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spicyuzo:
It is heart-wrenching to know that the first thing that comes to the mind of someone who finds himself/herself close to an accident scene, or a mishap of any form is to start taking pictures and making videos.

Pictures and videos from the incident at the OtedolaBridge today penetrated all over social-media and news platforms just within a few hours, with different versions of reporting. This threw me into thoughts of how much we Nigerians have degenerated far away from humanity.

What has become of us fellow Nigerians?

Is it a clamour for popularity? Is it an appeal for likes and shares? Is there a bragging right or an award for live reporting from an accident scene? Or just maybe, is there a subtle innermost feeling of joy or satisfaction derived from reporting loss of live and properties directly as it is ongoing?
Please leave the reporting job to the press. Must you be a harbinger of bad news?

I ask you dear Sir or Madam Reporter, is there nothing else you can do to salvage the situation besides running live commentary?
What right do you have to take a video or a photo of people's lives and properties going up in flames?

Did you atleast even try to call the emergency and rescue authorities if that is the least you can do?
In fact, that phone which you are using for your live streaming news service, do you even have the hotlines or emergency numbers of the fire department, police, emergency search and rescue, ambulance service etc, stored on the phone?

What would have happened if most or all the cars travelling along the other lane had stopped, and brought out their car fire extinguishers. Wouldn't it have helped no matter how small, someone probably may have been saved, just one life atleast, or maybe even 1% of the fire may have been extinguished before the arrival of the fire fighters.

Let's now assume someone else called the emergency services, let's assume there is nothing you could do, atleast that is the deceit conviction you have given yourself, does this still justify you to start taking pictures?

You may ask, what then can I do?

Here is your answer.....Cry!!!!
Raise your voice and Cry!!!! Weep my dear brother and Sister.... Scream on top of your voice and weep until you run out of tears...

Weep because that cry you hear in the fire maybe the voice of the breadwinner of an entire family...

Cry because that cry in the fire may be the voice of the only graduate a family has ever produced, or it may be the voice of the only successful business man/woman who is the light of a family..

Scream because that smell of people burning in the fire maybe a group of students returning to their already awaiting family, or a spouse joyfully returning to the arms of his/her loved one after a stressful day.

Weep because while other people battle with maintenance of life quality, we are still battling with low live expectancy rates in Nigeria.

Cry because, just about anything, Anything is a threat to the life of a Nigerian.

Most of all, Hit your chest and weep for Nigeria...
Weep because most of the reasons why thousands of lives are lost in Nigeria, is not even a threat to the life of a stray animal in other countries..

Weep because the people we have entrusted to serve us, fix the potholes on our roads, provide us with alternative routes, provide us with basic amenities, ensure good town planning etc, are now the same people that will fly over our heads in helicopters and jets, while we burn and roast on the roads that are dilapidated and in utermost disaster.

Weep because while an entire force can be reshuffled and interogated for the loss of life of one citizen in some countries, we are conducting mass burials on daily basis here in Nigeria, and no one is held responsible for such impunities.

Fellow Nigerians, let it be clear to us that we are in no way better than those that lost their lives today or have lost their lives in situations like this in the past.
Let it be known to each and every one of us that we are in no way entitled to live even one minute longer than any of those people who lost their lives today.
No sane person goes out of his home with plans of dieing along the way, it is in no way by our power or our might that we are alive. It is strictly by the mercy of God that we are saved, let us therefore not take pleasure in taking pictures and videos from scenes, when people are in pains and anguish.

May the souls of those who lost their lives rest in the bossom of the lord, and may God grant the families the fortitude to bear the loss. Amen

We are humans, we are sensitive to the plight of fellow humans, we are different, We are Nigerians.
God save Nigeria!

you have nice idea, just that people of your kind sympathetically hide the evil of the goverment.

You need not to teach a man to cry, its a natural instinct so i do not buy this your course.

Do whatever nature dictates for you plus exposing the evils of this goverment for the world to see.

Tankers have been killing since 1900 talkless of container yet no stiff law enforced against the owners because it directly or indirectly feeds someone in goverment.

SELLAH

xxxtedyxxx:
useless write up.

I am sure you are surprised by the level of your sophisticated uselessness and foolishness.

