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Hello everyone,
Please, which TAFE in Australia can easily give someone admission and eventually successful with visa application. I mean this person has BSC in English in Nigeria and 25 years old. I believe there are TAFEs that can offer the person admission and eventually get a visa as well. Any recommendation will be appreciated.
Thanks

I appreciate the perspectives shared.Especially the emphasis on peace, compatibility, and long-term values. I agree those matter far more than looks alone.

That said, I want to add some context about why Lady M remained a serious option for me and wasn’t just a superficial consideration.

For a significant period, she showed qualities that genuinely stood out:
• She wasn’t financially demanding. Despite me living abroad, she rarely asked for money. There were long stretches where I didn’t send anything meaningful and she was fine with that.
• Instead, she checked on my wellbeing and encouraged my growth especially when I was exploring opportunities for a second job. Her focus was more on my progress than financial expectations.
• She maintained a structured, faith-centered lifestyle like being active in church choir, rehearsals during the week, and consistent participation on Sundays.
• Even in disagreements, she sometimes pushed me toward self-improvement ,questioning my late outings and encouraging more meaningful use of my time. I saw that as constructive accountability rather than control.

Another situation that shaped my perspective happened when she took a bank loan to buy a car from someone she knew who was a dealer. A dispute later arose because she believed he didn’t honour the agreed terms, and I stepped in to help mediate communication.

During that process, the dealer shared certain claims about her financial dealings and past relationships. I did not take those claims as fact, because they came from someone already in conflict with her, effectively an opposing party in the dispute. My instinct was that negative narratives are common when relationships break down, so I treated the information cautiously.

Some of what he said echoed things I had previously heard through indirect channels , including claims from an ex-partner suggesting she had financially supportive connections. Again, I did not treat this as proof of wrongdoing. My position was that when people become adversaries, their accounts are naturally biased.

So my hesitation now isn’t because the positives never existed, they absolutely did.
It’s because later experiences introduced complexities that required deeper reflection about alignment and long-term compatibility.

I’m weighing both sides ,not ignoring the good, but not dismissing the concerns either.
I genuinely appreciate all the input.It’s helping me reflect more objectively.

Massivedick:
Hi everyone,
I’d really appreciate your honest opinions. I’m 38 years old, currently living in Australia, and I’m at a stage where I want to stop juggling emotions and focus on one serious relationship, with marriage in mind.

Here’s a clear and honest overview of my situation:

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Lady M (Nigeria – Lagos)

I’ve known Lady M for about three years, going on four. I met her in 2022, while I was already living overseas, during a holiday in Lagos. That’s how the relationship started.

We dated seriously, got engaged, and planned marriage multiple times, but the wedding was postponed about three times. The postponements were due to recurring conflicts, and I’ll be honest whenever marriage got very close, I sometimes developed cold feet, largely because of the constant fights and emotional tension.

Lady M is actually my favourite on the list physically. She has all the physical attributes I’m naturally attracted to, and there’s strong chemistry and real history between us. However, my growing concern has been character and mindset, especially around conflict and marriage.

Recently, I shared a situation with her about a friend in Canada whose wife left the marriage suddenly. Before the man even returned from Nigeria, she sold the man and his house and moved out. I personally felt that was wrong and unnecessary, regardless of what happened between them.

When I asked Lady M for her view, she said the woman should have done more and even sued the man further, especially if there had been cheating or physical abuse. She referenced her own parents’ divorce, where her mother took legal action against her father’s properties.

What worried me wasn’t her background alone (I also come from a broken home), but her strong justification of extreme actions during marital conflict. When I asked if she supported that approach, she said it “depends on what the man did.”

Additionally, during heated moments in our relationship, she has said things like “If I ever marry you, I’ll divorce you.” Statements like this deeply unsettle me and are a major reason I develop cold feet whenever marriage gets close. Since I live overseas, these patterns make me fear instability and future risk.

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Lady H (UK – Manchester)

I’ve known Lady H since around 2017. We were friends before I relocated overseas. She moved to the UK in 2022 and currently lives in Manchester, and I’ve visited her there.

She’s 29, works as a carer, financially independent, calm, and generally low-conflict. She’s expressed willingness to support the marriage process and is open to joining me later via a student visa route if needed (she’s still sorting out her long-term stay in the UK).

What stands out with her is the peace, emotional safety, and cooperation she brings. There’s less drama, no threats, and more predictability, which my mind increasingly values at this stage of my life.

