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labake1:
So you haven't moved on since last year

You won't understand honestly, that's I mentioned the unstable emotions, sometimes it seems like everything is getting better but boom, everything scattered again

Not all women are weak oo, women are harder than men in some areas, so it depends

Please don't just read and leave, I need help please, I think not having anyone to call a friend also makes my situation more serious, I just need to communicate with few people from this platform please

Hi everyone, trust we are having a great Saturday. I have come again with my pains 😭
Please I need help urgently before this pain takes me away, this is a Continuation of my previous thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7486515/im-deep-shit

I know I'm in a bondage but let's call it love, for these past months, it's been mood swings, unstable emotions, I no longer focus on my business, hardly go to the shop sef, I have done everything I could to make sure my relationship work but it's getting worse everyday, tried my best to walk out too but that's more impossible, it's more like passing a Carmel head through a hole of the needle, it's more like it's impossible for me to breathe without her. And she knows about my feelings and emotions for her and she has been using against me. I now beg to be loved (smiles), it quite unfortunate but that's my situation right now, I have left my fate for God to decide but I feel pain everyday because my woman now thinks she can do whatever she likes and I won't say or do anything about it and it's true, she believes she owes me no apology, I'm really depressed, I now see her as my god or someone that without her, I can't survive. Many times I hear voices in my head telling me to end it all so I will be at peace but when I remember my beloved ones, I keep fighting on. Please I need people to talk to, weather male or female. Someone should help me out of this misery. I don't know if it's my pass life that's catching up on me or not. I feel so hurt with everything happening to me, it wasn't my plan to be in such situation, I have always guard my heart until I met this lady because of my quest for serious relationship, I would have remain a player if I know it's going to be this way. I'm in pain.

Okay

kelspinall:
as long as she gives me peace of mind...am in

Unfortunately, most of them won't give you the peace of mind

Thank you for this beautiful post Mr Op, it's seems this Post is all about me honestly but in another form, falling in love is something I will forever regrets. Damn love

One of the most funny thread on here lol

Yeye

chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.
I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.
Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.
I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!

It's not worth it bro, this is exactly what kept me where I am now, when they noticed you are serious or a little bit desperate, they will use and manipulate you, I hate women

HomoSapiien:
You’re a comic relief.

See, I’m currently passing through similar situation you’re in, but I’m picking myself up and gradually moving my emotions away from her.

We only had small misunderstanding. Although I overreacted mostly, but also, my reaction was justified because she had another guy with blush emoji pinned to her chat. She later said the guy’s her friend and he’s always been pinned. But I couldn’t take her explanation and was just hurling insults at her because of my anger. By the time my body calm and she realized her error, she apologized and I told her I forgive her.

Then when I asked whether we could get back, she kept saying No. This actually shows wasn’t deeply in love to begin with and has been looking for alternatives to go.

Omo Naso I dey pick up my bags small small. Me sef, no small for this life dey beg girl up and down.

What I’ll just tell you is to have sense of self worth. Women wants men that have such sense. If you don’t have self worth, she’ll continue to consider you worthless. And the more you continue to appear worthless to her, the more she doesn’t want to have anything to do with you.

The more you beg her, the more she sees you as worthless. That’s just the bitter truth.

Alright boss

blacksam01:
simply change location and u will heal in 6months

I can't because of my work

SPAMBOX7:
I am beginning to feel like the guy dey use us for cruise sef

Smiles, I really appreciate all your inputs sir but don't pray to find yourself in my kind of situation, where nothing else matters to you except one particular woman who doesn't give a damne about you, and you are doing everything to make her realize that you are madly in love with her but she no send you, this is one the worst situation I have ever find myself in. Me that can easily Walk out if any relationship without thinking twice. It's real bro

IamAsiri:
Maybe you have done so many women shege and one cursed you . Just joking o . But on a more serious note, you could have left many wonderful women and fallen in the hands of a terrible one (though we don't know what she did or is doing to you).

The whole thing is just too complicated for me but I believe I will be fine

chinonyinye:
Wawuuuu! You made mention that you are a tough guy and that you entered the relationship with some degree of nonchalance. Are you sure she isn't paying you back for your treatment towards her?
Anyway, help yourself. Look for a way to distance yourself AFTER breaking up. Block EVERY channel. Don't even pick calls or read messages. You will be alright laslas

Thank you sir/ma, I appreciate

qtguru:
Are you a soft and calm person by nature ?

I will say I'm calm and reserved

Bignuell:
You're not caged, na only you fit free yourself. Once you have the abundancy mindset, woman matter no go dey worry you.

Thank you sir

iLegendd:
E bi like say you no sabi f*ck. If you sabi f*ck come get small money, you wouldn't create this thread.

Read this post below and thank me later.

There are 7 things that'll save you in marriage or relationship

1. Don't fall in love with a woman no matter what. Just like her with less emotions and that's all. Do you know I would've been traumatized if I was madly in love with her after reading that chat?

Even if her face, ass, breast, shape, brain, skin, or character is the best, still don't fall in love. Women change easily based on their current emotions. They forget promises they made so fast, but will never forget the one you made.

Even if she shows you love, respects you and worships you, still don't fall in love. Just reciprocate the care. Marriage and relationship can work without love from the man, but his good leadership.

It's a woman's job to love and a man's job to lead — not vice versa. Just the same way it's a woman's job to be pregnant and a man's job to impregnate. A man can't do both, likewise a woman.

Love and lead are both four letters. Some people don't even know there is a hidden meaning to the line: Let love lead. A man MUST do 1 only (lead). A woman MUST do 1 only (love) for peace to reign. Failure to adhere to this as a man, you'll regret.

