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If only I am a sniper.

Op you are just 27 and you want to throw your life away to the bin? And also give your kids a future they will curse later?
If your husband has lost his senses doesn't mean you should do the same too, if you two cannot sort things out just leave-leave and leave.

People should only fear the consequences of their actions - PMB.

I don't have any problem with the lady getting married @18, I am having issues with his age... see the age gap now... 51 for God sake, must he marry again? What else does a man of his age wants from a teenage girl
Why can't he be satisfied with his 3wives
I hope he lives long, it will be sad for the young girl to be widowed @a young age!

You MUST have these internal conversations before walking down the aisle.

Maybe you've been together a while and are considering taking a big step, or perhaps you just started seeing one another and aren't sure if you should stay the course.

Whatever your situation, a check-in is never a bad thing. Read on for 20 tough questions to ask about your relationships before moving forward.

1. Is for better or worse making me better or worse?
Does your partner encourage you to be your best self, or does he or she get intimidated by any triumphs and feel more secure when you're not putting your best foot forward?

2. Do we really accept one another?
There will always be things you want to change about the people in your life, but no one should be in a situation where they feel they aren't allowed to be authentic and accepted as the unique, special (yet flawed) person they are.

3. Who am I?
How can you know if your partner is a good match if you have no idea who you are?

4. Am I happy to be in this relationship?
The idea of sharing a life together is not to find someone to complete you or make you happy. But let's face it: being unhappy at home can seep into other areas of your life . . . and fast. If you're always fighting or just generally not feeling great about your twosome, it doesn't mean you have to bail out (counseling might be a good option) but marrying someone in the hope that it changes things is a bad, bad idea.

5. Am I feeling trapped?
Do you really want to be in this relationship the majority of the time or do you find yourself wishing for a way out? Do you stay because you've invested time or are you really invested in your mate?

6. What am I doing to hold us back?
Maybe you could be more attentive, more thoughtful, quicker to let things go, or the first to bring up going to counseling. Whatever it is, take this as your sign to step up.

7. Is this relationship balanced?
Do you feel you're both on the same page in terms of compromise, care, support and sacrifice? Or is one of you doing most of the giving while the other just sits with their hand out?

8. Can we have fun together?
Have you ever seen two people sit across from one another in silence at brunch as though they are being forced to walk through their day together? Not. fun.

9. Can we have fun apart?
Co-dependency ain't cute, y'all.

10. Why am I in this relationship?
Is it because you respect, love, trust, and value the person you are with? Or because you're afraid of being alone, worried about finances, or have built a life you're scared to leave?

11. Where is this going?
Living in the "now" is great, but eventually the partnership will need a plan or someone will begin to feel anxious.

12. Do I really trust my partner?
For some, the immediate response to this can be devastating. If you're one of them, it's time to ask why and how you can begin to build or rebuild trust. Without it, there's no chance.

13. Am I with a good person?
Knowing what you know about your partner today, would you vouch for them if they were a friend?

14. Am I attracted to my partner?
Physical attraction is hardly the most important component in a relationship, but forcing yourself to be in a relationship with someone who you're not attracted to — just because it's comfortable or "perfect on paper" isn't fair to anyone. You will feel resentful and they will feel rejected.

15. Am I a parent or a partner?
Taking care of someone you love is a great thing to do, but when you feel like you're raising a boyfriend — or worse, a husband — things get a little complicated. You'll resent his childish ways. Who wants to sleep with their mom?

16. Does my partner have my back?
Do you feel like you're a part of a loyal team who stands up for one another, supports one another, and shows a united front (even when the other is not around)? Or, do you feel like you're constantly being thrown under the bus by your mate?

17. Are we looking in the same direction?
Some couples avoid having the big talks (religion, marriage, babies) because they think that, somehow, these things will just "work themselves out." By the time they realize they won't, they're in a complicated, painful situation that leaves one (or both) feeling a little bit duped.

