XhosaNostra:


Are you aware that we're talking about a hypothetical scenario here, right?

I didn't read the wall of text you posted.

XhosaNostra:

blame is all we do, truth need to be told, stop condemning people before you hear from them. have you taken time to dig deep or our comment is just for free data formalities?
women are not the same, just like men are not the same. i for one is an example, my own wife deny me sex.... i mean i have to go ask my wife for sex and she turns me down, i have been married to her for 4years now. don't laugh, its the truth, our quarrel at home starts from this angle and it germinate to other things, we have wonderful children and don't ask how did it come. its a matter for another day. truth be told, we quarrel alot,cos she is the type u can't correct, she will stand up to tell you why you are wrong and she is right. i have a good job and she manage some job, i take care of home finances, i cook , am very domesticated, i do all this to keep head above water, what do i get in return? denial of sex, we have talked about it and she tells me to deal with it. this is 4years of marriage, i can count the number of times i have had sex with my wife, and all the time i do, i go beg for it. lol. she has reported me to council eact time we have issues and each time she does, i go their to defeat her against all her claims.
some women can whine to get sympathy cos they are seen as the weaker vessel. but truth be told, if i leave home to go seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere, what will be the public perception? ahhh, stupid man, he abandons his home for women outside, as am responding to you now, am in the office, i had to go out of the home to go my office on sunday, y? to go cool off my head and relax my mind.
people should stop dabbling into peoples affairs, always wait to listen to the other side of the story, just like mine, each time mine runs to welfare council to report me, everyone around will say the idiot should be invited, once i open my mouth to talk, it will be like woman who are you? all you said this man has debunk them all with fact you can't refute.
Men problem has always been bottling up all the problems that comes their way, they don't like to talk about it, cos they don't want you to know what is wrong in their homes. my own wife has a family that can't correct her cos she is seen as the brightest one. that y all the siblings are dumb to correct her, marrying a man like me that will not keep silent over ills is something they never imagined. i bought my wife a car, i do all for her. now where am i wrong? asking of sex from a wife is that what a man should be doing? that is the situation most men find themselves and when one of the men find the gut to down all the consequences, if will be called a demon, not knowing that d demon is the one that propel an action that should not have happened.




Well, we're obviously on different sides of the fence here because I blame the man more. "My dick made me do it" doesn't hold water with me. An adult should be able to resist any form of temptation & put the urges under control. He's not a child, so there's no excuse good enough that'd make me look the other way & go easy on him. The other woman didn't enter the marriage without his invitation, hence I see her role as irrelevant at best. He started it, therefore, HE will be my target. I married him, not the floozy he decided to forsaken his vows for. I'd make him pay dearly!

Remii:

not only OBJ, from Adekunle to OBJ to Akinrinade they commanded 3rd Marine Commandos that nailed the coffin of rebellion in the creeks of Niger.

kreami diva: I attended someone's trad wedding in Festac while she's from Arochukwu. Well,its compulsory according to ibo tradition to at least pay the dowry and other traditional things in the village.unless as bellong said,u can convince the father to shift ground for you.

kayci_d77:
Mazi is nothing close to dee or deede, Mazi means Mr and dee means an elder man. Mazi is a general Igbo language not particularly meant for some part of Igbo

odumchi: Thank you all for your replies. I was confused because, although I was told that "mazi" was exclusively Aro, I've come across several cases in which non-Aro (like Mazi_Omenuko) bear it, in addition to seeing it in Igbo literature.

Anyway, "mazi" is not a title of the same caliber as Nze or Ozo, because (like Chinenye mentioned) there isn't a ceremony accompanied with it and it doesn't signify achievement or accomplishment (we don't even take titles in Aro). In the same vein, it isn't limited to elders. In Aro society, "mazi" is simply a title that is used to politely identify any man whose father is no longer alive. If such a man's father were alive, he would be identified as "nwa mazi" while his father would bear "mazi". For women, the title "ada mazi" exists and is born by all women, irregardless of whether or not the father is alive.

Another thing that I've noticed is that the Aro are the only Igbo people that I know of that refer to their king as "mazi".