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Crampyblood:
Try and read THE MANIPULATED MAN by Esther Vilar.. when you're done with that, read RATIONAL MALE..
You can thank me later

Alright sir, thanks for your input

eventainment:
Thing is all advice to make you stronger will be null and void. Your love will overwrite you senses... You are doing what you won't be doing on a normal day. To come out of this shit is at your own pace and time .. no advice can work on you... The more you try to leave her the more you miss her. But it takes just one thing to end the feeling at an instance.

Please what could that be?

Coldplay007:
Lol.. definitely Kayanmata..
Nobody can help you, you need to help yourself...
We need more details, are you living together? Are you in the country? Is it an urban area or rural?

We ain't living together, yes I'm in the country and it's an urban area

emorse:
Love didn't conquer you man, you conquered yourself for love sake. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. Just that you did it for the wrong reason/person. One thing you must know is that time heals. If you can't mend this, walk away. You'd look back and ask yourself how you ever allowed yourself to get to this point.

By the way, I for like hear at least a part of you story.

Thanks my oga for the advice and understanding my situation, but like I said, my story Long but one I want you to take home here is that when we started dating, it was more of a cruise to me, when I started felling in love with her I don't know but before I could realize it, I'm already soaked in love with her that I feel like I can't breathe without her, like everything she does is right in my view, don't want to talk about the spending aspect. The problem now is that she is using my love for her against me, she have the idea if how much I'm into her and she is using as her advantage, does anything she want and get away with it, nonchalant attitude and many more. When I look at myself I will be stunned because I couldn't believe this is happening to me honestly.

fyzaila:
All these guys dishing redpill advice as if they can't be a victim of what manoftheyear is facing atm. Op was once an alpha male now love has turned him into a simp. I can't call u simp sha because love is a beautiful thing with the right person who share the same energy like yours.

My advice is to try and change environment so you can breath another fresh air. Maybe you can try going to a village. Try not going with your phone so that you can be engaged with other things. Because with phone now u will be tempted to call or chat her up. Avoid her for like one month and see. I am sure once u show i don't care towards her, trust me her attitude will change towards.

Thanks boss, I will take this

Karlifate:
It's because you've already placed this one on pedestal.

Na only God fit help my ass right now

MarketDispatch:
You too, act like you don't give a Bleep.

Done that severally but will still go back to beg lol, I'm a finished man

Blessedmercy8:
He once sounded like you but now?
You too will soon fall. You just haven't met that woman yet.

Smiles, I swear I didn't I will be in this situation right now, me wey leave the woman wey I engaged, bone her with the ring

Enny2013:
Lol...is it dat bad? DNT she know u ar d man of d year? The G O A T?

Is that bad my sister, she has succeeded in Messing up with my mind

Dyfynezz12:
Bruh I feel ur pain, bt don't worry time heals.the only remedy is for u to find some1 else and give her ur love

I have tried this method while looking for a way to get back my mind back, but tbh my brother, I don't find any other woman attractive or appealing unless my woman,I have tried to share my attention or emotion with other women but it's not working. Seems like I have been jazzed

Karleb:
Start by blocking her in all forms.

Then, read about the red pill. It will should make you angry and hate her.

Thanks bro

Karleb:
One funny thing about this is that, eventually you'd realize how foolish you were.

It's better to cut your loses and move on with your broken heart than to think you'd ever have a chance.

I don't care about all I have invested in this shamble of a relationship, all I want is to get to control my mind again, I can't control my mind.
Do you know I once walked away from a woman I got engaged to because of her silly attitude, that's to show you that I don't tolerate nonsense but this one is very difficult for me to walk out from

Enny2013:
U can now join d redpillers. It is d association of men dat were once frustrated by Nigerian girls... They call themselves 'Redpillers' to boost their lost n damaged ego.

Omah lay *I'm a mess* is best to describe my current situation now

Enny2013:
Hope u ar not being charmed,bro?

Exactly what it looks like honestly, because I want to leave but I can't, everyday I find myself loving this same woman with all the pains she's causing me, I'm in deep shit and she knows this

GerraMeh74:
Kayamata at work,they use it to tie you down,then they now begin to show you Yoruba Pepper .

Even if my woman sleep with another man, I will still tolerate it and act as if everything is fine, hoping that someday I can get my shit together and move on but it's seems I'm not getting out of this nightmare anytime soon

ikeno:
I don't know why someone will still be falling in love with girls of this generation.ogbeni, it's like you don't like your sanity.

I just wanted to give love another shot after so many years, I need to settle down asap

DONFRANSKID:
It's hurts bro I feel your pain
But don't let a girl or a stupid bitch define your future, take it as a lesson never to make the same mistake twice and when next you are falling in love use your head not your heart.
No girlfriend is worth shading tears for.
A lot shit you have taken in the name of love it's time to let go.
Time heal all wounds if only you have the patience.

