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|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Stargurl20(f): 7:50pm On May 11|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 10:34pm On May 13|
MARRIED AND SLAYING: DIARY OF MRS. NWAKAEGO ETADAFE
30th May, 2019.
I think my world has ended. I think my happily ever after has come to an abrupt end. If anyone had told me that I will find myself in this kind of situation, I would have told the person that he or she was dreaming.
Oh diary... you won't believe what happened to me today. Oh God! This is definitely worse than my scariest nightmare. I locked myself up in the bathroom this morning and I have sworn never to come out. I die here!
I would rather stay in this bathroom, than share the same space with that man that call himself my husband. That man that I don't even recognize anymore. That man that once said he loved me, but now... Now I am thinking love is overrated.
Oh God! If this is what marriage is like, me, I am not doing again o. It is not by force na. I am so done right now with all this brouhaha.
I have cried my eyes out already. And I have cried some more. I don't have any more tears to spill. I don't know if I will be able to erase the memories of what transpired between me and Praise this morning. It was just like a very bad dream that seemed like it would not end.
I thought this man was my world. I thought he was my everything. Oh diary, you need to see the way and manner Praise spoke to me this morning. You need to hear what he said to me. I swear, your ears will explode.
Oh God! Chi mo!
This morning, long after we've had breakfast, I confronted Praise concerning his attitude towards me these past weeks. I told him that even the bible said that we shouldn't deprive our spouses of 'other room' things. Except when one is fasting, and even before or during the said fast, if one party doesn't agree, that fast is nullified and cancelled.
I am not fasting. Neither is my husband. Aside the fact that Praise is still angry with me, I don't see any other reason why we shouldn't resume our bedmatics. Why is he still angry? How long is he prepared to make me suffer for something that wasn't entirely my fault.
I was just pissed this morning and I unleashed my frustration. Praise had no right on this side of heaven to starve me. Body no be firewood o, abeg.
Oh diary... maybe I should have just kept quiet and wait for my husband's anger to dissipate. And bore the starvation of my coochie coochie. After all, 'other room' things isn't food. Abi? Shey? I don't even know anymore...
Diary... Praise said... he said... my husband said every time he looks at me, all he sees is the image of Kingsley pounding into my backside! He said he hasn't been able to erase that picture from his mind. And it will take a bloody miracle for him to forget what happened that day.
My husband has refused to touch me because the memory of my ex violating me remained on his mind like a very sticky stamp. I don't even know what that feels like. He is traumatized, but so was I! And I know we can get through this together.
Oh diary... you won't believe what Praise said to me this morning. My husband told me that there was no way on this planet earth, that he would be able to sleep with me. Not now... not tomorrow and not even in the next few months to come. He said hell will have to freeze over if he would as much as touch me with a finger!
Diary... Diary... Diiiiaaaaaarrryyyyy!
I think one loose nut got disconnected somewhere in my brain and I went ballistic. As in, I was like, soooooo, what was I supposed to do? Starve? Burn? Go celibate until my husband is ready to sleep with me? As in how now?
Praise and I argued back and forth. My husband said terrible things to me... things that I cannot even write here... things that have the power to turn me into a Yaba Left Patient in seconds.
Ah diary, I don suffer.
Praise called me names. Names that my parents didn't write on my birth certificate. Names that can make any human being climb the railings on third mainland bridge and plunge into the lagoon. His words shattered my heart and left me bleeding. His words snuffed out the fire that lit the candle of my love for him. How did we even get here? I don't see any road back to how things used to be.
When he left the house, I went straight to the Master bedroom, picked a blanket, my diary and a few things and locked myself up in the bathroom.
I am still in here and I am not planning to come out anytime soon.
I hurt... I hurt here in my heart and soul. Infact, I hurt everywhere. I still can't believe that Praise will look me in the eye and speak to me in such a way... and say crazy things to me... and blame me for another man's blunder.
Diary, this is not what I signed up for. This is not... this is not...
Diary, he is back. Praise is back and he is banging on the door. He is shouting and I don't bloody care. I am not coming out!
Diary tell this man to leave me alone o. I die here! QED!
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Treasurewamiri(f): 11:57pm On May 13|
Eh yah! That hurts.... Rape is a big deal
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Yampotatocarrot(m): 8:12am On May 14|
Praise and I argued back and forth... My husband said terrible things to me...
If they both argued back and forth, that means she also said terrible things. But look at how she mischievously skipped putting down the terrible things she also said.
For someone complaining about the sex being too much sometimes ago, how come she is now complaining of being deprived of sex.
It's normal for Praise to say that, boils down to what I said earlier about it being harder for men. What I don't subscribe to is the name calling. Even ladies that were really raped have that problem also... They tend to remember the rape case anytime they wanna have sex, and require very gentle cuddling and reassurance during sex for them to be able to enjoy it.
She is just playing the emotional blame game... The girl dey vex me sef, mtchew
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|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 8:52am On May 14|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by PraiseHim4ever: 8:55am On May 14|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by mhizv(f): 10:37am On May 14|
Same thing i said. Its not easy for men to erase that picture from their memory.
Eventually he'd come around.
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Shedrack36: 10:53am On May 14|
thank for the update.
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 11:30am On May 14|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Yampotatocarrot(m): 2:18pm On May 14|
Thank God a lady is saying this. I said it earlier and it seemed I was making an excuse for male infidelity
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Gloriagee(f): 4:18pm On May 14|
There's nothing right about blaming a victim of rape. Yeah, she should have opened up to her husband but this was rape not adultery. She literally passed out after everything....
