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How to Destroy a Relationship Before You Ever Get into One
You need to know that most of what break every
relationship are what individuals brought into the
relationship. A relationship can hardly break if people have
a great life before they come together.
And you need to know what a great life entails.
Today, I'll take you on a journey.
There used to be a time I never wanted any form of
disturbances whenever I was working. And if anyone would
call me (my elder brother in this case), I would ask them for
some minutes more to finish up whatever I was doing
before going to meet them.
It goes this way:
If I am on my laptop and my elder brother summons me, I'll
announce to him that I'll be available in the next five
minutes, depending on whatever I am doing.
On that fateful day, my brother told me...
"If you're working and your wife needs your attention, or
your wife isn't around and you hear your baby crying, would
you ask for a few more minutes?"
That discussion changed the core of my being! I saw the
need to be a better person, rather than continue in the self-
defeating mental enclave I've put myself in.
If my elder brother didn't have that discussion with me, I'll
go into marriage with the thought of "Don't disturb me while
I'm working".
And should I shock you?
The mindset hasn't left me, even after a year in marriage.
It's going gradually and I'm becoming better.
And I'll tell you to check those things you hold so sacred
about you. Those things that made you seek privacy
unnecessarily!
That's part one... Over to part two.
The first day I listened to "The Myth of Singleness" by the
late Myles Monroe, I told myself I could marry myself when
he asked "Can you marry you?" in the course of the
teaching.
I said all these:
I am purposeful
I sleep an average of 4 hours every day
I am hardworking
I am jovial
I am a people's person.
To me, having a life that a few people love is a proof of a
successful relationship.
Yes? No! I lied!
In reality, you can have a successful life as a single and not
be able to get a relationship working.
When such happens you blame it all on your partner!
Unknown to you, what you've only built all your life is better
called "A life for one".
You are to build "a life for two", even before you are in a
relationship.
Here's a question: Based on your productivity level Can you
marry you?
Let us take this deeper...
A test of a successful relationship is how well you're able to
relate with your friends and family members before you ever
get into a relationship.
If people complain about your character, don't just shrug it
off!
Never think that people don't understand you but your lover
will.
If your life isn't working as a single person, no relationship
can make it work.
All of your Inhibitions as a single will join forces to victimize
your relationship and could be the reason it'll break.
See this again:
While I was growing, I decided to start fighting every allergy
I had.
I wanted to make sure I could eat anything I would be
offered in the nearest future. And since I wasn't sure from
which tribe I would get married, I was willing to eat anything
to save myself from the shame later.
Today, I eat just anything!
But out there are a lot of people that will say...
I don't eat Plantain. I don't eat rice if not with beans. I can't
eat yam if not with stew. I don't eat fish. I don't eat onions.
I can't eat this. I can't do that.
As harmless as those things are, it could form a bedrock of
failure in your marriage.
A good example: When my elder brother got married, the
wife didn't like when pepper isn't well ground. She hated
(with passion) seeing a seed of pepper in her food and I
knew how many times that caused quarrels between her
and my younger brother.
Today, she eats that! She eats grated pepper.
But wouldn't she have saved herself from the struggle had
she learnt that before getting married?
Now... To you...
You have allergies, right?
Try to break them!
Imagine you can't sleep with the lights on and your partner
can't sleep without the lights on?
It will lead you both to be sleeping in different rooms until
one of you will give it up! That's not healthy, you say?
Since some people get married, they've been manipulating
their partner to eat only what they've been used to. They
would only cook (or demand for) whatever they grew up
with and trash their partner's.
To them, the dishes from their culture are the best. That's
witchcraft in matrimony.
Again..
I once never liked sleeping in the same room with anyone
that would influence my moments. I loved sleeping alone
and I pride myself in that.
Being in the same room with another person was weariness
in its prime.
You know why?
I wouldn't be able to do anything reasonable whenever I
was with a person. Pray effectively? Study? Na! I could go
days or weeks without that if I'm with someone in a room.
I remember the 1st day I decided to pass the night at a
friend's place back in school. He had to call another friend
of ours to inform him about my decision.
I guess I didn't know I would get married someday.
As awesome as that lifestyle was, it was big enough to hurt
me in marriage and could do the same thing to as many as
are embracing the lifestyle.
I guess we don't think about marriage while moulding a life
for ourselves. You have to start thinking that way!
Lastly...
Back then, I wanted to make all the money and then spend
as would wish.
While doing all that, I paid no attention to my physical
wellness!
I could have sleepless nights because I wanted to meet a
target, putting my life on the risk of being broken down.
I even once would boast of sleeping just 3 hours in a day.
Stupid thing!
You are in a relationship and you're so consumed with your
work that you have no time for your partner.
To you, when you get married, everything will just work out
fine. You'll have enough time because you'll have enough
money.
You're being unreasonable to yourself!
You know why?
If you have no time when you're still single, how will you
have enough when you have a wife and kids?
You will make the money you want to make and your wife
with family members will enjoy all you've amassed when
you work out life from yourself and die!
I see you don't know that quality time is a love language you
must speak, and you must start to speak that to your
friends and family members even before you go into any
relationship. Neglect that and see your house on the
pathway to emotional ruins.
Today, I still struggle with what I'm sharing with you on
work and time with the family. I am improving, though. But
I am improving the more on my sleeping time.
So, for the wise, a 'WORLD' is enough.
Live a balanced life. Evaluate your values. Check everything
that makes you happy to know if your partner will fully fit
into them. Don't plan to force your partner into your life. You
could be planting a bomb for yourself. Listen to everything
your immediate family members tell you about yourself.
Read a lot about everything on life and love. Please.
Be flexible. Be reasonable. Be simple. And you'll love it.
Over to you.

