Dumb topic. Look at all the 60yr old men with 20yr old girls. It's not illegal for an old man to marry a young woman.
In fact our own senator Yerima is married to a 13yr old girl and they refused to remove it from the Nigerian constitution. yet you are saying pedophiles have no rights.
In our society, men do what they like. they marry young girls and women. THey marry multiple women (Fela married 30 women in a day and it was legal) etc. It's a man's world.

Why should men have the rights to marry multiple women. esp 30 women in a day? Is that better than homosexuality? Why should men have the right to marry a woman that is young enough to be his daughter or granddaughter?
They say homosexuals have no right. Only those who control society have rights.
Even the poor have no rights. women have no rights. children have no rights.

instead of holding our leaders accountable. holding the old powerful men accountable. you are busy preying on the weakest in society. why not go after the powerful? because you are a coward.

who creates the rules? powerful men. these men do whatever they like. they have the rights. yet we common folks are fighting over the crumbs and tearing each other down.

pedophilia has existed and will continue to exist. the rich are doing it and we turn blind eye to it. Most rich men marry young girls old eough to be their daughters and granddaughters as wives. yet we burn the homosexual alive on the street. we are a nation of cowards.

Ojukwu a powerful man at age of almost 60 married 21 yr old Bianca and everyone celebrated. was he not a pedophile?

powerful men do whatever they want and nobody complain. let a poor woman, gay , child do the same and we burn them alive on the street for being a gay, a witch, a this , a that.
we are COWARDS. quick to persecute those we feel are less powerful than us.

beautiful couple. She's cute

frosbel: The African idea of submissiveness is when the wife/woman becomes a doormat and in some extreme cases a punching bag - fail !

A woman submits to a man who provides true leadership , love and protection for his family as a sign of respect but not because the man is some sort of demi-god.

A man who abuses his wife , beats her and cheats on her will be a difficult beast to submit to.

GBAM
And it is usually the beasts who make the loudest noise. If you hear a man talking frequently about submission then you should run far away.
Any man with true leadership qualities, responsible, loving and protecting will have absolutely no problems. In fact, there will be tons of women looking to 'submit' to him.
The rest are just looking for doormats and punching bags in the name of "submission"


lol@ the pic. Those churchwomen look like middle-aged to older women with kids and grandkids even. Usually when women reach that age, they are independent, fierce and powerful in their own right. It is their grown children who are submissive to them. lol
yes ma
I wish our African culture would cease to degrade womanhood in favor of girlhood or virginhood or submissionhood. Women are women. not girls. LOL children are submissive. Women are adults.

fresh_dude: Also, if love is a choice, is it possible to choose to love more than one person at a time? Or is it a rule/principle of love/marriage to be only capable of loving one person per time?

yes it is possible to choose to love more than one person at a time. Have you ever heard of something called polygamous marriage?
But if you're in a monogamous marriage (you made a vow to love one single person) yet you go on to love someone else outside, then that is immoral. Get a divorce from your wife first so that you do no break your vow. Otherwise, go and have a polygamous marriage where you are free to love multiple women.
Through its institutions (marriage), society may ban women from loving multiple men legally. because most societal rules are created by men. hence why a polygamous marriage is tolerable and polyandrous marriages are not in many countries. Heck gay marriages are not tolerated in many countries either. Marriage is just societal institutions and the rules are set by whoever is in power. ex. in China, each family can only have one child (one child policy) per family etc. all these are institutional rules set by those in power.

love does not equal marriage. so you using the phrase "love/marriage" and equating them is ridiculous.
love is an action. marriage is an institution.

ex. love is to marriage what knowledge is to academia.
just because you have a marriage certificate doesn't mean you love your wife. Just because you have a school certificate or diploma doesn't mean you are educated or knowledgeable and vice versa. You can cheat in your marriage or have kids outside just the same way you can cheat on your school exams. hence why getting a divorce certificate is a legal process where you have to prove that you or the other party broke the marriage vow (unless you are using a no-fault divorce that is mutually consented to) etc.
Institutions are needed for civilization to exist in society. Otherwise, we will all be living wildly like animals. living lustfully, having 10 kids by 10 different women etc (Sagamite for example belongs in a jungle with animals of his kind). society will ultimately cease to exist.

better face your studies and work hard instead of whining on a forum about dating girls.
when you get to your twenties and thirties, come back here to let us know if you are dating your agemate or you consider them "old cargo". hahahahah foolish boy.

