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You asked a question and you already answered it all by yourself.

Can you really handle it when you eventually give birth and add weight, then he finds a "barbie doll" out there?

What you cannot handle, do not try to manage, marriage is not meant to be endured and managed.

Loosing weight for him or for yourself, which will serve you best? What ever that does not empower you and make you feel good about yourself or have great self esteem, does not deserve to be in your life.

My 2 cents. Start feeling good about you and all things will fall in place.

sas91:
Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants.
my fear is did he truly love me? what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people.

A friend of mine had an erection for 2 weeks and 3 days

NOPE, it was not viagra or "burantashe"

Nah, I didn't seduce him.

In fact, he has never had sex in his 27years on earth.

Is that even possible?
YES! very possible.

I bet you want to know how,
I do too, let's go find out...

/s6QyCT-priapism

‪#‎BeautifullyFlawed‬
‪#‎FlawedButLimitless‬
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dearpreye:
That's some great work you're doing there. Keep up the good work. I'll be happy to do my little ASAP. Good efforts.

Thank you. I'm glad.

Thank you too.

Here's a pet project, so you might get to know me better.

http://sicklestrength.com/2015/11/advocating-bakare-abidemi-abiodun/

Winks

dearpreye:
But you've out of my range. LOL!

Nice to have you back shaa......my dear, I've been busy like crazy, running circles within the mad Rat Race; I just can't wait to get the hell out of it. Seriously sometimes I get sick knowing I have to wake up by 5.30 A.M whether I like it or not, stuck in the traffic for an hour or two, work round the clock, engage another round of traffic homewards......the cycle I wish to break free someday.

To be rich is to have money. To be wealthy is to have TIME. I prefer the latter. Seriously I do.

I've been a little tardy in keeping the thread due to excessive schedule but I'll be a little timely in the coming weeks.

Thanks for visiting.

[quote author=dearpreye post=40832287][/quote]Hahahahahaha.............Been around oo.

How have you been?

So great you're keeping this post alive. Great job dear friend.

There's never any loss, just #Feedback.

You either when or you get feedback. Now, what you do with the feedback you get is what matters.

#Winks

dearpreye:
Good morning, friends. Hope you all had some needed rest? Let's please continue with our 7 Habits. Today we shall be explaining Habit 4.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win.

We have been conditioned to think, by our parents, teachers and society in general, that life is all about winning. Now, that is not wrong in itself, but the approach that we have been taught is definitely wrong. We have been taught to win at someone else's expense. Or, we have been taught to understand that if we lose, someone else will win. This has become our natural thought process, and we rarely do think in any other way.

But, what Stephen Covey tells us to learn is that life is not about winning at the expense of someone else......or losing if someone else wins. This is not the way successes are carved. In the world of successful people, the success has been of everyone.

Think of the inventor of the telephone....or the radio....or the person who first landed on the moon....or the one who created Microsoft.....what is the common element in all these people?

The common strand is that it is not just they who won. When the telephone was invented by Alexander Graham Bell, everyone used it. Communication improved immensely, all over the world. When Guglielmo Marconi invented the radio, the whole world rejoiced at the new avenue of entertainment that had opens up. When Neil Armstrong and Edwin Aldrin landed on the moon, it was a giant leap for the entire humankind. When William Gates developed Microsoft, it is not just the Microsoft Corporation that became the richest commercial organisation in the world, but it is all of us who witnessed and benefited from the revolutionary phenomenon.

Our lives have been shaped by these things. ...by these people who who did not stop to think about their personal victories. They only thought about how they could take someone else ahead as well....how they could improve the world that they lived in.

Thinking about the world is along shot,but you should at least think about the people who are close to you. To give you the right interpretation of Stephen Covey's model for the highly effective people, the one thing that is important is that you should not aim for the victory at someone else's expense. Instead, you should think about you can collectively move towards victory. Success, in the present times, is about collaboration and cooperation.

The Internet has made this possible. The Internet has shown us that victory doesn't belong to a single person. In fact, if it belongs to a single person,it feels inadequate. Victory is something we need to share collectively. We have to think the win-win situation in which everyone is a winner, no one is a loser.

Good morning.

Yes! Sickle cell kills, but that statement is not entirely true. It all depends on a whole lot of factors, but with the right information, Sickle Cell Warriors lead a normal life.