I have never cursed here before, get this into your skull, may the faith of Leah befall you and your generation without solution.

Bokoharam who killed thousands of people repented and forgiven? and BIAFRANs were killed and locked up! What an hypocrite!

I supported Buhari with my money, time, resources and prayers independently. I am not a politician.

From today I decree that the blood of the killed will cry Against him and his cabinet if nothing will be about it.

May peace be far from all who take joy in this pain.

Dimples129:
This man is a blessing to the community

of course he is a bleasing to a community just that he is a blessing to the community of fools. There are tongues of men and that of angels. you can interprete that of men if you are fron the tribe and that of angels takes divine enablement. There is also difference between speaking in tongues and praying in tongues. If you want to know please contact me. Study your bible and stop listwning to a fool with only head knowledge of what the scripture says. "The letter killet but the spirit gives life"

gnss:
Court Marriage Hmmm! Na waooo ,Marry for Ikoyi Court today,Divorce for Igando Court ,Many are walking out of the Institution ,Many are enduring with deep regrets, many want to pull out but for the sake of there children they are still there while many are fed up and just wish the presiding Judge should separate them sharply .Court Marriage ,You are on your own oooo ,Once u enter ,u enter b DAT ,na Only God Go save u ,No wonder Ladies makes it compulsory these days for a man ...shine ur eyes before u enter that Prison...

Madam I would have liked your comment if its an encouragement. If you are directly frustrated or seing someone frustrated please dont make your frustration contagious. Stop stylishly discouraging young ones from getting married. Your situation or that persons situation that has made your heart negative can change. Contact me if you need counseling.

Antipob777:
Ekwerenmadu and Abaribe should be allowed in that retreat until they produce the corpse of the late Terorist leader Cownu.

Infact all legialatures from the south yeast should never be part of the retreat until they come out openly to say ipobs are terorist and order the military to deal with them like pigs.

My hatred for ipobs and there late leader cownu will keep growing on daily basis because they are enemies of the state.

Ndi Ara

Bros, I am not Igbo but I believe you didnt read what you wrote if you had done this you could have seen that you dont make sense.

Please visit where to get help.

NwaObinkita:
This Osibanjo loves to form serious
But that is just a subterfuge to his acute inferiority complex

Thesame thing your father suffered from before his miserable death.

Even you are struggling to be free from the same. I hope your linage can measure up to Prof's achievement.

#Badbelle....

theDEVILisHERE:
There is no "Southern Nigeria"

Such nonsensical idiotic idea is ment for one place and one place only, the TRASH can

Of course I know that the Devil does not think properly,its a reflection and I understand

LordAdam16:
The SS/SE is not stupid.

Whether Fayose likes let him declare Ekiti as part of Biafra or FFK insult Buhari as many times as he likes, we in the SS know once a Yoruba, always a Yoruba. It is a valuable trait, but one we would neither condone nor go against presently.

Our romance with SW PDP ends when they call for a united South. If the SW cannot bend for a united South call from the SS/SE, the SS/SE will not bend for a united South call from the SW.

It's nothing personal. It's just common sense.

-Lord

Brother,it doesn't matter who makes the call, if it's from SE/SS there is no problem,our vision should drive us which is Unsitting the Human-Animals hijacking the country as there property.

#GODBLESSSOUTHERNNIGERIA

I want to sincerely tell we southerners to join forces and fight this, let's forget our tribal differences and fight this monsters.
In unity we can crush this northern agenda.
If care isn't taken, they will militarily oppress the Acting President.
I speak prophetically,I see more humiliation come soon, Prof Osinbanjo knows this but will not publicly assert it.
let's throw away our Religion and political differences.
#GodblesssouthernNigeria

I want to sincerely tell we southerners to join forces and fight this, let's forget our tribal differences and fight this monsters.

In unity we can crush this northern agenda.

If care isn't taken, they will militarily oppress the Acting President.

I speak prophetically,I see more humiliation come soon, Prof Osinbanjo knows this but will not publicly assert it.

let's throw away our Religion and political differences.

#GodblesssouthernNigeria

1.My friend said this forum is wrong for this kind of advice they should go to spiritual gatherings for advice.
2.Christian relationship is different from any other kind therefore he shouldn't expect those things from the sister.

