₦airaland Forum

Focusmind:
In as much as the strike is welcomed, this is going to even deepen the conflict. The moslem north are not excited in ending the terrorism, especially, through the cooperation of the US and the fact that a southern president is the one at the helms affairs. They would rather allow the madness to keep festering than letting it go. Some bigots may even see it as an attack on their region and view it as a "Christian-moslem " war. Government should track the preachings at the mosques, starting from today. That's where the brain washing and anti government propaganda sermons starts.

They no go do anything, they won't do shishi. Infacts dem all go dey on the run self.

always247:
see dis boy? go study medicine or engineering. dont study yeye course and later come cry poverty and unemployment. dont be like me.
i studied yeye course, now I am a labourer in a construction site under and engineer that is younger than me. he earns massively for doing almost nothing while i earn meagre amount for doing the hardest job, which make my back ache.

You're totally right. But I want you to understand that %45 of Nigerian graduates accepted a course they never wanted. For instance, I wrote JAMB 4years seeking for Law with good grades but I didn't get it, I had to run change of course at the fourth trial because I was running out of patience and the depressed at that moment. I accepted a rubbish course all because of pressure, not just me others as well.
I also think that in Nigeria majority of graduates had no desire for the course they obtained their Bsc from.
This is a major problem in Nigeria I don't know if it happens at other West African nations.

Also, based on stats I'm sure of;
medical professions, engineering, accountancy,LLB, computer science and Economics professions are the best courses to study in Nigeria.

hatchy:
Anything this devilish and incompetent government come out to dispute then know there's truth in it.

January 1st is next week. If Ajibola sends me his usual 10k, 50 naira will go to Bobo Chicago's pocket. The same thing will happen when I send money to Sikura my gal.

2026 taxation may lead to unrest if not well managed.

Too much chaos will erupt if this tax takes effect.....the masses will not be happy and won't accept such.
Tinubu should be careful not to shoot his legs all in the name ‘administration.’

CJStarz:
Idiomatic expression says 'Ignorance is bliss'., not disease.

Thomas Gray's 1742 poem, "Ode on a Distant Prospect of Eton College," thank you for reminding me. You're welcome.

Luchitec:
The way some of you talk is appalling! A minister that supervises poor quality projects is competent bah? Make u continue nah

So who told you that Dave's company are poor in quality with infrastructures?

Vision101:
Tinubu has always been a game changer. He has his vision and does his thing in spite of opposition noise. He prefers to tackle problems from the roots rather than scratch the surface just to look good.

Exactly, that's the kind of person he is even though he's power hungry. But he's a man that attempts issues from the grassroot not minding what implications it will result at that moment.
Most of Nigerian past leaders scratch surfaces just to look good neglecting the foundations of the problems.
He should also look into the insecurities, if he can be able to tackle %75 of insecurities in Nigeria, then I will declare him the best president Nigeria will ever have.

jeff1993:
Now That's wha we are taking about..... The Igbo language is a religion itself ... When u commute with ur God in Igbo language, it's like u are on a whole new dimension!!!

I'm waiting for Saudi to adopt Hausa or Yoruba language when they are performing slamming of head Gigs

Don't start please , I've had enough laughs today already.

erniok2:
No bro, they almost downed tools until dave literally apologised.

Dave is a smart man.

erniok2:
That was what he wanted to do at ministry of works but those guys get strong head. Na we be our own problem jare.

I trust him, he will boss them out.

OredoPikin2:
By 2023 that project was already 84% completed
Pls stop displaying ignorance

Aside the project, %80 of projects Dave handles are strictly monitored by himself and being a practical engineer as well gives him room to do that.
I've severally seen him at sites, the way he instruct his foreign engineers you would conclude that he really knows what he's doing.

OredoPikin2:
ignorance is really a disease

Yes, ignorance is really a disease.

VanuatuWycombe:
Don’t listen to what most people are saying here. No amount of therapy can solve or clear this in your head. You are not Oyibo o.

Face the problem, squarely. Call first meeting with your mum and your biological father. Let them explain why things happened that way and who is at fault for delaying you from being given to your biological father. Ask so many logical questions from both of them, since you are now an adult. Answering these questions will give you more clarity and perspectives to the matter. Their answers will lead you to how to address the issue at hand.

