is the kind of soap and cream you' start using.. if you use highly acidic soap or cream it will cause body odour so if she changed her soap and cream recently, it may be the cause. She may have to go back to normal mositurisng soap and cream.

If the above is not the case, and this only happens when she has not taken her bath, then she needs to add antiperspirants deodorant like roll-on to her body care routine. That way Even if she doesn't bathe in time, the antiperspirant will not allow her to sweat and therefore will remain fresh all day.

Most importantly, let her get a very good bathing soap like dove mositurisng soap and avoid any soap with acids.

Get sure or rexona roll-on they keep the armpit dry and fresh for days. The pink and cotton dry Blue Rexona smell very nice. .

Kobojunkie:
Bathing early has nothing to do with odour. In fact, in hospitals, adult patients are not required to have a bath everyday. Some only get baths twice a week. So, forget using her bathing culture against her.

Since she works from home, she probably wouldn't need more than a shower a day -- does not really matter what time of day she takes it. Additionally, making sure to wear clean clothes is another way to combat BO of most kinds. Using the right laundry detergent, knowing to combat mildew when it shows up, etc. all necessary. .

But more importantly,that crying leads me to believe that she may not be doing well emotionally, and emotional problems tend to lead to such issues. So, OP, can you describe --- not make excuses for -- your wife's emotional health? Is she happy (genuinely) or frustrated a lot of the times,maybe even anxious or does she seem to be more depressed and what not?

Ofcourse, all of this assumes the smell is in fact from BO problems and maybe even mildew issues.

Fahvvy:
"Babe...

I love you so much, you know that right?

Well, there's this thing I've noticed and I didn't know how to bring it up, because I didn't want to upset you...

But it's imperative I do so because I don't want it to be a wedge between - I sincerely hope you don't take this the wrong way...

There's this mild odour I've perceived around you. I don't know why and I can't explain the odour, but it's there and it's bad and so I'd like us to deal with it...

Which is why I bought this product (any beauty care product out there), so you and I will give this a try later this night, okay?"

The above is exactly what I would say to my wife if I was in your shoe ...

This way, you're not accusing her or insulting her that she's smelling, you're only stating your observations...

Secondly, you're providing a solution to the problem and not just leaving her to figure things out...

I believe any reasonable woman would appreciate this gesture ...

frozen70:
I think you have to let her know the truth about her hygiene and your observation

The smell could come from her ampite or panties

If she wears pants to sleep then drops of urine after night pee can be on the pants hence she should stop wearing pants to sleep and learn to use tissue after each we if the day

If she doesn't take her bath at night before sleeping, then her sweat during the say for stored in her ampit and that's part of where the odours are coming out from

Correct her in a polite manner and do so with high decorum

Very soon she may start irritating you at home and the affection will drop

Most people with body odour are not perceiving the odour they have and as such are not even aware

Let her feel bad but you have to achieve success

Stevenbright:
Make her bath daily and early.

How?

Lovely make it a duty to make sure you guys bathe together every morning before you go out to work. Do same in the evening before going to bed.

Also ask her if there is anyway you can help her in her work to reduce her workload. If it is not possible, you can some times find a way to stay around her while she works, gist with her, and occasionally take her out. All these can help increase her productivity, emotional balance and state to of hygiene.

Balablue64:
Na yoruba na so dem dey smell, op you better do something now before she go use smell kpai u, mandate her to every 30 mins bath and using roll on for now.

Shinjawestern:
Guess you will need a nose mask anytime you r home...

God bless the good people of Southsouth and Southwest

poshestmina:
Working remotely shouldn't be a reason to be unkempt,some remote workers I know dress up like they're going to an actual office to get into that "work mode"mental zone.


Get her new toiletries especially Men's Deodorant, Spray and all then talk to her about it again as calmly and sweet as you can and try to make her shower anytime you want to...

Hope you or someone has being assisting with some chores ?
I can't imagine her working small ,go wash plate ,work small ,go wash toilet .
You should help her do better.


Thanks for you submittion, in our family we don't have chores for any sex we both cook,clean and all, anything we can do we do so no one is on permanent routine but all must be done

kobabe:
One man food is another man poison. I'm married for 7 months now and I'm still praying for baby.