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by divinelypruned(f): 5:20pm On May 14|
She brought it upon herself, anybody praising her should go and drink a chilled water to have a better thinking.
She is claiming that he said terrible words to her, what of the ones she said too, some women and emotional blackmail, mtchhhh.
Shewrites daalu so
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Yampotatocarrot(m): 5:32pm On May 14|
There's nothing wrong about telling victims of rape where they went wrong and enlightening them on how to avoid a reoccurrence.
But if it sounds like "blaming", what can I say... Apologies.
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Yampotatocarrot(m): 5:34pm On May 14|
I for give you beer, but I don't give what I can't take. So, one croaker for you
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by AiteeAitee(f): 9:20pm On May 14|
With the way this story is going, I may have no other option but to take a bus to Lagos and begin to beat anyone that bears the name 'Nwakego' . I mean, what specie of dondi is she?
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Stargurl20(f): 9:46pm On May 14|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 4:14pm On May 15|
Sweetest pie *hugs*
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 4:16pm On May 15|
Aitee! Aitee! Aiiiteeeee!
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by AiteeAitee(f): 8:42am On May 16|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 8:53pm On May 16|
AiteeAitee:Hmmm... *points-finger* I have a cane and your name is written on it...
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 11:04am On May 18|
MARRIED AND SLAYING: DIARY OF MRS. NWAKAEGO ETADAFE
5th of June, 2019.
The last time I wrote in my diary, I was locked up in the bathroom. While Praise screamed that I should come out, I yelled back at him, threatening to remain in the bathroom for the rest of my life. I actually meant it. I didn't recognize the man I married anymore and I didn't see the point in living in the same house with him and suffering in silence. That wasn't how I pictured the way my marital life would be. My husband stopped shouting after a while and he left. But by midnight, he returned. He begged me to open the door, so that I could at least, eat something.
The last time I ate was in the morning and I was hungry enough to eat a cow that night. But I was bent on not coming out. I think Praise sat by the door of the bathroom because I could hear his voice clearly. I could also sense his frustration. I was equally stressed out and completely overwhelmed by the turn of events earlier that day. I just wanted the madness to stop.
Sometime before the sun rose the next day, I slumped from exhaustion and drifted into unconsciousness. The next time I opened my eyes, I found myself in an hospital. And Praise was seated right there by myself.
He told me that he doze off by the bathroom door and around six in the morning, he started to knock again and pleaded for me to open the door. But when I didn't respond verbally, he suspected that something was amiss.
He got an hammer from his tool box in the car boot and got the door opened after dismantling the doorknob. Praise said when he saw me lying on the cold bathroom floor, barely breathing, he almost had an heart attack. He had to keep encouraging himself that I was going to be all right. Least he ran mad with worry and anxiety.
The driver helped him to get me into the car and they brought me straight to the hospital. The doctor said I was dehydrated and psychologically stressed out. She said I needed to be placed on a three day bed rest and I will be fine after then.
I am happy to be alive! I will not die before my time in Jesus name! Amen!
Praise and I reconciled! Right there in the hospital, we talked about all the things that were creating holes in our marriage. We both apologized for the crazy things we said to each other and we forgave ourselves.
I had to also promise Praise that the next time any of my ex tries to say hello or attempts to look for my trouble in whatever way, I will alert him ASAP.
Oh diary, I am so, so happy. Who would have thought a tragic incident would bring me and my husband back together?
My husband told me that it was hard for him to come to terms with what happened to me the day Kingsley came into our home. He said if not for God and common self, he would have killed my ex that day. Long and short, it became hard for him to touch me afterwards because, clearing those nasty images from his mind was a herculean task.
I can't say I understood 100% what my husband was saying, but I got the point. Simply put, my husband and I were traumatized in different ways when Kingsley followed me into our home.
I got discharged from the hospital two days ago. I am back home and I can boldly say that things are drifting towards normalcy between Praise and I. God has answered my prayers!
I have been receiving special treatments from my husband. He has been taking care of me o. This even reminds me of our dating period. All those butterflies in my tummy are back! Oh diary, you need to see the way Praise looks at me now. The love and affection in his eyes is enough to set me ablaze and burning for days!
Yesterday, Praise and I had a romp in the hay... after a very, very long time. It was simply mind-blowing. I am still basking in the euphoria of our love making. I can't wait for this to become a daily routine. I am not ashamed to say I miss my husband's cucumber. Hahahaha... my coochie coochie is happy to have him sliding in and out, in and out at will.
Oh diary... I am back on cloud 9!
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|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Khriztarl(f): 11:49am On May 18|
Just joined in. interesting piece. Weldone shewrites
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Folashadepro: 12:57pm On May 18|
we need to celebrate it ooooo
maybe we should come to your house Abi
we should do thanksgiving in church
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 2:23pm On May 18|
Khriztarl:Welcome to our story land.
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 2:23pm On May 18|
Folashadepro:Hehehehehe... kikikikikiki... hahahaha...
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Fannycfo: 2:26pm On May 18|
Thanks so much for the update Shewrites
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 4:44pm On May 18|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Ann2012(f): 5:06pm On May 18|
Thank God for restoring happiness back into your marriage, no more lies pls....
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by veenessha(f): 7:50pm On May 18|
Thank you for the update Shewrite.
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Toeyean1507(f): 8:43pm On May 18|
I'm happy for you dear.
Everybody deserves at least a second chance buh pleeeeeeaaaaaase, do not make the same mistake twice
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by SheWrites(f): 9:13pm On May 18|
|Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Humbleness: 9:30pm On May 18|
Thanks for the update
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