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Another reason for political sycophants to quarrel.

Either presidential candidate is good. The fact remains that age is no deterrent to whatever you are determined to achieve.

Vote wisely.

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Not again! We've seen a lot of similar stories! Not blaming any body tho and dunno which applies here. Generally,it is about time parents learn to produce the number of kids they can raise. Parents should share in the blame and not just the government.
Besides, who still believes this old trick of greener pasture outside the shores of Naija without a meaningful certificate? I therefore blame the ladies as well.

The government is invariably culpable. If only they had provided enof job ni.

RIP to the dead!

Meanwhile vote wisely!

Sincerely hope they did a good job. Now the election can hold. Oya front page tins.

Dedicating this potential frontpage tins to mua!
Before I forget, hit like for oga Jona or share for Buhari!

Wondering why this has not hit lascalastica

A typical Nigerian man has the following bad attributes:

1-feels threatened in the presence of a competent lady

2-has a low self esteem with a disgusting ego.

3-tags himself rare when it comes feminine matters! after all the ratio of male to female is still 1:5

4-likes to sit on top of matters even when he is clueless and sooooo wrong. Keshi a typical example.

5-thinks he is wiser than the white man. See them slaving their loved ones in exchange for mirror or thinking they can survive and surpass the white man in virtually every thing.

6-rarely accepts he is wrong. Will rather give one thousand and one excuses to ascertain this claim.

7-will never believe he is at least comfortable. He is always managing perhaps for years.

8-will never accept a female leader. Who born you?

9-ever jealous of others achievement. That is why they never progress. Go to the villages and see for yourself.

10-finds it hard to embrace change. With him, every thing is routine.

11-dreams of leaving the country. Who then will make Nigeria better?

12-rarely focuses on one thing. They so much cling to the usual
Norm of not putting all your eggs in one basket. Focus widens your tent.

13-not interested in education. Afterall I can always become a politician. Apparently anyway, education has failed to pay bills in Nigeria.

14-feeling bigger than he ever is. Go to Onitsha and see for yourself.
Add yours joor....

A typical Nigerian man has the following bad attributes:

1-feels threatened in the presence of a competent lady

2-has a low self esteem with a disgusting ego.

3-tags himself rare when it comes feminine matters! after all the ratio of male to female is still 1:5

4-likes to sit on top of matters even when he is clueless and sooooo wrong. Keshi a typical example.

5-thinks he is wiser than the white man. See them slaving their loved ones in exchange for mirror or thinking they can survive and surpass the white man in virtually every thing.

6-rarely accepts he is wrong. Will rather give one thousand and one excuses to ascertain this claim.

7-will never believe he is at least comfortable. He is always managing perhaps for years.

8-will never accept a female leader. Who born you?

9-ever jealous of others achievement. That is why they never progress. Go to the villages and see for yourself.

10-finds it hard to embrace change. With him, every thing is routine.

11-dreams of leaving the country. Who then will make Nigeria better?

12-rarely focuses on one thing. They so much cling to the usual
Norm of not putting all your eggs in one basket. Focus widens your tent.

13-not interested in education. Afterall I can always become a politician. Apparently anyway, education has failed to pay bills in Nigeria.

14-feeling bigger than he ever is. Go to Onitsha and see for yourself.
Add yours joor....

Idiataqueen:
Yeah u are rite d scientist do collect sumtin from d tip of my virginia she dont dip dat stick inside but just use it to rub d tip of my virginia but am neat and i do care about my health but i will do wat u said no nylon pants and low immunity am not fat ok thanks am greatful and dat of soap am confused pls explain

there is absolutely no safe soap for use. The one you may b reacting to may b the one that is the best for another person. The soap one has been using can be a cause of allergic reaction especially itching. If otherwise you are having a white like discharge from your vagina, candida will then most likely be the cause.

Remain blessed!

majalisa:
Very intresting.u sure know ur onions

Thank you sir!

