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Rokiat:
She’s for the streets. But most of you guys don’t like nice girls so maybe that is why you are finding it hard to let her go.

Because what is there to even think about nonsense.

Your comment amazes me most of the time

Thanks to everyone who in one way or the other contributed, your contributions are highly appreciated 🙏

dontrulee:
Gee, I understand you but trust me, you don't need to meet any new people. People will always disappoint you, that's guaranteed in life. Fall in love with yourself first, develop yourself. People are always available and around but when you work on yourself first, quality people will surround your Life

Na true you talk boss, thank you, I will heed to your advice

Dexter08:
So sir, you want to end your life because of a woman

Your forefathers didn't conquer lands, marrried more than three women to produce offsprings that would be depressed because of a woman na.

Guy man up!! She has moved on, you too move on!! True it is indeed hard or tough to move on but believe me you won't die if you don't message her or love her.

You won't boss!!!!

When we tell people to be Redpill aware they do think we are mad or something, now look at you boss. Look at you

Same woman you are depressed for, is who another man is disrespecting and having s*x without a single care of the world with.

Sir better wise up and focus on your business, no allow your business spoil because of woman. You see hunger, hunger bad o!!!!

Hunger bad pass break up

Dust yourself up and move on. You won't die if she doesn't love you no more.

Nothing but the Bitter truth, you have said it all sir, I have determined to start get back to my normal business life from Monday, I won't let anything distract me again, thank you once again. And Many thanks to everyone of you here for your kind words.

Tenrack:
nawa. Just try
.

I will sir, thanks 🙏

dontrulee:
You're sounding like you've a personality disorder pointing towards cluster C, dependency syndrome.

The voices telling you to end your life, that sounds like auditory hallucinations.

Well, ruling out psychiatric disorders or mental illness, love or it's associated feeling can be crazy at times. Love someone is like giving them the power to destroy your soul hoping they'll not.

Love is not for the weak.

Bro, focus on yourself, pack yourself and move on jare. What if the lady dies tomorrow, will you die too? If your love or whatever you think it is is strong to that extent, sorry you're irredeemable. Enjoy your misery while it lasts

My main reason of creating this thread is because I'm all out to put an end to the whole madness, I just need few people in the form of friends to help me on this because I realized that's what I'm lacking at the moment, she is the only one I'm friends with, so when I need someone to talk, she is the only one I can always go and I am more of an introvert, so I need to meet new people

Tenrack:
Op. You need leave that area for a while. Let her be. Make you get yourself

But I don't have any other place to go, no friends I can go and stay with for sometime, and she knows when I'm giving her space, that's when she will start acting normal again, but not this time around, thank you brother

Godada:
I had to read your first submission to really catch your drift.

No. You are not doing what I said you should be doing.

I did not say hook up.

I said chase. Look for beautiful girls and go after them with the intention of actually dating them.

Avoid hook up girls.

That girl is like poison in your system that needs to be purged.

Self defeat won't do.

You need to get busy removing her from the deepest recesses of your mind.

So get busy: I never said it was going to be a walk in the park.

Word of caution.

Never hand over the keys of your happiness to anyone.

You cannot be loving someone who simply do not give a 🚫 fūck.

It's counterproductive.

Now get yourself out of the mess you got yourself.

If you get out....get a side chick. E get why.

Here's the fact of the matter.

If you love someone so so much it's detrimental if that person doesn't return that love. So either you exit at it's infancy.....your best option.....too much gash around to bounce or you get multiple gals.

That's how our fathers handled the situation. Get more ladies. Our fathers suffer from this sort of emotional wreck.

That way any bullshit she dishes won't upset.

I would advise you to focus on building yourself now and actively seek out new friends and challenges.

Thank you boss, you are really wonderful, you just gave me hope, This I'd exactly what I need at this moment, indeed she is like a poison in my system. Initially, it was all rosy and lovey dovey, she made me believe she is the one, but wetin my eye don see, I no fit type am here, but once again, thank you so so much, I know I can do it

Greenkim:
I've been in such situation before although it wasn't a love relationship but with my best friend.....i thought i couldn't do without her bcs she was the only friend i had, at first it was very hard to let go bcs i wasnt even focused in school, but then with time i overcame it and that happened to be one if my best academic year.

