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Thanks so much fam for your contributions. I really appreciate the good ones, the constructive criticisms and the not so constructive ones and the ones that totally vilify me. I can't reply to the numerous mentions.

I admit I made a terrible error and I'm paying for it. Every mistake attracts commensurate punishment in the long run. I'm facing mine right now.

Once I get over this severe depression that I'm experiencing right now, I'll be fine.

Hi youngsum. I saw an email alert from you. Sorry I don't have access to the email connected to this account for now. You can message me at cmuodilim@gmail.com

I am so pissed off right, knowing that I wasted close to two years with a useless lady with no skill, who has a terrible and sordid past that I cannot mention here and who has turned out to be an ingrate, disrespectful and vile. Her baby papa abandoned her for years. When she gave birth to the first son, the baby daddy didn't even pay the 50k hospital bill they were charged 4 years ago. He said he had no money and ran away. They didn't go to his house to harass him to come and pay. They stayed in the hospital for up to a month until the family rallied around within themselves to sort out the bill and bail them out of the hospital. Yet, my ungrateful fiance and her jezebel of a mother have ganged up against me and are calling me all sorts of name just cos I left for a few days.

I have decided that I am no longer proceeding with the marriage. I feel sorry for my daughter who would grow up without her real mother cos I've decided I am taking custody of her. I can never allow them bring up my daughter in a public yard where they live. They would ruin my daughter there.

I made a most costly and terrible error of my life putting up with a single mother with no tangible skill, who is extremely lazy, who is possessed by a dark force. I sincerely feel so bad right now and wish I could turn back the hands of time to go back to when I first met her and tell the dumbo that I have no interest in marrying her. I remember all the money I've wasted to please her and impress her and I bite my fingers in deep regret.

Men, learn from my terrible mistake, never marry a jobless woman, especially a single mother who is jobless. Cos, that's the major bone of contention. If this lady had sustained the business I started for her, she wouldn't be short of cash to support the family in this trying times.

I deliberately left out some details from the write up, cos if I attempt to write down all the terrible experiences I've had in the hands of this terrible, marine spirit possessed single mother, you would weep for me.

Let me stop for now.

An idea hit me whilst there. I decided I would stay back in the village till further notice and leave my supposed jobless fiance and her mother in my apartment to fend for themselves, since the woman has refused to go back to her husband's house despite seeing how tight things are at the moment.

That evening chaos broke out. They started calling me on phone asking why I wasn't back home yet by 7 pm. I calmly told them I went to the village to fix stuff and would be back soon. My fiance demanded to know why I didn't inform them before leaving, of which I apologized profusely and promised I would be back the next two days. I sent some money though.

Three days later, they didn't see me and started calling my phone again. And this time my supposed fiance started raining insults at me, including her mother. She was shouting like a lunatic. I asked her, in all the the time we've been together, have I ever insulted you or used a foul language against you, or abused you? Yet you had the guts to insult me just cos I left the house for you and your mother for some days just to cool my head, cos you people wanted to kill me. It was then I decided I won't come back anytime soon.

Let her and her mother take care of the bills for a while and feel how I've been feeling all along. While I was in the house, the way the mother would be reminding me every morning about what and what to buy was getting on my nerves. I was wondering, is this woman blind to see that things are not smiling around here? Besides, there are major foodstuffs in the house, just a little money to buy simple stuff in the house, and her mother was shouting down at me on the phone, telling me she cannot feed my family for me, that I should come back home and take up my responsibility. I asked her, ever since I met your skill-less dumb daughter, haven't I been the one mostly feeding her and taking care of her, just because I left for a few days, you couldn't take care. I was furious, they were even more furious, but I didn't bloody care.

For the next one week I didn't pick their call. They called my mom and even went with our baby to my mum's house and said I abandoned the family for days. They also reported me to several people in our street who know me and they were calling me asking me to return home. Me that had consistently maintained a good guy figure in the street till I let an ungrateful and jobless single mother into my life in the name of marriage. Now my reputation is ruined.