"our girls" because they are your property? you own them? rubbish.

^ lol...

This whole 'debate' is somewhat senseless. Esp on the first page when a poster(coogar) said "career women" shouldn't get married.
what?? are we in the 1960s?? remembering those days when PhD used to stand for "Put Husband Down" when women were forced to choose between getting an education or getting married.(does anyone remember WEEK - Women Education End in the Kitchen).

Newsflash! This is 2013 for christsake. Anybody who lives abroad in a country like USA knows that career women are actually MORE likely to get married than the lower class or uneducated women who end up as baby mamas. If you look at who make up the middle class,it consists of two working parents. In fact, increasingly, women are the breadwinners (ie there is an increase in the number of families where women earn more than their husbands). Most men in developed world have wizened up to the simple fact that marriage is actually less burdensome when the wife has a career. That is unless the man is someone who still believes in the idea that women should be "submissive" rotflmao then in that case, such a man should forget about marriage unless he happens to be rolling in dollars to sustain a stay at home, "submissive" wife and family. I put submissive in quotation because technically you can't physically abuse her (to force her into submission) or deprive her. you might end up in jail or divorced. so you need to actually be financially secure as a male to marry a stay at home wife!! How many men are financially secure? Hence why having a woman to contribute is very helpful.
It's going to take Nigeria a few years or decades to catch up to this way of life but catch up,we will.

Coogar, I really don't know what lala-land you are living in. Even your posts on this page are just borderline ludicrous. Almost seems like you are posting rubbish just to amuse yourself in riling us up. Please stop it.

and loves and respects me as the superwoman-mother-wife-lady I am.

did you just call yourself a superwoman? rotflmao.
I have yet to see or hear of a superwoman who can't cross the street by herself and needs a man to hold her hand to cross the street.
That's the definition of a CHILD, not a superwoman. srry to break it down to you.
There are many women(those 21st century women you refer to) who prefer not to be treated like children. and want to be treated equally as grown adults!

I love how in your opening statement you put a disclaimer stating that you look "young and innocent." of course. child-like. Not every woman wants to be treated like a child.

- go and find a cocaine or drug addict and get her pregnant. If she gives birth, take her to court and you will gain full custody because she will be judged 'unfit' to be a mother.

- befriend a terminally ill patient.Maybe a woman with cancer or something like that. That way, you know that she will pass away soon after nursing etc.

-travel to a foreign country thousands of miles away and find a very poor woman to impregnate. Bribe her with money to take the baby away and leave the land. you are gone without a trace.


in all seriousness though,why do you think orphanages are so full? I wish there were more men out there willing to take care of their kids.

^
I'm actually not surprised. Now everything is clear
It's not my fault you didn't grow up in a stable family to see love shared between your parents or to experience and learn what love is. You really need to stop projecting your insecurities onto others. Granted, you have never and will never experience a lasting monogamous relationship.

Sagamite:
your deviant arsse should be shot!

I've checked your profile.You think all those naked pics and p[size=1pt].[/size]orn you were posting all over the forum will fly in naija?. Even if you lived in naija, you just might be shot dead in d street yourself for being a big PERVERT. Look who is talking about deviancy.
keep projecting your insecurities.

Bullying: A bully may project his/her own feelings of vulnerability onto the target(s) of the bullying activity. Despite the fact that a bully's typically denigrating activities are aimed at the bully's targets, the true source of such negativity is ultimately almost always found in the bully's own sense of personal insecurity and/ or vulnerability.[21] Such aggressive projections of displaced negative emotions can occur anywhere from the micro-level of interpersonal relationships, all the way up through to the macro-level of international politics, or even international armed conflict.[16]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

Those ppl that boo him are dumb. They should be happy he is taking commercial flight instead of private jet.
Trust me, that's the last time he will use commercial. He will go and buy private jet asap after that.

It must be annoying. you have two options:

-lose weight and hope your butt gets smaller.
- become more confident and if any guy come near u, give him a dirty slap. learn how to roll your eyes, hiss and swear. / carry pepper-spray in case of emergency.

ROSSIKE:

Shut up and stop defending the indefensible. It won't surprise me if you are one of these colonized, ignorant idiots who think light skin is superior to dark. As for Akon and wizkid, their behaviour just goes to show the type of useless parents they have who gave them no decent upbringing.