Wow, I'm happy for you dear, I will have a reason to look back and smile again

Muffassa:
Fit help you with my experience only if you ready to get over her I know the feeling been thwee

Honestly I want a new life entirely, I wish I can live my current environment

Muffassa:
You fit email me make we connect on WhatsApp

Alright sir, that will be much appreciated

Muffassa:
You ounce been married?
I get that brr believe me you've not meet your woman yet I'll advise you take a long break from relationship I know it can be hard but just do it work on your self emotions, finance and your life in general don't get distracted.the right one will come through

Thank you so much sir, I'm out to end this misery once and for all

Zonefree:
The truth is, I'm not always this nice with words here, but, I've gone through your threads and I realized you're truly hurt out of loving the wrong person. I've been in your situation before and I know the feeling is out of this world. But, you'll be fine. The love we have for ungrateful women can never bring us down, rather it will make us grow more in wisdom. Be happy cos you discovered your true self out of loving the wrong person.

I'm not in Lagos presently.

Alright sir, thanks once again

Muffassa:
Brr not easy I must say nar big calamity lol first I had to change environment had to leave my crib for awile had to go Scot with some friends try to mingle alot despite being an introvert. Went on trips just to make sure I don't stay idle and alone I engaged in a lots of activities.
With all those it took me nothing less than a year plus to finally get over her. Meanwhile during that period I tend to stay away from any relationship cos I don't wanna render someone's else daughter miserable.tho I don't know your breakup story but I'm so sure it's not up to my kind of shii. Make sure you stay away from her heal up before starting up a new relationship.

Relationship and marriage ain't for me anymore, she has created a beast in me, I won't say I hate women because I have a mother and sisters

lavylilly:

Please help if you can

Zonefree:
Amen, God bless you too.

Just so you know, when you've succeeded throwing the demon out of your life completely, she'll try to come back cos she might have exhausted her options with other guys. But, your zeal to stand on your ground and say NO to devil will determine if you truly want to go far in this life.

May the spirt always be with you.

You are a gem, I'm happy to interact with someone like you, are you in Lagos?

obinna58:
Difficult decisions is what defines you as a man

Stand your ground and fight your emotions as long as it’s the right thing to do, it’ll learn to live with you


In my own case sef, na me push her away, she tried to get back but thought I don’t like her that much, if only she understands much I’m dying inside for her, physically she’s a rare gem except of course just like an average Nigerian girl, selfishness

My principals can not be taken for granted

I have been defeated by my emotions, but this is my last battle for survival

ArmedArmada:
Disclaimer: Before I say anything, I want you to know that sustaining a friendship or relationship is not easy.

It takes time, hard work, patience, maturity and many more things missing from people's lives today...

Of course, you and I know that if you want to live a better experience, you need to leave her.

But then, just know that you must give yourself time to do that. You may be unsuccessful the first few times you try to forget about her.

The memories would be all over the place and the pulling desire to go back to her would be very strong.

Allow yourself to fail, but never stop trying to disconnect from her. Each time you try again, it becomes less difficult

That said...

I think you have low self-esteem. The world is looking at you and treating you the way you treat yourself.

If you don't treat yourself badly, talk down on yourself, castigate yourself, feel bad about yourself, no human being on this planet can make you feel this way.

"If there's no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm.

I think you haven't really discovered yourself.

Do you know your temperament traits? Do you know your love languages? What are your goals—financially, socially, relationship-wise, career, spiritually, over the next 5, 10, or 25 years?

What are your personal convictions? The rules that govern your life?

Lol...

If you fix yourself, no biatch would be able to dictate to you and that's a fact.

I have missed my lane sir and that's what I'm trying to discover, I'm someone people respect a lot but in my house and my place of work, I have principles that I follow but this love thing makes me so weak that I take shits I know normally I won't, hoping it will get better, but now I discovered I'm dealing with someone with dead emotions. I set standard for myself but I have loose focus on my life goals because I'm trying to please someone's daughter lol. I have isolated myself from my family and I hardly call or chat with them. On God sha

Godada:


I will offer you a simple advice.

It's simplicity is actually it's absurdity.

You need to start chasing other girls. Yes, other girls.

Your problem is simple. You have rented out of lots of space for your god girlfriend to live rent free.

You need to evict her.

You need to engage in actively chasing ladies.

That distraction if followed to the letter will cure you.

On a final note, your happiness is your personal business.

Don't hand it over to anyone.

