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andromida:
I'll stick with 100:100 i prefer people to bring their whole selves not halves and yeah its possible people give the the best of themselves to their careers and other things they consider important why not bring that same passion to your primary relationship.

I see your point and i totally agree

ronald4lif:
As crazy as it may sound, one should just love and care less who loves more. When your partner tells you they love you and act it as well just take it like that. But love with your brains intact and always expect the worse so you don't get taken by surprise. Whether he/she loves more is not a guarantee your ass won't get dumped if that's bound to happen.

People should just forget about this love talk and enjoy a relationship while it last, enjoy the moment, live it and when it ends move on.

Who love don help.

andromida:
What if there is a third way where everybody is happy with the love they are giving and receiving in the relationship. Where there is no one person doing more or most of the work. No 70:30 or any other imbalanced scale but 100:100.

yea.....or 50:50........how possible is that?

I am in the midst of a discussion, Please feel free to debunk this claim and give reasons.

Here we go,

The height of a every relationship with passion begins when a man loves a woman........True or false......give reasons please.

It is said that when a woman loves a man more, she is seen as a fool and the relationship should come to a halt.
What if it is the other way round (the man loving the woman more), should the man be given a chance or should the relationship also come to an end?

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Ishilove, Farano, Lalasticala, efepro,Lala247,Missclasssy,standd,TheRealAdonye,shiifi,babyosisi,EggovinMma

Scholar8200:
it's okay we learn everyday. Does your concepts of grace match the description given in Titus 2:11-12 For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts we should live soberly, righteously and godly in this present world . I ask because the concluding part of your initial post presents a different perspective hence my previous questions (I'm sorry if I'm wrong let me know).The incoming of sin was not part of man's creation by God's purpose to make him more lower or 'vulnerable' . It was a disfiguring that Christ through grace came to correct not only judicially or positionally but internally else all the epistles and the sermon on the mount will be needless. Grace not only brings forgiveness but also (for those who'll seek it) power to be free. And that's why Jesus told the woman caught in adultery go and sin no more and told another sin no more lest a worse thing comes.

Imagine that you are at a healing service. An alcoholic walks into the church reeking of alcohol. He sits behind the pianist, a nice elderly lady who has been serving in the church for 50 years. Both of them are suffering from rheumatoid arthritis. The healing power of God is present. In an instant, the alcoholic, who has never been in church before, gets healed. The pianist does not.
Most people, on hearing stories like this, would get upset and confused. They might ask, “Shouldn’t God heal this nice, old lady who has been serving Him faithfully all these years, and not that debauched drunkard?” You see, many people still believe that God heals only the deserving.
But that is not how God works. God looks at faith, not works. His power is made manifest in those who trust His goodness instead of their good behavior. So if we go back to the above example, God wants to heal both the alcoholic and the nice elderly pianist. All they need to do is to receive by grace, or unmerited favor, through faith.
The only thing for you to do is to believe God’s “I wills”. The more you believe His “I wills” or promises, the more you will see His heart for you and the more your faith will grow.
We cannot earn the blessings of God. We receive them by believing God’s love and grace toward us. If we receive the greatest blessing—salvation—by simply believing that Jesus did it all for us and not by working for it, what makes us think that the other lesser blessings can be obtained by our works?
Well, your boss may not be that gracious, but your Father in heaven is! When He found fault with the old covenant and established the new covenant (Hebrews 8:7– in His Son’s blood, His “Thou shalls” became “I wills”.
You may be feeling stressed at work today because your boss just gave you a list of things to do. Maybe he told you, “You have to type this letter. You have to meet this client. You have to write this report. You have to…” Wouldn’t it be nice if your boss had, instead, said, “I will type this letter for you. I will meet this client for you. I will write this report for you. I will…”?
You see, under the old covenant, the focus is on you—Thou shall not…Thou shall not…Thou shall not…It is all about your performance, your obedience, your works. But under the new covenant, God says, “I will put My laws in their mind…I will be their God…I will be merciful to their unrighteousness…their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more.” It is no longer you working for God, but God working for you, in you, through you!

davide470:
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What should be the subject of the mail and is it open to fresh graduates?

Goddex:
Madam, are you into marriage counselling?
Brilliant advise

Hehehehehehe........It's the voice of experience.

Thanks though

ItsAnderson:

Told her I wouldnt wanna have sex again until I Got
married (which will be, at most, three years from
now), and the next day she sent me a text message
ending the two year relationship. I'm now caught
between a cliff and a high wall. She never told me
why. I just hope it's not because of the sex issue.
Honestly, I feel used because she was my first and
only. I Am 24 and almost through with my bachelors
but I've never found sex that appealing. We've dated
for more than two years but had sex a total six times.
I now feel horrible. I am not very religious but I just
feel like sex before marriage is just wrong. But I dont
think I am willing to let her go either.

