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No hard feelings. Am a Nigerian buh, I sorta don't like this side of the Nigerian man.
A typical Nigerian man has the following bad attributes:

1-feels threatened in the presence of a competent lady. There are several ladies who simply because they wanna get married and or remain married have given wonderful dreams that can salvage mankind.

2-has a low self esteem with a disgusting ego. Apparently, you are a man, and nobody is disputing that. Why make a fool outta yourself huh! You can't so something and won't allow those who can do it. Every damn thing must not pass through you.

3-tags himself rare when it comes feminine matters! after all the ratio of male to female is still 1:5. Even the apparently ugly ones think they stand a chance. I respect female a lot. Go to the labour ward and see things for yourself.

4-likes to sit on top of matters even when he is clueless and sooooo wrong. And who says the solution must come from or through you. Give others a chance mannn! Things mustn't be done your way.

5-this new 'rape' issues It has already been over flogged. Used to think ladies were the cause until paedophila. We gatta respect our ladies.

6-rarely accepts he is wrong. Will rather give one thousand and one excuses to ascertain this claim. You know what I mean.

7-will never believe he is at least comfortable. He is always managing perhaps for years. Apparently an easy route to desist from helping others.

8-will never accept a female leader. Who born you? Am guilty at times. We ought to stand behind whom the cap fits regardless of gender. What does millennium development goal 3 say again?

9-ever jealous of others achievement. That is why they never progress. Check well, your village people are prolly after you.

10-finds it hard to embrace change. With him, every thing is routine. The mantra 'that's the way we do it here' and 'when were you born to tell us watta do has gotta change.

11-dreams of leaving the country. Who then will make Nigeria better? This is Naija. This is our thing. Regardless of who spoilt what, we can make it all fine once more. Besides, these countries don't even want us around.

12-rarely focuses on one thing. They so much cling to the usual norm of not putting all your eggs in one basket. Focus widens your tent. Follow one course until successful(whatever that means)

13-not interested in education. Afterall I can always become a politician. Apparently anyway, education has failed to pay bills in Nigeria. Believe me, no matter the perceived educational achievement so far, the reading culture has gone down.

14-feeling bigger than he ever is. 'Do you know who I am syndrome'

15-will definitely hate this thread and give me all sorta name. Believe me, truth is bitter.

Since you've used the same name for post ume and jamb, your best bet is to try your luck wid waec to change your name to the later. You prolly maybe lucky.
All the bst bro!

Since you've use

Jenny1010:
Most people often think that rape is only when there is an element of force, coercion or threat on the victim. The law says any person who had sexual intercourse with a girl without her consent has committed the offence of Rape. This means having sex with a sleeping or intoxicated girl had amount to rape. Some guys even stupefy a girl's drink in other to have their way. This type of rape is often difficult to prove absent of consent, thereby most girls don't even bother to launch a complain to the police.

My Story ( The trick)

This guy had been asking me out for sometime, yesterday evening I decided to give him a shot. He took me to a nice bar somewhere around town. As we got seated, he ordered for a bottle of alcoholic wine. I told him I don't have a head for alcohol (which is a lie), that a little sip might make me tipsy (big lie), except he will promise to take me home if I get tipsy. He promised me that he will take me home. As we got drinking, this dude keep telling me how much he love me and want me to be the mother of his unborn kids, and that he will never hurt me, that I should give him a chance blah blah blah... He looked so innocent, charming and convincing. I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal.

After emptying several glass of wine, at a point I decided to start the trick to test him, I started acting like I was drunk. I started talking out of point, dangling my head and making awkward hand gestures. He was convinced that I was drunk, yet he was still persuading me to drink more. At that moment I knew he was up to something, but I need to be sure. I took more glass of wine as he requested, after that I increased my acting. At a point he decided it was time to go , he held me as we were walking out toward his car i was staggering . As he help me into the car, he slightly touched my boobs. He did it to look like it was a mistake, but I knew he wanted to confirm my state of intoxication, so I didn't bug. As he gets into the car and drove the car, I pretended to have dozed up. At a point he stopped the car, got out and rushed into a pharmacy shop, I was just lying there like I was deep asleep with my eyes slightly open peeping at him. I guessed he was buying condoms , but I wasn't sure.

