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 Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 5:55pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
So yodiyokun, you are married? i never knew, you for declare since nah! Anyway, thanks for the nice piece of Yarn, can you explain this part "(the suprise dosent have to be as dramatic as having a child outside wedlock Grin) there are other suprises that can drive you over the wall". But over all, i think you have hit the nail on the head. Thanks |
| Jokes Etc › Re: Most Embarrasing Moment by martin007(op): 5:30pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
I dey feel you oh, wetin me dey try talk say, we dey d same boat  |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 5:29pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
babyosisi:Haba, Babyosisi, how u go say i dey school of Romance? na wetin i talk? |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 3:03pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
Olofinjeje, I thot about all you said on here yesterday, i slept off in the early hours of today, i think 50% of your post is correct or more, but what i feel, your missing out is that, there is a thing call "Love" and in most marriages, people get married, because they are in love, but then, we have to bear it in mind that, we have different forms of love, ex. Agape and so on. The point am trying to make is this, in a normal relationship that involve Boy/Girl, You would most likely find out that they are just displaying one aspect of love or the other, if they are lucky, all the element of love would be in that relationship. But in marriage, all elements of love, comes to play, thats when you would know, how really loves you, so i think in most Marriages, love grows. Affection caring hugging kissing fondness closeness concern friendship being there for the person a bond doing things for the person happiness helping the person holding hands sharing warmth can be one-sided not too intense not sexual Sexual Love Physical attraction arousal lust expressed through sexual intercourse person is seen only as a sex object for one's own gratification commitment contentment excitement fulfills a need heart rate increases intimate kissing touching not long lasting close while having sex, but not necessarily after emotional giving happiness special think about the other person all the time Platonic Love friendship not sexual caring doing thing together not physical supportive enjoy each other's company feel relaxed with the person happiness helping the person normal behavior sharing trust contentment feel free to talk about anything being reliable respect Friendship Feel free to talk about anything caring helping honesty doing thing together trust sharing understanding sharing emotions being there for the other person good times happiness supporting long lasting loyalty openness sharing thoughts a bond closeness common interests concern feeling relaxed with the person listening to each other respect sadness sense of belonging sharing experiences Infatuation Think about the other person all the time not long lasting physical attraction see only the person's good qualities intrigued by some fascinating quality of the person your world revolves around the person you don't know the person very well excited when you see the person being love-struck heart rate increases sweaty palms think you're in love talk about the person all the time want to be with the person all the time a crush based on first impressions irrational Committed Love commitment continues regardless of the circumstances long lasting think about the person all the time being there for the person felt for only one person honesty sharing caring closeness giving respect a promise sexual trust understandinga bond devotion faithfulness feel free to talk about anything give and take relationship live together openness passionate sacrifice Am so sorry for using up much space, lol |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 2:49pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
Mystique:I think you can still comment! Aint you in a relationship? Relationship leads to marriage |
| Jokes Etc › Re: Most Embarrasing Moment by martin007(op): 2:42pm On Aug 02, 2007 |
NaJa HaJe:I feel you oh, i like beans too, but sometimes, you better stay clear of it, if not, you know the rest  |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 9:42pm On Aug 01, 2007 |
omoge:Omoge what? Olofinjeje, am gonna get back at you on this tomorrow, hope u will be on? |
| Jokes Etc › Most Embarrasing Moment by martin007(op): 9:13pm On Aug 01, 2007 |
Hello Guys, I dont know if i should really share this, cos to me its embarrasing and funny, but whichever way, Well, its about the most embarrasing moment so far in my life! It happened a long time ago, when i was like 3-4years old, i was returning from school, when suddenly my stomach started to rumble and before i knew what was happening, some hot stuff got to my shit box(Ya all know what i mean) and my Shit box could not hold it anymore, that was how i released some hot larva, as if that was not enough, i got a battalion of flies behind me, singing my shame! . But am a Big Boy Now.Share yours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 7:11pm On Aug 01, 2007 |
olofinjeje:with all due respect.I think there is something about you, maybe its personal, but deep down, i feel you have an issue with "Love" Maybe someone that you once loved or loved you left you and maybe since then you have had problem with the word "love. Am just assuming oh! |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 3:07pm On Aug 01, 2007 |
olofinjeje: Thanks for your response, but what i really want to know is this, Does your husband share the same opinion as you do regarding marriage? or is he the kind of man that believes in Love? What would you say regarding couples in Nigeria, who have no children at all and they are still happy together? Forget those Oyinbo people wey dey born "Half Bastards". But on a more serious Note dear, i am feeling you, i think i am begining to understand where you are coming from!!!! GBU |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 9:28pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