Try having a meaningful conversation with her........perhaps she's listening to stupid talks like "if he's not giving it to you, then he's getting it elsewhere," or " he doesn't really love you". If you can talk with her, make sure you understand why or find out what happened, unless, she's seeing someone else, then she might just be confused................if it's the confused state..............explain to her why you feel it's worth waiting for and make sure you can be trusted.

Scholar8200:
thanks for your response. Mary was declared by the angel to be highly favored & this was expressed by her being chosen to be the mother of our Lord Jesus Christ. Now, how will you describe the expression of this undeserved favor in man.

Perhaps i don't understand your question, but i would say the gift of salvation is the greatest expression of all..........but in all God has all the answers.

Scholar8200:
@ op, pls how would you define grace?

I would simply call it an undeserved favour.......my story indeed.........Our story whether we agree or not.

Today’s Truth
God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in sprit and truth. (John 4:24, ESV)
In John 4, we see a tired Jesus. He was exhausted and thirsty from the journey he and the disciples had just made from Judea to Galilee. Having sent the disciples into town for food, Jesus sat down by Jacob’s well and talked with a woman of Samaria – ignoring cultural, racial, and social norms of that day. {Jews did not associate with Samaritans and often tried to avoid Samaria all together on their journeys. In addition to that, respectable Jewish men did not talk women whom they didn’t know in public.} But Jesus was clearly not concerned with public opinion as He was on a mission of mercy.
He asked this unnamed woman for a drink then engaged her in a meaningful and purposed conversation. They talked of practical thirst, and then Jesus spoke of living water that satisfies eternally.
Not realizing whom she was talking to or what He was really talking about, this woman asked for a jar full of living water so she would never be thirsty again and so she would no longer have to make constant trips to the well. {I mean, who wouldn't want that? If I never had to buy groceries again I would be one happy girl!}
Then, in order to lovingly introduce her to the Living Water she longed for, Jesus redirected the conversation and asked her to go call her husband and come back. (v. 16)
By asking this question Jesus got all up in her personal business! Why? Because she didn't have a husband and He knew it. She’d had lover after lover.
“I have no husband,” she replied.
Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have said is quite true.” (John 4:17-18)
As light invades darkness, this conversation instantly went from veiled and casual to exposed and personal. I imagine she squirmed a bit under her covering and wanted to hide as she acknowledged that this man must be a prophet.
Uncomfortable, she tried to change the subject by talking about religion instead of her rebellion.
“Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.”
“Woman,” Jesus replied, “believe me, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews. Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.” (John 4:19-24)
By telling her that, God is spirit. And we are to worship him in spirit and in truth, Jesus went beneath the surface of religion to bring what really matters to the forefront: worshiping God in spirit and in truth. God seeks worshipers who come to Him in spirit – through Jesus – and in truth.
Stay with me here! This story is about to take an exciting twist!
What did Jesus mean by saying we must worship God in TRUTH? According to the BDAG Greek-English lexicon of New Testament, the root word for truth in this verse is alēthia, which means ‘hiding nothing’.
To worship God in truth means that we are to come before Him hiding nothing! It means that we must bear all to the One who sees and knows all. That we should come as we are, allowing our stained hearts to be made white as snow in the presence of our holy God who dwells in unapproachable light.
Friend, God is not looking for us to be religious and He certainly knows all about the rebellion in our lives that we try to hide. He knows when you flirt with that married man at work or with an old boyfriend on Facebook. He knows when you put away bags and throw away shopping receipts before your husband gets home. He knows when you surrender to eating that entire bag of potato chips – or when you make yourself throw up your meal. He knows when gossip is on your lips and when you harbor unforgiveness, jealousy, anger, deceit and hatred in your heart.
He knows… He knows… He knows…
And he calls us to more. He calls us to a vulnerable, honest faith. To worship Him in humble awareness of our depravity, but with a sacred awareness of His grace and unfailing love that binds us to forgiveness, restoration, healing, peace, hope and joy.
Today, let’s worship Him in spirit and in truth – hiding nothing.
Let’s Pray
Holy Father, Oh, how I try to hide! Forgive me. Please fill me with Your living water and help me to know and live out Your truth. Lead me with Your Spirit, today.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

braine:
Men take things like this seriously. Did you explain to him that you pleasured yourself by yourself? I wonder how one can still claim to be a virgin after self service tho

She had never slept with a man that's what it means to be a virgin, likewise for men..................Self servicing has nothing to do with it.

Even if the hymen is broken perhaps during sports, it doesn't mean she is no longer a virgin as far as a man's penis has not entered her vagina

latability:
Buhari pls control ur boys... U will never no peace if in a way you have hand in this. Since this boko haram issue started, you have said nothing about it and u are coming out for president claiming to stop them when u win.. God is watching u...

say no to a boko haram sympathize.