Idiataqueen:
Mine Is Not mens pain is infection am tired of dat devil it occur when am 17 I treated it with mycoten cream but it keep coming so when am 20 years i did some test i was told i have candida strong one o d doctor prescribed sum drug to me and it disappear for lik 4 month now am aving dat iching sensation now above all am a virgin i dont believe dis can happen to me because i tot it was only d non virgin do av infection now my ? Is dat can circumcision cause dis frequent occurrences because i was circumcise and am a virgin and a neat lady

Tho d forum is only for dysmenorrhea, I will nonetheless offer help.
Itching is typical of candida infection. However, are you experiencing whitish discharge? If yes, then it is most likely a candida infection. However, other things like contact dermatitis, allergic reaction and other non-specific vaginal infection can give you similar symptom.
I hope the person that told you you have candida took something from your vagina to test for presence of candida. That is the only way u can say for sure you have the infection.

Being a virgin does not make you immune to the infection and circumcision call genital mutilation you had years ago does not give candida unless of cause you were infected then leading to a suppressed immunity.

candidiasis can occur when:
You are using contraceptive pills
Pregnant
Immunosuppressed that is low immunity
Fat or obesity
Continuous use of antibiotics
Use of nylon underwears
One of these may b responsible for the infection( if at all it is candida)
Be sure however that you are not using irritating soap, perfume or underwear.

In all, cleanliness is essential. Meet a doctor not a pharmacist or chemist for proper evaluation.

Have a blessed day ma!

Many ladies suffer unbearable pains during menses. The forum aims at dealing with pains associated with menses.
Relax and freely lay your complaint.
Advice and help will be rendered as much as possible.
If you are going through this or you've had it, you can also discuss with others your experience and how you are dealing with it.

Dysmenorrhea (dysmenorrhoea or painful periods) is a medical condition of pain during menstruation that interferes with daily activities.Still, dysmenorrhea is often defined simply as menstrual pain, or at least menstrual pain that is excessive. Surprisingly, dysmenorrhea may be normal or abnormal.
Menstrual pain is often used synonymously with menstrual cramps, but the latter may also refer to menstrual uterine contractions, which are generally of higher strength, duration and frequency than in the rest of the menstrual cycle.
Dysmenorrhea can feature different kinds of pain, including sharp, throbbing, dull, nauseating, burning, or shooting pain. Dysmenorrhea may precede menstruation by several days or may accompany it, and it usually subsides as menstruation tapers off. Dysmenorrhea may coexist with excessively heavy bloodloss, known as menorrhagia.
Secondary dysmenorrhea is diagnosed when symptoms are attributable to an underlying disease, disorder, or structural abnormality either within or outside the uterus. Primary dysmenorrhea is diagnosed when none of these are detected.


Signs and symptoms
The main symptom of dysmenorrhea is pain concentrated in the lower abdomen, in the umbilical region or the suprapubic region of the abdomen. It is also commonly felt in the right or left abdomen. It may radiate to the thighs and lower back.
Symptoms often co-occurring with menstrual pain include nausea and vomiting, diarrhea or constipation, headache, dizziness, disorientation, hypersensitivity to sound, light, smell and touch, fainting, and fatigue. Symptoms of dysmenorrhea often begin immediately following ovulation and can last until the end of menstruation. This is because dysmenorrhea is often associated with changes in hormonal levels in the body that occur with ovulation. The use of certain types of birth control pills can prevent the symptoms of dysmenorrhea, because the birth control pills stop ovulation from occurring.


Classification

Dysmenorrhea can be classified as either primary or secondary based on the absence or presence of an underlying cause. Secondary dysmenorrhea is dysmenorrhea which is associated with an existing condition.

Causes of secondary dysmenorrhea

The most common cause of secondary dysmenorrhea is endometriosis, which can be visually confirmed by laparoscopy.

Other causes of secondary dysmenorrhea include leiomyoma, (fibroid) adenomyosis, ovarian cysts, and pelvic congestion.


Pathophysiology of primary dysmenorrhea( how does it occur?)

During a woman's menstrual cycle, the endometrium(simply cells lining the womb) thickens in preparation for potential pregnancy. After ovulation( release of egg or ovum), if the ovum is not fertilized and there is no pregnancy, the built-up uterine tissue is not needed and thus shed.
Molecular compounds called prostaglandins are released during menstruation, due to the destruction of the endometrial cells, and the resultant release of their contents. Release of prostaglandins and other inflammatory mediators in the uterus cause the uterus to contract. These substances are thought to be a major factor in primary dysmenorrhea. When the uterine muscles contract, they constrict the blood supply to the tissue of the endometrium, which, in turn, breaks down and dies. These uterine contractions continue as they squeeze the old, dead endometrial tissue through the cervix and out of the body through the vagina. These contractions, and the resulting temporary oxygen deprivation to nearby tissues, are responsible for the pain or "cramps" experienced during menstruation.