Yea her comment was a bit dumb but abeg take "colonization" out of this jare. This has nothing to do with colonization. 100% sexism and self-insecurities.
I can't stand when ppl blame oyinbo for all their problems.

The only solution is when Nigerian women start to become successful artistes and professionals in their own right. Then we will not rely on men to define our identity for us (ex. bleaching, weave epidemic etc) in that case, Tpiah's comments make perfect sense.

tpia@:
The dark skinned models should thank them and use the opportunity to go back to school and learn a profession.

100% CORRECT.
wizkid can choose who he wants in his video. The onus lays in black women's hands to stop buying wizkid music and thereby making the fool more popular than he deserves.

so are you a boko-haram member or not?

Mujah1deen:
We Muslims want to be ruled by the Quran and the Sharia. Period

right. but unfortunately for you, Nigeria is a secular state. albeit ruled by dumb corrupt politicians who don't understand logic.

Besides, technically, the sharia laws were created with bias and illogic by st.upid men that only care about stoning women and gays to death. ex. a muslim man typing in english should have his arms and feet cut off as an infidel. Why are you typing in a christian language if you are a muslim? shouldn't you be typing in arabic?

Mujah1deen:
That's your problem , if you think that your religion/Christianity is silly how does it affect Muslims? Besides the Bill against homosexuality in Nigeria has nothing to do with religion.
We Muslims want to be ruled by the Quran and the Sharia. Period

well, you just called it a sin.
if it has nothing to do with religion, then you should make an argument for why it should be illegal that means that you must prove that homosexuality encroaches upon your personal space and property.
law should be based on logic.not personal opinion or stupidity.

I think you are dumb. so should you be jailed for being dumb? No. Dumb people like you are human too. see that's logic. Now if you came and tried to harm me physically or harm my property, then that makes your act illegal and you therefore can be arrested by law. But your existence as a dumb person in and of itself is of no consequence to my being because I can choose to ignore you.
Maybe you should apply the same logic and life will be more fruitful for you.

Mujah1deen:
That's your problem , if you think that your religion/Christianity is silly how does it affect Muslims? Besides the Bill against homosexuality in Nigeria has nothing to do with religion.
We Muslims want to be ruled by the Quran and the Sharia. Period

well, you just called it a sin.
if it has nothing to do with religion, then you should make an argument for why it should be illegal that means that you must prove that homosexuality encroaches upon your personal space and property.
law should be based on logic.not personal opinion or stupidity.

I think you are dumb. so should you be jailed for being dumb? No. Dumb people like you are human too. see that's logic. Now if you came and tried to harm me physically or harm my property, then that makes your act illegal and you therefore can be arrested by law. But your existence as a dumb person in and of itself is of no consequence to by being because I can choose to ignore you.
Maybe you should do the same.

Mujah1deen: you are throwing useless and moronic conjectures homosexuality is a crime, we live in a free society and are free to criminalize whatever we want in our country, homosexuality is not a right get that in your thick skull .
If we must tolerate the animals, what of necrophilia? Zoophilia ? Etc

hahah you got me for a second, Sagamite. hahahaha I will not go down this lane with you.srry.

read previous posts for my answer on that. Enjoy your child bride. what a disgusting brute. you should be ashamed of yourself for r.aping a child in d name of Islam and having the effrontery to condemn homosexuality between two grown consenting adults.

Mujah1deen: we don't care Islam is here to stay , conquer and dominate. Trust me what a khafir thinks about Islam doesn't figure in the list of my concerns.
BTW Islam is the fastest growing religion in the world, how do you justify it ?

Your religion is your own personal opinion. Keep your personal opinion to yourself. Religion and state law should be separated. Basing societal laws off of koran or bible is stupid.
Separation of religion and state.
I am christian and I will not want laws to be based on the bible.Just as basing laws (sharia etc) on koran is just as medieval

Mujah1deen:
I like the word you used, they are not accepted can you people respect the majority? I thought we were in s democracy? You can always accommodate them in your USA aka Babylon

hahaha so if the majority does not accept a disabled child, the disabled child should be killed right?
it's called HUMAN RIGHTS.and human rights are respected. if majority of people hate blacks or asians, racism is still against the law.
I think you are confusing what democracy means.

yeah, same way you accommodate polygamy and old men marrying young women.