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Lady J (Nigeria – Benin-based)

I started talking to Lady J recently. She’s around 25, runs a business in Nigeria, and has been very clear and intentional about wanting marriage and children.

She understands that the visa process could take several years and is comfortable staying in Nigeria to continue her business during that time. She’s open to having children after marriage and has so far been calm, respectful, and straightforward.

I also want to add something important that I didn’t initially include: I intentionally asked both Lady M and Lady H about their views on prenups, because I believe it’s a practical way to understand alignment around responsibility, conflict, and fairness.

Initially, neither of them fully understood what a prenup was. After I explained it clearly—
that it simply means each person leaves the marriage with what they came in with,
and that anything built together (e.g. a house) would be shared based on actual contribution,
as a form of insurance, not an expectation of failure—their responses were very different.

Lady H was calm about it. She said she hopes to stay married for a long time, but she understands that life is unpredictable and that a prenup is not a big issue for her. She was open, practical, and didn’t see it as a lack of commitment.

Lady M, however, strongly opposed it. She said a prenup means you’re entering marriage without full commitment, that it shows you’re already planning for the marriage to fail, and that the children would suffer. I tried to explain that it’s like insurance,you don’t buy insurance because you want something bad to happen, but because you understand risk. I even pointed out that she herself has sold insurance in the past.

Despite this, she said our beliefs are not aligned and that she could not accept it. She then involved her pastor, who sent voice notes saying that any man who asks for a prenup is not truly born again, doesn’t trust God, and is planning for divorce. According to him, marriage assurance should come only from faith and the Holy Spirit.

While I respect faith, what concerned me was how quickly a personal marriage discussion turned into external control and absolute judgment, rather than dialogue and compromise. For me, this highlighted a deeper issue of values alignment, conflict resolution, and decision-making in marriage.

This, combined with past statements like “If I ever marry you, I’ll divorce you”( though she has apologized and said I have said worst things to her ) ,has made me pause and question long-term compatibility and emotional safety.

I’m not against marriage. I’m trying to enter it with clarity, responsibility, and fairness, especially as someone living overseas with more structural and financial exposure.

eazzzy1:
I would marry the UK lady. She’s calm, stable and steady. She’s lived abroad and has acclimatized to the dating culture.

It seems you like the Lagos Nigeria lady more anyways and you would do what you want eventually. So all the best.

Just to clarify one more point for balance: the UK lady is financially okay and independent, but she’s currently on a 5-year visa, while I’m an Australian citizen. So in terms of long-term security and stability, I do objectively have more to offer at this stage.

I’m not saying this to diminish her in any way,just stating the reality that we’re at different stages structurally. That’s part of what I’m weighing alongside character, peace, intentions, and long-term compatibility.

Every option has trade-offs, and I’m trying to look at the full picture rather than emotions alone.

Namaster:
My advice would have been to AVOID marriage altogether.
It's NOT what it used to be.
The BENEFITS are LIMTED.
The PROBLEMS are LIMITLESS.

But it looks like your mind is made up and you're EAGER to marry.

So here goes:

Yes, I’m also considering that angle, and I agree that marriage today comes with real risks.

However, I also have to be honest with myself: I need companionship. Living overseas can be lonely. People are busy, individualistic, and emotionally guarded. It’s not like back home where social life is more organic and relationships form more naturally.

If I were living in Nigeria, I probably wouldn’t feel the same pressure to marry. I could date freely, enjoy companionship, and even have children without formal commitment. But overseas, it’s very different. Casual arrangements exist, yes but they’re often transactional, temporary, and not emotionally fulfilling.

I travel back home once or twice a year partly because of this. Overseas offers structure and opportunity, but it can lack warmth and connection. Dating locally hasn’t aligned well with what I’m naturally attracted to or with my long-term values, and I don’t want to force something just to avoid loneliness.

So my interest in marriage isn’t about desperation or tradition,it’s about intentional companionship, emotional closeness, and building something stable with the right person. I’m aware of the risks, which is exactly why I’m being cautious rather than rushing.

People often ask why I don’t simply date or marry locally in Australia. From my personal experience, the dating culture here is very different. Attraction is subjective, but what I’m naturally drawn to is more common back home. Beyond that, dating here tends to be more individualistic, slower to commitment, and harder to navigate, even when you’re doing well for yourself. It’s not as straightforward as it is in Nigeria, where marriage intentions are clearer early on.

