Dickhead02:
3 not 2

Yoruba

Calabar

and Igbo

Let me guess, you're from Delta or Edo.

Neither

y3mi:
The point is already there to decode mademoiselle, I am just surprise is all. There are questions that can only be asked by one who isn't borne here, at most, born and raise in any of them highbrow places where the elites dwells, I'll tell you a short story, it happened in a long past, say 2007 or so, there is this friend of mine who I went to visit who works at a pure water factory in one of these areas that was rural back in the day, it was owned by a very rich man whom he worked for as the second manager. That day till we depart, he kept asking me during our conversation to make sense of something he experienced when his boss came around that same day, he told me for the first time in his life he ever saw (human) the little kids (of his boss) asking their dad the meaning of hunger "Daddy, daddy what is hungry" as they were in the back of the SUV Jeep. He was baffled as to why a human being wouldn't know the meaning of to be hungry no matter what. That's how your question is. I never implied the question posed on this thread is entirely an irrelevant one, just don't know how to answer it better than to say what I typed originally. As for the bruise thing, I don't know where that is coming from, as I am absolutely sure no human go through this life without getting bruised even if they never washed their singlet or know meaning of hunger or can't understand our propensity to be chivalrous towards our ladies (ever womder why foreign women says Nigerians males are the most loving and caring in light of an undying grittiness to hustle, struggle and persevere)

Yep you are shining your bruises online.

y3mi:
LMAO!!! It's like asking why do Nigerians yell "Up Nepa!!!" whenever those sadists behind electric power decides to flip on the switch. Anyways, I understand you better now, how obvious it is now that you aren't at all from this part nor born here. The types who grew in a cuddly rocking cradle with dangling toys, in a large room surrounded with big bunnies and teddy bear. Thank your lucky stars and flying unicorns.

Are you trying to make a point or just shine your bruises online?

Dickhead02:
MissRaine MissRaine I they suspect you ooo,are you even a Nigerian?

Nigeria has about 300 or so tribes ..........only two were mentioned.

kkins25:
i like these logic of yours. If girls would bury the idea of love and just do it for the money. That would be freaking awesome. I love prostitute ish agenda of the Nigerian feminists.

MissRaine69 i dont think feminists in Western world have this kind mentality. So if you want to be a feminists abeg follow the oyinbo people that started it. Not your naija counter parts.

Whatever it is that you think or believe I am is irrelevant. I am not one of those individuals that gets perturbed because people I will never meet in this lifetime or the next do not agree with something I say or post. I post something and anything that is written is an opinion. Will it have an adverse effect on my personal life? No as those two things are parallel lines . NL is a platform to ruffle feathers.......I am not done yet.

funmisticqueen:
no.

sleeping with a man who has not offered any form of commitment to you, now that makes you cheap and a prostitute.

You poor child.......

One day she will realise all this drama was not worth it.

funmisticqueen:
Are you actually sleeping with him for free?

If cash or goods were given post coitus is that not prostitution?

Dickhead02:
Ok, you be Igbo girl

Not Igbo

iRepNaija1:


No, thanks. Unlike you, I don't need to post about everything that bothers me. You have my permission not to respond.

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing.

i will offer a realistic point of view. Unless your children are below the age of 12 you won’t be able to leave them at home alone, the western world has very different laws regarding children.
1. So you will need to consider your childcare needs - childcare costs vary depending on country.
2. To take the children with you means they will have to enrol them into a school and how will that happen if you have the kids with you? Whom will you leave them at home with?
3. Cost of living. Your job has to be able to cover your living expenses and childcare if needed.
Unless you find a job in the ME where the employers are very generous in terms of benefits of accommodation, paying for utility bills etc
You will have to go alone to pave the way for your children that will be the pragmatic way to approach things.

ImaIma1:
It's the guys that encourage it. When they want her to come and scratch their itch and she says she doesn't have tfare, they give her. Now it has become her right

If she doesn't have money, she should sit down at home till she has.

The elegance of honesty needs no adornment.

Originalsly:


Defensive of what? And how would one know what the action alludes to without knowing the circumstances? I repeat.... one cannot come to a rational conclusion with the information posted. Indeed.... comprehension is really on the decline.