The next stop was in front of a hotel, he got down again and rushed inside. I guessed he went to book a room. He got back , helped me out of the car and inside the hotel. As we got to the reception, I decided the acting was enough, I forcefully pulled myself away from him, I called him a bloody liar , a rapist and all other hideous names I can't even remember. He was so astonished to see my eyes wide open. I also castigated the receptionist , I asked her how could she be their and watch a man drag an unconscious girl into a room . I even threatened to call the police to arrest them both. After that I walked out of the hotel gallantly leaving him there ashamed of himself. I took a taxi back home.

This is the 7th guy I have used this trick on , and they all failed woefully. The moment you start acting like you are intoxicated, the demon beneath the handsome, cool loving guy comes out to manifest. This got me thinking, are all guys rapist ? Is there any guy out there who can take an intoxicated girl to her house , without trying to take advantage of her condition? May God help us all.

Sorry about your experience dear!
Surely, not all men are rapist.
Atleast am not one. You've got to choose your friends wisely.
I've also wondered if at all women are sincere. Many tales leave me baffled.
You are not alone.

shadowgwalker:
thank you!


Some people get internet phones but the 'google.com' is wasting. No research attitude.

Uh oh!
I sorta struck the wrong cord.
My dear, I read wide. HCG is seen in blood within one week. In urine, it is about 10days. Not within one wk. And the symptoms? Do they also happen within a week? I don't think so dear! ( it was prolly the symptoms that attracted the mums attention).

MrsAnyanwu:
my dear don't be deceived, read wide pls, There's a hormone called HCG (Human chorionic gonadotropin) wen a woman is pregnant within a week dis hormone is seen in her urine, pls read wide pls

Uh oh!
I sorta struck the wrong cord.
My dear, I read wide. HCG is seen in blood within one week. In urine, it is about 10days. Not within one wk. And the symptoms? Do they also happen within a week? I don't think so dear! ( it was prolly the symptoms that attracted the mums attention).

realDONmikel:
Heavily pregnant Nollywood Actress, Stephanie (Okereke) Linus revealed in a recent interview with Genevieve Magazine which she covered, why she waited 3 years after marriage before getting pregnant. In her own words, she said:

“Waiting this long to have a baby is a personal choice, and God ultimately decides. You have to be ready mentally and physically. I had a film I was shooting and I was travelling a lot to, My movie is out now, and I cannot even promote it across Africa like I wanted to, because am stuck in one place.”

“It’s also Gods timing, neither my husband nor I were pressurized. I feel this is the right time for it to happen. Right after we got married, I was on set shooting. but this year is different. It’s the perfect year for me to get pregnant.”
source: http://www.lagoslately.com/stephanie-linus-why-i-waited-3-years-after-marriage-before-getting-pregnant/

Every crap making front page
How is this supposed to affect me?

Yomieluv:
Hope its not a private school,if yes,I will doubt his ability.

What's wrong with a private school huh

uselessgoat:


Every one knows the south east is fond of special centers and exam malpractices. Stop sounding like the IGBOS are super brilliant. Yorubas are the best in Nigerian academics. The Igbos are only good at selling fake drugs and piracy of other peoples hardwork. This trash u posted up here will never change the fact that the igbos are semi illiterates

Hating won't help you BROTHER!
Team one Nigeria!

POWEROFPEACE:
This young lady was a sales girl at a certain amala spot close to the house were I lived. She washes her plates at the back of my window and even borrow my soap sometimes, that was how we became friends. One morning at about 6am, she knocked at my window and asked me to open the back door for her which I did and she came in.

While we were inside my room, we talked for a while and she suddenly started romancing me and I decided to play along, but I was surprise she dipped her hand into my boxers and brought out my Dick, she was about dipping it in when I stopped her. She asked why and I told her I don't have condom she replied and so, I told her I don't want her to get pregnant, she said even if she get pregnant, are there not hospital everywhere, she left angrily and never came back.

A week later, I noticed a small crowd in the area, behold when I got close, I saw her mother dragging and beating her to show her who impregnated her. That was how God saved me. I want to use this medium to advice men to be very careful when it comes to dealing with women especially young girls. Thanks.

Dumb story!
Your story says 'a week later' you saw the mother beating the 'apparently' desperate girl up!!! 'If' ever something happened between the two of you (which I sincerely don't encourage among young lads) you could've proven her wrong cos pregnancy tests can't be positive one week after 'mating'.