How to Destroy a Relationship Before You Ever Get into One
You need to know that most of what break every
relationship are what individuals brought into the
relationship. A relationship can hardly break if people have
a great life before they come together.
And you need to know what a great life entails.
Today, I'll take you on a journey.
There used to be a time I never wanted any form of
disturbances whenever I was working. And if anyone would
call me (my elder brother in this case), I would ask them for
some minutes more to finish up whatever I was doing
before going to meet them.
It goes this way:
If I am on my laptop and my elder brother summons me, I'll
announce to him that I'll be available in the next five
minutes, depending on whatever I am doing.
On that fateful day, my brother told me...
"If you're working and your wife needs your attention, or
your wife isn't around and you hear your baby crying, would
you ask for a few more minutes?"
That discussion changed the core of my being! I saw the
need to be a better person, rather than continue in the self-
defeating mental enclave I've put myself in.
If my elder brother didn't have that discussion with me, I'll
go into marriage with the thought of "Don't disturb me while
I'm working".
And should I shock you?
The mindset hasn't left me, even after a year in marriage.
It's going gradually and I'm becoming better.
And I'll tell you to check those things you hold so sacred
about you. Those things that made you seek privacy
unnecessarily.


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Part two loading.

Leadership is defined as ‘the process in which an individual influences the group of individuals to attain a common goal’. The goal is attained by mutual cooperation and cohesive behaviour. A leader infuses a sense of positivity and directs others to reach the specified goal. Various theories since years have been formulated by psychologists to explain the traits of a leader. Certain traits of a good leader were listed by the researchers as: intelligence, extraversion, and adjustment, openness to experience, general self-efficacy and conscientiousness. It has been inferred that an individual possessing these traits results as a good leader. Another theory suggests that great events lead an ordinary individual to emerge as a leader. Then there is a third theory which emphasises that leadership is a transformation or a process. Anyone can become a leader by learning the leadership skills. A leader is someone who stands not only for his cause but takes responsibility and motivates other individuals also. There is a clear difference between being a boss and a leader. A leader is a motivation for others and inspires individuals to aim high and attain that aim. However a boss only supervises over his subordinates. Power naturally comes to a leader but that power is not a tool of leader. Rather if one tries to control the circumstances with power it turns out to be authoritarian or even suppressive in its expression. Leadership is not a quality but it is an individual’s behaviour. A leader showcases a positive attitude and high self esteem. He assertively works towards the goal but never gets pushy for it. A continuous self study, training, evaluation and imbibing positive things in life develop the characteristics of a leader. Situations are never in our hands but reaction is always that we can control. A leader not only reacts positively but also helps other members of the group to see the brighter side of the picture. It has also been noticed that only those persons are considered as good leaders who have gained the trust and confidence of their subordinates. Communication plays a vital role in this regard. The other thing that people respect is knowledge. Proficiency in subject is the main driving force. The next factor is the execution of idea. A leader always executes the things effectively. He works as a team and team welfare is his primary goal. A leader is looked upon by his subordinates critically also. A man of high moral values and integrity can only become a good leader. It has always been a matter of controversy as to what makes an individual different from others. Some emphasise that is an innate quality while some advocate that it is a matter of practice only. To sum up, leadership is a quality which is if present naturally is welcome or otherwise can be developed by acquiring desired skills.