Mujah1deen: Allah forbid.
if they dare come out , I will personally slit their throats with my sword.

you make islam look like a barbaric religion. this is why there is islamophobia all over the world. you are giving islam a bad name.

Mujah1deen: organize dates/meeting with girls for his son , register him for different sports and others activities. Check his entourage or pseudo friends they are probably influencing him, embrace Islam and controlling his T.v programs are definitively better advices and solutions for his mental problem/sin

then clearly, you didn't read the advice.
if someone organize date/meeting with men for you.will that turn you gay? NO. you will feel disgusted.
that's how gay men feel about being with women.disgusting.


why not try to be gay for a year to see how easy it is to "convert" hahhaha
or maybe try to convert your daughter into a boy by buying her boy clothes. lol see if that will work.

Mujah1deen:

We don't recognize them as married .

they don't care what you think. The law recognizes them as married and that's all that matters.

Mujah1deen: second of voice can't you stop talking on the behalf of the less than 0,2% gays living in Nigeria? I bet there are gays who need you more in the USA

hahaha less than 0.2% LOL rotflmao.
Just because they pretend to be straight in public, you think everyone around you must be straight. If gay people were accepted in Nigeria. You may soon find out that at least one or two of your family members are secretly gay. what a pity for you.
they exist all around you. trust me. your own son or daughter may be gay. what then are you going to do if you find out? hahahahaha

Mujah1deen: gay marriages don't exist. Besides who will attend that pseudo marriage?

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20220057,00.html

Mujah1deen: As usual the useless western press could only post a pro gay advice.

lol
what do you expect her to say? give her advice on how to murder her son for being gay? hahahaha
you are confusing sharia north with america.

Mujah1deen: Nice epistle, however by weak I meant impotent.
Anyway I understand better, you have lesbian tendencies that's why you are still single .

If I had lesbian tendencies, I would have a girlfriend (and not a boyfriend). Besides, like I said, gay marriage is legal in my state so I could marry a woman if I were lesbian.I live in USA.

being single is nothing to be ashamed of anyway. just social pressure. I bet you beat your wife every night. poor woman.

Mujah1deen: Good parents.
Anyway which pseudo married woman spends her time defending gays ? Is your husband that weak ?

who told you I was married? Both me and my boyfriend are pro-gay rights. Yea "weak" or whatever you call it. I guess your defiintion of "strong" is men busy stoning women to death or burning people to show their "maleness" or beating each other up and committing violent crimes. no wonder the rest of the world find Africans to be barbaric. Always news of barbaric human violence coming out of Africa.
How are your Boko-haram murder spree activities going for you? I bet you r.ape your wife and daughters everyday to convince yourself that you are a man.what a disgusting prick.

a good 'parent' who forgot her son's birthday for three years and cares more about being "made fun of" by her friends than she cares about her son. LOL. poor children. this is the same kind of parent who will put her child in garbage dump if she ever gave birth to a child with handicap or mental illnes. "my neighbors will make fun of me.what should I do" hahaha I always knew homophobia is just a symptom of insecurity and low self-esteem. herd mentality.

Nick Vujicic.A famous motivation speaker in USA.
born without limbs

GeneralJ:
Two differnt situations here, one person lost an arm, another one is spending money to be what God did not create it to be..
if it is beautiful to you go and get married to it, does not concern me, everyone with ehtier own opinion, let me be, my opinion is not bothering your life is it, i'm not going to try and change your opinion, so don't try and change mines.

I said "born without an arm"
don't try to twist my words. God creates children with birth defects. right?
Also ever heard of co-joined twins? If such were born in naija, they would have been killed and accused of being demons.
Nigeria,most religious place in d world, yet the most backward. Ignorance is NOT bliss.

like I said, I've personally met and interacted with transgendered people so I can understand them. you are a male. Imagine yourself born as a woman with breasts etc.but mentally, you are 100% male. It's a horrific reality caused by hormonal abnormalities at birth.

It no longer is "just an opinion" when it results in people being jailed,killed or persecuted. Everyone is free to their opinion but acting on your hatred towards people for being different is BARBARIC. Read the post. She was jailed for being transgendered. and you were supporting her persecution in your post.

^ *ignore botton for the boko-haram member above me*

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