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HI Y'all,

Can anyone help, tips, advice, contacts, property managers, that sort of thing, your post is most appreciated

Cheers!!

Mad, don't you think mild flirting could turn to something else tomorrow despite the trust today?

Yes, that is very possible. But until such a time, I don't lose any sleep over it. If anything gives me cause for concern, its his nightmare as much as it is mine.

Do you get my drift,

Yes, and so are woman. But society has succeeded in strangling a woman's natural instinct.
Men on the other hnd are having the time of their lives.

That is not to say that 95% of women don't cheat on their partners, its just, they are a bit more clever about it.

how serious are we talking,

are we talking serious as a heart attack, or serious as a stumped toe injury

And my conclusion, to each his own,
At the end of the day, I believe we follow our hearts. If push came to shove, we have no idea what we would do.
I have experienced this kind of episode in my life, and I did not stay, because it did not feel right anymore. Our time together was simply up.
My current spouse is naughty sometimes (no sleeping around mind, just mild flirting), but our love is strong, and there is complete trust.

We must always strive for the best. the biggest sin is living a mediocre life, borne of irrational fear. (my opinion, of course I may be wrong)

windywendy, I see we are on the same page.

radiant, my question, to be clear is this, what is wrong with being a "bastard"?

Secondly,why would you make yourself scarce?

I don't want to butt in. If it starts to bug me, I will say exactly what I think, which does not always go down well.

I wonder if you actually have any sister to think that way.

Yes, 5, and they all know not to get me involved in their domestics, cos I will tell them exactly what's on my mind, and a lot of times, the truth is hard to swallow.

Lastly, adapting the nonchalant mentality of this mordern world that a woman can have 3 or 4 kids from different men and not live with any at the end of the day is a whole mess up

Why?

6years?
Mate, what are you on?
Better question, what is your dad on?

On this point, I agree with Mystique.

But I also add,
"Single women come home see what's in the fridge and go to bed, Married women come home, see what's in bed and go to the fridge"
Quoted From a reputable source

Submit Pay Check for what na?

My sentiments exactly

lol, each time i pop in to read posts here, the conclusion is the same

everyone screaming they'd never submit their paychecks to their husbands is unmarried

everyone who is married finds that kind of sentiment strange

Am afraid you are mistaken;

everyone screaming they'd never submit their paychecks to their husbands is either unmarried or married

everyone who is married, eh, eh, I mean a slave,  finds that kind of sentiment strange

Either he submits his paycheck or he submits his paycheck. Those are the options,

Radiant,

You are completely pointless. Being weak or not, don't matter

your opinion and possibly valid!!!

The whole point here is that what the man has done doesn't warrant a divorce in return

The incident of the phone calls perhaps doesn't, but there are extenuating circumstances around this;

She doesn’t believe anything I’ve told her so far because I’ve lied to her several times in the past (usually about things that I consider minor), and then there was the porn she saw me looking at sometime ago, and me making phone calls to female friends and then deleting the call log so that she wouldn’t find out

We quarreled back and forth for weeks and I kept insisting that there was nothing wrong with what I was doing. She kept saying that if there was nothing wrong why was I doing all that behind her back? She asked me if I would be ok if she did the same thing and I told her NO

Now I don't know about you, but if there is no trust, there can't be any mariage.

If it was your sister, would you advice her to divorce her husband for doing such acts? You'll definitely do anything possible to secure her marriage instead of allow her wander the streets with a 'bastard' baby.!"

Am afraid you are wrong here on many counts:
1. If it was my sister, I would butt out and let her make her own decision, and be supportive either way, unless of course it got on my nerves, then I would make myself scarce.

2. This woman will not wander the streets, from the looks of things, she "keeps" her husband, so I think you will find that her husband is the one that will wander the streets.

3. 'bastard baby' I mean really, what century do you live in. Just so you know Leonardo Da Vinci, one of the greatest minds of our times was a so called bastard, so what is you point?

Now take that and smoke it!!!!!!!

"The above writer, you've made your point abi? We've dealt with worse people than you so I advice you go get a life"

You get a life!!!!
The truth is, evidence shows that he is a fool,
Natural course of event, he deserves his comeuppance,
Next: he learns his lesson and does not repeat the same mistakes.

Or you can be ignorant and talk a whole load of rubbish.

If I had his wife's number, I'd go and pick her up myself.

What are you going to do about it, eh? 

Also are you sure you are female,
Must be one of those weak females without cahonas, those ones that can be easily used and abused,

Mate, If ever there was a fool, you are the very definition.

Unfortunately, I don't suffer fools kindly. You don't deserve her, and you deserve to lose her.

But for the future, when you are wrong, admint it, say you are sorry it won't happen again, swallow your pide and keep your wife, or you can be an arrogant bastard and lose your wife, the choice is yours.