efosky1246:


Fair enough,

But this argument of the man failing in his role due to unforeseen circumstances,I just don't dig it. There is risk attached to everything, even the woman running the business. It's just common sense for adults to save and have substantial cash aside for the rainy days irrespective of how the income comes in.

But to each his own Sha. I'd take a traditional woman anyday, money ain't everything.

Even traditional women, take responsibilities when the need arises.

Just as you can't completely depend on office jobs,same way there are risk to businesses.

If the man feels his bouyant enough to run the family and doesn't want her to work,then fine!

Anyway these are discussions to have B4 actually getting married. Cos personally I'm not going to be a housewife!
Didn't spend years in school just to keep my certificate in a box and become a house wife.


I always use my uncle as an example in discussions like this.

While he was working on the new building and school, the wife was running the home completely.

It was more like division of labor. He focused on getting the project done and she focused on taking care of the home. Feeding, bills,and every other expenses. Which made me admire her alot.(her husband is well to do )

So I feel it's not just about if he's bouyant enough. It's more of a contribution
Making that move to show you're actually concerned about the state of affairs in the home.

It's left for the man to accept or not. Just make a move

Nonsoboy4life:

Thanks sis for this piece of advise...that has been my greatest worry to settle with a woman who's doing nothing..My uncle who did so regretted it ...esp when the man is sick who will take care of things when the woman is not working?

Exactly! I've seen scenarios like this!

Man looses his job and while his searching,the woman assist in running the home.


I don't fancy idle women abeg. Even if he doesn't want you to work,why not start up a business, that way your home comes first and you can also run your business

efosky1246:


There are pros and cons to everything. Most men when financially sufficient would prefer his woman to run the homefront as opposed to still juggling a 9-5 along with family responsibilities.

There are many ways you can motivate your man without necessarily contributing financially. A clean home, well kept kids and a home cooked meal from a loving wife is a strong motivator for men.

A woman should motivate, not necessarily help the man play his role as the provider.

In another post I said if it's a decision they both decide to make. Then it's okay

But I personally can't be idle. I'd rather have a business than just sit at home cooking,and cleaning all day.

+It's not a necessity. It's just reasonable she has a source of income. Anything can happen! What if the man losses his job? Do they start from the scratch or what?

I've seen women shoulder responsibilities of the home, pending when the man gets a better job.
It's best the woman gets a job flexible enough for her to have more time for her kids or just run a business

AcuraZDX:
Help! My Sister Is Seeing Her Period The Second Time This Month

Please Doctors in the house, my younger sister is seeing her period for the second time just this May.

She confided in me so I promised to ask questions.

She's 21 years of age.

She saw her period on the 4th of this May and today being 20th, she's seeing it again.

Although before she saw her first period, she was recovering from Malaria and that means she was on drugs.

Please this is a serious issue and it's giving me concern.

She has been staying with me in my house since the lockdown started and I can verge for her.

Please your kind advice is needed.

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Same happened to me early last year. Went to the hospital and they gave me vitamins.

There was nothing wrong with me. But after that, MY cycle changed completely.


MIGHT be what's happening to her too. But she can visit the hospital just to be sure

efosky1246:


I do understand where you're coming from. It's not easy anywhere, and being in Nigeria makes it harder. But I tell you if you have your priorities straight in life. Financial stability/freedom as a man is still very possible. Go to illupeju, in this our same country, Indians still run a strictly traditional form of marriage.The men are solely providers and the women do their part conscientiously.

This western approach to marriage just doesn't work, the divorce statistics says it all. Even if your wife is a working class, to find a Nigerian babe looking to do 50/50 without grudges is like searching for a needle in a haystack. And it comes along with a lot of complexities as you would be going against how both partners are physiologically and psychologically designed.

And then the children. What happens to them when two parents work? Personally, this is the main reason for me, statistics show that children that received more attention from the parents in the early years tend to do better in life generally.