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At this stage of my life, I want peace, emotional safety, respect, and long-term stability. While Lady M has been my physical preference, my mind increasingly tells me to focus on Lady H, who offers more calm and predictability. Lady J is intentional but still new.

Based on all this:
• What stands out to you?
• Are my fears valid, or am I overthinking?
• If you were 38, living overseas, who would you prioritise and why?

Thanks in advance for your honest input.

Hi everyone,
I’d really appreciate your honest opinions. I’m 38 years old, currently living in Australia, and I’m at a stage where I want to stop juggling emotions and focus on one serious relationship, with marriage in mind.

Here’s a clear and honest overview of my situation:

⸻

Lady M (Nigeria – Lagos)

I’ve known Lady M for about three years, going on four. I met her in 2022, while I was already living overseas, during a holiday in Lagos. That’s how the relationship started.

We dated seriously, got engaged, and planned marriage multiple times, but the wedding was postponed about three times. The postponements were due to recurring conflicts, and I’ll be honest—whenever marriage got very close, I sometimes developed cold feet, largely because of the constant fights and emotional tension.

Lady M is actually my favourite on the list physically. She has all the physical attributes I’m naturally attracted to, and there’s strong chemistry and real history between us. However, my growing concern has been character and mindset, especially around conflict and marriage.

Recently, I shared a situation with her about a friend in Canada whose wife left the marriage suddenly. Before the man even returned from Nigeria, she sold the man and his house and moved out. I personally felt that was wrong and unnecessary, regardless of what happened between them.

When I asked Lady M for her view, she said the woman should have done more and even sued the man further, especially if there had been cheating or physical abuse. She referenced her own parents’ divorce, where her mother took legal action against her father’s properties.

What worried me wasn’t her background alone (I also come from a broken home), but her strong justification of extreme actions during marital conflict. When I asked if she supported that approach, she said it “depends on what the man did.”

Additionally, during heated moments in our relationship, she has said things like “If I ever marry you, I’ll divorce you.” Statements like this deeply unsettle me and are a major reason I develop cold feet whenever marriage gets close. Since I live overseas, these patterns make me fear instability and future risk.

⸻

Lady H (UK – Manchester)

I’ve known Lady H since around 2017. We were friends before I relocated overseas. She moved to the UK in 2022 and currently lives in Manchester, and I’ve visited her there.

She’s 29, works as a carer, financially independent, calm, and generally low-conflict. She’s expressed willingness to support the marriage process and is open to joining me later via a student visa route if needed (she’s still sorting out her long-term stay in the UK).

What stands out with her is the peace, emotional safety, and cooperation she brings. There’s less drama, no threats, and more predictability, which my mind increasingly values at this stage of my life.

⸻

Lady J (Nigeria – Benin-based)

I started talking to Lady J recently. She’s around 25, runs a business in Nigeria, and has been very clear and intentional about wanting marriage and children.

She understands that the visa process could take several years and is comfortable staying in Nigeria to continue her business during that time. She’s open to having children after marriage and has so far been calm, respectful, and straightforward.

ruggedtimi:
Meaning you cant marry a ghanaian girl.

For Ghanaians, I know it is common among their ladies.But she is not Ghanaian.

Alphamentips:
I don't know about you'll but where I come from A leg chain worn on the left foot gives off hoe alert especially for women. A silver ring worn on the left & rite index fingers signals a gang affiliation. Same with Colors. And greeting patterns.. we're constantly giving off signals

Ok. Wedding is by December. It is either she destroys it or choose the “fashion “ over the wedding.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Like this one isn't it?

This one is scary even. Hers is 3 sets. But I am not comfortable.

Lordsugar:
Profound Insights

What do you mean by this?

Namaster:
Beads are acceptable.
But leg chains are the UNIVERSAL signs of a HOOKUP girl.

Regardless of any of the above, marrying a Nigerian girl is a BAD idea.

Well, I saw her with a leg chain and the bead. She stopped wearing the leg chain.

Hello guys, can you marry a lady that wears a waist bead? I am not comfortable with it on my lady but she said she is using it to control her weight and it’s fashionable to her as well. I have read a lot of evil things girls use it for. What do you guys think? Thanks.

hunee:
bros, send a mail to hacc@dha.gov.za
Explain yourself via mail to them.

Is anyone experiencing issue accessing the e-visa portal?
It keeps saying my login details are wrong when it is not and eventually connected once.