Gbam!!!!!!!! If he can stop them when he becomes president, why wait till then........He can show us his good works today, why wait till tomorrow

kestolove95:
Dix aboki people sef...mtseew,igbos don dey spoil una abi

Meaning

Enegod:
so, you nyashed her raw!
Have you checked your HIV status?

Good point.......ask am o

aljharem:
@op you should know that Nigerians are very stu.pid and gullible set of people.

Including you na.......Abi did you fall from the sky

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Blessing in disguise............Do not terminate pregnancy, I repeat do not terminate pregnancy.

Keep faith and keep searching, i would advise you make this known to the lady's family and any how you can, pay her bride price if you love her enough to marry her.

Watch and see GOD announce you in the midst of your confusion.

Good luck

nurexfutmx:
I lost my job last year december, have been trying to get another job since then but all to no avail. Am getting frustrated by the day cos i don't see any job coming, I was able to save up to 500k during my time in my former workplace. Now, the question is...

1. Am thinking of going for MSc which i may end up spending the whole money on and God forbid, what if i still don't get any job after the programme won't i go back to square one?

2. I'm thinking maybe i could invest in something profitable and start up a little business but i really want to build my career and with that little sum of money i have, i may end up making little or no gain which i could possibly lose lots of money aswell.

3. The third and last one am really interested doing is someone promised me a job in NNPC and he is asking me to pay 300k for a slot there but from experience of what happened to be last year, i lost 150k to a family friend who promised me a job in Nigeria Custom but i end up got scammed. It didn't workout, am trying to avoid such mistake again.

I've always wish to work with a goverment parastatal (a very good one) and i don't mind forfeiting the whole 500k to get it only if i can be rest assured it will workout.

Am really confused and don't know what to do with my life....i need u guys advice please!

There you have it.........you want assurance even after it has happened to you once.

Oga start a business or keep praying for a job.

You don't pay for jobs.

on 2nd thought you can go for professional certification.

I would advise you and your wife to prayerfully make a decision to carry the pregnancy full term.

Here's a true-life story

A couple was told to terminate the pregnancy of the wife due to some bla bla bla... the woman said she had done this at-least 3 times before.
This time, she stood her ground and refused. The product is a very healthy 7 yr old boy.

What if she had terminated the pregnancy Can you imagine how she feels knowing the doctors might have been wrong previously??
I know this family, I know this little boy.

You seem like a Christian, "Who's report do you believe?"

Please send me a mail......I share in your pain

okoyemike:
Lion is Agu

Leopard is Odum. not the other way round

Lion is odum

Leopard is agu

If you are christian then translate "the LION of the Tribe of Judah in Igbo"

lolaakinola:
Some suspected ritual killers have beheaded 20-year-old Memuna Galadima, the daughter of Mustapha Galadima, the Special Adviser on Local Government and Chieftaincy Affairs to Governor Umaru Al-Makura.

Mustapha, who confirmed her daughter’s murder to PUNCH Metro, said Memuna, before her untimely death, was in the Department of Entrepreneur, Faculty of Administration at the Pianku campus of the Nasarawa State University, where she was studying for a National Diploma.

Galadima said, “It was on Thursday, February 26, 2015. My daughter left home for school to sit for a test at the Pianku campus along Nasarawa Road along with three of her friends.”

The Special Adviser said the test was for 10am and he expected his daughter home a few hours later.

He added that he became worried when Memuna did not come home on the day. He said he never saw his daughter alive again until her decomposing body was found along Agwan Ozoro, in the Karshi development area of Nasarawa State.

He said, “Upon hearing the news, I mobilised people to go there and check if it were her remains that were found. On reaching there, the search team told me that the body had decomposed beyond recognition.

“They added that the body was found inside a deep well, saying several attempts made to remove the corpse from the well were unsuccessful.

“It was when the police brought her picture that we were able to identify her through her legs and there was nothing we could do but to bury her there according to Muslim injunctions.

“She had been in Keffi for the past three years with her mother, who is also an undergraduate at the department of accountancy of the same institution.”

Investigation by PUNCH Metro showed that Memuna was found without a head as it was suspected that her assailants might have decapitated her before throwing her remains inside the well.

It was also said the people responsible were ritual killers.

Some passersby, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said they sighted the victim on a motorcycle at about 12pm.

Mustapha, who described his daughter as peace loving and humble, said he never saw her keeping any bad company.

“Those that did this dastardly act will not go scot-free.

“Her death is still a mystery to us, but, however, as a Muslim, we have consolation in God.”

The mother of the deceased, Hajiya Hassana Galadima, said her daughter left home for her lecture with her friend, Aisha.