I have tried this countless times but her image keep appearing in my head, paid a hook up girl last 2 Sundays, but immediately she wears me condom, I Lost interest in the whole thing, my gbola no rise again till morning and I was full of guilt of infidelity, my condition is not a nice one but I tried always wearing fake smiles. People around me don't know what I'm going through because I make them assume all is well and I hate telling people my personal problem especially neighbors because I don't know who to trust. But thanks anyway, your contribution is well appreciated sir

Zonefree:
Evil child. Someone wants to commit suicide and you don't want to help him, e good?


Dear Manoftheyear, you did no wrong by loving the wrong person. It's not your fault to love her so deeply, but, you have to understand that you don't force people to love or be with you.

It's time to move on for your sanity. Your family needs you. No girl in this world worth your happiness. Cheer up and forge ahead. Go out there, make friends, hangout and have fun, life is for the living.

Cheers.

Thank you so much for this
Piece of advise, May God bless you abundantly, planning on going to somewhere beautiful tomorrow, just want to mix up with the right people

Persephone1:
You really don't have to change your nature, but a friend or two will do.

I don't make friends. Sorry about that.

It's cool, thanks for contributions anyway

Geovanni412:
Too long. What do you need, bro?

I need to connect to minds alike here to help me out of my misery

Persephone1:
Yes that's true, good friends can help too . With lot of positive distractions

Exactly, I have been an introvert for long, my woman is the only friend I have and that's why it's affecting me so bad, no one to talk to, I need a new life, please can I be your friend?

WatchYourSix:
Vawulence only

It's not always as it seems, I'm a victim

Persephone1:
You all operate on the same memo with the same goal - guide your heart. A goal naturally unachievable. The time you spend on guiding your heart, acting macho and all you should have used to prepare,train and nurture your heart and your self. You stopped growth while trying to protect now you are paying for it when the inevitable happened. Man trying to outsmart nature lol.

I sympathize with you on your situation, the truth is there's nothing anyone will write here that will help you. You are not ready yet. When the time comes, you will know and do all you can to free yourself from unrequited love.

All I need now is connect to few people here and see how it goes, just some few good Samaritans

lavylilly:
I had this promising relationship with this lovely dude (TDH)we were more than lovers, we were good friends. Initially no secrets,everything was so sweet. I loved him sha!

I tried to meet his needs too when he's down,in short we were thinking towards marriage.
Until he suddenly changed. He will shout for me like this ehn?,smh, I really don suffer o. He'd leave me in the midst of a conversation and not even care to come back, she started calling me Mrs. xyz (real name withheld) in our conversations, he did many things enough to make me mad and just call it quit but guess what? I was in love, I just thought twas mood swing or something. When I saw that it was getting out of hands, I started watching out.

Behold he started telling red lies(that's what I call Lies that the liar forgot he/she has told),yet I played along however at that point I asked him what was wrong with us?

He refused to talk, he said I won't force words out of his mouth, after much pestering he talked! He wanted out, he said I should pause anything called love between us, he started saying this and that....I gave him space (in pains, Choi! I don love sha) and asked again and he said I was too good for him. Like seriously? Have I ever condemned you?
He said No.
Have I ever this,that he said No.
Have I offended you? She said No, We can make it work na. I begged this boy "taya" but he refused to "gree". I'd call him like this, he won't answer, he refused to see me sef.

At that point I knew his heart is now elsewhere. I woke up to the reality!
It was very painful to know that someone I love and I thought loved me back could just wake up one morning and say he doesn't want me again. I'd planned the future with him, he left me all to myself to achieve it alone. I still miss him sha. I was really wounded in my heart then too, he left me with no choice than to believe that Love is scam!

I'm in a similar situation at the moment, please I need help on how to man up and get my shits together

Muffassa:
Fucking done with the shii called love/relationship, shii literally ruined me messed with my emotions/ head took time to heal still trying to get back to the way I was before

Please how do overcome the trauma, I'm that shit at the moment

Psych412:
I don't what heartbreak is.... i serve the breakfast before you have The thought of doing that....this always makes broken relationship trauma easy for me without feelings

Lol, you have never love then, because if you do, you will understand

Cheers

Die that idea my brother, die it for your sanity and emotional sake please

Persephone1:


What a woman can not do ....

The problem with you supposed Nl redpillers is when your pills fail you are almost irredeemable.

Nah Martinez I dey fear for

I'm more of a street guy who patronize sex workers because I'm trying to guard my heart, I have never had good experience with love and that's why I went for a matured lady, and now this is happening, though I know I broke some heart but I'm not a redpiller