Compared with other women, women with primary dysmenorrhea have increased activity of the uterine muscle with increased contractility and increased frequency of contractions.

How do you know you have dysmenorrhea?

The diagnosis of dysmenorrhea is usually made simply on a medical history of menstrual pain that interferes with daily activities. However, there is no universally accepted gold standard technique for quantifying the severity of menstrual pains.

Management

NSAIDs
Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs(NSAIDs) are effective in relieving the pain of primary dysmenorrhea. They can have side effectsof nausea, dyspepsia(indigestion), peptic ulcer, and diarrhea.

Hormonal contraceptives
use of hormonal contraceptioncan improve or relieve symptoms of primary dysmenorrhea.

Fortunately, you are not alone. Most women also share in your plight.

Cutehector:
lol hav u had menstrual pain?

I only answered your question!

Cutehector:
So I happen to hav dis female frnd who told me she was on her period and the pains were so much dat she had to place hot water insyd a bowl on her tommy. Is it dah d pains r so unbearable or wat

My dear pain is only but subjective!
But the pains can really be tormenting.

Many ladies suffer unbearable pains during menses. The forum aims at dealing with pains associated with menses.
Relax and freely lay your complaint.
Advice and help will be rendered as much as possible.
If you are going through this or you've had it, you can also discuss with others your experience and how you are dealing with it.

Dysmenorrhea (dysmenorrhoea or painful periods) is a medical condition of pain during menstruation that interferes with daily activities.Still, dysmenorrhea is often defined simply as menstrual pain, or at least menstrual pain that is excessive. Surprisingly, dysmenorrhea may be normal or abnormal.
Menstrual pain is often used synonymously with menstrual cramps, but the latter may also refer to menstrual uterine contractions, which are generally of higher strength, duration and frequency than in the rest of the menstrual cycle.
Dysmenorrhea can feature different kinds of pain, including sharp, throbbing, dull, nauseating, burning, or shooting pain. Dysmenorrhea may precede menstruation by several days or may accompany it, and it usually subsides as menstruation tapers off. Dysmenorrhea may coexist with excessively heavy bloodloss, known as menorrhagia.
Secondary dysmenorrhea is diagnosed when symptoms are attributable to an underlying disease, disorder, or structural abnormality either within or outside the uterus. Primary dysmenorrhea is diagnosed when none of these are detected.


Signs and symptoms
The main symptom of dysmenorrhea is pain concentrated in the lower abdomen, in the umbilical region or the suprapubic region of the abdomen. It is also commonly felt in the right or left abdomen. It may radiate to the thighs and lower back.
Symptoms often co-occurring with menstrual pain include nausea and vomiting, diarrhea or constipation, headache, dizziness, disorientation, hypersensitivity to sound, light, smell and touch, fainting, and fatigue. Symptoms of dysmenorrhea often begin immediately following ovulation and can last until the end of menstruation. This is because dysmenorrhea is often associated with changes in hormonal levels in the body that occur with ovulation. The use of certain types of birth control pills can prevent the symptoms of dysmenorrhea, because the birth control pills stop ovulation from occurring.


Classification

Dysmenorrhea can be classified as either primary or secondary based on the absence or presence of an underlying cause. Secondary dysmenorrhea is dysmenorrhea which is associated with an existing condition.

Causes of secondary dysmenorrhea

The most common cause of secondary dysmenorrhea is endometriosis, which can be visually confirmed by laparoscopy.

Other causes of secondary dysmenorrhea include leiomyoma, (fibroid) adenomyosis, ovarian cysts, and pelvic congestion.


Pathophysiology of primary dysmenorrhea( how does it occur?)