However I tried my utmost best to provide her everything she needed during the time she was pregnant, even over pampered her with love. Throughout the period her odious character was becoming evident, her rudeness and disrespectful nature started becoming obvious. She would wake up some days sulking for no reason and snapping at me. I kept my cool, never talked down on her.

Meanwhile, my financial woes were getting even worse. I sincerely suspect she has a bad luck/aura about her that affected any man that goes into a sexual relationship with her.

However, I managed to clear the exorbitant amount racked up at the hospital when she put to bed in July this year. She had a bit of a complication which made the bill to balloon. The baby thankfully came out fine. And I later brought them home after paying the huge hospital bill.

But the most painful part was that her attitude was getting even worse that I couldn't bear it anymore. The condescending and disdainful way she was treating me was becoming annoyingly frustrating. To survive in the house I was just avoiding her.

Then the last straw that broke the camel's back and that necessitated this whole write-up was that she invited her mum over for the customary omugwo without consulting me first. According to tradition of our people, her mother was not supposed to come for omugwo as the marriage rites have not been completed.

Fine, she invited her over. But the woman stayed for a week, two weeks, three weeks, going into the fourth week with no sign of leaving and I was seriously having difficulty carrying the expenses of running the house with her mother and my fiance's three year old son that her mother came along with, plus her and our baby. The expenses on the food they were consuming plus sundry expenses werr drilling serious hole in my pocket. They would be demanding tea and bread and eggs every morning, which cost quite a sum. There were some foodstuffs in the house but my supposed fiance would not cook them, she would demand I buy other expensive food items to cook. I am the sole provider and the whole expenses was seriously choking me. Then one day, I left for my hometown to inspect my project there.

I had quite a healthy bank account last year and was willing to invest a reasonable amount in her. She said she didn't want to go back to school and update her education, and that it's only business that she wanted to do. Okay, later on we agreed on baking business and I gave her money to start it. It didn't reach a complete two months before she ran the business aground, giving flimsy excuses.

Meanwhile I was still spending profusely on her cos one thing about me which some guys might misconstrue as simping is that when I truly love a lady I spend a lot on her.

To cut the very long story short, we started talking marriage, we did the introduction and was about to perform other marriage rites before she took in and we had to suspend everything pertaining to marriage till after the delivery of the baby in accordance with the custom of their people.

Mind you, all along I was the one fully taking care of her, and later on when she took in and after the introduction, she moved in fully with me in my apartment. That was around December last year. That was when expenses became huge on me. I noticed how wasteful she was with food items and how she pressured me into spending extravagantly on exquisite food and takeouts and other stuff. My finances started bleeding profusely once she moved in with me and my business started floundering, contracts that I used to get many of them started dwindling and ebbing off completely. It was a most terrible period for me.

I am not one for sharing my family problems on the internet, but I really have to share this on Nairaland so that some men can learn a thing or two and for you guys to advise me, cos I am totally in the worst emotional state right now due to a serious problem within my family that had barely started. This is going to be a really lengthy read. Bear with me.

I got acquainted with a lady towards the end of the month of March last year, 2025. Prior to that time I had decided that it was time to settle down and start my own family. So, me and this lady started talking and getting to know each other around March and it grew into a relationship shortly afterwards.

Now, the greatest mistake I made and I wish for any man reading this to avoid at all cost was that I ignored the fact that she was a single mother, she said that her baby daddy was very abusive physically and gave her several wounds on her body with different weapons for no reason. She said she'd never cheated on him and never disrespected him. She also said that he had never bought her anything as a gift as he was unemployed throughout the period of their entanglement. He never gave her money for her upkeep.

Second red flag was that she is uneducated (didn't even sit for waec), thirdly, she has no real marketable skill and was only working as a lowly-paid salesperson in a clothing shop.


Though I was a little concerned at first, cos I was wondering how I would end up marrying an uneducated, skill-less single mother. I shrugged it off cos I thought she seemed well-behaved and meek, which are qualities I cherish in a potential wife, and that those would make up for the shortcomings.

