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maborukoje: Omg she's sooooo ugly

Are you really calling someone ugly? A rotten potato is more appealing than you, fat a$$

iamdhebuck: The following are just my own perspectives of these two categories of guys.

Hot guy characteristics:
Tall 5'11 to 6'4
Well built
Facially alright
Dark
Deep voice
May be rich
examples: Idris Alba,John Dumelo,Will Smith,Johnny Walker(rip bro),drake,LYNNXX.

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You mean Paul Walker?

What in the world? HOOOOOOOLD UP ! You asked for his number only to call him THE SAME EFFING DAY to insult him? Sorry, I'm tired, it's Christmas period so I'm broke. All in all, I'm angry so I'm going to take out my frustration on you. You dumb f&ck, shame on your sorry a$$. What you did was extremely disrespectful. I don't even understand your logic. Who takes someone's number only to call them and insult them? Where did you grow up?! I'm going to have 0.2% of pity on you and advice you to keep walking, let it go and act like you don't know him because if you apologize or even talk to him or look at him with your disgusting eyes, he'll only use you and dump you. Ehhh you know what? Apologize ! go on, call him. WTF?!

OP, please direct this message to her if you can

LOOOOL the "debates" if I may say are funnier than the joke ! Anyways, PERSONALLY, the Ghanaian accent is EASIER for me to understand when compared to the Nigerian accent. This is coming from someone who has neither of these accents. It doesn't mean the Ghanaian accent is better, it's just more well pronounced. BTW, I'm Nigerian

What are "yam legs"

Anyways, nothing necessarily "puts me off" in a guy physically. I love imperfections. NOWWW do not exaggerate. Don't come talking to me your teeth are as black as midnight

hotwax: Forming is showing the world what you are not.

E.g wearing fake hair of 150k, yet you have no source of income.

Then how in the world do 2 year old "form"? (see OP's post)

You can't make him to stop seeing you as such since that's the basis of your relationship. You can only stop being his booty call. If you don't want to be his booty call just stop but don't expect him to want you more than that. Don't even think of being just friends, it's not going to work. He's going to re-try to have sex with you and your feelings are going to grow. Move on, let him go.

What is "forming"?

Congratulations !!

Wait.. she's your fiancée? She's never met your parents or what? How does she not know that you're living with them? wtf? I don't even know from where to start. This isn't just lies anymore, you created a new persona. If I were the girl, I would leave you ASAP. You're effing scary !! You had the NERVES to propose to her?

You have NO choice but to tell her. You owe her that... You made her trust you, consider you as a future husband while you were being deceitful the whole time?! Son of a gun, I'm getting goosebumps as I type this. You must tell her.. However she reacts shouldn't be a concern to you. You hope she stays, well... I hope to be a billionaire !

pickabeau1: Hm... an objective female

Good to let your naija females know that white men also poop because to most of them whatever a white man does must be divine

second bolded.... are you sure you are a female
A female espousing non -equality of the sexes

Them gonna be set upon you,....

*looks under shirt, sees boobs* yes, I'm a female. Like I said earlier, this is my upbringing. Just because the man sometimes does the groceries, or cooks or cleans the house doesn't make the relationship equal. Just the fact that I feel protected when I'm with him throws out the equality topic out of the window. My (future) boyfriend may feel safe with me and in our relationship but the ACTUAL feeling of being safe or of being protected is something we females feel. Yeah no, no equality there for me.

Effiwizzi: @ LORRETTA
LORETTA , this is strictly directed at you. i ve carefully read ur points all thru this topic.
you seem to be A VERY DOMMINEERING kind of woman. it pricks you so hard to hear of the word submission., Then you can go fight the almighty God if u r so pained.
Secondly, you are a real femmist and for you information, no one is contesting with you.
I HAVE NEVE HEARD YOU CONTESTING THE ISSUE OF THE MAN PROVIDING FOR HIS FAMILY and y it should be so when the woman is equally getting a pay cheque at the end of the day.
You so much stress on equality btw the man and the woman and it all sorrounds on the rights of the woman.
1. providering for her
2. opening the door for her
3. loving her
4. paying the childrens fees
5. providing the shelter
e.t.c
Y dont you see any reasons y the woman shudnt do this things.
The bible learly states that there is NO EQUALITY and that the man is the head of the family and if u have any issues with that, you can jump into the lagoon.

submisivness dosnt mean control i would love to answer your question here.
I quote you saying men are threatened by womens success hence they crave for their submission. I will recommed "THE MYTH OF SINGLENESS" for you to read.

STop misinforming good women.In any case, a womans submission shouldnt be dependent on any factor and including His loving you. you do it because God commanded it and the blessing comes from Him and not the man. He issued the command. and same to the male folk.

What is your definition of submission though? Very domineering men are not only in Africa, I can testify, haha. It's something that once lived (directly or indirectly) scares you off later on. I don't believe in God one bit but I absolutely agree that our sexes are not equal. We are only equal as human beings. I really can't imagine a 100 % equal relationship... and people often mix up equality and balance.

Anyhoo, what's your "definition" of submission?