Scrap the story!

Here they are:

1. Bill & Melinda Gates $85.7 billion

2. Amancio Ortega Gaona & Flora Perez $70.7 billion

3. Warren Buffett & Astrid Menks $65.0 billion

4. David & Julia Koch $47.5 billion

5. Charles & Elizabeth Koch $47.4 billion

6. Wang Jianlin & Lin Ning $40.7 billion

7.Jeff & Mackenzie Bezos $39.8 billion

8. Bernard Arnault & Helene Mercier $38.7 billion

9. Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan $38.5 billion

10. James and Lynne Walton $36.2 billion

In hierarchy, from inwards out, it is the spiritman first, then the soul before the body. The spiritman is in the image of God Gen 1vs26. The body is the flesh which if not controlled by the spirit tends to subdue it Rom 7vs 19. My question is where does the soul belong? What or who is the soul? Is it same as the spirit?

We all want to be comfortable around people and our smiles and laughter most likely leaves an indelible mark. A yellow tooth or teeth behind those smiles is sure a turn off.

Here are sure ways to get back your groove!

You want to have a set of teeth that can make the dentist jealous?
Try this-

1. Baking Soda

Baking soda is one of the best ingredients that you can use to get rid of yellow teeth. It will help remove plaque and make your pearly whites shine.
*.Mix a quarter teaspoon of baking soda with a little toothpaste. Brush your teeth with this gritty mixture and rinse with warm water. Use it once or twice a week.
*.Alternatively, you can combine baking soda with lemon juice, white vinegar, or hydrogen peroxide.
*.You can make a whitening mouthwash by mixing one tablespoon of baking soda and one and a half teaspoons of hydrogen peroxide with one cup of cold water. Rinse with the mouthwash two or three times a day.
*.You can also scrub your teeth gently for at least two minutes with diluted baking soda. Do this twice in the first week, and then every 15 days. It is essential to note that excess use of baking soda can strip your teeth of its natural enamel.

2. Orange Peel

Cleaning your teeth with fresh orange peel on a regular basis will reduce the yellow tinge accumulated on your teeth.
A.Rub orange peel over your teeth every night before going to sleep. The vitamin C and calcium in the orange peel will combat the microorganisms throughout the night.
B.Do this for a few weeks and you will notice effective results.
If fresh orange peel is not available, you can use dried orange peel powder.

3. Strawberries

Strawberries contain a good amount of vitamin C, which helps make your teeth whiter.
*.Grind a few strawberries into a paste. Rub the paste on your teeth gently. If done twice daily for a few weeks, the yellow tinge on your teeth will vanish.
*.Another option is to mix the pulp of one strawberry with one-half teaspoon of baking soda and spread the mixture onto your teeth and let it sit for a few minutes. Rinse out your mouth and brush your teeth with toothpaste to get rid of any residue.

4. Hydrogen Peroxide

The mild bleaching effect of hydrogen peroxide can help make yellow teeth white again.
*.Rinse and gargle with a mouthwash that has hydrogen peroxide. Make sure not to swallow the hydrogen peroxide.
*.You can also make a paste of baking soda with hydrogen peroxide and gently brush your teeth with it. Later, brush your teeth with your regular toothpaste.
Use hydrogen peroxide with extra caution as it can cause irritation of the gums and make your teeth sensitive.

5. Lemon

The bleaching property present in lemonscan also help get rid of yellow discoloration. In fact, gargling with lemon juice and scrubbing your teeth with lemon peel is one of the best ways to make your teeth white again.
1.Mix together a few drops of lemon juice and some salt.
2.Apply the mixture on the stained teeth and rub the paste vigorously over your teeth and gums. Leave it on for a few minutes and then rinse your mouth thoroughly with water.
3.Do this twice daily for about two weeks to get rid of tartar and the yellow tinge.

6. Salt

Salt is one of the fundamental dental cleansing agents that has been used for ages. It helps replenish lost mineral content in the teeth and helps revive their white color.
*.You can use common salt regularly each morning as a tooth powder instead of toothpaste. Another option is to mix common salt with charcoal and brush your teeth with it regularly.
*.You can also mix common salt with baking soda and gently rub it on your teeth.
Be extra careful using salt as it can cause damage to your gums and tooth enamel if used roughly.