18. Are we growing together?
Being a human being living on this earth, we all have a right to grow and develop, and create a full life for ourselves. Are you and your partner still indulging in your passions (individual and shared) and growing as individuals?

19. Am I still me?
Being in love with someone should not require changing our identity to fit someone else's idea of who we should be, on any level.

20. What is my gut telling me?
You have intuition for a reason. Listen to yourself.

http://www.popsugar.com/love/20-Questions-Ask-Before-You-Get-Married-37621520

Larokutukutu Monday...

yetseyi:
Nice pix shymexx, very colorful I love the various aso oke and the Fine horses.

Proudly Ijebu

Ewesooo dede omo alare, Ajobi a gbe wa ooo

CC: mintayo

ATMC:
#singing# **humming** #dancing#

Loool.

That something you don't hear everyday!
The lady should run from that family!

Really

texanomaly:
I saw this on fb. Interesting...Never thought of it this way.

Light has no shadow! The Bible says, "God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all." 1 John 1:5

Amazing...

Lool, that number ten though.

Anyss:
My dear. I got d invite too. If dats d case I won't even bother myself again. Cos am in Kaduna and d sch here pay me 40 already. If it were Close, I would av attended for d fun of it.

My dear, don't even think about it, kaduna is too far for that amount.

cjfn:
I want to submit my CV.

Can i send you a PM?
Can you help me with my CV?

busuyem:
I just called a guy working in Covenant University about the secondary school pay, he said the pay cannot be more than 40k per month. That's too pathetic!

If this is true, then it is really noy too good, i was expecting something better.

It doesn't matter, I will still go to work.

Wrong move by the pastor though he had good intentions.

busuyem:
I got the same text. I need info about them, too. What did ur friend apply for?

Geography teacher, are u based in sango ota?

My colleague just got an invite from Faith Academy ota, please anyone got the invite?
Anyone with idea about their interview?
And probably the pay too.

KanwuliaJara:
Men sleep with prostitures to revvvvvvvv up their sex lives.
Sex is sooooooooooo BORRRRRRRRRING in marriage!

EVEN THE HOLY GHOST POWER CANNOT FIX THAT!!!!

Lool. Talking from experience?

Seun it's like telling people not to help or give. Why not make tehn the official means of soliciting for fund or help?

cjfn:
Good afternoon!
Please can anyone describe the directions to Oriental food industries.. I am coming from dugbe... Thank you

Hello, please are you going there to submit your cv or an interview?
NB. I don't know the address.

ATMC:
#roll call for those that went to church today. ONLY. Answer if you did.

Here.

edwife:
Good one!

I also don't get this post.It is rather too late for her or maybe she is trying to teach the younger ones not to follow her footsteps.

I don't get it too! Its like the op has given up or something? She has accepted it as her fate.

ATMC:
E-State is okay the last time I was there.

Hmmmm

ATMC:
Good to have you back. I missed youuuu like a baby misses her mama's Ti.t

Hmmmmm.... I miss you too like...like... *scratches head*...like kilode...
How are you? And the "E-State".

The thing to me is quite unbelievable!
I still don't believe that a guy can be knocked unconscious and still remain active below :-Xto the point of getting someone pregnant...
I need to watch my back too
The guy should not have anything to do with the lady, a lady like that can be unpredictable, like taxx said, what will she tell the child? Raising her?
The guy may not even be the father!
Some ladies though!

ATMC:
Mintayo good morning if it's morning where you are

Did we post at the same time
Of course it's morning, a cold one sef.

ATMC:
Yetseyi good mornings. Up so early

Youuuuuuu
Good morning.

[quote author post=38138561]Was your friend a little boy when that happened? Did she drug him or overpower him somehow?[/quote]Yetseyi, these questions beg for answers. How did she overpowered him?

Good day everyone, it's good to have you all around.

May his healing be permanent in Jesus name.

try annd check the thread tagged, "christain chat box."