olofinjeje: Wow  This is stunning, did anybody read what Olofinjeje posted? especially the last paragraph? But you are complicating issues here, how can you say you still in the marriage cos of the children?(this is shocking). Marriage in the Garden of Eden, was meant for companionship first of all, i really want you to get that dear, cos in the Bible, "God said, it was/is not good for man to be alone, thats why he gave him Eve(woman). Other reasons like children and what ever interest both of you, comes second to it. With all due respect olofinjeje, i respect your honesty, but dont you think your children should come second place? no matter how wonderful those kids are? Because without your "Husband" you wont have those kids in the first place. olofinjeje: Are you a christian? and did you get married in the church? And When you were ask, if you love him? did you say No, that instead you like him? |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 5:31pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
iphiedial:iphiedial, I think you are a wise lady  , My only fear is that, you would get to meet a man that will be good enough for you! cos sometimes, some parents are really at fault, you want your daughter to marry early, so that you would enter the "League" of Mothers whose daughters are married. What is the best age for a Naija girl to marry @? |
| Family › Re: Marriage Or Staying Together? by martin007(op): 5:27pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
osereka:You are right man, but sometimes, its really the guys that are at fault!!!! So which kind marriage u go want? church abi backyard own? lol |
| Family › Re: Marriage Or Staying Together? by martin007(op): 4:00pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
I think you are have said it all Omoge, its just not right, when you know you aint ready to be responsible, for God sake, use your head, use a condom, dont make a gurl become a mother! |
| Family › Marriage Or Staying Together? by martin007(op): 3:28pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
Hey Guys, how are you all doing, hope you are all chilling, the weather, where am at now is cloudy, looks like its gonna rain anytime soon. But i just wanna know, which way is better, cos things are changing rapidly in this world we live in? Are we copying the Whites or are they trying to copy us? Now. The issue is this, i see so many young girls carrying pregnancies about and some under 18 already have 2-3kids(With all due respect to those,who got pregnant by mistake and not with the intent). This wont be an issue to me if they are married, but you find out that most times, some lazy ass guy just put them in the family way and they seem to enjoy it too. But guys i know marriage does not have to happen in the church or mosque, but for God sake, we have the traditional way of getting married, if i am not wrong 40% of so called "couples" are not married either way Traditional or church/mosque. So these days you find out that guys/girls just live together, have sex , make babies and live together thereafter. Is it really right and is it the best way? What are they scared of? paying the bride price for the Lady? Which is better, getting "married" or "Staying Together" |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 2:36pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
olofinjeje:So man, what are you trying to say? do you mean to say that its not all about love and that friendship is the key? i believe in making your friend your wife or your wife should be your friend, but i also believe love is a key ingredient. Sir, with all due respect, do you love your wife? |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 2:34pm On Jul 31, 2007 |
olofinjeje: |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 9:32pm On Jul 30, 2007 |
iphiedial, Nice post, i dey bow for you oh, are you in a Seminary or so? Cos this is cool!! |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 8:51pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
N-joy:N-Joy, are you in any relationship? How is your guy faring if you are in any? |
| Politics › Re: Heart To Heart Talk About Nigeria by martin007(op): 8:47pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
Seun:Seun, Am sorry if you are refering to my thread. No vex |
| Business › Re: PHCN Pay As You Go by martin007(m): 8:45pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
i Think its a good thing, cos right now, you Pay for what you use, just as you would Recharge your GSM phones with Airtime, same goes with the new PHCN meters. Considering the fact that before, whether you Use it or not, its like a fixed price, but now it aint so anymore, now its more like if you want to travel and there wont be anybody staying back in your house, you shut down everything and your credit is safe, what you left is what you would come back to meet. Today is a week now, since it was installed where i am, it came with 30Unit, which lasted for about 3days, cos of the AC's i use and i had to buy a new card. The funny thing is when the card is remaining like 5 or so unit, it gives out a beep(kinda like warning you) make u no fear oh, nobi Time-bomb. |
| Politics › Heart To Heart Talk About Nigeria by martin007(op): 8:36pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
Hey guys, how una dey, am tired of all this thing people write or say about Nigeria or Nigerians in General, the other day i read on here that "Person wey Naija people like, wey dem like to watch each time for her Show, come even add insult upon the injury wey we dey try nurse as a Nation" Look, i dont blame her, she can say anything she wants to say, thats her personal opinion. But come to think of it Guys, is Nigeria the worst Nation on Earth? My personal answer is No. Secondly, is Nigeria the Best country on Earth? No. Den which one my dear country(Naija) come be self?. How i wish say we go respect out country the way wey American people dem dey respect their own country, how i wish say Naija Government, go care for its own Citizen, dey way wey other countries dem dey care for their citizens, cos as ebi now, Oyibo man fit kill Naija man, and yet our Government no go fit open mouth yarn anything, just as it take happen for Spain recently. Lets imagine, God would read this thread(i know he does), and he wants us to ask him Question regarding Nigeria, why he created Nigeria, what kind of Questions would you ask God Please, Feel Free to ask God any kind question |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 7:51pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