[quote author=olasmith10 post=52617045][/quote]Thanks Sir,

starrygal:
u said she is ur fiancee.y are u guys not planning ur wedding alredi.if both of u aint thrilled at d idea of spending d rest of ur life 2geda,den i dnt knw y u ar finding it hard to realize dt it may not work btw u too.

If she is ready today, I will get married tomorrow,the money to do that should not be a problem but she insists she finishes her school.

optimusmind:
stop telling her how you feel, put airing on her finger and see the magic.
And don't tempt devil.dont talk of sex or kiss her those things are for marriage

Thanks for your contribution but if you read my post very well I didn't in any part wrote that I want to kiss her. Relationship should be romantic; romantic doesn't equal sex man.

I was not forced into virginity, I decided to be a virgin till after my wedding, I am now 28 and I am not regretting doing that neither am I wanting to change my decision.

Thanks

Catalin:
Are you even sure she loves you?

And how do I know this?

Vikky014:
hello hv a hrt to hrt tlk wt her abt ur fears. as a girl she will understand dnt break up wt her pls if nt u will regret it.

I appreciate the hope you restored unto me, I have severally attempted to discuss this with her and anytime I start with something related she quickly beg her ways out of the discussion with the word. "Just be patient" after this she will tell me to change the topic.

or she keep quiet.

KINGwax007:
One thing abt shy girls is that they are very good in expressing themselves with their friends if you ever allow them..

These are wot u need to do...

1. Stop being serious

2. Laugh loudly in her company and make jokes

3. Compliments her when she wasn't expecting it. And dnt do it in a serious manner.

4. Don't ask her to express herself by force, instead, tease her on why she isn't.

5. Make sexual comments, whether she likes it or not, but before you start, make her understand that you dnt need sex until being wedded.

But I must tell you the truth...

She might so well get fuccked during service year...most of these girls get fascinated and lost with interesting guy. You better make yourself one before u lose her

Thanks Man!

Skelewu:


You want a born again girlfriend, yet you want her to kiss you and show you love? Are you for real? Is that how born again people behave?

If you are not comfortable with how your born again gf behaves, then simply dump her and find an experienced girl who will kiss you, hug you and prolly give you a blow jjob. It's either you have a born again gf or you don't, you can't eat your cake and have it.

You need to learn how to read and assimilate, I didn't say that I wanted kiss, I said we are virgins and we don't kiss jst to express the chastity in our relationship, for your information some Virgins romance all they do is not to do the real thing but that is hypocrisy. I need an advice not just a comment thanks.

ArinzeAlec:
Truth be told man, practically the only one making it all work. One thing about this typical love is whom ever opens eye first will dame the order less romantic especially its from her. Hide your feelings of expression and act like you careless. It might be crazy but she'd will blow it out and express it too.

Thanks Brother

RadicallyBlunt:
I really don't know bcus such women (won't call them girls) are difficult

You have to prepare for heartbreak sha any moment from now bcus shss not watering the rel from her own side with flavours that would make it last. Such girls would need to get exposed through some randy guys and would actually take time. The funny thing is after she gets exposed she won't want you again as the rel is boring (and she'll fail to remember she's d cause), she'll say you're not romantic...but you actually are.

At the end you would feel your time is wasted. So try to be serious with her coming up with romantic tips(not necessarily sex), if she refuse, start extending your tentacles to find a more understanding one. But keep her as a friend as she chose to be after several effort you made.

Thanks for your points, heartbreak is what I never planned for this is my first relationship since I was born. I never got into relationship till I got to final year in school.

RadicallyBlunt:
Bros no vex o. Me no sabi twist words.

You don lose this one already. Na only nysc go put asunder because there eye dey open and obviously you would become too boring suddenly.

So what do you have to say as an advice ?

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If a well Structured, massive and merciless LOOTING was not done 40,000 Graduates should be working by now and not at the mercy of SOMEBODY. Using Abu's money to buy Abu a plate of rice. #SOMEHOWFORUSINNAIJA#

GOD BLESS YOU IN JESUS NAME, your post is helpful,please keep it up.