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enesi009:
Those saying u should ask her direct to b ur girlfriend.. Let me ask u dis question in movies av u seen the guy doing dese things..asking her direct.. What day do is just take are out make her feel special and create romance den go for d kiss

KingErnesto, don't listen to this advice. It's an absurd advice. Hollywood and reality are very different. Follow what I have told you and I will be waiting for your feedback.

KingErnesto:
Alright bro, I will...

No problem. I will be waiting.

KingErnesto:
Whilst reading this, I had some quick relief... But still, it won't be as easy as I have just read or pre meditated. Nevertheless, I have to summon the courage to do so.

Why are you being timid? What's the worst that could happen? Call her and tell her or invite her to your place, sit her down, and tell her. It is not hard except you are a weak man. She is just another human being and no more special than you. You will probably be the one doing the spending so why be timid? It's not good for a man to behave the way you are behaving. Man up. When you tell her, get back to me.



Omar09

Omar09:
Right after I modified my post I just saw yours to be the exact of what I typed. Except mine is shorter.

I just added a fifth possibility.

*bring out my belt and deliver 24 lashes on your back*

You boys must learn to muster the courage and common sense to handle very simple issues in your relationships and dealings with women without the need to importune nairalanders for advice. If you are this weak, how can you be the head and leader of your household?

Ask her plainly "I like you very much and I want you to be my girlfriend. Do you agree to be girlfriend from henceforth?" She must give you a direct, clear, and unmistakable answer. Her response must be either a Yes or No.

1) If her answer is indirect or ambiguous eg. "Okay", "Whatever", "Very well then" etc. Don't assume it's a "Yes" because she is leading you on and when you regrettably discover that she has just been using you, cheating on you, and draining you off your hard earned cash, she will defend herself, to your dismay, with "but I didn't agree to be your girlfriend." If she gives an indirect and ambiguous answer, press her one more time for a direct answer and if she persists in not giving a direct "Yes" or "No", take it as a "No" and bounce.

2) If she says "No", respect her answer and bounce. Never be desperate and try to force the issue.

3) If she says "Yes", then you have a relationship.

4) If she wants you to give her time, grant her a period of two days to think about it. If she says that 48 hrs is too short a period of time or she insists on a longer time period (definite or indefinite), still insist on that 48 hrs deadline. If her allotted time elapses without any direct answer from her, take it as a "No" and bounce. Never be desperate and try to force the issue.

5) If she ignores you, to any degree, and doesn't want to respond, take it as a "No" and bounce. If she is trying to change the subject or giving you hints that she is not interested or that she is taken, bounce.

Get some spine and sense.



Omar09

Rekhina:
Shut up abegi


Say it 100times and I will correct u 100times ,
I was extremely busy with those smelly Arabs that I forget to make it happen 4 my sisters besides dey where banned halfway to getting it done

They were not banned. They blatantly failed in their attempt at a female miseducation series. Your excuses and explanations mean nothing until I see a successful female miseducation series. As far as I am concerned, all the female miseducationists failed in the same funny fashion. Have a nice day.

liquidfaya:
Even with Ubunja serving ban after ban the female Miseducations failed to ignite smh.

So far so good, the female miseducations haven't amounted to anything despite many attempts by different females. Their miseducations are mumbo-jumbos and things everyone already knows and the miseducations always end up being so boring and devoid of ideas that the female writers end up abandoning the project. They try to be persistent but they always fail. Such is the ineluctable fate of female miseducations.


Omar09

I hope he is not smoking for real.

okanume:
#yeyegirlfriend
how can you break up with me a day to my birthday after i bought u iphone 8 on ur own day���
u call him ur bestie but i find out dat he has being straffing u. ��
u said u love me but u always expect me to give u money anytime we meet... isssoryt
after 4years of dating d only gift i can truly say i received from u is boxers which u gave me on valentine day after i spent about 30k trying to impress u with gift
THANK GOD I HAVE WAKEN UP FROM THE SLEEP

I HOPE YOU'VE GOTTEN A FULL PACK OF RED PILLS.

A305:
Regardless sir, Your name has been drag through the mud and reputation to the gutter. You still will be treated as a king in your church but Nigerians will never look you the same. See my siggy below

Indeed he has been accused. However, there is not a vestige of evidence to back the allegations against him. By common sense and way of due process, all accused are to be presumed innocent until proven guilty.