Things are hard, but every man should strive to be financially sufficient to support his family.

That's where communication comes in before getting married, couples need to have this discussion. If the wife has to find a flexible job or start up a business, so be it.

Not in support of idle women or non- supportive women.

Responsibilities don't entirely have to be 50/50
There should be a percentage the wife can handle,based on her inflow of cash. All it takes is just understanding!!

Marriage isn't child's play. If you're not mentally prepared you'd have problems.

Both parties have to contribute,to making the home work. Both financially,and other wise
I advise all my make friends to marry a woman with a job or one with a business.

Marry a woman that can carry the home when you're at your lowest!
Marry a woman that respects you enough,and wants the best for you
One that wants you to achieve more than you already have.
One with ideas,and you can turn to anytime and you're sure she'd deliver.

Personally I feel a woman without a source of income has no business getting married(unless you and your husband agree to it)

Depending on your husband for literally everything possible isn't something I'd want to do.

I love you I love you isn't enough to sustain a marriage my own piece anyway

Eulalia:
Please pardon me for posting this here. I would have posted it in health section but the last one I posted there didn't get much satifisfactory response. I wanna believe we have some specialist here who can be of help.

Just to be double sure, I've heard it over and again that if a girl is celibate for a long time say 5 to 6 years before getting pregnant that she'll have some birth complications because the cervix has contrasted so much due to lack of sexual activities. How true is this?

Does celibacy tighen the cervix?

I also read somewhere that a lady fainted due to severe pains from sex on her wedding cos she was celibate for a long time after. And a doctor said its because she was sexually active before going celibate, that if she was a virgin it wouldn't have tightened so much.

Now, How true is this too? Like after being sexually active briefly then you go into celibacy for a very long time? And if its true, how or what can one do to prevent such scenario ( fainting) and the pains. Any dilating drugs or remedy.

Please a kind hearted doc should give suggestions or help clear the above.
Thanks.

Been active after been celibate for a while shouldn't hurt as much as the first time of ever getting intimate.

Probably something else.

My opinion though

Eulalia:
Please pardon me for posting this here. I would have posted it in health section but the last one I posted there didn't get much satifisfactory response. I wanna believe we have some specialist here who can be of help.

Just to be double sure, I've heard it over and again that if a girl is celibate for a long time say 5 to 6 years before getting pregnant that she'll have some birth complications because the cervix has contrasted so much due to lack of sexual activities. How true is this?

Does celibacy tighen the cervix?

I also read somewhere that a lady fainted due to severe pains from sex on her wedding cos she was celibate for a long time after. And a doctor said its because she was sexually active before going celibate, that if she was a virgin it wouldn't have tightened so much.

Now, How true is this too? Like after being sexually active briefly then you go into celibacy for a very long time? And if its true, how or what can one do to prevent such scenario ( fainting) and the pains. Any dilating drugs or remedy.

Please a kind hearted doc should give suggestions or help clear the above.
Thanks.

Been active after been celibate for a while shouldn't hurt as much as the first time of ever getting intimate.

Probably something else. My opinion though

It's people like this that would get married then come on naira land to ask for advise. Despite seeing the signs you still want to go ahead?

You even scolded your mum? There's really nothing bad about what she said! Just laugh it off geez!

She has anger issues and can destroy properties when angry. Okay since you still want to go ahead, good luck.

simplepee:
Lol.

You should stay together with any lady or guy you wish to marry for atleast 2 weeks before marriage. FOREVER is a long time.


I once said this here and ladies attacked me saying I am cheap, well I still stand by it.

Very true. People tend to show what they want you to see.

Move on. She's just using you! And she knows how to go about it.

jawalis:

You were unlucky to have the dirty ones. Chose your spec right and be watchful enough while choosing. I can bet Nancy Isime will never stink nor no one will say Damilola Adegbite does. So chose wisely.

*Sighs*

Personal hygiene isn't tied to a specific complexion or kind of girls yunno.