I was totally wrong about her character as she has since displayed her true self and shown that she was playing chameleon all along. At the initial stage she was all over me, putting pressure on me to take the relationship to another level. She always wanted to visit me every day. Any time she told me wanted to come to my apartment and I told her I wasn't around, she would be very sad and even suspect that I didn't want her to come or that perhaps I had another girl over at my house. Sometimes she would just show up unannounced, without prior notice at my apartment. She never gave me chance to think about the whole thing. I hate to admit she bamboozled me and hoodwinked me.

I asked her the business or trade she wanted to do so that I could set it up for her last year. I made a lot of suggestions and she turned them all down saying that the skill she really had was culinary skill and that she wanted to have something like a restaurant or bar where she could sell food and drinks. I am a great cook and by my assessment she isn't really a good cook. And moreover, I didn't like the idea of my wife doing such a business, and told her so. I suggested she seriously considered the other options I initially listed. But it appeared to me that she was fixated on the restaurant/bar business of which I vehemently stood my ground against the idea.

So in the meantime around May of last year we both agreed that she should stop the lowly paid job she was doing, which came with a lot of disrespect from her employer, while we give serious thought to what business would be best fit for her. I was the one footing virtually all her bills. Giving her money regularly for her upkeep and that of her son, worst mistake of my life as the current situation has proven.

Tinubu and his demonic APC goons should not interfere in the election tomorrow.

Nchenches:
But in the end, the northern children produce president for Nigeria, or largely determine who will be president for Nigeria, no thanks to the skewed and lopsided political structure of Nigeria created by northern military dictators after proliferation of undue large number of states and political constituencies in the old Northern region.
The southeast children sit don de look.

And what good has being a president or producing a president done for people from the north? Nothing!
Northern Nigeria is still backward and has the highest number of illiterates and poverty-stricken people.

Really interesting. They changed a lot.

MaxInDHouse:
Why arguing publicly with Muslims nah?😟
If Islam truly has what to convince their listeners would they have resulted to violence?
Well the guy just lost his life for lacking in wisdom:

Beginning a fight is like opening a floodgate; Before the quarrel breaks out, take your leave. Proverbs 17:14

You're talking off point. And the Bible quotation you added in the end is completely irrelevant and has no connection whatsoever to the post.

Where did it say in the post that the pastor began a fight? When did engaging in an open debate become a fight?

These Muslims love gay s e x so much.

He's really a shameless he-goat.

Since you have a video as evidence, report him to the nearest police station. Let them declare him wanted.

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Mathain19:
The devaluation of Nigeria currency is alarming to the extent Ghana currency is currently dominating the naira at 120 Ghana cedi s per naira, Some Africa country now have strong financial strength than the self acclaimed Giant of Africa. Shame on All financial institution management of Nigeria

You got the exchange rate wrong. It's the other way round. It's 120 Naira to one Ghana cedis.

Looks like a Chadian.

Aisha. She's Muslim that's why she was denied multiple times.

Morocco are winning this.

It'll prolly end in a penalty shoot out with Morocco coming out winners.

Built with massive loans obtained from the world bank and others putting Enugu under the excruciating burden of loan for hundreds of years to come.

Thieves everywhere you look in this government.

kiddaz:
Whaaat
Omor the semen go don turn agidi be that... If you mistake knack any girl she will take in that very minute and she go confirm am

As if he's not been masturbating and spilling his semen all over the place. 🤨

Double wahala for dead body.

So they prolly have to raise another 50 million to secure his release.

Vote right in the next presidential election.

What kinda system of government is this with no fixed number of years for the tenure of the head of government?

Prime minister coming and going at any time. Some 2 months, others weeks, just a few stay for years like Tony Blair, Margaret Thatcher, John Major and a few others.

doctore212:
Me if i reach Cape Varde, na to dey carry olosho morning, afternoon and night.

I will make sure I impregnate 9 babes. Then run back to Naija without any of them knowing my where about

Please no carry STDs enter Naija

motymop:
They only show 5 women.. Nigerian guys decided all their women are beautiful

Watch the video fes

ebonge1:
How do people become this rich?
Why others still struggling to feed

It's simply because the rich people have 2 heads while the poor people are born with only one head. 🙁