During a woman's menstrual cycle, the endometrium(simply cells lining the womb) thickens in preparation for potential pregnancy. After ovulation( release of egg or ovum), if the ovum is not fertilized and there is no pregnancy, the built-up uterine tissue is not needed and thus shed.
Molecular compounds called prostaglandins are released during menstruation, due to the destruction of the endometrial cells, and the resultant release of their contents. Release of prostaglandins and other inflammatory mediators in the uterus cause the uterus to contract. These substances are thought to be a major factor in primary dysmenorrhea. When the uterine muscles contract, they constrict the blood supply to the tissue of the endometrium, which, in turn, breaks down and dies. These uterine contractions continue as they squeeze the old, dead endometrial tissue through the cervix and out of the body through the vagina. These contractions, and the resulting temporary oxygen deprivation to nearby tissues, are responsible for the pain or "cramps" experienced during menstruation.

Compared with other women, women with primary dysmenorrhea have increased activity of the uterine muscle with increased contractility and increased frequency of contractions.

How do you know you have dysmenorrhea?

The diagnosis of dysmenorrhea is usually made simply on a medical history of menstrual pain that interferes with daily activities. However, there is no universally accepted gold standard technique for quantifying the severity of menstrual pains.

Management

NSAIDs
Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs(NSAIDs) are effective in relieving the pain of primary dysmenorrhea. They can have side effectsof nausea, dyspepsia(indigestion), peptic ulcer, and diarrhea.

Hormonal contraceptives
use of hormonal contraceptioncan improve or relieve symptoms of primary dysmenorrhea.

Fortunately, you are not alone. Most women also share in your plight.

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You're 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You're capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you're too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don't always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you'll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth.

MINDBODYGREEN

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You're 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You're capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you're too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don't always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you'll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth.

MINDBODYGREEN

hahn:
Lovely article. Very real and inspiring.

Unfortunately, the political clowns above are still themselves

Political clowns lol!
We're in the season!

Read on to discover five talks to have with your partner before the big day.
1. Debt & finances

Long before your wedding, sit down with your partner and have a frank discussion about your financial situation—be honest about it; hiding it will only hurt you down the road. Likewise, if you have bad credit because of a past mistake or financial tumble, tell your partner and discuss ways to improve your credit score together. This is also a good time to talk about how you'll handle your finances going forward.

2. Kids & parenting

You need to discuss whether or not you want to have kids, but beyond that, what are your partner's expectations around parenting? Does your sweetheart want you to stay at home with the kids? Do both of you want to continue working full-time? If so, will your kids go to day care, or have a nanny? Can someone in your family take care of the kids? This is also a good time to discuss whether or not you want to raise your kids in a certain religion. (You'd be surprised how many young people aren't religious but want to be imbue their kids with some kind of spirituality!)

3. Moving to a new city or state

Times are tough and many people find themselves forced to move to new cities or states for work or affordable housing. Talk to your partner about his or her willingness to move someday—even if it just means moving to a new neighborhood. If your partner is adamant about remaining in place, try to uncover his or her tipping point. Perhaps your future husband is concerned that you won't make enough money to support a move out of state, but if the job pays X amount, he'd be more willing. Or maybe your future wife wants to be close to her family when you have kids, but would be willing to try out a new city until then.

4. Life priorities

Getting married means making very long-term plans with another person, so it's important to lay out your priorities early. Is a yearly weeklong vacation on your list of absolute musts? Or would you rather scrimp and save for the first few years of marriage to buy a home? Discuss it with your partner and find a middle ground with which you're both comfortable. You should both be able to achieve your goals—indeed, a good marriage can be a launch pad for big ambitions—but each of you may have to shift your timeline to accommodate your partner's hopes and dreams.

5. Aging parents

You might not have to think about your parents' age-related needs for a decade or more, but talking to your partner about how they hope to care for their aging parents is a good way to get familiar with each other's priorities. Does your future spouse want her parents to live in your home? Would he prefer to put them up in a care facility? Will you be responsible for those costs? Include siblings in these conversations, too.

6. Handling the tough stuff

Start with this question: What were some of the worst periods in your life and how did you get through them? This will help you understand how your partner copes with tragedy and what kind of support he or she requires in a difficult situation. Next, the tough part: talk about how you'll handle major challenges, should they arise (think: emotional, physical, or financial infidelity; infertility or difficulty conceiving or life-altering health issues).

7. Improving your communication

If you've been together a couple of years, you've probably established some patterns of communication. But it's important to talk about how you can improve the way you argue, negotiate, and compromise. Ask your partner: How do your parents communicate and what can we learn from them? There may be things you'd like to try that work for your parents, or patterns you know you never want to replicate. Talk about ways you're communicating now that are working, and things you'd like to stop doing immediately.