Omar09

Michellekabod2:
to be honest ,on a serious note this clowns are more of a nuisance...they are reducing the value of religion section..I am tired abeg

I miss the glory days where we had the combination of HopefulLandlord, HardMirror, johnydon22, Tozara, Catfishbilly, Sharon6 (lepasharon), Donffd, OtemAtum, KingEbukasBlog (he thinks atheism is a mental illness), Butterflylion (bbfever, felixomor, 4evergod, spectacular (he came as a female), naijadeyhia), MrPresident1 (he openly prophesied in one of his threads that the second coming of Jesus was on 20th January, 2017 ), Anas09, MuttleyLaff, luvmijeje, etc.

The religion section was very interesting back then. Sweet memories.

Michellekabod2:
You are right! Aside intuition getting in the way of their intelligence, there are some that without intuition are still dumb.
For example, Olaadegbu is dumb not because of Intuition getting in the way of his intelligence but because his brains can't assimilate things, that's why he has a warped understanding of his holy book.
Another case is jesusjnr, his dumbness is as a result of him following his intuition solely....
Openyoureyes also Falls into this category

In an absolutely ludicrous fashion, the clown OpenYourEyes1 insinuated that Sabrina is a witch.

https://www.nairaland.com/5446534/there-something-strange-evil-sabrina

XxSabrinaxX:
I do not disagree that religious people are intelligent. My assertion is that the not-so-intelligent are more likely to be attracted to religious ideologies (more susceptible to indoctrination)

Intuition interfering with intelligence is the culprit here. Obviously studies as to the reason why lower intelligence correlates with religious beliefs continue. I certainly say we learn more and, in my opinion, drag religion, kicking and screaming, out of the darkness pews and into the light of day.

I agree with you that unintelligence and stupidity play a key role in yielding to and maintaining stupid beliefs. How else do children who believe in Santa Claus grow into adults who do not believe in Santa Claus? Funny enough, these children still end continue believing that their god is real. What I was just saying is that even though we smart folks see religion for what it is, we were once indistinguishable from the shadeyinkas and jesusjnrs of these world in our stupidity.

However, we know that one is indeed stupid and not just indoctrinated when one is presented with facts and sound arguments and yet continue to embrace stupid beliefs even though one has come of age. I agree with you.

MiVida:
These past weeks hasn't been easy on me... My girlfriend even suspects me already but I've been able to keep her in check (not proud of it)


Every night, they flood my place, looking for nothing, at the end, one of them stays behind and sometimes sleeps over but for sometime now, I've been able to control myself it isn't easy especially right now, I really don't know what to do to keep them all away, I'm seriously tempted tbh and I really don't want to sleep with any other girl or even cheat on my girlfriend...I'm troubled.
Here's a picture for tonight, they're here again

Stop this nonsense. You must learn to man up by knowing that you are responsible for your actions and you must hold yourself accountable. If you cheat, it's because you wanted to cheat. Now, get some seriousness and say a big NO to cheating. You cannot possibly be a serious spouse if you are contemplating cheating on your girlfriend.


Omar09

Michellekabod2:
oga in the context we are talking of putting up with stuffs like her sleeping with guys,dating other guys publicly,drugs,jail...,that's the OP focus, kindly glance through the OP. Can a guy put with this? We see men who have baby Mama's while having a gf and they are forgiven (example chioma $ davido, Annie $ tuface) can a guy put up with a gf getting pregnant for another guy?

For both genders, I have always advised that cheating and unserious spouses should be discarded. However, if certain things are based on mutual agreement, then no problem.

Plus, this confirm my point,you always talk when you percieve guys are the victims!

I didn't read the op, my bad. I presumed, from the post you quoted, that men don't stick behind there suffering gfs.

I have stuff to do this morning. See you later.

Michellekabod2:
I don't lie against you or ubunja,I can't start sorting out all your posts to select a particular one that is why I back off...

If what you say about me or ubunja are true then finding our posts that buttress your point shouldn't be that hard.

You say "truth?"" ....oh my chest!lol

Oh yes, I said truth. Any objections that you can back up?

Michellekabod2:
Ubunja, Martinez79, AstroG1, illekokonit what do you have to say about this?

Well, men have always picked women from the gutters, shouldered their financial responsibilities, and even that of the girl's family. It's common and it's done out of love. In many cases; even as seen by the lamenting, pleading and helpless thread by boys who have issues with their relationships; these boys who do these do not get appreciated instead they are used, cheated on, and dumped. Many train their girlfriends in school only for her to abandon the man after everything. It usually happens.