We need your support:

http://sicklestrength.com/2015/11/advocating-bakare-abidemi-abiodun/

The story is also on; http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2015/11/a-sickle-cell-graduate-patient-needs.html?m=1

Mod, we will appreciate if this can make front page.

Thank you.

I am not trying to agree with the OP o but coming from a lady I'm amazed. Do you urinate from your vagina

These things happen. Use google, though I can't say for this.

Cheers!!!

Republlican:
Hmmmm


Am not saying can't do this he has done things a million times more than this.



I saw so may flaws in this write up




Naming the church sounds like an advert than praising the giver of the miracle, God doesn't need church to perform miracle the only thing he needs its just a medium which is usually through a man of God which is independent of any church because any individual can be a man of God as far as you have deep relationship with the almighty.


Why I love the whites they would have documented every thing like pictures when she was 5 to 6 months pregnant and the period she gave birth which they didn't do.



The OP never said or showed us a medical document from a reputable hospital that shows the above woman can't have babies.


Third the pics the OP uploaded are pics he snapped from a picture so there is the possibility that the story was fabricated by the OP.



Lastly there us no evidence to prove that the snapped lady gave birth to that baby which you know if you have like half a million naira you get a baby boy fresh from the delivery unit.



They said from birth she hard the varginal complications so as Hunan being she takes water and her kidney works so how does she URINATE all this while or by wireless


Food for thought


I pray its true, congrats to the lady

400billionman:
Thank you for enlightening us. The internet is the most powerful source of information today. I made a comment in the past one week on a thread where a banker had an adverse drug reaction that almost led to his death if not that he was flown abroad for treatment. My comment bothered on using the internet to check up my health before going for tests or seeing a doctor.

One guy replied by saying, " Sir, You are a public health risk ". I ignored him because I know what many people do not know so I don't respond to every comment.

The internet has rewarded my life in so many ways. I have friends and colleagues who lost their lives after relying solely on doctors advice and went home thinking all was well. They never lived to tell the story.

In your own case, it is very obvious that after God, your baby's life was in your hands. Your doctors were clueless.

Thank you so much for your comment. A lot of people see doctors as their GOD. These days we have doctors chasing money and forgetting they need to brush up and be abreast with their colleagues out there.

A doctor tried to kill me years back, a "Consultant" oooo.............she is supposed to be a professional. When i presented her prescriptions to the Pharmacist and sited that something was wrong, even the "pharmacist disagreed with me" I took the drugs and went straight to a doctor friend who screamed and asked if i was sure that a doctor prescribed the drugs........I had evidence na......I just flashed the prescription note with doctor's name and signature with hospital stamp, my friend could not believe it..................This was in 2010 at a Federal hospital in Garki 2 Abuja.

They (doctors et al) think we challenge them about their profession, but we are only stating our concerns as humans.

The earlier people begin to learn, the better

free2ryhme:
Good for you however it will be wise not to encourage this form of self medication through the internet humans are bound to go the extreme.

Dont just jump into conclusion. you might not be lucky next time

It is advisable to see a doctor atleast for monitoring purposes and professional advise

You sound like one of them.......

If you read through, he said " they stopped the formula" while treatment commenced and the formula was even prescribed by one of you (I'm guessing you are a doctor) This is how they go killing people.

Before treatment, the right thing was to ask what happened in the last few days, where they had taken the child, what the child had eaten etc.

Thank you for this gift, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker! I've gotten it on PDF.

The truth is "It is never enough to stare up the steps-We MUST also step up the stairs"

being WEALTHY encompasses all; change in mindset(Mind shift), change in way of life etc. Most rich men aren't just rich, they are WEALTHY, that is what we should aim for.

Wealth- He is satisfied,content, fulfilled and above all is peaceful inside out.

Isn't this where GOD wants us? my dear friend dearpreye.

Thanks for the mention. Great write up. Have a wowdaful day and keep being inspired

Scanning and saving them in your mail can work too just incase of emergencies or disasters (not praying for disaster but a friend's home recently got burnt along with all certificates)

holluwai:
This man has made a valid point.