Leadership is defined as ‘the process in which an individual influences the group of individuals to attain a common goal’. The goal is attained by mutual cooperation and cohesive behaviour. A leader infuses a sense of positivity and directs others to reach the specified goal. Various theories since years have been formulated by psychologists to explain the traits of a leader. Certain traits of a good leader were listed by the researchers as: intelligence, extraversion, and adjustment, openness to experience, general self-efficacy and conscientiousness. It has been inferred that an individual possessing these traits results as a good leader. Another theory suggests that great events lead an ordinary individual to emerge as a leader. Then there is a third theory which emphasises that leadership is a transformation or a process. Anyone can become a leader by learning the leadership skills. A leader is someone who stands not only for his cause but takes responsibility and motivates other individuals also. There is a clear difference between being a boss and a leader. A leader is a motivation for others and inspires individuals to aim high and attain that aim. However a boss only supervises over his subordinates. Power naturally comes to a leader but that power is not a tool of leader. Rather if one tries to control the circumstances with power it turns out to be authoritarian or even suppressive in its expression. Leadership is not a quality but it is an individual’s behaviour. A leader showcases a positive attitude and high self esteem. He assertively works towards the goal but never gets pushy for it. A continuous self study, training, evaluation and imbibing positive things in life develop the characteristics of a leader. Situations are never in our hands but reaction is always that we can control. A leader not only reacts positively but also helps other members of the group to see the brighter side of the picture. It has also been noticed that only those persons are considered as good leaders who have gained the trust and confidence of their subordinates. Communication plays a vital role in this regard. The other thing that people respect is knowledge. Proficiency in subject is the main driving force. The next factor is the execution of idea. A leader always executes the things effectively. He works as a team and team welfare is his primary goal. A leader is looked upon by his subordinates critically also. A man of high moral values and integrity can only become a good leader. It has always been a matter of controversy as to what makes an individual different from others. Some emphasise that is an innate quality while some advocate that it is a matter of practice only. To sum up, leadership is a quality which is if present naturally is welcome or otherwise can be developed by acquiring desired skills.

Sometimes I can see myself
running. But what am I running
from? I'm running from life. It's
impossible to get away. Sometimes
I wish I could just close my eyes,
And then things would be different.
I just want to be somebody. I don't
know if I can, but I'll try. I've
messed up in my life more then
once. But at least I'm still alive.
But do I want to be?
Yes . . . I do. People mess up all the
time. It's no reason to just run
away. If you do, your problems will
wait for you. You just gotta move
on. You have to except what you've
done. Just can't sit and feel sorry
for yourself.
Life's not that bad. It's what you
make it out to be. There will be
good and bad times. Sometimes
more bad then good. Either way it's
life. I would never want to change
my life. Even though I've messed
up in the past.
I think it made me a stronger
person. So instead of running, I'll
stay and take life as it is! Am I on the right path?

Yeligray:
Christmas is about the remembrance of Jesus.. We do this by showing love to one another, caring for one another, giving to the poor, clothing the naked, etc.

