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czarina:
Are you sure they made good their words?

I got sixty new connects today.


Any explanation for this?

Are you a top rated freelancer? If yes, that explains why.

I have 120 free connects, 60 for the monthly renewal free connects, 60 for being a partners (that's the name dem call am).

The mail i got earlier says top rated freelancers will get free connects for some months to encourage them through the process.

SoNature:
You guys on Upwork are really trying.

I wonder what you take home after all the annoying charges.

Upwork works for me.

I get jobs easily, and its per hour. Get more longer terms jobs. I tried fiverr and na, i dont get their ways. On upwork once i log in i see jobs i can apply to but fiverr is not like that.

Maybe because i started with Upwork sha.

And i think there are more premium clients on Upwork?

mrphysics:
15$

Fiverr $15?

That's cool.

Upwork charges $30 to Nigeria dom.

I hate men who lack respect for their wives.

I hope you are not a full time wife sha?

I hate house wife title, makes a woman vulnerable.

All women should be self dependent to gain some respect from their husband.

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Richy4:
So you haven't sent the money yet since you opened this thread. .. please hurry up and send it already if u really want to give.... just pick any suggestion given to you up there...
It is your money, U worked for it... u don't have to be afraid of family members finding out... even if they do u don't have to be answer to any one and pls no procrastination on your part..

By the way thanks for remembering and finding it in your heart to give..

Am getting in touch with the pastor today. I will not linger, I won't be halppy if I don't make an impact on her life now!

No one knows the departure time

sisisioge:
This is quite simple. Donate to her through the church in your community. Let them know you care and hope to do it anonymously till she passes on...may God bless your good heart.

Hmmm, nice.

She doesn't attend church. But you know what? You just nailed it. I will contact the church pastor through my cousin. Ask him to visit him and offer to be giving her monthly stipend if she agree to be coming to church.

How about this?

Secondly, how do this quickteller guys operate?

frozen70:
Take out time and go and visit her with not just money

But provisions, slippers and toiletries

Then any money you want to give her give grand ma her own first then pass her own to grandma to give to her in your presence there that moment all of you are seated

Granma get monthly alerts so she's not the issue here. I hadly go home. Am married with little kids and live far away from them. So visiting is out of it. Granma visit me yearly.

Richy4:
If I were you, I will give my grand mother that money and issue a warning that if it was not given to the recipient, .....That she won't like what u will do.... let her dare you... If the money was your, no one should decide whom u give it to.. or what you gonna do with it..

Follow up by make numerous calls to her to make sure she has delivered the said amount... Your own grandma should not be acting the way she was doing in as much as things are OK for her...

As for those grandkids, any time she passed on, wait for any of them that will shed crocodile tears... U just ask on what grounds were they shedding tears...was it the love they had for her or...

I want my family out of it. She will never give her. I know her well, and my granma is not someone a child can toss around, you can't issue her warning ooo. Them no born that child well.

I don't want to sound rude too. As much as possible i need a faithful person and me remain anonymous to the woman herself.

ZIMDRILL:
am confused or your failing to explain yourself in english

you say she is your granma, but sound distant from her,

can your explain how she is your granma ?

Read the post again.

I never mentioned the woman in question is my granma. Read again, i used simple English.

babyfaceafrica:
if you want to remain totally discreet,give her the money yourself.. anything that is known to more than one person is no more a secret..... all this church and anonymous person won't fly.... one day it will cast.. go to her house and see her yourself.. capish!!!

I don't live there. Yes, i can't trust anyone enough not to tell my family members.

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Agbaletu:
God bless you OP. If you can mention the state in Nigeria, we can even see a trustworthy Nairaland that we can recommend to stand in for you. Don't mention the city in order to remain anonymous.
God bless you once again.

Thanks. Being busy, it's weekend so i have time to come around.

The state is Edo state. LGA - Akoko Edo.

If i were a man and a girl did this to me, i will sue her. She will pay to the last kobo!!!!.

Haba, she can kill!, what a rage!!!!!

Why not leave him in peace?, other men are there, healing is possible if you allow it. He's not worth it, so dont kill yourself over those nudes. Let him go.

I don't know if this is the right place but I need help on this.