MINDBODYGREEN

Swizdoe:
You mean No. 9 lol
Remember the thread title
"15 lies nobody should believe"

Lol! True tho!

The word 'am sorry' is over used. It is good we've been socialized to be respectful and courteous but we've to apologize or the right reasons.
Here is the list.
Enjoy!

Your beliefs and for being passionate about it.

Your looks.

Putting yourself first.

Speaking the truth.

Backing out on something meant to benefit you.

Taking a break.

Working so much.

Setting a standard.

Not looking good.

Making wrong choices in the past.

Asking for a help.

Reminding people of things that need to be get done.

Saying NO.

Your reasons.

Staying alone.

Crying.

Throwing money at a problem instead of dealing with it yourself.

Missing a friends wedding.

Not cleaning your room.

Dressing in a particular style.

Quiting a job.

Not knowing the answers to questions.

Appearing late to seemingly useless gathering meant to benefit you.

To an accident victim.

For not being rich.

For being sorry.

Saying SORRY all the time makes it easier for people to treat you like a doormat.
Have a blessed day!

Dubby6:
Baba space this ur work abeg

16. Vote for me and everything will be alright

SPACED!!!
Lol!

The word 'am sorry' is over used. It is good we've been socialized to be respectful and courteous but we've to apologize or the right reasons.

There are plenty of times when you'll have to apologize in life, but is there a time when you shouldn't say you're sorry? Yes! You just have to recognize when to throw out a mea culpa and when a frank discussion with your friend is required instead.

Here is how saying sorry can ruin you.



*.To the world you are weak. Nobody wants to hire or work with a weak person.

*.The world doesn’t take what you have to say seriously because you are constantly breaking your word and then saying sorry..

*.You yourself don’t take yourself seriously because all the times you’ve let yourself off from owning up.

*.You aren’t as liked. Why? Because the world doesn’t treat people who arene’t responsible enough to take care of their shit so they don’t have to say sorry anymore as good as people who are on top of their shit.

*.You accomplish less and then blame the world for why your life sucks.

What you believe and what you don't believe are intricately connected. Sometimes it's easier to look at the things you definitely do NOT want to believe in order to find what it is that you DO want to believe. Believe the opposite of these 15 lies, and the truth will set you free!

1. Five more minutes of sleep will help me.
The snooze button seems like a good idea while sleepy, but you'll get much more benefit from going to sleep earlier and not interrupting the last 30 minutes of your sleepevery five minutes. In fact, the science suggests that using the snooze buttons does more harm than good.

2. I need ____ to be happy.
The only word that fits in that blank is "contentment." The idea that you need anything else isn't true.

3. All [type of people] are [attribute].
Stereotypes don't just hurt other people, they hurt the ones who make them. If you assume, for example, that all men are jerks because you know a few of them, you'll miss out on the ones who aren't.

4. I'm better or worse than other people.
We can sort people by height, income, weight, race, and favorite football team, but we're all human; we're all important and valuable. We have different attributes, abilities, and skills, but no person should be defined (for better or worse) by those alone.

5. I can't change.
Change is possible if you go about it the right way. Most people try to change everything at once, which doesn't work. Change must be done methodically: it takes time and repetition for the subconscious to process and accept it. Aim for consistency, not quantity.

6. Trying is futile.
Trying is everything! Stephen King was rejected dozens of times before he became one of the world's best-selling authors. When other authors would have stopped trying, he didn't. If you're not trying, then what are you doing? Trying is everything!

7. The world is against me.
Generally speaking, the world is neither for or against you. Remember that you teach the world how to treat you. Think again about Stephen King being rejected so many times. The world wasn't against him, it just hadn't noticed him yet. Keep trying.

8. My dreams are dead.
As long as you're alive, so are your dreams. That's the most logical way to look at it.

9. I'm too young or too old to make a difference.
If you look throughout history, you'll see that people of all ages have shaped it. Don't use age as an excuse. Use it as extra motivation, if anything.

10. If I'm not motivated, I can't take action.
Motivation doesn't precede action — it follows action. When I realized and applied this, I changed my life. I'm in the best shape of my life, I'm reading and writing daily, and I'm a best-selling author; it's all directly a result of not believing this lie anymore.