Christ never for once commanded his followers to celebrate his birth. Only in 1Corinthians 11:24, Luke 22:19 was it written for xtians to remember his death and not his birth. Anything not found in the bible should not be a custom for true xtians Romans 15:4.

olabinjo3:
Nice game bro. Thanks

You welcome dude. Jah bless your efforts.

forreelinc:
Shut up you think say na your mama for house you dey talk to bloody scammer na why your life no get direction

Ineptitude dey worry you. I am sure you're just been cocksure. Go get yourself busy.

forreelinc:
Scammers have come again

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Naija for real. Just as we expected.

kidap:
Embattled Nigerian singer, Burna Boy, who surrendered himself to the Lagos State Police Command on Friday is now a free man.

The singer who was declared wanted by the Lagos State Police command for his alleged involvement in the assault and robbery of colleague Mr 2kay appeared in court today and he was granted a 100,000 (One Hundred Thousand Naira) bail.



The case was also adjourned till December 29, 2017.



Source: http://www.ngg.ng/2017/12/18/burna-boy-granted-bail-of-100k-for-involving-in-mr-2kay-robbery/

Welcome to Naija!
Just as we expected.

lalasticlala:
Check out this article by a Kenyan, JAMES KAHONGEH



Source; http://nairobinews.nation.co.ke/life/kenyan-nigerian-slay-queens/

Who else came here to read the comments.

How has his dressing affects us? Wetin concern us. Mtcheew! Radarada.

Blackhawk01:
Hahahaha
We're dedicating the same song
Do you miss her too?

Oh yea! I really do miss her.

Its a question ma.

My nokia 203 cant install whatsapp each time I do so it requires me to update the app which i've done several times in vain help me please.

In a generation blighted by immorality, low self-esteem, lack of self control, greed amongst a few it is hard to find true love (If it still exist). While several individuals has been traumatised emotionally, newly wedded couples increase as the week pass by. Sometimes ago our parents instructions gradually mould our moral values, sadly such instructions has lose its potency and our youths fare badly. In my own stance I wonder if happy relationships that prelude to happy marriage can still be built, why a man can no longer consider himself lucky to have a wife.

I told you when you left me there's nothing to forgive but I've always thought you'd come back, tell me all you found was heartbreak and misery......

Jealous by Lanbrinth

In a generation blighted by
immorality, low self-esteem, lack
of self control, greed amongst a
few it is hard to find true love (If it
still exist). While several individuals
has been traumatised emotionally,
newly wedded couples increase as
the week pass by. Sometimes ago
our parents instructions gradually
mould our moral values, sadly such
instructions has lose its potency
and our youths fare badly. In my
own stance I wonder if happy
relationships that prelude to happy
marriage can still be built, why can't a
man no longer consider himself
lucky to have a wife?

NoFavors:
Nah! Time breaks some things

Oh! I see. Till then enjoy your day.

NoFavors:
I never leave room for that. I do the total cleaning up

Really? I like your guts. Time heals everything.

NoFavors:
I'm in my house, come and beat me

Till that day ponder over what your signature might beckon to you.

NoFavors:
you're mad

Where on earth do you think you come from? No rooms for insults on my platform. You can't just come out of the blues and hurl abusive words at me like you've known me somewhere before. Hey dude be warned!

Just this?

Please how do I comment on Nairaland? ............. I joined nairaland a few weeks ago but I've been encountering challenges commenting which make it a bit boring to me. I'm anticipating for your prompt replies.

Martin0:
I know say na enjoyment dey lead to fatness na too much jolly jolly

Abeg start to dey do jogging jogging ooo u know say fatness nor dey rain again

Like if you came to read the comments.

That's a lie. I saw the guy (Segun Wire) Several times this year including him performing at #DeNewAfrkanShrine where I worked looking cute and well kept. Let the sleeping dog lies. Leave this guy Zlatan or whatever alone.

Antina:
No please, it is not safe to tell a 12 years old girl you are in love.

I honestly do not have the intentions of telling her. I might be silly enough to ask dump ass niggas a simple question yet hurl abusive words at me without even reading the meaning to the post. I have a pretty girl and I ain't looking bad either. You guys need a bit of mediocrity then, you can constructively critisise.