Acidosis:


Give it time

Thanks bro

Incline:
Incest relationship with her cousin? Wow. So she was having sex/ sexual intercourse with her cousin because that's what incest means. Better run.

She said it happened once.

Acidosis:


Bro, you deserve to be worried, pained and confused. Don't allow any hypocrite make you feel like you're imhumane.

Whether it happened 1000 years ago, it doesn't matter. If these folks found out that their ex slept with a dog some 50 years ago, they would still find a way to show their dissatisfaction to the said ex.

If I were in your shoes, I would be devastated as well.. It doesn't matter whether she confessed or I discovered myself.. the knowledge of what happened is all it takes to get one pained, so don't feel stu p!d or heartless.

Now to the real issue, I think you're worried that the said relationship with her cousin might continue even after a proper wedding with you. Whether you like it or not, you would henceforth feel insecure to have that cousin close and alone with your woman. Nobody welcomes such, except of course, the online "e-doesn't matter" e-pocrites.

The big question is: do you love your woman? Yes, right? Love is one aspect, do you trust your woman? Note, anybody can love, but trust is expensive. You have to be sure you trust her 100%.

Having said that, it's time to get your mind off the relationship with her cousin. It would be difficult but you have to try.

If you discover however at any point that moving on would be difficult, gently back out! This is marriage, not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. You will continue to meet her cousin, he will attend your wedding and probably offer you a handshake... Can you bear it?

Other days, he will stop by at your house when you're not around to say hi. Yes, it is true you now trust your wife, but do you trust the guy enough to share the same remorse with your wife? Has he repented and moved on?

My respect goes to your woman though. That's one hell of a secret 99.9% of her fellow will take to the grave. She has done her part... Now can you do yours? If your answer is yes, go ahead and marry her.

I love her , trust her , and still want to marry her . But how do I move past this and forge ahead .

Chongaiman:
OP, what of the ones you have "chopped" before and refused marry? I don't think their husbands too will have any good relationship with you. What goes around...

My worry is that , this is incest

Mille:
One thing I don't understand is why you are so pained. Was it done before or after you met?

Long before we met .. About 6 yrs ago

Maybe pained is not.the right word

I'm just scared of the spiritual aspect like curses or something besides I know I will never have any good relationship with that cousin of hers

My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

Me: Ok then. I guess I'll have to call Mrs. JBC and get her down here. (Totally a bluff. I knew he was married,
and I knew her first name but that was it.)
JBC: (Inaudible, shuffling, panic)
Me: You got five minutes. Click
Not even two minutes later my wife comes walking out of the elevator looking a little flustered. I sit her down in the corner of the lobby.
Her: Starts spewing bullshit saying it's not what it seems etc etc.
Me: I'm not here to argue. The things that are said in this pile of papers are what's going on. The only way I'm not giving a copy of this to daughter, your parents and emailing it to everyone we know is if you move out immediately. (Wife was very prideful. Daughter was going through a rebellious teen phase and her knowing probably would have forever killed their relationship. Wife was also her parents golden child and she always worried about what they thought of her. I didn't have much leverage and shame was my only card to play. Also her professional life is built up around her image, so I knew she would protect that at all costs.)
Her: Sniffle, mumble, inaudible
Me: This is a check for half of the money market account. I've withdrawn my half of the money from all the other joint accounts. You should have more than enough to get a place.
She starts to cry a little. I could almost see the different thoughts and waves of emotions going through her, but now was the time to keep pressing.
Me: Here is a separation agreement that I think is more than fair considering what's going on. I'm going to need you to look this over, sign it, and leave it at the house when you get your stuff. Do you want to look through these screenshots?
Her: No.
Me: Ok. Go have fun with JBC. Do not come back to the house or I'm going to send this (holds up ream of screenshots) to everyone.
I bounce out of the lobby, and I can hear her start to have a breakdown. I get to the car drive off to a parking lot and have my own crying rage fit. Previously I would have cried in front of her and yelled and whatnot but I managed to get my shit together enough to pull it off. I don't know what she did that night or over the weekend. She texted and called over and over wanting to talk. I just turned the phone off and by the time Monday afternoon rolled around there were movers getting her stuff and she delivered the agreement. I let her have a talk with the kiddos basically saying mommy and daddy need some time a part, we still love you, etc etc. Standard divorce talk.
After a week she wants to have a real talk for the first time. I oblige her because I've already got my shit together and I've got an idea of what I want, but I should hear her out. She's so sorry. She wants another chance. She wants her family back. She'll do anything. She's on her knees crying into my lap. I have no intention of ever taking her back. I tell her she needs to set up marriage counseling on her own at a time that works for me. I tell her that I can't live with her, but she should be around the children to try to maintain a relationship with them.
So starts our new normal of her coming over the house, cooking and having dinner with the kids three nights a week (she always saved me a plate, I made myself scarce), her cleaning the house and doing the kids laundry then heading back to her place.
We went to counseling. It consisted of her working through her issues with the therapist trying to figure out why she did it, her begging for forgiveness, and me stoically playing the victim.
I was never going to give her another chance. All I wanted to do was kill time, establish myself as the primary caregiver to the kids, and establish her as not having residency in the house.
After a few months I go to my own therapist and get diagnosed with depression and PTSD. I asked my work if it's possible to go to part time for the foreseeable future to deal with personal issues, and it's no big deal.
After six months of therapy I told her that I couldn't forgive her right now and that I wanted an amicable divorce, but she is still the love of my life and maybe someday we could give it another try. She was devastated, but agreed to the divorce if I promised to try again someday.
Once the divorce was filed I needed the kids to want to stay with me. I left a google search for "how to survive your wife's infidelity" up on the shared PC at home, and I left some printed out infidelity articles not so hidden in the kitchen. My daughter found them and came to me crying. I told her she wasn't supposed to find those, that mom made a mistake, that mom still loves her, and that I would always be here for her. My daughter who used to hold my wife in such high regard now wouldn't talk to her without screaming, and it crushed her.
Not surprisingly when the court needed statements from the kids a few months later little brother followed big sisters lead and they both wanted to stay with Dad in the house they grew up in.
When the divorce was finalized, I got the house (had to buy out some of her equity, but that's ok). I got primary custody of the kids. I got awarded generous child support due to the difference in our incomes due to me working part time.
Now for the last two years I've gotten to live in the house with my kids, work part time, get the now ex to subsidize it for me, and when she takes the kids over the weekends I get to have my fun with tinderellas and some FWBs I've cultivated.
In the eyes of my kids, I'm the patron saint of fatherhood for taking the high road and always being there.
In the eyes of my ex, I'm the one that got away that she will always pine for, and I get the bonus of having her come over for sex whenever I want it by dangling that carrot of maybe getting back together.
But that is never going to happen.
TLDR: Got divorced and it worked out.
So what's your cheating story ? Have you ever tried to take revenge? Tell us in the comments box.