Thanks for your kind words sir, the funny thing here is that I can't believe this is happening to me lol, it's quite unbelievable to me because I have never believed that love could conquer me this way

DONFRANSKID:
Relax Bro nothing in life is promised
She can be replaced.

I really wish I can honestly, so many shits I swallow for the sake of peace is not healthy for my mental health, the pain she cause me with her nonchalant attitude is killing me and I can't leave

BirtherOfKings:
U say u are man of the year..behave like one
Listening to all koinonia messages of this year plus Shiloh ones will kill the satanic mentality of yours and order your steps

Congratulations baby boy

Thanks ma'am, sometimes I feel like I'm hypnotized, how I can't get if her still baffles me because I find myself thinking about her all the time, she realized how much i love her and she is using it against me

Megatone:
You dun chop am?....

That would determine my response

[b][/b]Modified

Love is just an illusion it is not real.
There is nothing like unconditional love especially in this part of the world. Its always give and take.....

Try chop up am to your satisfaction because its obvious she is not into you. I been there so i know what am saying.

Baba no go they form ramsey noah or emeka ike....

I repeat chop am ruggedly no mercy las las na you go they run.

This made my day lol

Yusufisraelj:
My brother falling in love toh, I don't know how that feels, I'm not so much an emotional person, so most times I relate with ladies via the mind, if she's intellectually sound and have character I zoom and pursue.

Again, never date a woman who's not interested in you after you've shown interest, it's a recipe for disaster, you only roll with a lady that wants to roll with you.

Yeah we men like to conquer things, but it's a thin line between when a lady likes you and playing hard to get and when she's not into you all together. The duration of persistence varies, but when over time she's non reciprocating of your love gestures baba let her be and move on, what goes around, come around, you'll find someone better always have this in mind, provided you're sincere.

And lastly no lady who's not your wife should be able to take your peace of mind, as long as you're dating, if she's willing then make effort if she's not be willing to let go, don't give a woman the place of God in your life, I don't know your Faith, but if God is not above everything else in your life, my brother you're not safe.

Everything you mentioned here is true, that's why I said I'm a deep shit, I'm bleeped bro, the story Long

Megatone:
Bro you need to man up....

Love is just an illusion its not real.

She is toying with your feelings.

My advice for you is chop am "ruggedly".... i have been in your situation before.

Love is just an illusion, that's true, thanks for those words

Lonestar124:
My brother forget wetin dey, if na love you dey think for this our generation you fail be that, even the married people wey marry because of love are regretting it..

You never marry you dey find love from common girl...no be juju be that...

Channel your energy on something cool, real men are not bothered of love, last last, na children dey important for any marriage..

You are right my Oga but sometimes we need someone to love, it's not about Money because God has been faithful

VeeVeeMyLuv:
U are in a state of emotional disarray

Emotional quagmire.

That's why I'm here, I need help ASAP

yomi007k:
And the Redpill gospel is gradually coming to pass.



If you fail to learn the theory, then the experience shall be bitter.

I'm a hard guy bro, never been in love for the past 8 years now, but I'm getting older and I need something serious and that's how I got here

incandescentena:
You are in a state of ''emotional chaos''

I'm depressed as I'm typing this to you, I'm a very anti social person with no friends and I will say she is the only friend I have here

Kooldon:
If you are in love and you don't get the same level of affection yet you can't stop yourself from still loving this person. It is a toxic relationship. Take break if you can't take a walk to critically look at the situation. Every beginning has an end

I have tried taking that step but my emotion is failing me

Megatone:
You dun chop am?....

That would determine my response

Yes sir but it doesn't really matter

Moh247:
This is why guys everywhere are commenting all over social media.. even Celebrities are not left out

I feel there's no genuine love anymore in this part of the world, I have been patching my relationship for over 5 months now and it's getting out of hand everyday, if I tell you what happened recently, I doubt if you will believe me.

The feeling of being defeated has taken over me, things I couldn't imagine doing are now things I do everyday all in the name of love. Men I'm finished, my back is already on the ground, the truth Is that I'm not a nice guy but how I got here I don't know. All the shits I accommodate lately all in the name of love makes me question my sanity, see me loving a woman with my money, body, time, attention and energy and still not appreciated and valued, and it seems like there's no way out for me. I'm in love with someone who appears lately like she doesnt give a fvck and it's quite sad, I'm dying slowly and no help is coming, got depressed on many occasions and still trying to stand strong but I still feel so weak and vulnerable. Talked to some friends but all the solutions and advice didn't work, I feel like I'm caged. I need help my people and that's why I'm here. I have never believed in love but here i am foolishly in love.