GoodFaith: So you live in Italy, I now have some understanding of of your life

No, I don't live in Italy.

pickabeau1: Dont get the point of the italian chic.. the fact that she is advanced and a baby sitter does not mean she will not lead a fulfilling life

It was in regards to him pin pointing how the woman who could cook had a JOB and some bla bla degree.. So I said, I also know a woman who could cook and is a baby sitter and a high school drop out, forgot to mention that. Cooking has got nothing to do with leading a fulfilling life.

GoodFaith: I am not trying to be disrespectful
I have lot of life experience, You don't have
You can learn a lot by just listening
Like I said go learn some manner and be respectful
It sound like you have had a very challenging life and reading your posting , you have over come that challenges
So I do me and You do you

*side eye* what? My life isn't challenging because I can't cook. I have a perfectly normal life. I'm in my 20s, I have a normal job, I live alone like a normal person, I pay my bills like a normal person, I go out like a normal girl my age... there is nothing particularly challenging about my life. Please save your pity for yourself. It is very insulting. YOU need manners. Also, your advice about learning a lot? Take it and use it.

GoodFaith: Sorry, I didn't marry the girl I was telling about
She have always had a JOB
Today she has a great JOB and Master degree making close to six figure salary

SO? I know an Italian girl from high school who could cook and I think she can still cook and guess what? She's a BABY SITTER. A 28 year old girl (the oldest in our class)...

GoodFaith: Kid, we are in two different point in our life
I have done my best to be well culture of Nigeria and other culture
I have done well for myself
I am not looking for a slave to do things for me
i want a wife that will balance me
I was taught well and I can teach you better too
Learn some manner

Until you teach yourself how to type properly (no grammar Nazi here, you seem to know it all), I don't want to learn anything from you. You want a wife that will balance you and I respect that. You should probably try to understand that I am not a member of your family (thank God). I presume that I was taught very well under the circumstance and I can only be grateful for how I've turned out. Not being able to cook African dishes is not because I never wanted to, I was never taught. The same goes for the dialects. With that being said, I blame nobody for that ! I am very happy with my life as it is. My relationship didn't work out because of everything but cooking ! LOL I can't even imagine that being a factor but to each his own. You, dearest, should "learn some manner".

GoodFaith: Cooking is part of my package
When I was younger, a 19 yrs girl tried to win me by learning to cook
my wife has her own business, she pick up the kids and make it home to cook a hot dinner and pack my lunch
Yes she is not a Nigerian
There is one request she as made to me "
Getting somebody to help clean the house twice a month. I am going to have a surprise for her very soon

Your wife isn't everybody's wife. When she was trying to win you over at 19, I was busy working to pay my bills. I am SINGLE with no kids so I have nobody's lunch to pack. I eat lunch with my colleagues everyday. Open your mind instead of being so hostile to other people's lives. This is exactly my point.. it is a good thing you have a wife who caters to you just the way you want but please understand that there are many people out there who weren't brought up the way you were.

GoodFaith: Coming to tell us you cannot cook is BS
White and Black woman cook
Go learn how to cook all types of food
my wife cook and she can pay somebody to cook me Nigeria food
You cannot cook white and Nigeria food
Hope you have good education

You've got to be kidding right? Did you read my first post? I cannot cook NIGERIAN food. I cook for myself because I live alone but still, cooking isn't my strongest point. In general, I eat out after work, dinner with friends, ready made food etc. I don't cook everyday or anything like that, only when it's the end of the month and I'm really poor, then I make pasta with some other things. What does education have to do with anything? You're the one acting like I insulted you and questioning my education... weren't you taught better? Have a stadium full of seats, please !

funnyx: Good for you! Go and marry Oyinbo now no Naija man will marry someone like you except for papers when even some oyinbo sef dey cook amala with abula and orisiri, sidon there your naija husband go come when Jesus comes back

See.. HAHA. And should I be sad because no Nigerian man will marry me? Even better, I guess.

Ihedinobi: I'm just trying to balance the equation here.

He has to take you as you are and expect no adjustments, you say, but he has to "make you comfortable". Have you ever seen anyone who makes anyone else comfortable without adjusting in some way to suit that other person?

Relationships are two way, ma'am. He gives, you give. You both get. You'll have to adjust too. You'll probably have to learn how to cook and you might sacrifice a bit of your career too. Unless you're willing to put down, you're not gonna get anything. You'll just waltz through a series of relationships and end up maybe bitter but certainly alone and possibly lonely.

I absolutely agree. Compromising comes with the package obviously but I'm not going to change who I am, that's how things become uncomfortable. What I meant to say was that it's very easy to have a negative idea of Africans who did not live the typical African life. It's not because I don't cook or whatnot that I'm not "wife material" or "wayward" as you may put it. Cooking, dialects and others in my opinion should be considered as assets (I'm not sure if that's the correct word, my English is not so good anymore) rather than deal breakers.

Ihedinobi: Lol. Ok o, madam. Mr Future Boyfriend must make you comfortable regardless of his upbringing o and expect absolutely nothing but what you have always been in return. Bless you, ma'am.