A man with money can, as it usually happens, pick a girl from the gutters and give her everything. How often is the reverse?


Omar09

Michellekabod2:
my biggest ish with you is self righteousness! thinking that the course you stand for is the only relevant one and your neighbor own course you scoff at it.

Self-righteousness? I have never felt that my course is the only relevant one. Beside, whose neighbour's legimate course have I scoffed at?

You are never objective.

Not true.

I know your tricks of asking me for proofs as a way of shutting me up since I will not recall names of threads that you displayed all these....

Asking for proof isn't a way of shutting you down. Each time I ask you for proof of your accusations against me and Ubunja, you abandon the conversation abruptly. Why maintain sometime you can't ever back up? Why spread lies against me when you don't know what you are saying?

I do believe that one day the same way you left Christianity will be the same way you will realise this gender stuffs you do ain't worth it and it will lead to unfufilment and life is more than that!

I don't engage in gender wars. I only say the truth.

Michellekabod2:
Your threads,posts etc

What about them? Do they contain hate messages against women? If they do, show them to me.

Michellekabod2:
Be deceiving yourself!
If you like don't let go of any bad feelings or grudge you have against ladies

Hehe. I don't have any bad feelings or grudges towards ladies. What makes you think I have these?

Michellekabod2:
Ok,I will modify the part where I type "fellow misogynistic" and where I typed you provided details...but you slut shammed her,stop lying....chai

I did not slut-shame her. I am serious. I actually don't slut-shame. Prove me wrong.

Michellekabod2:
Him and his fellow misogynistic friends in romance section slut shammed a female and thus his account was banned. He and his cohorts provided details(pictures ) of a lady on romance section who was allegedly involved in prostitution to this forum and humiliated and slut shammed her causing her to deactivate her account and thus was banned!

Stop spreading lies against me. I never slut shamed her and I wasn't the who posted her codedruns account. You can confirm this. I, Martinez39, the apostle of equal rights, has never slut-shamed any lady on Nairaland. I was just banned without a good reason.

For your information, I am not a misogynist. I love women and I like equal rights and opportunities for both genders. Michelle, stop lying. You are fond of lying against me and attacking me.

DenreleDave:
U read my post... What do u think I shud do??

I replied with these two posts in your thread.

@op

You are not serious and you are yet to take some red pills. She is not your girlfriend; she doesn't want you; and you are forcing yourself on her. Never love a girl that doesn't love you. No mutual love is better than one sided love. Person wey no like you no like you and you no go fit love the one you no go fit love. Stop trying and stop giving yourself unnecessary headache.

As a hustling student, leave girls alone and focus on your hustle and establish yourself. When you make it, you will still see girls. Girls no dey finish. It's not written anywhere that it must be that particular girl. No girl is special, irreplaceable, and indispensable. They can always be replaced and you can always find another one. Forget women and hustle. When you have too much money, you can get the best of them.

Whether you like it or not, as far as girls are concerned, their heart goes to the highest bidder (financially) that they can find. If you no get money, hide your face. That's how it is with women. Make sure you read my topic in my link below

https://www.nairaland.com/5150034/boys-get-here-mumu-must


When you are ready to settle down, pick one and marry. Don't do love, instead pick the one that will give you beautiful children and can play the role of a housekeeper. Romantic love is a scam.

You are welcome. Now, here are the things I want you to do :

1) Forget about relationship and romance and focus on yourself. Don't waste time and money on any girl and sex until you have established yourself. Don't be the financial messiah of any girl.

2) Forget about that girl. Stop calling, caring, or texting her and move on. Let her deal with her life and you mind your business. Do not give unnecessary attention. Her emotional state and happiness are not your responsibilities. You don't owe it to her to be concerned about her.

3) Never in your life think that a particular girl (beautiful or not, educated or not) is special, indispensable, or irreplaceable. All girls are not special, they are not indispensable, and they can be replaced. Don't you ever think that you can't live without any girl for it's a huge lie and don't ever swallow bullshit from any girl.

Have a nice day.

— Omar09

budaatum:
From 19 to 39 and now 79! Sounds like you are easily indoctrinated by "sounder arguments".

Is 109 next?

129, 139, 179, & 189 are coming soon.