Scanning and saving them in your mail can work too just incase of emergencies or disasters (not praying for disaster but a friend's home recently got burnt along with all certificates)

SolomonAdeola:
............



this man has sense

Scanning and saving them in your mail can work too just incase of emergencies or disasters (not praying for disaster but a friend's home recently got burnt along with all certificates)

Eidosky:
Some embassies and schools abroad reject laminated certificates. Reason is that the rubber used to laminate prevents the machine from reading the authenticity seal on it. I was a victim. I had to go through stress and expenses to get a new waec result since the original I laminated spoilt when I was trying to remove the laminate. Pls instead of laminating it, put it in the rubber but let them just seal the tip and not the whole body. So you can take it out anytime if required..

Alike....hmmm, just sounds like "a like"
Please give me ten of those likes

davseun2ta:
harm, arm, ham sound alike....

martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or medical prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


CC: lalasticlala u've got controls.
Ishilove please steer the wheels, front page is the destination.

Nothing extra ordinary is wrong with her. Just a small percentage of women suffer from such menstrual pain every month.

Speaking from experience though. My aunty (2 of my dad's sisters) and a cousin of mine suffer from it.

People don't sleep during those periods. Everyone knows its that time of the month. I can't prescribe what they use to relieve the pain because its different medication for different body system.

She needs to see a doctor ASAP. If possible a gynaecologist. Send me a mail if you need a name and number for them especially if you're in Lagos.

Its not a spiritual attack o and self medication clearly ain't helping.
Kindly speak with the man not to relent, I understand how he must feel and he must be commended. Not all men would want to watch her go through that every month.

Another point is, the sooner a baby comes, the sooner she gets natural healing.

Once she has a baby, she will experience the monthly visitor like every other lady

Cc: katastrofy

Your response to ClassicB was on point.

However, i also relate withe her story. These days "men" find it hard to receive compliments without turning it around to mean the lady wants something, likewise women.
Being courteous to men these days is scary because it turns out to mean something else for 80% of men.
Most people these days don't know how to be kind, so they don't know how to receive kindness themselves 'cos they believe every act of kindness must come with a price tag.

Truly, this is tainting the image of MEN and WOMEN in our society.

Yes, there are good men and women out there with pure hearts and genuine intentions, but we are humans and can't see beyond the physical especially if we have previously had bad experiences.

It is quite hard to tell who is trust worthy and who isn't and giving a benefit of doubt might be risky.


To ClassicB,
Most of us have had sad experiences, but how you pull through and see things in a new light forms the new you.

You can't keep hiding, let go and live life. Life is happening now, seek help if you must and you will see the beauty in others. Don't let your past rob you of a very pleasant now and a beautiful feature

Best of luck to you

When people start understanding that we are "adopted" as christians, Then they will understand better.

Thanks though,

My bad.

Ademat7:
u dnt get me,I mean in case anyone want to copy it he/she may know the name to include as reference. It's to protect ur write up,so u get my point?

Did I steal your poem?

Originally mine and will remain so. Well, thought with my brain

Ademat7:
for proper referencing pls put ur name even if just ur first name to avoid plagiarism #BuhariEra

Hmmmmmm.

Jim Rohn.... I reserve my comment. Hmmm

dearpreye:
Hmmm! This thread is a product of Jim Rohn's awesome materials. I've been reading his books for months.

Direction is very critical in everything we do. And we can't rule out education. Once a person is thoroughly educated about a course, the job is made easier. There's no point motivating someone who's clearly on the wrong path. He needs to be redirected.

Thank for sharing.

L ;Dl

I'm so many things.

All thanks to the best daddy. The greatest man I ever knew. I miss him though, but his legacy lives on.

He awaits on the other side of Jordan, but wait I must, Yes! I must finish my race before we embrace each-other again.

dearpreye:
Love is the essence of life; it's the fragrance of life. It's the perpetuation of life. It's life itself. Love beget life.

BTW, are you a poet?

I hail ooo

Good afternoon

dearpreye:
Mikwus, I sight you. Good afternoon.

What is LOVE if not for LIFE
What is LIFE if not for LOVE itself

Which is the giver?
Neither or either

I would say,
LOVE feeds all 'cause
out of LOVE all was formed including
the existence of LIFE itself.

By Mikwus


Cc: dearpreye thanks for this space

Nice one friend........thanks a lot..........#hugs

kaslaw:
Follow nairalanders join me in thanking God,yesterday night I was on my way to night class in my school abia state uni(Absu) when I saw this big snake coming towards me, please to my follow Ikengas and ikengresess in the house try and be using your torch lights while going about in absu at night.

Great IKENGA.................thank God o, biko lezia anya maka mgbe ozo