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Tasha7:
Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

KanwuliaExtra:


I don’t understand this jail matter o.
Never did. Just weird.
Anyway, stop brainwashing.
Not good for your cyber health.

KanwuliaExtra:
Enough sisters to do what?

KanwuliaExtra:
Hell hath no fury. . . . . Than a fellow woman scorned!

Lord help that bytch!

KanwuliaExtra:
My motivation for this thread is “that thread”!

When other WOMEN especially spend time gossiping about others and putting them down to make themselves feel better.

I keep burning satanic candles all over their lives!

Mariangeles:
For the sake of curiosity and that your laugh, I must
Make I for no lost...

KanwuliaExtra:
Well, we all learn.

There are certain IDs I wlll NEVER engage on or off NL. I have learned they serve no purpose but rife and strife! Unless they approach me FIRST. Or, they use other “fake ID” registered within the past 5 years.

She will learn also.

Las las , she go dey arrrrite!
Say a big hello. Just when I was beginning to “decide” her.

Mariangeles:
Noted. Thanks.

KanwuliaExtra:
Whaaaaaaat?
Who imprisoned your TWINNY?

For WHAT?

Jessicafyne:
What?!! Where were you guys during the colorblock trend in the 2010s? It was everywhere!!

Arthur2021:
OK ...sorry for my assumption.

We are just learning everyday. Keep speaking your truth,there are thousands if readers that learn from it

Arthur2021:
so why don't you accuse ladies that open threads like "ladies,dont date broke men" or "dont keep a man baby if he doesn't marry you" an unsolicited advise?

cococandy:
Thank you

@bold, much hasn’t changed. Instead we usually have 12 hour days. Rarely do we have have 16 hour days. But continuous side education and holding a family together (for some of us) is still part of it . Respect to Mary Mahoney. Respect to merahki. Respect to me . Respect to all of us

Arthur2021:
OK...if woke women can advise other women to be woke,why can't traditional women have the right to advise other women to be traditional?

What do you define as telling? Giving advise based on experience and ones own school of thought or forcing and belittling others to do heed to your ways

cococandy:
Exactly.
Like this guy is doing

gowonmaharajah:

most of the ladies in support of the op are probably evening newspapers with no hope of getting a man, or lesbians.

hahaha

sisisioge:
Somehow, as always, we have successfully missed the point about this thread and turned it to a gender war. I think what OP is just trying to say is that women(which is her focus, otherwise, she would have included several single men's profiles as well) should be free to explore the option of singlehood without societal stigmatization. If being married makes you happy, go for it. If staying single makes you happy, go for it. You choice shouldn't stop you from procreating, loving or having a fulfilled life. It's that simple.

While people like Bukatyne should be allowed her views without ridicule(sebi na her views), people like the OP should be allowed theirs too. As their are countless failed/unhappy marriages, there would be several failed/unhappy singlehood too...may we just choose right. EOD.

cococandy:
Because it doesn’t happen. I mean I’m not everywhere on Nairaland so maybe in some obscure section where I don’t frequent, it happens. So I can’t swear it basically.

But some posters are trying to categorize anti-misogyny posts as anti-marriage posts. Two separate things. Unless there’s an underlying message that misogyny is needed for a marriage to be a good and successful one.

cococandy:
women on this forum belittle others for being married? Are you confusing this for posts that push against women who encourage misogyny and practices that benefit men to the detriment of women?
If you find one post that says women who choose to get married are this or that (insert something negative) I’ll be the first to the tell the poster to desist.
However it is not the same as when a post that encourages misogyny is pushed against. (No reference to anyone in particular.)

Arthur2021:
you were banned? Why?

I am not against anyone speaking up against norms. There will always be dissatisfaction in life with a practise or norm,that is why we have movements coming up everyday...its not wrong to fight for a cause(within the confines of the law)

My point is that some people depend on society approval before acting.

Why die in a marriage you are a punching bag instead of moving out because of norm?work on your self confidence!

mrblessed:
It is not impossible but do have what it takes to be richer than Donald Trump? Your choice of President Trump is a giveaway, because he inherited his wealth from his late dad. Why not aspire to become our "local" Dangote? At least, there is an element of grass to grace entrepreneurial stint in his story. Again, your choice points to the cardinal message of this post: our uncritical, sheepish obsession with anything and everything Western.

gowonmaharajah:
I don't subscribe to this,baby.you can't simply relate this to our own Africa.no,it can not just work
stop feeding us with all this western bullcrap.