A brief of the issue- I lived with my granma in the village so I know all her siblings and relations. Recently she lost one of her elder sister at a good old age - well over a 100 years.

At the burial I was told one of her elder sisters came there without aso ebi and wore bathroom slippers (my granma's has another elder sister- she's the one who came to her immediate elder sister's burial without aso ebi and with a bathroom slippers).

She has only one son, and grand children. Her son is very poor too and the grand children are well to do but have refused to take care of this woman.

Ask me what is my own headache? They call her witch, this woman is ovee 95years. God really bless them with old age, i heard their granpa lived over 150 years.

If i send my granma money to gives her she won't, but i know she occasionally gives her food.

Secondly, if she dies, my granma will ask me for money to buy cloths and food to do burial ceremony and i have vowed not to be a part of it. I want to use that money my granma will ask then to feed her now.

I have cousins and people i can send to her but i dont want them to know and dont want the woman to know where the help is coming from. If God has spared her life till today, who are humans to call her witch? I have not seen anybody she killed or caused misfortune to.

I want to know how i can send her money monthly till God call her home please. Am so pained now.

The Aso ebi cost only 6k and no body could just maje her happy. Weep weeeeeeppppp. I never knew she don't buy and no one bought for her, i asked after her before the party and i was told she got. All for them to tell me on phone after the burial that she came looking dirty.

I need to know how to send her money without my family knowing and she herself not knowing who is sending her money. If she knows who's doing the favour, she will dance to my house in villa to greet them and ask them to greet me and fire will start so i want to remain anonymous.


Lalasticlala, mynd44, dominique, pleaae help me get a wider read and view, so I can get good information.

You killed and took joy away from homes, caused women to become widows. Even if man doesnt judge You, except you repent Evans, you will not escape sword.

Hear him complaining about being beaten, hissssss.

If i were the judge I will ask him to shut up for complaining of being beaten, his captives never had this opportunity to he is having; to be heared.

They had better end this his case urgently, life imprisonment with hard labour.

Primusinterpares:
seriously no center 4 abj?

there cant be. EKEDC doesn't control national power now.

All of you who got the invitation, did you all receive notification after submitting? or is there anyone in the house who did not receive notification after submitting?

I don't receive notification after submitting. I applied for the experienced level.

I don't get any successful message after submitting my application.

Did anyone here who don't get successful reply after submitting get a text invite?

I applied for experienced level.

Thanks.

@Smileng, i hope you get to read this.

Never said this to anyone before except my sis (i regreted i did cos she abused me with it when we had issues), am Writing this to encourage you.

I am called this omo depa when i was in school. At 24 i never dated anyone and a virgin. Was so glad when i clocked 24 n still a virgin cos i was like i have just one year to finish school. I never wanted to date anyone until after school. One day i thought, i think i should start looking out!!!

That was how i met a guy. Not my match in the faith but he was in for all i wanted him to be. Brilliant, fun to be with, wipes my tears (i was being maltreated at home so i wanted someone i can talk to or run to). He wanted sex by all means, and then after about 3 months i tokd him i cant do it cos am a virgin. He shouted you mean you are my wife? I think most guys love virgins, lol. He was ready to go on with the relationship. Later he begged us to be kissing, i said never and one day i visited him crying, and after consoling he kissed me unexpectedly and that was how we continued kissing until one day.

We had an argument and he vowed to purnish me by disvirgining me, haaa, mogbe, like play like play, Only God safe me that day but..... i wasn't disflowered that day but what happened to me that day left us with no choice but to submit to him to do it.

I got pregnant as a virgin. That day when he couldn't find his way into me cos i hard there like iron. He released around it and i got pregnant. Ha wan die, final year in school, and my school fees is no beans, private university. I wan die, i saw my myself a looser, a great sinner, a prostitute, i called myself unprintable names. I practically was reading bible to judfe myself.

To crown it, if my dad ever hear of the pregnancy na to disown me, and i aborted it. The day he disvirgined me i almost ran into a moving car but i remembered hell, i prayed for forgiveness abd begged God to kill me. What am i living for? I used to see myself as a queen, queen virgin, but now queen prostitute. I see myself as a different girl, but now as other girls. My worst nightmares were when i remember my pride was gone.

