Oh! my baby. I feel your pain man. To say the truth BOY, you bleeped up BIG time. Happy to hear that the BIG ocean between you is closing up. I am so sure the friend she moved in with is a wonderful woman who holds secred the institution called marriage. She must have spoken with her real good.

Contrary to the opinion of a lot other women in da house, I admit what my guy did was bad but not enough to warrant her seeking or even thinking of seeking a divorce. I however she did all that to shake Mr. Chatter to his roots (laughs). If my man thinks me this wonderful as he has said here, his crime wouldn't be enough for me to want to walk away. I want to believe though that there is more to wanting a divorce than the poor husband knows.

In any case, "Bolarge" stop all communication with the lady in question. Her friendship cannot be more important than your marriage.

Good talk Anuli.But you still neva tell the man how him go get him wife back

Cheif Advisers!!

See a marriage counselor, maybe together with your wife.

u'v gotta admit ur errors and ask for forgiveness if u'll only stop ur bitchy attitude then beg.she';s got a heart and she's take u back(if u like make u no stop contact with that babe)na their your Bleep up dey)and i jst pray it's not a situation of wen a woman's fed up. all the best bro

Bros, it's only God can help you in this one, even though you have only stated your own side of the story; she can't just wake one day and decide she wants out of the marriage.  Something about you must have been eating deep into her fabric of the relationship, until there is no panacea left for her to soothe herself on. But whatever the case, don't die because of that.

Bolarge, You can't believe how happy I am for you. I sincerely pray for GOD to restore peace and understanding between you and your wife.
Continue to do your best and see that she comes back to you. Cheers bro

if you guys still sleep together in a house, then you have to be desperate about this. like 1:30am in the middle of the night, go to her room with only your boxer, lock up the door, wake her up and tell her she knows what you are about to say and tell her you are still going to say it. go on your knees no matter what she she say do not get annoyed. tell her you are very sorry and you wouldn't try such a thing again. if she want to walk out on you, stand up and tell her you've already locked up the door because is either she forgive you, kill you or none of you will go out of the room if she didn't forgive or kill you. tell her you have no life if she leave you, remind her of the good time and let her know she took an oat with you on the altar,if she tries to use your word against you,accept it and tell her all you ask for is death or one more chance. tell her if she doesn't stab you that means she still love you. she might slap you while begging remember you deserve it, so KEEP BEGGING beg her for like 2 hours. if she doesn't agree for two hour that means a plan B should kick in. stand up and tell her that is there another man out there she want to go give your child to or has she been looking for opportunity to get out of your life all these while. remind her that if she get married to another husband, your child life is at steak. tell her has she been planning to have different children for different father. ask her the reason why she can't forgive you and give you another chance. if she's calm, move close to her and look for tear wherever you are going to find one to come out of your face and ask her for just one more chance for the sake of your kid . if she say no start looking for another house and life but if she can let you kiss her that night , make sure you make that night a memorable one and put your self on ladies probation. LETS SEE HOW IT WORK

this really made me laugh. Very desperate move indeed.

@ topic
Its good your wife has decided to go to counselling with you. Best of luck on that.

WHAT ARE YOU PEOPLE SAYING

GOOD FOR YOU, right now i am pulling my bottom eye lids down and i am sticking my tongue out and i am also screaming NNNNNNNNNNTOOOOOGIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What the Bleep? You did all that shit and now you are here on naira land, weeping like a little biatch.

If you loved your wife, you would have told so many lies. If you loved her, you wouldnt have been chatting with yoru online DOPEMU girlfriend.

If you were so clean, you wouldnt need to delete call logs.

If you were on point, you wouldnt have another woman insult ya wife. Tell that girl that i said may thunda turn her upside down and fire her from the anus up. She is mad.

Okay now that i have unleashed my anger.

YOU MUST CHANGE. Beg her for one more chance, and let her know that you will make new amends. That you want to work it out.