If they can’t agree or give you clear answers or reasons why it happened, schedule another meeting with them for another day.

Request a DNA with your biological father. If the results come out positive, you have scaled the first hurdle of truly knowing your biological father.

If the result comes out to be negative, conduct a secret DNA of your ‘surrogate’ father. If the result comes out negative, you are now in another dilemma but all-in-all, na who raise you be your father o.

Still love your mom because you too could have made the same mistake when young, except if she hasn’t changed her behavior after what happened when she was young.

Love your surrogate father and take proper care of him. He may only not like you again, if he gets to know you already know this. Be ready to deal with the situation, maturely, any day your surrogate father gets to know. Let him know you love him and can’t trade him for an absentee father.
If your surrogate father chooses to trigger your release clause, your biological father should be ready to pay all your father and mother have spent on you, while he was away.

I could see that your biological father isn’t serious about you. If he is serious, he shouldn’t have allowed your mom to give you to another man. Even after 12 years, he still allowed you to continue living with your surrogate dad till you are now an adult. That’s a sign to tell you that he doesn’t need you. He too may be hiding you from his wife at home.

Or maybe his biological father was not found worthy by his mom to raise her kids, women choose who raises their kids. Although we shouldn't stick to blames but look for solutions.
His biological father can't fight to have him back, he's now a man and must decide for himself, I think bearing the names of the man who raised him up is enough to pay respects to him and show loyalty.
Having two fathers isn't bad because most traditions don't care about who raised you up but by whose blood and DNA you are made of.

yemmit90:
If I should judge the situation fairly, I will put majority of the blame on you for keeping the secrete for too long

You don't need to burst the bubble again, just contact your biological father and call him the name he is. He is such a terrible person that you should not be dealing with, at least for now. I understand you might be too young back then to know the gravity of his abominable act by secretly taking care of you under your parents roof. Tell him you acknowledge him as your real father but the person you know since you were born will always represent you in life.

Warn your mother too, let her know that you can only acknowledge him as father but you have no business with his existence as regards to your life. You are now an adult with independent mind, and you should not let these two evil people drag you in the mud.

I understand you, I would exactly do the same tey tey, but the sad truth is, he can't stop relating with his biological father who didn't raise him.
By tradition, the tradition don't care who raised him, it cares more about whose blood he was made.
He just have to accept it and go with the both as his fathers. Infact I think bearing the names of the man who raised him up is enough to pay respects to the man who raised him , but he can't neglect his biological father based on tradition.

Sirianese:
Since he said some of his mom's family are aware, you can be sure that the man already knows

I'm %70- %780 sure the man is already aware, coupled with what people say. Infact I'm sure the man will be afraid to loose him and hence never wanted to expose the secret...... but owning up as man to discus it out with everyone involved will definitely go a long way for him and relieve the trauma. If he keeps silent the trauma will keep accumulating and one day it will get tensed to settle later in the future.
Cases like this are not easy to tackle.

xxxx999jon:
Can everyone have a chill pill.this is fabricated story..I just don't know why people have fun doing this.
You story is so full of lies for a discerning minds and even from the quotes you answered back you destroyed you storyline.make una stop to dey lie lie ..no money for there ......

Family secret
Supporting a father that fed you and took care of you till you were an adult it's only if he was abusive to you or he knew you were not his sone.
You even had siblings.
So your mother can't tell anyone you not your father's kid she told you when you were 12.
Still allowed you to even be speaking to him from 12 where the other man was spending money on a non biological son and you gladly received it .

Lets assume this story is even true ..you can be forgiven at 12 .

But if you don't tell that man at this your adult age it's very sad ..the man deserves to know the truth...your mom is your mom no matter anyone says about her but your true father is the one that raised u.

But still believe this story is crap

I also think it's fabricated, but I have seen cases like this I know of one my close friend back then in campus.
Similar case.
By nature the man who raised him is his dad but by tradition his biological father is his father.
Things like this might be fictitious but it still doesn't neglect the idea of the post.
I already told him to expose everything before getting married because he's now a man. The man that raised him must be aware I'm %65 sure he must be aware but one thing my mom told me is that women are not fools.
They might get pregnant for Mr A and allow Mr B who they believe can be a better dad to their kids.
If I wake up tomorrow and hear that the man who raised me is not my biological father, I will still regard him as my father and also regard my biological father as a father too based on tradition regardless of how the situation occured.
You can't neglect tradition my brother, no matter what.