She said, “The duo usually went to school together and used to return home at about 5pm every day. I even have a photocopy of her timetable in order to monitor her movement.”

It will be recalled that some unidentified gunmen, also suspected to be ritual killers, recently beheaded Mrs. Amina Suleiman, the daughter of Director General of Governor Umaru Tanko Al – Makura’s Campaign Organisation, Mr. Musa Illu.

The Police Public Relations Officer, Nasarawa State command, ASP Umaru Ismaila, who confirmed the incident to PUNCH Metro on the telephone, said, “Investigation into the incident is ongoing.”



http://www.punchng.com/metro-plus/ritual-killers-behead-daughter-of-gov-al-makuras-aide/


Pix: Sympathisers at the Galadimas; inset, Memuna | credits: Umar Muhammed

Too bad.........Innocent girl.................I still feel this is better than killing a poor man's child..........they should feel they pain too

Saimeritus:
The past 3 girlfriend I had dumped me because I refused to do the thing with them. I'm from a very responsible family and I had a covenant with God not to have sex until marriage. I have been good to those girls , buys them lots of gift cos I'm on 3 scholarships.The day I went to the home of my 2nd gf, we were all alone in the house, she kept touching me but I didn't make a move. This infuriated her. The next day I called her, she keeps busying my calls. She dumped me just like that. My last gf came to my room at school the other day and I cooked for her, entertained her very well but when she showed green light , I rejected it. I have been calling her since then but she doesn't pick my calls. They all say that I'm not a man. pls what should I do to keep a good girl into a relationship? I think I am a failure when it comes to relationships. candid advice needed

Explain to them............the one who understands is for keeps

Meaqnwhile, they might think you're getting it else where............just tell them what you believe in, if they don't buy it.....let them GO

tosyne2much:
I'm glad I've got the aforementioned qualities.. Patiently for a lady that wouldn't hesitate to quote me and ask for my hand in marriage

#SMH...........mtcheeeew

SuperSuave:
Dnt know these. Saw the bottles but ddnt taste any of dem tho

chai!!!!!!! you must be less than 10yrs

lolaxavier:
Money good o...

Walahi my brother

A thumb

iammayorkay:
I got a text earlier today about an interview tomorrow without applying for anything.
You are hereby invited for a test/job briefing at NO.160 Herbert Macaulay Way,3rd floor,by Adekunle b/stop,beside Carter str.Yaba,Lagos on 16/02/15 by 9:30am.
Did anyone receive ds text also, is it a scam?

Did you attend cos a friend got same text yesterday.

Should she attend?

photographer:
@op I want to believe you went to school, secondly I want to believe you are grownup too? the truth is Nl is the last place you bring such issues for advice. but since you are here already let me put mouth.

ask her how her health issues is,how serious? then make up your mind from what she tells you truth is that[b] SS carriers are warrior's that fight health battles that you cant.[/b] Am 25 and have had crisis only 4 times my whole life. am a survivor dont be deprived of the best thing that can happen to you go for her and you know what? since she lives each day at a time she will love you more than any other woman would. you are AA doesnt mean you cant be hit by a car and die people will always die from one course or the other it might be an ailment or unforseen means anyway round we shall all die someday.


peace.

So true, We are fighters......Warriors and we always overcome

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

This is no fix...............I sent you a mail.......reply it let's chat off this zone.............

I am 30....I was born as one. I have two other siblings with same condition ages 38yrs and 40yrs.

my sibling who is 40 has 4 kids and have been married for 10yrs.

Back to me.......I had my last blood transfusion when i was 8yrs old. I had my last crisis when..............(still thinking...) sometim,e in the university cos i didn't take of me so well. I found out what works for me and what doesn't..............Ecah time i go for a check at the doctor's, he is always amazed.

I have a friend who has same health challenge........she's 31.
she is married and has 5 kids.

Infact the last ones are twins and she gave birth to all 5 naturally (no CS).

There can be bad cases but it all boils down to knowing what works for you.
where i work, when i switch off the AC, no one dares put it on, cos they understand..........In cold weather, i put on extra clothes (stockings if needed).....................

I will stop here till i receive your mail...........But keep praying......everyone of us have some kind of defect/deficiency...........noticeable or not.

suxes2005:
Hi all,

Each time anyone calls me either from NL or
from referral and I tell them to try the United States
they think its the hardest visa to get in life but this
is not true.

I will like anyone interested in going to usa as a visitor
to state his or her interest here so that i can show you
the way to go about it right here, we will all see the
result of the application here.

I just helped a friend of my pastor to secure his through
searching for pastor's conference for him,



SHALOM

Hi

Please i'm interested. I won a return ticket to the US from Delta Airways but i need a Visa before the ticket expires by MAY 2015