Marriage nobi small thing oh! But is it true that, there is always that man/woman out there for each individual and that if you dont get to marry that person, then its gonna be doom for you, because i hear people say the person who would be your wife, has already been prepared for you by God and that God's time is the best. My question is this, does God arrange one single person for you to be your wife or group of people who you can choose from and you guys would blend perfectly? There is nothing as getting married to the wrong person, its the beginning of experiencing "Hell on Earth" and for God sake, so many married people do pretend outside of their home or within their home when they do have visitors! I have heard so many young guys say, "Once i just graduate from the university/polytechnic and work for a year the next thing i would do, is to get married" thats a good thing, but the problem i find with them is that, they never did plan for it all those years the were in school. The problem with us is that, we never learn from mistakes we see in other people, God help us all. |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 3:31pm On Jul 27, 2007 |
Well, for me i think, whoever you wanna marry should be your friend, because then, you guys would have known much about each other already. But the problem is that we dont have time to create that special bond between a guy and a lady. most Guys are just interested in her body and for most girls, what can i get from this guy. At what age should a guy or lady be thinking of marriage, i think it should be very early, cos the earlier the better. Also i think these days the idea of having sex with a girl you know deep down in your heart you dont have a thing for, distorts the whole idea of been prepared. Thank all the fellas that have given us positive contributions on here, you guys are great |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 8:40pm On Jul 26, 2007 |
PHBABE:I think you are right Phbabe, there are no professionals in marriage, no Pastor, Imam, can say a 100% percent that they are okay and that their marriage, does not have one problem or the other, sometimes i watch newly wedded couples and the same time, i watch those that are, lets say 20years in marriage, most times the contrast between them is crystal clear, Look a man who wants to marry you would promise you heaven and earth, just to get you under his roof and once you are inside, its a different ball game. Divorce rates are rising higher day by day, some marriages in Nigeria, if not for God and because of the kind of society we live in, would have crumbled, some wives are dying inside of them, wishing they can be set free, cos they are living in Bondage, cos they followed their selfishness and greed, instead of their hearts, likewise the men, for God sake ladies, a man you know deep down you dont love and you would never love him, still yet you go ahead and marry him, all because of his money or because you feeling you are getting old and you dont want people to start asking questions or you wanna have kids. It happens to the men folk also, you follow "her backside or frontside" now it has led you into a big pit, My parents are my example in Marriage, but yet, its not a 100% the ideal thing, i see one or two things i feel, should not be so. |
| Family › Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 3:07pm On Jul 26, 2007 |
But, come to think of it, is there anything as, growing out of love for someone u once loved with the whole of your heart? what happens to the vow the both claim they would adhere to? thanks alot for the advice given to us on this forum, by the "married fellas" but can u guys also share some of the temptations you have had to face, did you yield to it or did u flee? so that we who are not married, can learn, Now also, i think for those who are virgins, who keep themselves pure till marriage, what becomes of them, cos i know someone that use to say, once u start having sex with any thing under the skirt, even if you get married its gonna be pretty difficult to keep your hot pants cold and that the probability is there, that you would cheat on your wife, my other question, now is what happens, to those who are virgins before the get married, how would their sex life be like with their spouse? would it be dull or interesting? if it is dull, would the Guy/gurl involve go out to try Greener pasture? As we all know, human beings are greedy, also wanting more and more. Would such a guy/gurl be tempted to try and see what it is that is out there that he is missing, ? |
| Family › How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by martin007(op): 9:54pm On Jul 25, 2007 |
[b]Can someone please help me explain this mystery. How is it possible, that a Man/Woman would live with the same partner for years in marriage, they would bear kids, those kids themselves would grow into adult and then get married, thats normal in life, but come to think of the part that remains a mystery to me, maybe its because am not married yet, but i have this gurl i love with my whole heart, her name starts with a G, never mind, back to the point, my question is this, especially to the married fellas out here is this, what is the secret or recipe to a good and everlasting marriage, cos the rate of divorce these days is alarming and the excuses given for such, sometimes are funny, how can one love a lady/guy till death do them part? i have concluded that marriage is for the serious minded people, who are ready for it and it does not depend on age or social status, but on love. Can some of ya fellas who got experience in this and who are married, give us a good recipe to a healthy marriage?[/b] |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 8:22pm On Jul 24, 2007 |
Sprezatura, do you have a gf over there in Gambia or you dont trust any of them?, lol, i guess most people there have hot pants, they just cant be still, |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 7:08pm On Jul 24, 2007 |
crazykid:what are your reasons crazykid? |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 6:36pm On Jul 24, 2007 |
Bigjay:Bigjay are you serious about this |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 6:18pm On Jul 24, 2007 |
Where did you get those statistics from Osereka? |
| Romance › Re: Who Is More Faithful In A Relationship? by martin007(op): 5:35pm On Jul 24, 2007 |
olujyde:Olu man, what did u mean to say the guys are more prone to attacks from SSS? i wonder what u mean by SSS, i think i know shaaaaaaa, but you are aware that these days, women no dey stay house oh! |