Massivedick:
Hello guys, has anyone gotten SA visa and can’t download from the site? The eye 👁️ logo can not be found on my profile. What do I do?

No one has experienced this?

Hello guys, has anyone gotten SA visa and can’t download from the site? The eye 👁️ logo can not be found on my profile. What do I do?

mulannoire:
If your portfolio isn't in healthy profit right now with all the pump, you are invested in the wrong projects. Re-evaluate your holdings and cut the laggards. Forget the old coins as a majority of them will never touch their ATHs again- the focus will be on the new entrants. Forget tokenomics and invest in the current narratives. DYOR.

I have been holding in very large amount of bttc and Alpha finance Lab since 2021. It can’t even get to the amount I bought either of them in this bull run. I am thinking of abandoning it and count my losses , then move on. But where am I moving to? No more any coing that is not among the popular once.

Massivedick:
Hi guys, any prospect for alpha coin to hit 2dollars? Been holding that shit since 2021, same with Btt(new) been holding since 2021 in 100 of millions. I just want to get my money back and leave this crypto shit. Should I sell at a loss and go into any pump and dump. I need my money back. BTC is moving and these two are not making any reasonable movement

No answer for this?

Hi guys, any prospect for alpha coin to hit 2dollars? Been holding that shit since 2021, same with Btt(new) been holding since 2021 in 100 of millions. I just want to get my money back and leave this crypto shit. Should I sell at a loss and go into any pump and dump. I need my money back. BTC is moving and these two are not making any reasonable movement

hunee:
when did you apply, when did you get an approval? kindly correspond

20th of November 2023 and got it 5th of December. It was for a week or so. So I have reapplied for another visa as I am going back to SA. My flight was on the 7th but this people disappointed me and I am looking forward to next 17th as I have kept my ticket open.

hunee:
I wanted to ask oo, FOR EMPHASIS- HAS ANYONE BEEN RECENTLY ISSUED AN EVISA ON THE DHA PORTAL, NOT VFS.

Kindly correspond.

Yes, I don’t even know what VFS is.

Hello guys, do you know if they have started issuing e visa for the year or they are still
On holiday?

Hello guys, my visitor visa expires on the 29th. I am leaving SA on the 24th. However, I am coming back on the 10th of January. Please, state renewal on e visa site or I should say just say new application?
Thanks.

Hi guys, I am heading to Sandton, Johannesburg on the 22nd. Please how safe is it for Nigerians? I want to know as I have heard some sad stories from SA. My first time to SA. Where and where are the best places to visit? Thanks.

hunee:
Atleast, you are secured for entry into SA
Your re entry in SA, apply for another one soon as you arrive Lagos.

Do they work during Christmas period? I will apply though.

Do I need to apply for another visa to extend this one now or what do I do?

I just got the visa. But this people are crazy. How do they give me a multiple entry visa to South Africa from 21st to the 31st. And I am Coming back to South Africa from the 7th of January. Leaving back to Australia on the 10th of January. Do I need to apply for another E visa or what? If yes, when? This people sha.

hunee:
Then you apply for normal visa. you can not transit south africa and enter the country. they dont allow that as in my case in july. was it a regular evisa you applied for?
your itinerary should be detailed. south africa immigration is not the regular immigration o.
plan yourself well.

Goodluck

Can I call the embassy? Why is there e visa different? Some e visas are gotten same day. Why are they calling this thing e visa?

hunee:
Then you apply for normal visa. you can not transit south africa and enter the country. they dont allow that as in my case in july. was it a regular evisa you applied for?
your itinerary should be detailed. south africa immigration is not the regular immigration o.
plan yourself well.

Goodluck

I ticked, on the e visa page, temporary visa to sojourn in South Africa.

hunee:
Then you apply for normal visa. you can not transit south africa and enter the country. they dont allow that as in my case in july. was it a regular evisa you applied for?
your itinerary should be detailed. south africa immigration is not the regular immigration o.
plan yourself well.

Goodluck

It is detailed. I am traveling from Melbourne to johannesburg on the 22nd. Then from Johannesburg to lagos on the 24th. Coming back to Johanessburg on the 7th of January, leaving 10th of January to Melbourne.
I submitted this flight itinerary and they are yet to pick my file. All these flight are booked. Why the delay?

Hello guys, please how long does it take to process South African E-visa?
I have been waiting for for a week plus now and my flight to South Africa is on the 22nd. I am just transiting South Africa to lagos. But I may stay a day or two as I gave that gap.