What should I expect? I don't understand your statement. I really do not care how you were raised as long as we are compatible. If a guy expects me to cook or be a stay at home mom (If I decide one day I want children), he can walk away or I will. It will never work out... that's not how I was raised.

ogugua88: It's hard finding a Nigerian woman abroad. There are millions of Nigerian girls, but seldom can you find a woman. Language? They can't speak. Food? They can't cook. Basic Nigerian values? They don't have. I'm not generalizing. As a woman, I am telling you that there are some Nigerian "women" who embarrass the hell out of me.

However, the same goes for their male counterparts. Some Nigerian boys complain, they're arrogant, and they do try to be controlling (I'm speaking from experience). I still like to believe that people can be in a loving relationship without one party needing to control the other.

It's not just men that go home anyway, although they do it more. A friend of mine, her fiancé is in Nigeria and will be joining her here soon for marriage.

To each his or her own really. They can marry whoever they like. They'll jam many of the same obstacles they jam here at home.

What is wrong in not being able to cook or speak a language? It's easy to say that this is a problem without actually digging more. I think I've said this before, I don't speak any Nigerian dialect, I don't cook any Nigerian food, I don't know anybody from Nigeria etc. My upbringing was not a "typical" Nigerian upbringing if I may say but that doesn't mean jack. That being said, I consider myself to be a normal woman. I cook only for myself, at least I try, because I live alone, been living alone since I was 17/18. I speak only European languages because that was what I was taught. I work to pay for my bills, I have a regular (or maybe not ) social life. I just feel that marriage is overrated. I want my future boyfriend (winks at Santa) to make me feel comfortable regardless of his "upbringing". As long as there is some kind of stability, I'm good to go.
Nothing will change though. I will still not be able to cook, even if I try. I will still not speak any dialect, I will still not be the typical Nigerian lady. I'll just be who I've always been...

WHAT IN THE WORLD? This is child abuse !!!!!!!!!

His shoes are uglier than his face.

bankyc: If a person tells u "I'm gay" he/she does not mean is homosexual. It simply means "I'm fine" but if its " I'm a gay" that is homosexualism. This two sentences shuold not be misunderstood. So the appropriate heading for this thread should be " I'm a gay"
thanks.

LMAOOO you've got to be joking? Surely you can't be this daft?

What? What's wrong with that? I'm confused. Marriage has nothing to do with age or your siblings or am I crazy?

I don't speak any Nigerian dialect. I didn't grow up with my parents and I'm from different tribes, I don't speak pidgin either. I'm not proud of it nor am I ashamed of it. It doesn't change the fact that I'm Nigerian, black, happy and so on. I do speak other 'European languages' because well... that's where I've always been. I call my Aunt by her name, I call my father by his name (we really did NOT grow up together), I am respectful, I have a good job and I pay my bills. I mean, I'm as normal as you guys are.

Tens ways. I know it's a typo but LOL. *in a deep voice* tens ways. Hmm

noblefada: @All I've severally said the unbelievers should stop trying to explain the scriptures because they can't understand it! Just a simple course on "Now you're born again", which of course is what I've been discussing above, they're all acting confused. What if start going into deeper issues like: when it first rained on earth, or why we have continents today, or God plant the tree of the knowledge of good & evil in the garden or I start showing you the revelations of Jesus Christ from Genesis to Malachi, or we go into the mystery of the tower of babel and finally on the Pauline revelations, which Apostle Peter himself said it was hard to understand (2 Peter 3:15-18).
So pls give it up, you know next to nothing about through bible.

NB: Pls I apologies for any typo error, using a touch screen phone, which I dnt particularly like.

What's up with the name dropping? Paul, Malawi, Peter and such? I swear on my pink panties, you know what you're doing. You're doing it on purpose... Aaaaahh I refuse to take u seriously in Jesus name !!!!

noblefada: I quote the scriptures because the issue is about the bible. I didn't say that I don't sin, it is my Spirit man that cannot sin and here again you see why it takes the Spirit of God understand the bible?
You see truth still many churches are not dedicated to teaching, there is this saying we have that because the wrong things have been taught for so long that when the right thing is taught, the call it heresy.

Then what is the point of explaining if you know that unbelievers can't understand?

noblefada: As I said above the faculty of the believer that's responsible for sin is his old un-regenerated mind n not his Spirit which is new and his born of God. That's why Apostle Paul said in Gal 5:16 KJV This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
So is it possible to live above sin? yes very possible just walk by the Spirit.

Love, you make no sense. Why quote the bible to explain your point when u know I'm am Atheist? And even so, you explained noting, rather you created more confusion. So you mean that you don't sin? You're above sin? Can't stop laughing...

noblefada: But again I admire your courage (I admire atheists because an average one is intelligent) because some xtians don't have not an idea of what I'm saying, that's I try to reason with atheists who were former xtians because they were not properly taught when they were in the faith.

What? LMAO. Please re-read what you wrote and tell me you didn't laugh?! Are u being sarcastic? Serious, *raises hands to the sky* it's a legitimate question