The keyword LOVE has children and they are: respect, submissive, honesty.

The keyword LEAD has children and they are: care, decisive, honesty.

When these children grow, they have their kids too, but we won't go into that today.

2. Don't forgive a woman who cheats, even if it's just a dirty chat with a friend, a kiss with another guy or she giving another man permission to touch her ass or breast — except it's a massage (from a professional masseurs) you're aware of and approve of.

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Lol, boss I sabi fvck and I get small money, I'm very comfortable, I just loose guard and enter her trap

HeroHero:
For u to realize that u re in a big shit, is a one step solution

I have known it for long because I keep asking myself if this is truly me or am I dreaming lol, it's funny but sad

qtguru:
Where are your bad friends ? You need them

Unfortunately i don't have any here, man is alone here

kepstone:
Kai.. bro.. u have loose guard.. the bro code is even if u love a lady do not allow her to see it and know it.. let her fight for your love, when she fights for it she sees you as the price a treasure she won't want to loose. I have been in your shoes before and I came out with and took some tablets. I read this books recommended here, The Manipulated Man and The Rational Male by Esther Viler.
Those books opened my eyes to the female world and female psychology. After reading those book even though a strong christian I had to borrow some bad boiz trait to handle this naija babes. And to be sincere most Nigeria babes don't know how to handle true love, it's like it's alien to them, give them 100% love, see how they treat you as irrelevant, but make them see that you are the price and there options around you ... They soon behave themselves.
If a woman knows she is the center of your world you are in soup.. she will use as cruise. Don't get me wrong a woman wants to be love but not the way some of us are loving them by handing over power to them in relationship.
A woman will always strive for power and onces she gets a that she becomes dominant. With that she can manipulate you, because there is a switch of power or control.
It's important right now to back off... That's what I did to my recent ex now clamouring for my attention... Just back off for months if possible let her be, you are the price let her realize that by herself and get to respect you. When a woman disrespect you and continues to do so she has stop loving you and you need to get back your respect and for you to get it back you need to back off and let her know she is very irrelevant in your space... Allow her come back if she does play the game to your advantage and put her in check never loose guard, never loose your power in relationship, never beg her to stay, let your heart be competitive and let your options be open let her see that other women too desire you.
On the part of money ... We guyz makes a lot of mistakes, a woman's loayalty is not tied to money oooo... Her loyalty is tied to basically 2 things, how much she values you and the relationship and how much she feels about the relationship or you. That's why it's said women's loayalty is tied to their feelings, they think emotionally rather logically.
Give her space to process you and your relationship..
Never invest in a woman who is not investing in u in all aspect do little like 1% of your resources until proven otherwise.
You will surely get out of this ...
I woman that wants you will reach out to you but if she doesn't let her be.. be strong, be bold, be brave ...

I really appreciate this sir, God bless you for me

Uchenna10:
I understand....it happened to me...

Try and be strong........if possible see a physiotherapist.

Alright sir, thanks a bunch

Socratiz:
You are not in love, you are in a state of infatuation.

Since you describe yourself as an introvert, your hormones are running wild for the first time, so your brain is working overtime. Your hormones are controlling you.

You should think your stars that lady is not responding in like manner otherwise, your family would have recommended that you visit Yaba.

Your eyes will soon clear.

The waves of infatuation is too unpredictable to ride on.

Give yourself time to recover.

You will be well

Thanks bro, I really appreciate

Tboymessiah:
Cus e get one girl wey I dey date now and she's giving her boyfriend tough time and am aware of that if na you make I gist u the full story...

Her boyfriend name na Emmanuel the girl base for South West, while the guy base in South South.

Lol, not me bro

Tboymessiah:
She told you she slept with a guy, I understand everything you are talking about....

Even worst than that bro

Uchenna10:
I feel ur pain boss...I've been there b4,thank God I'm getting better,I lost so many things cos of a toxic relationship....she never loved me then,she was just playing table tennis with my heart...

Broda my advice for u is to leave her alone...

Nigerian w0men re 3vil

Haven't seen her for days now but the urge is too much I might relapse

chinonyinye:
Is there a means for you not to have any contact at all. Say for like 2 weeks. Travel and block all means of communication. You would have recovered by the time you are back

That's a good suggestion but I have tried most of these things, still fall back like someone they're using a remote on, my soul is not willing to let go of her and that's the reason I'm still in this shit, and the feeling keep growing everyday, someone I have already made a priority even above myself

ggoldmine:
You're in a toxic relationship and the longer you remain, the more harmful it gets. It's gonna hurt for a while and your emotional healing might take long, but leave the relationship ASAP. Find a therapist immediately, not a counselor, and commence therapy! Get involved in church activities by joining a unit or attending a bible college. In the end, you'll be fine. Believe me!

Thank you sister

falcon01:
Bruh, here's and advice that will definitely work. Ignore her for 2 weeks or 1 month, don't pick her calls or if you pick just say one or two things, don't invite her over, if she comes don't give her attention. Please bruh try that, it hurts but just try that and if she reacts, come back here and let me tell you the next step. If you feel Hot, just masturbate, if you feel lonely play games or just go out you've been alone for 8 years I'm pretty sure you can handle yourself.

Smiles, not like I have not tried all these tactics, I have been struggling with this for the past 5 months now, but I always end up fallen back again and again like someone under a spell. I have tried to get a new addiction but it doesn't work, tried to share my attention but e no work, as I'm here now, I have given up and I'm praying for a miracle.