11. I'm stuck.
This isn't a lie, actually. Because if you believe it, then you'll be it. Don't believe it though, because the present moment is neutral, and an opportunity to move forward.

12. People don't like me.
It may be true that some people don't like you, but there are 7 billion of us on Earth. Find your people.

13. I'm not talented enough.
Talent isn't nearly as important as practicing. Natural talent helps, but it's hardly ever a make or break factor.

14. I want candy.
Your taste buds want candy and your brain probably wants the sugar-triggered reward. But your body wants broccoli. You only want candy on a superficial level. Deep down, you want broccoli and you want it raw. Mmm!

15. I am a victim.
It's not correct to say that you are a victim in the present moment. Maybe you were a victim, but if you're currently free, you're no longer a victim. It's best to avoid the "victim mindset." Victims have things happen to them, while non-victims are free to create their own path. No matter what has happened to you before, you can begin a new path and a new life today.

We have two options in life: To be kind, or not to be kind. It’s absolutely empowering to choose kindness, and below are 18 ways to help you practice doing so every day. I hope these positive decisions can help you thrive!

1. Be kind to your body, no matter what's happening in your life.
As the saying goes, “You have to love yourself first before you can ever love someone else.” And it's true for our bodies, too.
This may sound a little nutty, but you can talk to the fat on ur body.

2. Talk to yourself in a kind way to shape the way you view the world.

3. When you need help, help someone else.

4. Put an act of kindness in your calendar.

5. Think about small things you can do to make someone else’s day a little easier.

6. Go with the flow. It could be the Universe's way of sending you some guidance.

7. Decide to stop judging everyone, including yourself.

8. When judgmental thoughts arise, talk to them like a kindergarten teacher.

9. Weave kindness into your business plan.

10. Thank your best teachers.

11. Thank your worst teachers.

12. Call a friend instead of sending a text.

13. Answer the phone.
Oh yes, this goes both ways! Someone calls us and it’s inconvenient to talk — or maybe we’re just lazy. We then ignore their call — you never know what that call could mean to them until you pick up the phone and press answer.

14. Show up.

Do you have a friend or acquaintance who you always invite to party or an event and always find yourself wondering why the heck they never show up? Or why they always cancel last-minute?

15. Remember: time is our biggest asset.

When you just can’t help but get angry or judgmental (hey, we’re all human!) stop for a second and think about your life. If it were to end in a second, how would you spend your time? Start choosing your reactions by understanding how you want to spend your last few minutes. Live your last few minutes like a firecracker — enliven everyone around you with your colorful bursts, and fizzle out when you’re at the top!

16. Give someone the benefit of the doubt.

If someone's a jerk to you, try giving them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they just had their first kid and are so sleep-deprived, hormone-dazed, and totally overwhelmed, that they barely have time to brush their teeth.

17. Listen.

18. Be a conversation shifter.

Shifting conversations when a conversation is going in a direction full of gossip or judgement, try to think about something related to the topic, and segue into something connected but uplifting. (Side note: If you want to know what a person is really like, examine the way that they talk about others.) If you can interrupt any surfacing negativity in the conversation and replace it with kindness, you just might be the perfect cure to a group discussion — and the most popular party invite.

I hope this list is helpful! And I challenge you to choose kindness. Remember: you are kind, you are great, you are empowered.

MINDBODYGREEN

wordsbase:
As as how naa?

It is self explanatory abeg!

okonja:
op, Do you know the word "STOP" can save you from many unnecessary discussions?...

As as how abeg?

The word 'am sorry' is over used. It is good we've been socialized to be respectful and courteous but we've to apologize or the right reasons.

There are plenty of times when you'll have to apologize in life, but is there a time when you shouldn't say you're sorry? Yes! You just have to recognize when to throw out a mea culpa and when a frank discussion with your friend is required instead.

Here is how saying sorry can ruin you.



*.To the world you are weak. Nobody wants to hire or work with a weak person.

*.The world doesn’t take what you have to say seriously because you are constantly breaking your word and then saying sorry..

*.You yourself don’t take yourself seriously because all the times you’ve let yourself off from owning up.

*.You aren’t as liked. Why? Because the world doesn’t treat people who arene’t responsible enough to take care of their shit so they don’t have to say sorry anymore as good as people who are on top of their shit.

*.You accomplish less and then blame the world for why your life sucks.