Dwaynemustafa:
Mehn I wish i knew of de red pill long time ago nd took it.. I was in shambles in my skull days, it was after dat I den realise how f**ked I was.. Lyk at de moment bro I de love wit my ass hole..not my hrt anylonga, na jst to de kpansh de go..

When you want to settle down and you want to get a woman, let your head, not your heart and pen!s, lead you. Your head must be the one working and your heart must be as cold steel. Don't put emotions and love in the equation. Cheers.


— Omar09

XxSabrinaxX:
Surely, I'd call it evidence of ignorance. As well as evidence of absence of intelligence.

Hmmm. For everyone, indoctrination differs in form and intensity. Even the best of us were once victims of strident indoctrination. Ayan Hirsi-Ali, an intelligent woman, who thinks very logically and reasons critically, was once a Muslim who supported the fatwa calling for the death of Salman Rushdie.

Just like my fellow atheist Sharon6 (lepasharon), I came into nairaland as a staunch christian. I argued stubbornly and stupidly in favour of christianity but I later changed after much sound argument from nairaland atheists. I once created a thread under my former moniker, Martinez19, showing my journey from christianity to atheism. In that thread, I brought out many screenshots showing posts in which I argued for christianity.

Indoctrination is power if done right. I responded to sound arguments but I find it hard, initially, that people don't respond to sound arguments.

Born2conquer:
Okay, told her to come over and co and I promised her 11k (just for a day to support her business).
:
She came over..she's been eating like a glutton and I sent her 11k to her.

Now, she told me "I thought my period will end yesterday!".. Abi this one is mad in! I am fuming with anger but I can't show it in this " Sex harassment era".. Make one lady no go spoil my name outside (you know as ladies be)

But for real! This is going to be the last support she will Ever get from me!!! Ever ever!

So she think she's smart untop 11k? She will regret it.

Smart men try to get the sex without spending money and smart girls try get the money without giving sex. Even if you are going to pay for sex, never give her the money or buy stuffs if she has not given you the sex. If you give her the money or gifts, there is no guarantee that she will give you the sex.

Your babe is trying to pull a fast one on you. If you get angry and take the sex by force, that's rape. You are in a position where you just have to hope that she honours her own part of the deal, what's the guarantee that she will? Next time, get the sex first.

— Omar09

emmaodet:
Which brings us to the fact that - there is No Love Especially from ladies.
If this trend continues, guys hands will get burnt, they will become cold hearted and with time the world will start creating more and more heartless guys which unknown to the highly selfish and self centered ladies, they are digging a very dangerous grave for themselves.
If this trend continues - 5-10years from now, men suicide rate will increase alot due to no jobs and high unemployment rate and no gfs/unfaithful, insultive and arrogant gfs, 15-20 years from now - the frustrated ones will be entering markets, cinema houses etc and kill people just like in abroad.
50 years from now, God bless nigeria crisis or war breaks out - Frustrated, Angry men will see a very big opportunity to take there own pound of flesh from ladies by raping, killing ladies heartlessly without remorse.
A crazy world is fast approaching us bro

I get your valid point. One red pill that we must swallow is the fact that Nigeria is (as always) ever gradually deteriorating and the country will never get better and reach the status of being developed. To make it worse, the population keeps increasing because many haven't learnt the common sense of giving birth to children that they can take care of. With these factors, the depression and suicide resulting from a poor, hard, and unsatisfactory life will increase.

For boys, the hardship will make them swallow red pills by force as Nigeria becomes more of a jungle with each passing year and people's (both men and women) survival instincts come out in full force. If women in developed countries are the way the red pill message describes, how much more women in the harsh jungle called Nigeria? These Nigerian girls will have to up their game, in its cruelty, to survive and one of their lucrative goldmine in the scam of romantic love. In fact, this is the main lucrative goldmine.

Love will make many depressed and some will kill themselves after being milked in cruel fashions. For these ones, the red pills are useful and that is why I try to spread them for free. All over the world, boys are really getting burnt as they learn that the love they have been brainwashed to believe from childhood, made huge sacrifices in the name of, and squandered time pursuing doesn't exist. You pay, she loves.


— Omar09

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmm, it is well.
God help us all but most guys experienced this situations when they were broke, struggling or young oooo

Oh yes. It's most common when boys are young, struggling and still growing. Then the future is not certain and the girl has to organise and sample her options to acquire the resources and then end up with the highest bidder (available to her), whose resources, give her the stability she craves.

— Omar09