I'm sorry for the trauma brr, I really understand what you mean had a campus friend with similar case. The guy called everybody together and they all sorted for solutions and still found a solution to contain the situation.
Bro, get a therapy session to fix yourself before taking any decision.
But I want you to know that, you can't continue to hide truths and it would be abominable if you don't reveal the truth till your supposed dad dies.

Bros, man up ooo, invite everybody secretly especially now you wish to marry, reveal the truth make everybody know what's up.
If anyone dies due to heart attack it's more honourable dying with the truth than staying alive on a foundation of lies and deceits.

Don't marry without sorting out this issue first, it will keep on accumulating for you.

9jatriot:
The major bane of APC is security and aybe inflation but when it comes to infrastructure, PDP does not coe close.

Fr all those claiming all the road projects in the country were stopped because of the coastal road, I know they will still not agree that they have been lying.

That is what happens when you have a competent engineer like Dave Umahi.
I can testify that Dave's company is quick to finishing infrastructures.
The man dey supervise projects himself everyday, you can't give him an excuse.

Aside this project, Dave is a very reliable engineer he might be crooked with the quality of his projects but you see that project, he will always supervise it himself.
Dave is the only competent minister Tinubu's government have ever produced, kiss the truth.

WorkTheTalk:
These are bandits and terrorists preachers and supporters. Taking people's lives would take terrorists to paradise with 72 virgins. But eating food offered by a neighbor who is a christian during Christmas would take them to hell fire.
But what if the same christian offered money as Christmas celebration gift to a moslem, would the moslem still go to hell fire?

Why do you ask such rhetorical questions over psychopaths like this. These kind of Muslims are the reasons the world is not peaceful.

trutharena:
No one should be dragged to court over free speech.

Some speeches are demeaning, one should be careful what one says.

Racoon:
Does it occurs to Vann that she is part of the plenty darkness Jesus Christ came to bring His life and illuminating light to?

Vann is simply wasting her time because the African Anglican Church in Africa and Nigeria has no interest in these kinds of shenanigans. So we won’t be embracing same-sex relationships( Gay, Lesbianism).

I wonder how the orthodox christians accept such people as leaders. This is disgraceful.

The only truth here is happy Xmas.

matify83:
Our quest for healing and wealth from questionable sources will lead us into deeper troubles.

Imagine what people must have drank in that place in the name of seeking healing

When Africans can't afford social amenities like this, what do you expect??
They seek for miracles.

Wonmonlaidis:
Na person wey no sabi hide hin money this incompetent government go tax.

Where else I fit hide my money abeg?? Share update.

Zionmdde:
There are areas iswap can never succeed. Lagos and lots of southern cities are no go areas
So no need for the panic

Keep deceiving yourself,, don't panic and fold your arms na.
Just fold your arms and don't panic

RichBoy247:
There will never be another politician like TINUBU

One thing is to be a politician another thing is to be a leader.
Get sense.

ZombieDredd:
Tinubu and APC are cankerworm that needs to be eliminated for this country to progress.

How can an old shriveled drug man be sooo interested in money like this?

I just wonder, how much money a man needs to become satisfied and stop milking others of the little they've suffered for. Nigeria is messed up !!

TokoEkambi:
I should just accept the fact that these northerners are trolling at this point, because it'd be tragic if this is how their so-called elite think.

Omor, na so their leaders be oo, what do you expect?? A region with high rate of illiteracy things like this are expected from their leaders.

dadalicious:
Government and Dangote, both needs to be come clean

If Dangote comes clean he won't be a billionaire, you need to be dirty with businesses to attain such height.

jiggyman:
The richest men in the world arent Christians.

Your logic is shii!

Salah the best player to ever play in epl is a Muslim

Salah the best player to ever player in EPL or the best African player to ever play in the EPL??

DrChukki:
She also dipped her 2 hands inside water... The worst is she didn't even bother treating the girl and her wounds started decaying. If not for the intervention of people, the worst could have happened to the girl.

Her Doctor has already said she will be losing 2 fingers

Na wa o, can you imagine. She's a demon in human form.
Tueeh

Na this LASS Russia wan use scare NATO??
Somebody say aurevoir