7. Apples

Eating a crunchy apple can scrub your teeth like a toothbrush and make them whiter.
1.Try to eat one or two apples daily to get rid of yellow stain accumulated on your teeth.
2.Chew it thoroughly so that the acidic nature of the apple and its fiber-rich rough flesh get ample time to work on your teeth.
You can also eat other crunchy food items such as raw carrots, cucumbers and broccoli.

8. Charcoal

Charcoal is one of the best known home remedies for yellow teeth. Charcoal has a powerful crystal-based chemical that whitens teeth.
1.Mix some charcoal powder with your regular toothpaste and gently brush your teeth.
2.Do this twice daily to make your teeth sparkling white.
If you don’t have charcoal, you can use the ashes of burnt bread and burnt rosemary to make your teeth whiter.

What you believe and what you don't believe are intricately connected. Sometimes it's easier to look at the things you definitely do NOT want to believe in order to find what it is that you DO want to believe. Believe the opposite of these 15 lies, and the truth will set you free!
Enjoy!

1. Five more minutes of sleep will help me.

The snooze button seems like a good idea while sleepy, but you'll get much more benefit from going to sleep earlier and not interrupting the last 30 minutes of your sleep every five minutes. In fact, the science suggests that using the snooze buttons does more harm than good.

2. I need ____ to be happy.

The only word that fits in that blank is "contentment." The idea that you need anything else isn't true.

3. All [type of people] are [attribute].

Stereotypes don't just hurt other people, they hurt the ones who make them. If you assume, for example, that all men are jerks because you know a few of them, you'll miss out on the ones who aren't.

4. I'm better or worse than other people.

We can sort people by height, income, weight, race, and favorite football team, but we're all human; we're all important and valuable. We have different attributes, abilities, and skills, but no person should be defined (for better or worse) by those alone.

5. I can't change.

Change is possible if you go about it the right way. Most people try to change everything at once, which doesn't work. Change must be done methodically: it takes time and repetition for the subconscious to process and accept it. Aim for consistency, not quantity.

6. Trying is futile.

Trying is everything! Stephen King was rejected dozens of times before he became one of the world's best-selling authors. When other authors would have stopped trying, he didn't. If you're not trying, then what are you doing? Trying is everything!

7. The world is against me.

Generally speaking, the world is neither for or against you. Remember that you teach the world how to treat you. Think again about Stephen King being rejected so many times. The world wasn't against him, it just hadn't noticed him yet. Keep trying.

8. My dreams are dead.

As long as you're alive, so are your dreams. That's the most logical way to look at it.

9. I'm too young or too old to make a difference.

If you look throughout history, you'll see that people of all ages have shaped it. Don't use age as an excuse. Use it as extra motivation, if anything.

10. If I'm not motivated, I can't take action.

Motivation doesn't precede action — it follows action. When I realized and applied this, I changed my life. I'm in the best shape of my life, I'm reading and writing daily, and I'm a best-selling author; it's all directly a result of not believing this lie anymore.

11. I'm stuck.

This isn't a lie, actually. Because if you believe it, then you'll be it. Don't believe it though, because the present moment is neutral, and an opportunity to move forward.

12. People don't like me.

It may be true that some people don't like you, but there are 7 billion of us on Earth. Find your people.

13. I'm not talented enough.

Talent isn't nearly as important as practicing. Natural talent helps, but it's hardly ever a make or break factor.

14. I want candy.

Your taste buds want candy and your brain probably wants the sugar-triggered reward. But your body wants broccoli. You only want candy on a superficial level. Deep down, you want broccoli and you want it raw. Mmm!

15. I am a victim.

It's not correct to say that you are a victim in the present moment. Maybe you were a victim, but if you're currently free, you're no longer a victim. It's best to avoid the "victim mindset." Victims have things happen to them, while non-victims are free to create their own path. No matter what has happened to you before, you can begin a new path and a new life today.

Keep it going!

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A typical Igbo man will always want a 'good name' in place of money. It is a pity how the entire world sees us because of the exploits of a corrupt few.

In response to our own Assisat Oshoala's BBC award, a Nigerian wrote,'why always Nigeria, the giant of Africa, the bst footballing nation, the happiest people on earth and the fastest growing economy....just proud to be a Nigerian'.

These bizarre responses ensued...

A friend was left stranded by his bank after the ATM machine swallowed his card and refused to return it. This happened on a Friday evening and as such, his chances of visiting the bank for retrieval was zero. He therefore having no one to borrow from spent the weekend on an empty tummy.