Good luck!

people,

i must confess to u guys. this whole story is so annoying. y on earth will any woman leave her husband becos of text messages, fone calls and porn mags? does she not know that he reads them b4 now? and again even if u have time for ur husband, he will not look out. i am a woman and i believe that there is more to thai story. yes she did everything to get u where u are 2day but u are still a man. u still appreciate her alot as u rightly stated.

yes u ran into the arms of another woman even if u do niot want 2 state that clearly she should not take that as a yard stick to have u seperated she should. if it where here in nija u fit for ur husband but the mentality over there is so consuming that the women led the men.

i believe that u have learntfrom ur mistakes but still be a man in this.

quote me any were " does she not take calls too? even have male friends who she is close to? BELIEVE ME I AM A MOTHER N I SAY SHE IS UP TO SOMETHING. DONT JUST TAKE CARE , TAKE CHARGE . CHEERS.

Hey man i don't no wat to say. U r a married man yet u go and do somethin behind ur wifes back and u say der nothin wrong wid it, i don't get u, coz i would do exactly da same thing, shes already given u chances for thing that u av done and u still do it again. I'm speechless man u acted like teenage guys dis days. No offence to any1

Beautygyal:

Hey man i don't no what to say. U r a married man yet u go and do somethin behind your wifes back and u say der nothin wrong wid it, i don't get u, because i would do exactly da same thing, shes already given u chances for thing that u av done and u still do it again. I'm speechless man u acted like teenage guys this days. No offence to anyone

Awoof dey sweet now!abeg no blame the man jo!

Mummy Deby thanks for your reply. The simple truth has been spoken.

Beautygyal:

Hey man i don't no what to say. U r a married man yet u go and do somethin behind your wifes back and u say der nothin wrong wid it, i don't get u, because i would do exactly da same thing, shes already given u chances for thing that u av done and u still do it again. I'm speechless man u acted like teenage guys this days. No offence to anyone

Sorry to ask but how old are you? I'll continue my reply when you answer me.

Radiant:

Mummy Deby thanks for your reply. The simple truth has been spoken.

Hmmm, Radiant and mummy Deby na wah oh. I suggest you don't get ideas into this man's head oh. I know you're entitled to your own opinion, but did you read the part where this bolarge guy said his wife told him that she's "tired of him"? From my perspective, that statement is loaded. No one just gets tired of someone overnight, there must have been a lot of water that has passed under the bridge She's probably had it with him up to her eyeballs. If she's up to something like you imply, why would she even bother bringing him with her to the States? wouldn't that have been her perfect escape route? Anyway, I don't want to judge, but if you both give this guy the idea that his wife is up to something, then he might turn around and begin to accuse her of something, while the log is still in his eye. That will only make matters worse.

Bolarge55, I suggest you admit your misdeeds -- only you know all of the story behind your wife's actions and I believe you know her actions are justified that's why you're feeling the way you're feeling and doing all you can to get her back. So please continue on your quest to get her back and ensure that if she comes back, you give her a reason to stay -- by your actions of course I hope you've truly learned your lesson

ermmmm windywendy, I'm not siding the man but definitely don't support the wife either. I only agreed with the truth that was spoken. Women too, our own secret lives worse pass abeg. JAINSENSE!!!

Radiant:

ermmmm windywendy, I'm not siding the man but definitely don't support the wife either. I only agreed with the truth that was spoken. Women too, our own secret lives worse pass abeg. JAINSENSE!!!

That is y I love me some Radiant

hi radiant,
i just want to let u kow that age is nothing but a number and that sharing views has got nothing to do with my age. i am you n you are me (nija people)

my dearest wendy, i am not of the opinon that he did not wrong his wife, all am saying is that it is not enough to leave her KID without a live-in daddy common WHICH IS A VITAL PART WE ARE FORGETTING, she has to have feeling if not for any thing but for what they have always shared. we meet temptations daily and our ability to overcome them makes us strong and willing to try again. NOW WHERE IS HER WILL TO TRY IN MARRIAGE. she is tried of what she knows or what she does not know yet? within the space of mins peopla change and its a constant thing.

lets all live, love and live in love .

man be strong and beg here then be prayerful you neva know, A MIRACLE MAY HAPPEN . BE STRONG

@ radiant i'm 14. Why did u ask

cut of ur likle finger like the yakuza to let her know how sorry and pathetic you are.tell her you area worthless son of a terrorist LovePeddler,and ur a pig.wail and weep like you are being tormented by a thousand demons of infidelity.To be honest you had one of the best women in the world,intelligent,she even made up your resume for you,impressively,but you still preferred likle hoes you wanted to have a fling with.A woman without intellignece or class is nothing and besides these lot will always constitue a colosal nuisance to you and be a liability for life,but a woman who was totally sensitive to what you wanted in life and your career direction and could think for you,you treated unfairly.
Dude your suffer just start matey,enjoy and carry go.