If it does not apply to you why does it bother you so much? The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

doitforyou:
O well good for you! Do you want a cookie? Not all women have the privilege to be blessed with your exceptional qualities. Why don't you continue in your virtuous ways and let us unworthy women live our sinful ways in peace.

If the shoe fits.....

Originalsly:


My comment is based on your first post. Why should you give her transport money? That's a question that can have several answers.... the reason why questions were asked in my comment.
What's stopping her from declining that money? Did she ask for it?... you didn't say. If she did... tell me why she should decline it? If she didn't ask... but needed it... why should she decline it? If she didn't ask.... but wanted it.. why should she decline it?
There is not enough information in your post for anyone to come to a rational conclusion.

Being defensive does not negate the connotations of the action and what it alludes to.

liberalchick:
Says the person typing in caps. You asked a question, I answered. He is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants.

It’s for emphasis sake and why would I be perturbed? And to your response, Part of the Crew, Part of the Ship.

iRepNaija1:
All this talk about the person who receives the money? What about the person who offers the money? Does prostitution magically happen by itself?

I will address that later, however if you have a few minutes to spare to rustle up a post you have my full permission. Looking forward to commenting on it.

liberalchick:
OP, maybe because he is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants to do.

So why are YOU angry?

PUSSYHOE:
all girls want something in return some it's transport fare others it's shopping, iPhone, rent etc. or is yours absolutely free?

If it’s paid for then that relegates me to the very realm I am exploring.
Let me direct your mindset to a certain woman that does exist you might never come across this type in your lifetime maybe in the next one if the fates choose to be kind to you. I want for nothing. I don’t demand or expect any monetary rewards or “gifts” for my sexual prowess. If and when gifts are given it’s because that person wants to not because I expect it or demand it.
Does that answer your question?

tivta:
Hmmm. You are shaking a very big table my wife, very big table.

I am only giving words to a Behavior that’s prevalent.

Originalsly:


Did she ask for transport money? Does the guy know how much is transport money?.... Did he ask? If no...... and he just gives her a random amount then transport money is code for paying for sex.

Comprehension is one of those things that is not widespread on this forum especially the last two years or so it’s been painfully scarce. What’s stopping her from declining that money? Or is it just about money that annihilates all rationale?

akinjojo1234:


This table you are shaking has millions of Nigerian ladies standing on it (majority of female nairalanders inclusive). They will definitely come for your head

Well tables are meant to be shaken.

mrblessed:
Watch as nairaland's prententious feminists swiftly abandon their hollow and facade claim to an ideology they barely understood, for a defence of their source of livelihood. Imagine the vain, cringe-worthy, fury-laden, and knee-jerk reaction of a damsel who feels threaten about the possibility of endangering her sole source of survive.

But miss Op, don't you know that the first law of nature is geared towards self-preservation or survival? A lot of our sisters here are what is called "Situational Feminists"; that is, a disposition whereby the topic at hand determines their approach and position. And we just can't loving them for who they are. At best, erotic relationship in Nigeria is a stone-cold transaction, and at worst, a grandiose poverty alleviation scheme.

You still have not explained to me why a guy feels obligated or mandated to give a woman transport money. You argue it’s some sort of poverty alleviation scheme but is that not enabling the situation more?

QueenSekxy:

Go and die.
Yes, I said it.

Ehn I touched a nerve.....I will die for sure that is certain but not just yet .....I need to antagonise you a bit more.

Bossjakande:
dere is church tomorrow dear go and sleep

You assume I am Christian.

onuku:


May I ask your tribe?

You may ask but I won’t tell you.

Dickhead02:
don't tell you are from calabar

No I am not

Why should you give her money for transport? How is that different from paying for sex?

Ilamina:


Quite Aggressive

But at least shares some of her knowledge

That’s my girl

Ilamina:
1sharon
Ibkaaye
Missraine69

That is very gracious of you Ilamina, much appreciated but I am not Youruba.

lefulefu:
;Dukwu be like d icing to d cake.

Of course....

Thegamingorca:


To be frank, my ppl can't try to sway me with their tradition practice. I've come too far in life for a bunch of misfits to come and try to be dictating whom I stay with. I pride myself of not been able to speak the fvcking language.


Nah tribe I dey marry? Regardless of rite of passage and whatever bullshiit that our ppl may want, truly you will be all I care about.

I appreciate your candour