Share your own experiences and how you overcame them!

Alternative substitute for fuel scarcity

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What ever happens to life in prison.

Granted, lives are wasted and turned to vegetable, people should not be killed like fowls.

My thoughts tho!

LAS VEGAS – Manny Pacquiao threw fewer punches than Floyd Mayweather, 435-429, which few observers could have predicted.
But Pacquiao's camp is claiming he had a right shoulder injury that he suffered three to four weeks before the fight. He had taken anti-inflammatory shots that were approved by the United States Anti-Doping Agency during camp. He requested to take a shot after arriving in his locker room shortly after 6 p.m. PT, but was denied by the Nevada Athletic Commission.
Trainer Freddie Roach said the injury occurred when Pacquiao threw a right hand during camp approximately a month ago. There was no doctor available to explain the injury, but Pacquiao promoter Bob Arum said it was the same injury that Lakers star Kobe Bryant suffered that ended his 2014-2015 season.
Bryant had surgery to repair a torn rotator cuff.
One source said he might need surgery that could keep him out for up to nine months, but that was not confirmed at the news conference.
"We felt the [rehabilitative] work that was done on the shoulder duing training would give him the opportunity to use the right hand," promoter Bob Arum said. "We were disappointed when in the third round the injury kicked up again, but this is always the case in sport. ... He heals the injury, thinks he’s conquered it and it flares up again."
The drugs he wanted to take were not performance-enhancing, but because he checked on a medical form that he had no injuries, the commission denied him the shot. The drugs were Bupivacaine, Celestone and Lidocaine.
Chairman Francisco Aguilar said he would not comment until after the news conference when Pacquiao had addressed it.
"The first I heard of this was at 6:08 [p.m. PT] when he arrived in the locker room," he said.
He said one of the issues was proof of the injury.
"I have no proof of the injury," Aguilar said. "If he told us on Friday, we would have gotten the MRIs and there are a lot of things we could have done."

Jobyruz:
Jobless nairalanders,lets come together and give a lasting solution to our problems.how long are we going to be scammed,looking for jobs where there are none.entertainment industry is the largest employer of labor.we are graduates lets reason together,lets be creative all those celebrities are not better than us some are even illiterates and they are making their cool money.as a nairalander family lets come together in each of our states and create an entertainment industry.lets start a project,get busy we will find mind blowing stories,we will write scripts,train,act,then hit the screen bigtime don't be surprised there are some pple dat are ready to help young,educated and creative mind even on this forum though it might be difficult in the beginning but let me tell u we are going places.strictly for creative mind!

Apparently a good idea. The mixed feelings from comments were well understood and invariably anticipated. Actions and reactions can never be equal.

My input tho! The entertainment is fast loosing its flair. That is our problem in Nigeria today. We over stretch existing opportunities to their elastic limit up to a breaking point. This idea can b modified. Something like writing great books, mind blowing research articles and related stuffs can suffice instead of crowding a filled collapsing bus. We sure hv got the talent.

[quote author=Twaci post=31924000]I have a very troublesome younger brother. He is our last born, about 3-4yrs, and always manages to get on everyone's nerves, one way or the other.

Whenever he gets on my mum's bad side, she would beat him and he would come running to me. I would ask him what he did wrong, admonish him and place his head on my laps. Then, I would sing his fav. song (My bonnie) to him while I tap him to sleep. Then he would wake up happy and ready to 'find' another person's trouble.

Well yesterday, I got into a row with my mum. We exchanged words and got slapped. In tears, I ran to my room and my little bro followed me.

He sat beside me for sometime and then asked softly, "An-twaci....." (Mind u, he is the one responsible for my moniker), "....what did you do?".

I stared back dumbly. I couldn't tell him. So I settled with, "I spoke back to mummy. Its a very bad thing to do".

He nodded, then tapped his small laps, "Lie down".

I stifled a surprised smile and obeyed gently knowing that my full weight would hurt him, "Okay".

Then he said, "Don't talk back at mummy, u hear?". I nodded, "Okay".

To my further surprise, he tapped my head gently and sang "My bonnie".

I smiled and feigned sleep cause I knew he wouldn't stop till I had slept. When he was sure I had 'slept-off', he dozed off in the same position.