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which center can I fix it . the COST also ?

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thanks

sultaan:
Ask him how he got the key out of the car in the first place with transmission in R.

He is new to car ownership so doing the basic mistakes of running the battery dead

Lessons to be learned

. I have experience where gear was stuck in D , selector lever was free , key came out



the key mechanism works with the position of the selector lever

gear selector is likely broken , that's under the gear lever

amliftedhigher:
Good morning fellow Nairalanders. To day mark The one year of using my first car . Last year after due consultations from Chief Engineer Gazzuzz and Kingreign of the car I need as my first ride based on what I want, I settle for Rx300 2000 model. So far so good, the car have been moving without stressing me, low fuel consumption, few maintenance and repairs. So far I have spent 15k for coil, 18k for oil seal change, 20k for catalyst converter Kick starter 19k, steering pump 21k other minor expenses I have done. Many people who bought car the same time with me even corolla have spent more than 500000k. I thank kingreign and Gazzuzz who picks my calls any time I called them to ask them questions, they even use to speak to my mechanic to direct him on what to do. They will tell me to scan the car and tell them the code if any. They told me the oils to use, Toyota type 4 for AT and total quarz 9000/mobile 1 0w40 for the engine. My car drives smooth as new one and am even hitting the highway this morning and my cruise control is one million good am enjoying my Lexus. Thanks to everyone in Nairaland car sections. And may God give car to those who needs it In Jesus Christ name Amen

My Camry 2003 is almost two years and all I have changed is battery , and 2k to work on steering knuckle . besides regular oil changes nothing else has been worked , mind you that car is a daily driver that is what I call reliable . if u have changed so much in a year, I am afraid that car us far from reliable

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indigene:


Well all automobile makers have a streak for which they re known.
In motor sports or otherwise Hyundai doesn't come close to Toyota, Toyota has seen it all.
Indycar, NASCAR, F1 etc as far back as 1958.
There is an Ibo saying that goes " if a child dare threw his father up, his testicle will blind him"
Hyundai can't dare Toyota

Same was said for Mercedes, Volkswagen, Peugeot ET Al a few decades ago. Toyota is 30 yrs older than Hyundai. Hyundai has caught up with Toyota in design, they are almost on par in the area of reliability, with time they will overtake. Toyota is only leaving on past glory.

indigene:

I am a little aware that Miller Motorsports Park has been closed since October 2015 or before then, and Tooele County Utah by Jan 2016 has been trying to keep it operational.
When did this race took place, when Kia raced car roared against Toyota?

by recently I mean 2014

sparrow2wise:
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indigene:

Okaa isi chee. Any racing record?

Hyundai has been in motor sports since 1998.. Kia recently came First Place at Miller Motorsports Park with optima which is basically the same as a sonata

indigene:

Okaa isi chee. Any racing record?

Hyundai has been in motor sports since 1998.. Kia recently came First Place at Miller Motorsports Park

indigene:
Hyundai(that is Oke bekee) and Kia to Toyota. No way.
Show me Hyundai and Kia of 1989 that are still on the road.?

in 1989 Hyundai wasn't manufacturing standard cars.. but there are 1999 cars on the road now that will still be on the road by 2025

funny how a sonata outruns a Camry, drives better and Handles better(first hand experience)

only time will tell

Elizadath:
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if it was maintained it will be a good buy.. just make sure a mechanic carries out a comprehensive inspection before you buy.. u can contact gazzuzz

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Homguy:
thanks for sharing bro.

You are welcome . If the one you intend buying has a good maintenance history , then go for it.