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MufasaLion:
Right. Well, there are millions of PLWHA out there. I hope you get one. It really shouldn't be difficult, at all.

I sure will, it’s really not difficult. There are support groups everywhere. And online apps dating apps too with people openly disclosing as well.

MufasaLion:
Exactly!

Magic Johnson said he drove him and told Cookie, his wife about the result. He said she was pregnant with their son, E.J as at then. He also said telling his wife was the hardest thing that he had to do. Fortunately, his wife chose to stay with him. Both the wife and the foetus were tested negative.

I believe all positive people should give their partner the choice to either say or leave. They owe them them that much.

yes he was undetectable and can’t transmit hence his wife and foetus being negative. I’ll always tell my ortner before she we get married. I’ve sometimes wanted to marry someone that is positive as well. That way I won’t have to worry about stigma at all. I don’t want someone telling me in the future how she agreed to marry me even when I know I pose no risk to her….

slimanyd:
Now I see why u are such a bittered soul. At your young age. U already know how to sleep with different girls all in the name of been a big guy abi . Ode, He even said he was ignorant . Stfu. But he wasn't ignorant of having sex with different ladies abi. Its south sha u got what u got via same enjoyment of ignorant . Osinwin eniyan.

you are far from thinking I’m bitter, I’m literally helping people financially and other ways too. I’ll leave you to continue to be ignorant, I know what I went though first hand, I won’t want others to pass through that hence the reason I’m disclosing this and also trying to help people. But keep it up though

WhatCanIsay:
Bros are you ok? Someone that is living the life and is experiencing the reality is telling you the facts of his life directly, and you are telling him it's a lie because you watched a YouTube video? Have you researched on NGOs that take care of people with HIV in America too?

When you got infected where you charged for the drugs there in America?

I clearly gave him hospitals to call or even do a simple google research, how do homeless people in America get hiv medication? People really don’t think. Those documentaries are used by people to get sponsorships and funding. A little research will help others. If only the world knows how many people are living on Antiretroviral. Why will I lie though…

edimaan:
I don't think this is true.

we work with facts. Having sec without condom is a risk. Do a research on your own. I mentioned undetectable. But for something like Hiv, I’ll always tell my partner, it’s unfair to date someone knowing to have something like Hiv or any long term ailment at all and not disclose it at all…

slimanyd:
Now I see why u are such a bittered soul. At your young age. U already know how to sleep with different girls all in the name of been a big guy abi . Ode, He even said he was ignorant . Stfu. But he wasn't ignorant of having sex with different ladies abi. Its south sha u got what u got via same enjoyment of ignorant . Osinwin eniyan.

I just lectured people and I believe they got it. Stay ignorant or choose to learn

klawaaa:
Op, I think you talking of the UK. Nothing is outrightly free in the states! Someone, somewhere would have to carry the burden.

Thats why I said sponsorships and insurance, government through taxes as well. I don’t cough out dollars for pills

slimanyd:
And have u do well to inform those 2 flings of ladies u had sex with to go for text aswell ? U no show love at all. Did you how many more of people they will have transmitted the virus too? U did the worst thing by not curbing the spread at the earliest time or saving those 2 girls u had sex with to also start taking there drugs or go for test ASAP.

I don’t know what to call you, wether to say you are daft or a dimwit. A young ignorant 200 level student that go infect and not knowing what to do, then the next thing I should do is to scream to one girl I had sec with, what if she is negative and then she now knows I’m positive and I become a risk to everyone around me. How did I get it in the first place? It flew from the air and then came to me and I transferred it to them. I should go fight them to have infected me… don’t be useless and start thinking instead of being a clown

obidadon:
Does one with a high CD4 (1500) count
stand a chance of not contacting Hiv if exposed to unprotected sex with someone living with the virus with a high viral load?

Im not a heath professional, having sec with condom is very important. It’s better not to have it than to have it. It’s just stressful. A person can have a very high CD4 count and still be positive. The thought of knowing that you are positive is mostly the issue, the fear and anxiety as well. But if a person can handle it, start treatment and think less of it. Then the person is good. The way to live the life is in the mind and that pill. Do a research and find out maybe but no one should really be careless on this

yinkeys:
Heard yesterday they’ve found a reliable cure
What’s your take on that

i saw the news and I really didn’t feel any way because I felt I’m in control of my life now. All I need is to take one pill a day which I’m used to and have done for years. I’m happy for a lot of people back home because this new discovery will change things, people can now be totally free. But at the end of the day, it’s better not to be positive at all. If there is now a cure for HIV, what about syphilis and others that cannot be easily controlled like HIV. I’m happy though but abstinence or use of condoms during sex is the best. Other diseases are roaming about and they are worst, my experience with hiv was easy for me somehow because I was strategic and knew I shouldn’t be thinking about it at all . If I get cured from the new discovery that’s ok, but at this time, I’m not really rushing or in a haste to go find a cure. I’m just living my life and have no issues at all eclectically now I’m undetectable for years. Just my one pill and I’m done. I’m used to my single pill

perryy:
If I say you don't have anything like hiv in your system people will call me names. Go and do your research well, none of those girls takes drug or is positive. You may actually had some underlying aliments which made your immune system to be working all the time, hence the positive result you got. Professor Duesberg, Kerry Mullings etc have done so much works on this HIV hoax.