This experience taught me a lot about a child's love and I thought I should share it. Children learn from the way u treat them, either good or bad. How do u treat them? (Food for thought).


Wooooooooo!!! So lovely!! You've tot him well.
About d first time I truly liked an article!

Child abuse can come in various forms! What can be more?
Pray the child forgives them wen he learns of this.
There is no excuse for ignorance!!!

Here we go!

Be YOU
.There's only one YOU on this planet. Take advantage of that. You're inspiring, creative, intelligent and capable. Spending any energy trying to be like someone else is foolish. Cultivate who you are by working on yourself.
Trust your instincts.

Be nice to people.

Work hard.

“Hard work has made it easy. That is my secret. That is why I win. If it were easy everyone would be a champion.” - Nadia Comaneci
No one is going to do the work for you. Find the ease. Work efficiently. Use what you need. Rest what you don’t.

Do what you love.


Stop complaining.

"Instead of complaining that the rosebush is full of thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses.” - Proverb
If you don’t like how something is, change it.

Take care of yourself.

“Every human being is the author of his own health or disease.” - Buddha
Your health is a responsibility that is completely in your control. Make time for relaxation, practice and stimulation. Take baths. Read good books. Take long walks. These activities are crucial to your health and your success.

Don't listen to your critics.

“If I were to try to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business.” - Abraham Lincoln
No need to get wrapped up in what others think of you. Lots of praise and lots of criticism can be the same trap of seeking external approval. Focus on your intention and do the work.

Be patient.

“If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been owing more to patient attention, than to any other talent.” - Isaac Newton
Things might not (and usually don’t) happen with the timing that you want. Patience can be your biggest asset. Cultivate it. Allow space for things to turn out different than your plan. Different might be a lot better, so broaden your perspective.

Have fun.

“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.” - Katharine Hepburn
If you’re not having fun, then what’s the point? Who made the rules? Watch your intention. It could very easily end up on a t-shirt for your next clothing line
What do you want, what are your intentions, and what is your plan to get to where you are headed?

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and every other thing will be added unto u! Including your happiness! Gracias!!!

delishpot:
Fastest way to fail. Look well, those who do this are just average or low grade students. The efficos dont do all this.

Pretty an unfair statement!
Don't u think that's y they are in class? They wanna work on their grades.
Lols, if only sleep will allow them tho!

Lol!!!

Lol!! See name!

1. Respect your husband

Notice how it doesn't say "Respect your husband if he has earned it." A man's greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife. The trap that we've all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone.

Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn't deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn't mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren't. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.

2. Guard your heart

The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don't have the best of the best, but it's simply not true. Live the life you've been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough. There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you'll never be satisfied with more until you're fulfilled with what you have now.

3. God, husband, kids … in that order

I know this isn't a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It's no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. No man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That's not what this means.
When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can't breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. . There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.

4. Forgive

No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances – you will keep resentment from growing.

5. Over-communicate

The bad habit is that of not speaking ur feelings. Don't play "You should know why I'm mad" game, and that's just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON'T always know that they've been insensitive.

6. Schedule a regular date night

This one isn't new, but it's very important. Never stop dating your spouse. Even if you can't afford dinner and a movie (which we seldom can), spending some regular one-on-one time with your spouse is essential. Don't talk about bills, or schedules, or the kids.

7. Never say the " Word."

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8. Learn his love language

Everyone has a love language. The way you perceive love is often different from the way your spouse perceives love. Does he like words of affirmation, or does he respond better when you give him gifts? Whatever his love language is – learn it and USE IT.

9. Never talk negatively about him

If you're going through a difficult time in your marriage and you need advice, see a counselor. Family counseling is a great tool, but try to remember that your family members and friends are not the most objective people to give advice. The argument they are hearing is one-sided and they often build up negative feelings toward your spouse, which usually doesn't subside once you and your husband have gotten past it. Protect his image with those that you're close with and seek help from those that can actually be objective. News flash, ladies – your mother cannot be objective!

10. Choose to love

There are times in a marriage that you may wake up and not feel in love anymore. Choose to love anyway. There are times when you may not be attracted to your husband anymore. Choose to love anyway. Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don't say "if you have bad times." They say "in good times AND in bad," implying that there WILL be bad times. It's inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He's worth it.

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If only their loud cry will b heard.

A better Nigeria we pray!