I looked like aid patient and i was called a witch at home. This one has been caught by some powers stronger than hers, beta stop drinking blood. Hehehe, that was what i got from home they never knew i was dieing of mt sin inside.

For over 6 good months, i cry daily for forgiveness. Glory to God, one day, while ready my bible i read if the son if man set you free you are free indeed! Like cold water was poured from my head down, the guilt left me, i had peace from then. Became happy.

He left me after that incident. Got married three years after to my sweet heart, told him all that happened and he did not believe i lost my virginity cos our first night, i was fully tight. He said I am still a virgin. He told his people he married me a virgin. We had to use different ointment before he could get through. That's the perfection in healing and forgiveness.

God bless you.

mychiveous:
Am married, got married 11years ago.

Ok, ogas eill shed more light on your dream. It is well my sister.

I need interpretation for this dream. I saw my sister inlaw giving me money for my kids, she dont give me directly, she knows if she give me direclty i might not collect it so she gave an elderly woman i cant say no to to give me. And the elderly woman dont let me know she was giving me money, she just stylishly gave me before even mentioning who gave her to give me.

In the dream, its like we have a ceremony and my husband was busy, and am like hubby wont approve of me to collect money as gift. My sister inlaw dont talk to me in the dream, in the same dream my other sister inlaw was crying and blaming my husband for not giving her money and all she demanded. Same dream again, another sister inlaw of mine wanted me to chose a dress my daughter doesnt like for her. I said no that i know the colour she wanted and will go for the colour.

mychiveous:
Pls what does it mean to be dreaming about shoes as i have been dreaming about it for years now. In the dream i go to the the market to price shoes either i don't like the one that sized me or i can't afford the one i like.

From this dream I think you are not married. You need serious prayer to choose the right partner. Dont use your physical eyes to choose your partner. Pray, seek His face, he may not look appealing , but might be the will of God for you. So pray for direction.

The person you love now and proberly going out with may not be the right partner for you.

Raphael81:
You didn't message me again

I did sir. Let me do that again.

Hi Raph.

This is not about dreams. Am so feed up of the happenings in my extended family. Am the only girl married. My elder sister is 39 not married, my younger sister is 31 not married, my brother is 33 not married (npt bothered cos he is a man), i have matured cousins, 31, 28, 27 not married. My aunt who is 36 is not married though have two grown up children. Am the only girl married.

Am really worried, before i got married , i fought wars, prayer, fasting and i carried out an instruction by God before my marriage came through if not i wouldnt have been married too.

I want my siblings and cousins to marry too. Am really getting concerned, soon my extended family will be seen as a strange one if God doesn't take control.

antidisestablis:
I can't believe you went through all these, sincerely if I were you I may not be able to forgive them just like you did. Yes for the sake of Christ and if you are heavenly minded pls start calling her and visit her with your hand of love God can change her.

I easily forgive, but i hate to see you do the same thing you do wrong over again. And she is like that. Every opportunity she get to be around me is always a sad one.

After so many thoughts and feelings, I think I should just stay away from her as long as I can. Since I cut off from her, I have being happy. Seriously, i dont feel guilty.

els0nm0rali:
What a horrible way to raise a child.

You didn't tell us why your own biological parents treated you that way while they treated your other siblings differently.

My guess is that the man is your dad and the woman your stepmom. That's the only explanation that makes sense.

Anyway, the only thing you can do for her is to pray for her salvation. There's nothing you can tell her that will help her. She has a bitter old soul filled to the brim with hate. Pray for her soul.

I did, I wasn't living with them and when I joined them, I was made to face hardship. I still can't tell why they have to do that.

A few people that know my story ask if she's truly my mother. My husband finds it hard to believe she's is my biological mother cos of what he faced when he was asking my hand in marriage. She actually called him and said he should not marry me.

Dp

Alejoc:
Forgive them as you are in a better place now.... Far away from their beating... Dem nearly killed me while growing up too but I deserve every bit of the beating.... Here I am now and looking back with no hard feelings

Yeah, I have. But my mother hasn't changed. She hates me soooo much.