lmao ok… so the 12 hospitals I went to all lied without knowing themselves as at the time I went for tests? Alright buddy

Datikwerreboi:
Lol, u tried oo. I'm happy for you but why do you want to tell them?

I don’t think I actually should though. It’s totally unnecessary now

Golan007:
I'm insisting that it isn't free whether you make 60k, less or more.

I provided documentary evidence.

Provide proof if you want people to believe.

your documentary is trash, people do things from stories they heard, I’ve said this from my personal experience till date. There are millions in Nigeria and US who are positive and the drugs are free. Go to a general hospital in Nigeria, use google search. You don’t even need to do so much to find where to go register and get your pill.

Golan007:
I'm insisting that it isn't free whether you make 60k, less or more.

I provided documentary evidence.

Provide proof if you want people to believe.

I don’t want you to believe, I already told my story and that’s it. Call Family health center in Harlem New York or do a simple google search

1Sharon:
How did you feel when you found out

Devastated, worried and I lost weight in just 4 days because I was thinking. Nearly ended my life because I didn’t understand how that happened. I only had sex three times in my life at that time. Once in SS1 with condom and twice the pervious year(first year in school). I felt so stupid, like how can I be positive, how will my life transcend from there and I came from a poor family, the shame it will bring to my family and stuffs. It was a painful experience. I was planning to travel to onitcha from my school in two weeks before I decided to attend that confession in that Catholic parish because I needed someone to talk to, I knew the priest is the only person that can listen because they sit on the other side and just listen to peoples voice and not see who is speaking so it was a nice idea for me to go speak to him. His initial approach saved me. When I said I was positive, the said and so what? Is that all? Wait after confession. It’s nothing to worry about and that’s it. I think that point changed certain things about the way I was thinking about it

yinkeys:
Good keep it that way.
They don’t need to know sh*t
Only your spouse who’d obviously be positive

Except you want to be a monster by choosing a negative girl.
Honour is not a feminine trait that’s why the girls you dated obviously are married without informing their hubbies initially. I’m somewhat sure of that.

my spouse obviously have to know, I’m clearly undetectable and have seen couples where one is positive and the other is not. All the person needs to do is to stay undetectable but telling a partner is important. Not telling a partner is a terrible idea because you still have to hide everything. It’s not a risk dating someone while undetectable. The best thing is to disclose it to the person and they choose to either stay or not. That’s why education is important

Golan007:
He's even lying about drugs being free in the states.

I've watched a number of documentaries and they always complain about the cost.

Guy appears fake.

why will I lie about being hiv positive? People steal from other through these pill, it is entirely free in government hospitals in Nigeria. In United States it’s free if you make less than 60k a year and there are organisations that offer those. If you make more, you either will pay through you work insurance or pay part of it and get sponsorships from Other drug agencies. Why I go lie say I be hiv positive please? Just call government agencies in charge of HIV in Nigeria and ask them how much is a hiv pill and get your answers. That’s why research is important

pembisco:
Just a little correction@op. People who don't know about their status on time get to have higher viral load not like the way you put it in your write up.

Can happen but when they gradually get ill and still not know, they of course reduces the immune system and they can go down too. The best thing is to know and take charge of it. That’s why people should avoid being infected in the first place, if infected, the person should better know and take charge of his or her life

yinkeys:
@Megabig I used to think these top tier (US, UK, Australia, Canada & NZ) countries deny people with serious health compromising issues visa
Surprised you got to USA
Especially since they deny a ton of people’s visa applications daily in Lagos
Well 2008 is totally different from today.
Getting it in level 200, that’s crazy young. Congrats to getting out of that depression well.
A ton of people won’t be able to handle it.

Oh yes, that catholic priest saved me. If not for him. I think I would have ended my life actually. All I needed to do what to research but of course fear did not let me do so initially

Deicide:
So are your parents still in the dark about your HIV status?