Mummy Deby, I was asking beautygal her age not you. That's y I wrote it under her own message.

Beautygyal:

@ radiant i'm 14. Why did u ask

Oh ok. I thought as much you were a kid. I can't pounce on you but will let you grow and experience LIFE in it's full package. Cheers dear

@ radiant Oh ok i was expectin somethin rude, but thanks for ur comment sis.

Dang This is HARD!

Ask her 2 4give you! if she dsnt then MOVE on

Your wife wants to leave you for your continued insensitivity and for taking advantage of her kind nature.

Every one has expectations in a relationship, a set guide on how they want to be treated by their partner. But when their partner wrongs them and they forgive, they bend and compromise what they want. Your wife has been bending so much she has two choices; stay and let her back break or stand up and walk.

They say you never miss your water until the well runs dry; women will gladly give a man all he needs as long as he can do the same. You have failed at this. You would continuously do things that hurt your wife (regardless of whether she is conscious) so what on Earth makes you think that you deserve to be with her?

Your wife has learnt that her over-compromising makes her unhappy and she's not with a man who takes responsibility for his actions and tries to change. You even had the audacity to say that your marriage was great until recent times ie you starting being held accountable for your wrongs.

I've taken heed from this situation and I know that I will not take advantage of someone who loves me even if I can get away with it. I also will not be in your wife's position on being treated less than a Queen by a man I treat like a King.

I advice that you repent from your acts first before apologizing to your wife because sincerity is not difficult for a lady to notice.She knows alot better than you think she does about you and would know if you are sincere about your apologies when you do so.
The next Step is to admit that you are wrong,because unless you do that, its pretty obvious that you would repeat it again.Don't say its a mistake, admit that your action was wrong and let her know that your idealogy has changed about this issue.Marriage is for people with matured minds and age though a factor is not an emphasis.It seems like you disagree with your wife on alot of other issues,I'll advice that you take out time to re-examine and re-evaluate your relationship with your wife for the past five years and get to the bottom of what the REAL issue is. I don't think this issue alone is responsible for your wife's decision to leave you.
Ask her for forgiveness after reconciling THESE other areas of your life and then pray and hope for a change of heart from your wife.There is still time because its not over until its over. Don't give up on her yet.

damn did not know nl is now full of true life confessions

vokal_guy,

yup it is

_{Meanwhile you might want to reduce the size of your signature, i got banned once for my signature.}

Mate, If ever there was a fool, you are the very definition.

Unfortunately, I don't suffer fools kindly. You don't deserve her, and you deserve to lose her.

But for the future, when you are wrong, admint it, say you are sorry it won't happen again, swallow your pide and keep your wife, or you can be an arrogant bastard and lose your wife, the choice is yours.

The above writer, you've made ur point abi? We've dealt with worse people than you so I advice you go get a life.

"The above writer, you've made your point abi? We've dealt with worse people than you so I advice you go get a life"

You get a life!!!!
The truth is, evidence shows that he is a fool,
Natural course of event, he deserves his comeuppance,
Next: he learns his lesson and does not repeat the same mistakes.

Or you can be ignorant and talk a whole load of rubbish.

If I had his wife's number, I'd go and pick her up myself.

What are you going to do about it, eh? 

Also are you sure you are female,
Must be one of those weak females without cahonas, those ones that can be easily used and abused,

You are completely pointless. Being weak or not, don't matter.I am a woman of my own! The whole point here is that what the man has done doesn't warrant a divorce in return. There are worse incidents that occur in marriages and they still stand talkless of Chats and phone calls. If it was your sister, would you advice her to divorce her husband for doing such acts? You'll definitely do anything possible to secure her marriage instead of allow her wander the streets with a 'bastard' baby.

You said if you had the wife's number you'll go pick her up huh? Now tell me, will you marry her then? or have a share of pleasure with her and dump her.

If you think you can use and abuse me, why don't you give it a hit? Empty brain!!!

Na Wa O!Nairaland is turning into Israeli-Hizzbollah Warfare.Make una cool down now,abi no be we we again?