Everyone is in the dark, even my friends, they don’t have to know anymore because I’m already over it. I don’t need help anymore as well. They should have known when I needed help so I pulled through it

Richy4:
WOW!!! This dude can keep secrets for Africa...
Assuming u were working for late General Sani Abacha, No one would have known that an Indian lady offered him an Apple

The secret no be here, I was keeping secret when I needed help, hiding my drugs was the most painful and hardest. I had to loosen our tv at some point to hide it, I tore under my dad’s car seat to hide some too, all I did was to stuff inside with paper to ensure it doesn’t jiggle when the car is moving and my dad is a transporter. So you can imagine my dad carry my pills around the city without knowing.I stopped hiding in the ceiling when I saw snake one time I climb to take it. Tore under the chair in the sitting room to hide too, we can all be watching tv but my pill is under where my mum is sitting. It wasn’t funny honestly…

yinkeys:
It’s one of them.
Some ladies just don’t care or bother to check their status. They can be very reckless
I hear men see the signs instantly compared to women

yes, both can go years without knowing, but the chances of men seeing it is so high, a doctor in New York told me that clearly.

Ochelyko1:
God bless you bro for this keep on taking your drugs and at the same time if u are a believer pray towards it there is no ailments our God can't remove from our body.

Just keep trusting Him and have total faith in him I assured you, you will see the HIV disappear from ur body and dat which is positive before will be turn to negative.

thanks for that, this isn’t a very good advice for people living with HIV, faith without works is fruitless. The advice is to stay on medication while praying. I’ve seen pastors tell int people to abandon their pills and they end up suffering it.Not saying you want me to but I assure you, people are reading and will think it’s something that will just disappear, it will not!!!!!!! People should be on their pills just like every other ailment and continue to pay for good health(HIV has never affected my health at all)

Smarttravels:
How are you able to get your medications for free in the US?

I work for a firm that pays for my medical insurance and that doesn’t touch my paycheck. When I first arrived though, I lived in LA and New York, there are organizations in Manhattan that gave me pills for free and I also had free lunch too. There is one called Family Health Centre in Harlem, they also registered people and direct them to places where they get pills and even groceries for free(all these are for low income people at that time, they have to prove the person is not making above 60k a year), but now I’m making above that but my insurance still covers it all. So I have no issues at all.

STARKENNETH:
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Eddygourdo:
wow that's pretty scary. Anyway may not have been from sex. Maybe some other encounters. It's great you are doing well and having a positive outlook to life. Wish you the best bro.

I suspect the burning saloon, I get cuts on my hair 80 percent of the time I’ve taken a haircut back home. You know those campus barbers and trying to cut hairlines. I doubt if it’s not from it

LordReed:
Cheers to you buddy. You may not have been bold enough to tell your family but the fact that you held on and sought treatment speaks volumes about your tenacity. Keep it up.

Thank you. The hardest thing I’ve done in my life

segzysexy:
Thank you ops for this educative piece of information. I guess you meant to say CD4 count instead of using the word viral load.

CD4(just call them soldiers) are cells which fight the HIV virus(call the boko haram) in the blood, therefore the more CD4 in the system, the more you win the battle. Viral load is the amount of hiv in the blood(boko haram), so the lesser the load in the blood the better for the Soldiers(CD4) fight. People can maintain their CD4 count and keep increasing it without being on drugs by eating fruits, eating healthy working out regularly and infact it stays above and sometimes keep increasing but others like myself who we’re told to start antiretroviral because we are scared(being scared reduced your immune system and makes you loose the soldiers(CD4), that’s why some people die because they feel dejected, even a healthy person loose weight when filled with thoughts) and may not maintain our count. So the antiretroviral tries to eliminate the load and reduce it to the barest minimum, that is when the virus can no longer be seen in the blood(undetectable) and then untransmittable. That also doesn’t mean I am negative, I have stay on the drugs to continue suppressing the load and keeping the soldiers(CD4) active

yinkeys:
I guess you migrated before 2012.
Things have obviously changed now.
Especially with our bad reputation etc.
The Nigeria of today is totally different

Nope, I left 2016. Just to note that I did my entire visa process myself, no time was my medical records requested. No time at all

Eddygourdo:
how did you get it.

I honestly don’t know, as at the time I got tested, I’ve only had sex thrice, once SS1 and then twice in Year 1 in school. I have tracked those girls I’ve had stuff with in the past just to see if one is loosing weight or something but they are all married and with kids. Till date, I can’t think of where and how. Also the only time I had sex without condom was the times in the university.

yinkeys:
@Megabig I used to think these top tier (US, UK, Australia, Canada & NZ) countries deny people with serious venereal viruses visa
Surprised you got to USA
Especially since they deny a ton of people’s visa applications daily in Lagos

I learnt they do, my visa process to America never requested for any medical procedure. I got to US via B1(visiting) and stayed back. There are thousands of HIV support organisation in the states so it’s easier to stay back in the US. You know the sponsorship as regards to this is large

FactBoyz:
HIV is not a death sentence but it's better you dont have it.

No ailment is worth having.